i found out on Friday that my baby had no heartbeat. I was 8 weeks. It had a strong heartbeat just a week before.
I am currently on a 6 week course on the other side of the country from my family. I think my baby is starting to miscarry as I am having some cramps, though no bleeding yet.
I am booked to see the doctor for a potential D&C on Friday as I wanted my husband to be there and he is arriving next week. But I am scared it will happen before then and I have read terrible stories about how painful it can be.
What should i do? I am trying to keep myself busy but I am so scared of being alone while in a lot of pain. Should I book in with the doctor earlier and get it over with? What were your experiences?
i so wanted this little baby. I feel hollow and empty. Please can anyone help.
Re: Scared and alone
I had a D&C about a month after my delivery, and yes, It is painful, but not too much, plus I asked for some pain killers. In any case, if I were you, I'd want husband besides me for the psychological support. You can ask you doctor how dangerous it would be to wait some days for the D&C, and decide if you can re-schedule to wait for your husband. Good luck!
I had a nmc and never had a d&c. To me it was a lingering pain for a few days, including some bad cramps. The cramping started after the first day. It took 3 days to pass the baby and once that happened, I started to physically feel better.
Again, I'm so sorry.
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Again I'm so sorry. I know how terrible it is to go through something like this. I'm sending good thoughts your way.
Thank you every one who helped when I needed support most. It is truly the worst experience on every level - but for me the D&C has started the healing process.