Trigger warning. UPDATE - I guess I have to say goodbye.

chirico3

UPDATE: I know Yesterday everything was looking good, but this morning I woke up and it looked like I had my period. And I have cramps, similar to menstrual cramps but more intense. I guess that's it. 
OB/GYN said to do hcg anyway next Mon, but I don't have any Hope at this point. 
Thanks again for your support, and whish you a serene pregnancy and short and sweet labor. 


Yesterday morning I noticed some red spotting. I contacted immediately my OB/GYN, and she said to book an appointment and wait to see what happened during the day. She prescribed some progesterone capsules and I booked an appointment for today. Yesterday afternoon spotting got heavier and bright red and I decided to head to ER. It was quite a sad trip, as I had to go alone as husband had to sit with DD. They found the embryo two weeks behind what I thought, 5 instead of 7, and I don't know why. I have my dates pretty straight. Faint heartbeat, but they say it's normal at 5 weeks. They say It could be implantation spotting, but I can only wait and see. I got a progesterone shot and a prescription for the same capsules my OB/GYN said.
I contacted her and she suggested to test hcg this morning to bring her the result at the visit this afternoon. 
I am so scared and hopeless. I had nothing similar during my first pregnancy. I feel guilty maybe I worked too much these last days and it's my fault if the baby doesn't grow. Please send good thoughts. I feel like bursting in tears at any moment...

ashhsa

It is not your fault, I'm so sorry you feel that way and you certainly shouldnt! You are amazing and strong to go to that appointment alone! Please know that whatever happens you are not to blame- and I'm am going to pray that you get the positive outcome you deserve! you will be in my thoughts! 

neener*neener*

You are most certainly not alone. There are so many possibly reasons for the bleeding and measuring behind. You could have ovulated late. According to my LMP I should have been 7 weeks at my first u/s but all the doctor saw was a yolk sac, which is not normal for 7 weeks. I went back for a scan 4 days later (most stressful/anxious wait) and there was the baby with a heartbeat, it had just started beating and she said I was more like 5 weeks 5 days along. 

It really is a "wait and see" at this point. It is very hard. I get that. 

I also want you to know that if this is not a viable pregnancy (meaning it will end in a miscarriage), there is nothing that you did to cause that and there is nothing that can be done to stop it. When I had my losses (5) progesterone just extended the amount of time until I miscarried. Also, physical activity will not cause you to lose this baby and laying completely still for weeks will not prevent a loss if that is what happens. 

If you have any more questions. Feel free to PM me. I'm happy to answer. 

I sincerely pray that all is well with your little one and that the wait goes by quickly for you. 

mrsp85

I'll be praying alongside you today. I'm just waiting for a call back from my doctor as the brown spotting I've had for the past week turned darker, heavier and red this morning. I feel like I'm coming on my period with a dull ache low in my abdomen. I'm just 8 weeks and haven't had a scan yet. It's horribly upsetting so know that I know exactly how you feel. And I'll be thinking positive thoughts with you that all turns out ok xxx

starla

I know how stressful this type of situation is. I'm hoping for the best outcome for both of you @chirico3 and @mrsp85

ladybug0088

Thinking of you both @chirico3 and @mrsp85 today. Hoping for good news for both of you.

chirico3

Thanks for your kind support. Hcg values correspond to a 5 weeks pregnancy. The OB/GYN says the embryo Is there, has a heartbeat and there are no placenta detachments. She says it's too early ti say anything, I have to re-test for hcg in 10 days and see what happens.
@mrsp85, hugs, and hope it goes well for you.

chucksmom15

I hope both of you get positive news @chirico3 and @mrsp85.

kbelly777

@mrsp85 and @chirico3 I know how you are feeling. It is such a stressful and heartbreaking experience. And the uncertainty and waiting are Awful. I've been bleeding on and off since Monday and the baby measured almost 2 weeks behind then too. We did we a heart beat though. And my HCG was good...

I've had some moments of guilt and blaming myself too. (for going on a mission trip while pregnant. Maybe all the walking and little sleep caused it?) I know that's not real though. Early miscarriages are usually a chromosomal abnormality. Let's try to push those guilty fears out of our heads! 

T&P for all of our babies to grow and stick. 

Hugs mommas. 

jillkain84

As you know, I'm in the same boat. Here's to our little fighters! Positive thoughts and prayers are going your way.

mrsp85

@chirico3 it's sounding positive for you so far, fingers crossed all works out ok for you. 

I've been referred to the Early Pregnancy Unit but they can't get me in for a scan until Tuesday. However this morning I have woken up and passed some clots so it's not looking good for me. Pretty devestated as it's my first and we'd been struggling to conceive for over a year. That's life though I suppose. 

Still sending you positive vibes @chirico3. The fact there is a heartbeat sounds pretty positive xx

winnie1122

So sorry to read your update, take care of yourself. Hugs.

mamakate1616

@chirico3 I'm so sorry to read this!! Praying for you Maybe we will see each other on a future board. Wishing you the best!

chucksmom15

I'm so sorry.

kialei7

I'm sorry. Sending prayers your way.

RSB1982

I'm so sorry.  Take care of yourself.

alice0218

I'm so sorry   . I hope you have good news soon and if you don't, that you can find the love and support you need to heal from it. I will repeat others and say that there is nothing you did to cause or deserve it. Nature doesn't pick sides. Sending warm thoughts.