TFAS July Check-in

kmalls · July 2017

***This is a check-in for those with babies/children at home. If you are having a hard TTC day or TTCAL day this post may mention children or issues specifically related to parenting or babies. Pregnancy may also be mentioned. Please feel free to lurk at your own discretion.***

What number are you trying for?

Cycle/Month?

WTO/TWW?

Ages of other child(ren)?

Any thoughts about this cycle?

Any questions?

GTKY: leashes for toddlers: no freaking way or hell yes my kid is a runner?

kmalls · July 2017

**I'm pretty sure this thread hasn't been started for July yet, but let me know if it's a dupe and I'll turn it into a gif party

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What number are you trying for? 3

Cycle/Month? 8/7

WTO/TWW? WTO

Ages of other child(ren)? DS is 2, DD is 8.5 months

Any thoughts about this cycle? Ugh. Hopeful as always but also starting to feel like it's never going to happen.

Any questions?

GTKY: leashes for toddlers: no freaking way or hell yes my kid is a runner?

I'm never going to say never, but so far I haven't for one second wanted to put a leash on my kid. I judged parents HARD for using those little backpack leash things before I had kids, but now I feel like hey, if your kid is a runner and that's the only way you're going to keep him/her from disappearing in a crowd at an amusement park, do whatever you gotta do!

catlady1215 · July 2017

What number are you trying for? 2nd

Cycle/Month? 3/3 after a couple losses

WTO/TWW? WTO

Ages of other child(ren)? 4 and a half

Any thoughts about this cycle? Just crossing fingers. O should be during our vacation week so atleast we won't be extra tired from work.

Any questions? Nope

GTKY: leashes for toddlers: no freaking way or hell yes my kid is a runner?
I used to look at them like they were crazy. But after having my son... I get it. You have to keep a hand on him 90% of the time so I could see why a leash would come in handy in really crowded places. We don't have one though... we just grew a few more arms

DumbledoresArmy · July 2017

What number are you trying for? 2

Cycle/Month? 1/1

WTO/TWW? WTO

Ages of other child(ren)? 7 months!

Any thoughts about this cycle? I'm not even sure if this is a real cycle or not, I had my first period a couple weeks ago since giving birth. I'm still nursing, so I may not even be ovulating at all. Luckily I'm not feeling impatient right now, if I get pregnant right away, cool, if not, that's OK too. It took me so long the first time that we figure we might as well go ahead and start trying.

Any questions? Mama's who were still nursing after giving birth, when did you start ovulating again?

GTKY: leashes for toddlers: no freaking way or hell yes my kid is a runner? My kid isn't even mobile yet, but I sincerely hope I never have to resort to that.

@kmalls How hard was it having kids that close in age? Some people think I'm nuts for ttc already.

nanilani04 · July 2017

@kmalls Thanks for starting this thread! I've had a couple people refer me to TFAS and I could never find it. I figured it was a newbie fail on my part.

What number are you trying for? #2

Cycle/Month? 2/3

WTO/TWW? In between-ish? I got a positive OPK yesterday and today, but I haven't gotten a temp shift to confirm O yet.

Ages of other child(ren)? 20 months

Any thoughts about this cycle? This is my first month using OPKs, so I'm hoping the + tests this week prove to be helpful! In a perfect world, getting pregnant this cycle would be ideal b/c of a major work event next summer that I'd hate to miss being on maternity leave. With my sometimes long cycles I'd be afraid that my next fertile window would push the EDD too close to launch, but at the same time wouldn't want to stop TTC.

Any questions? Nope

GTKY: leashes for toddlers: no freaking way or hell yes my kid is a runner? We have one for DS. We don't use it often, but it's definitely come in handy in crowded situations or places where strollers aren't welcome. DS loves the independence it gives him; I hate getting clotheslined by it

kmalls · July 2017

@DumbledoresArmy - it's so hard to answer this because I don't know any other way, but overall I'm really happy to have them close together.

I'm not gonna lie though, it's ROUGH for a while. When DD was a newborn she was diagnosed with reflux disease, and she never slept more than 20ish minutes at a time. Ever. That plus a very, very active 19 month old was a lot to handle. I'm fortunate that my husband is an extremely active partner in parenting because I'm not sure I would have made it otherwise! Around 14ish weeks old DD got her shit together and has been a super sweet, happy baby ever since. Thank god.

I will say my saving grace was figuring out a daily schedule that works for us and sticking to it no matter what. The advantage of having 2 under 2 was that DS, the older child, napped (and still naps) really well. Psychotically making sure they both go down at the same time in the afternoon is why I still have a shred of sanity left

So while it is tough, there is definitely an upside to be found as well!

ETA: there's a lot of upside beyond just napping, obviously! That's just what popped into my head first

becausescience · July 2017

What number are you trying for? 2

Cycle/Month? 1/1

WTO/TWW? TWW

Ages of other child(ren)? DD 10 months

Any thoughts about this cycle? I have reallllly high hopes. Like I need to scale back a bit. I just keep thinking how March would be perfect with my teacher schedule. *TW* And the other two times I've been on clomid I got pregnant - though the first was a loss, so I feel like it is probably not likely that it'll happen right away the 3rd time. I need to snap myself back to reality. *end TW*

Any questions? So DD is getting pretty good with eating puffs, Bambas/Lil Crunchies, and Cheerios. But anything else is not going so well - like cheese, bananas, cut up fruit, veggies. I'm not sure if these are just harder to pick up than the carbs. Any suggestions? - I of course will just keep offering. Should I even be worried that she is mostly on Stage 3 baby food at this point?

GTKY: leashes for toddlers: no freaking way or hell yes my kid is a runner?
So my LO is not walking yet, but while I used to think Hell to the No, now I'm like - eh one of those backpack leashes wouldn't be terrible - especially in crowded places. We'll see if DD ends up being a runner.

holly321 · July 2017

What number are you trying for? 3

Cycle/Month? 6/4

WTO/TWW? Wto

Ages of other child(ren)? 6 and 4

Any thoughts about this cycle? Too early. I am still on clomid, so I should O in about a week. DS keeps waking up, making it difficult to HIO

Any questions? No

GTKY: leashes for toddlers: no freaking way or hell yes my kid is a runner? I used to be against them. Then I had DS. He is autistic and used to love to run and didn't pay attention to anything we said. Now he is afraid of everything, so no more running.

nanilani04 · July 2017

@DumbledoresArmy I don't know exactly when I started ovulating again, but I got my first period at 10 months pp and when I started temping (~14 months pp) I saw a temp shift that cycle. So at the very least by 14 months? DS started table foods at 6 months and we phased in WCM around 12 months. I nursed him at least morning/evenings until almost 15 months and was also pumping/nursing on weekends until 13-14 months.

becausescience · July 2017

@DumbledoresArmy So I'm not the best resource on BFing and cycles because I have PCOS so my cycles are super irregular and I'm on clomid to O. But... I started cutting back on pumping sessions in May. When I cut out my "lunch" pump - 2 weeks later I felt like I was maybe Oing - crampy and bloated with EWCM. I didn't have OPKs at that point and wasn't temping so can't be sure. And like 2 weeks after that got my first PP period. (Ha that didn't answer your question at all - but thought I'd tell my story - please ignore if this is not helpful.)

I think @fishsticks-n-custard is BFing and TFAS - might be able to give better advice/input.

kmalls · July 2017

@becausescience - I wouldn't even stress about that for a second. Her disinterest in food other than carbs could absolutely be due to the fact that they're harder to pick up, or honestly she just may not be ready for it (which is fine!). In general, "food before 1 is just for fun." It's more about developing the fine motor skills required to feed herself in the future rather than nutritional value. Let her go at her own pace and she'll get there eventually!

LazyCrane · July 2017

What number are you trying for? 2

Cycle/Month? 14/11

WTO/TWW? WTO

Ages of other child(ren)? 2 years

Any thoughts about this cycle? I'm getting antsy. Ready to ovulate. Get this show on the road. I had 2 almost mature follicles at my scan Friday and a positive OPK Monday but still not temp shift and OPKs are back to negative. I have another scan tomorrow to see what's up.

Any questions?

GTKY: leashes for toddlers: no freaking way or hell yes my kid is a runner? My kid is not a runner, so I don't have a use for a leash, but I'm not in the business of judging someone with a more aggressive boundary pusher.

ChloandCoco · July 2017

What number are you trying for? 2

Cycle/Month? 3/2 (1/1 AL)

WTO/TWW? WTO or TWW, I'm not charting and I only started OPKs this week.

Ages of other child(ren)? DD 22.5 months!

Any thoughts about this cycle? I'm not too optimistic about this cycle. TW** I still haven't started a new cycle since my loss, so I'm flying blind. I feel like I might've o'd last Friday but I was still benched. **End TW

Any questions? Nope

GTKY: leashes for toddlers: no freaking way or hell yes my kid is a runner? I think it really depends on the kid. If s/he doesn't listen and it's a matter of safety, I would use a leash. Luckily DD is super clingy and really doesn't like to wander too far from me.

catlady1215 · July 2017

@holly321 my son is on the spectrum also. And we're 95% sure he has ADHD also. It's fricking exhausting lol. Is it your 6yr old? Tell me it gets easier? Please? Lie to me? lol.

holly321 · July 2017

@catlady1215, it since my 4 year old. But, my 6 year old seems like she may be on the spectrum too, I am having her reevaluated in November. She so far is diagnosed with anxiety and depression. We assume she is OCD and bipolar.

ETA, although our DS's are the same age, I will say he is getting easier. Therefore we started TTC again. We were done about a year ago (vasectomy pre-op was scheduled) because all the appointments and stuff was too hard then suddenly life calmed down. I think school helped.

mschanandlerbong1214 · July 2017

What number are you trying for? 3

Cycle/Month? 3/4

WTO/TWW? WTO 4 lyfe

Ages of other child(ren)? DS1 - 4, DS2 - 2

Any thoughts about this cycle? Meh

Any questions?

GTKY: leashes for toddlers: no freaking way or hell yes my kid is a runner?

I used to think they were totally ridiculous and horrible but then DS2 came along and I'm thinking I need a retractable dog leash and harness.

TravelingCouple · July 2017

What number are you trying for? 2

Cycle/Month? 20/20

WTO/TWW? TWW

Ages of other child(ren)? My son is 2.5

Any thoughts about this cycle? This is our first IUI cycle so this TWW is rough. I've been busy so that's definitely helping.

Any questions? Nah

GTKY: leashes for toddlers: no freaking way or hell yes my kid is a runner?
If you need to I say do what you gotta do. Like others, before I had DS I thought it was so bizarre. But now I understand doing whatever you need to do to keep your kid in sight and safe. For me personally I use a carrier (back carrier now that he's older) if I need to keep him close in a busy area.

DumbledoresArmy · July 2017

@kmalls Thanks for your story! Your DD sounds just like MY DD, so I'm hoping child number 2 is a bit easier and naps for longer! Just like yours, mine got better around 3 months but, boy, newborn phase was HARD. She's still on prevacid for reflux even now, but is a happy easy baby at this point.

@becausescience I'm a teacher too, March/April maternity leave FTW! Good luck to you!! And your story WAS helpful, I was thinking of cutting out a few nursing sessions during the day to see if that helped. Also I love your screen name.

@nanilani04 Thanks for the info, I hope I don't have to wean completely to get my cycles back.

petethecat · July 2017

@kmalls Yes, all hail the schedule. Figuring out and implementing a consistent schedule was the biggest saving grace with DD. I absolutely plan to be strict with the schedule if we are lucky enough to have another. I just feel like it makes a world of difference. DD totally notices if we do something out of routine now and she is generally not about it, which is so funny to me.

@becausescience Yes yes yes and +1 to everything kmalls said about solids, especially the "food before one is just for fun." Don't worry! She'll get to the other foods when she is ready. Just keep offering- no pressure. Right now, it's all about practicing. Every baby will get there in his/her own time.

@TravelingCouple I've been crossing all the things for you!

What number are you trying for? 2

Cycle/Month? 4/5 (3 AL)

WTO/TWW? WTO

Ages of other child(ren)? DD 18 months tomorrow

Any thoughts about this cycle? I'm hoping it's the one! MH has a work trip during FW, but I think we should be able to get some decent timing in still. FX for that.

Any questions? No

GTKY: leashes for toddlers: no freaking way or hell yes my kid is a runner?
Right now, I've been just using our regular stroller or umbrella stroller wherever we go and that's been fine. I wouldn't rule it out, especially if we have two kiddos any time soon. I would probably try a structured carrier first though, since I only used the boba with DD as a newborn. I used to side eye the leashes a little bit before I had DD, but now I'm in total support of them. Keeping your kid close to you and safe is the most important thing, however you do it.

becausescience · July 2017

Thanks @kbamomma33 and @kmalls. I think I'm comparing her to other babies her age who agree eating table food like pros - which isn't helpful bc I know she'll get there at her own pace.

@DumbledoresArmy Glad I could help.

I'm down to one pump a day (~7oz) and am trying to figure out how to be done.

Another question bc I'm a clueless FTM:
How many bottles/how much were your LOs drinking around 10 months? We do five a day for about 28oz total and I'm thinking of switching to 4 at 7oz each. It is really hard to get a "lunch" in right now and I'm thinking this will help.

kmalls · July 2017

@becausescience - I can't remember exactly where DS was at 10 months, but DD will be 9 months next week and we do roughly 4 bottles a day with 7 ounces each, give or take. She's teething like crazy right now and is doing more frequent feedings with less ounces, but when we get a break from the teething I'm assuming she'll go back to 7 ounces again.

fishsticks-n-custard · July 2017

Sorry for the late reply! Busy day at work: @DumbledoresArmy I'm still breastfeeding my 18 month old usually morning, afternoon and bedtime; occasionally once overnight. I had to actively wean her a little to get my cycle back at 16 months; she was still nursing every 3-4 hrs at that point and twice overnight. From what I had read, spacing feeds greater than 6 hrs apart can trigger a cycle for most women. I don't temp, but I track other signs so I believe I'm ovulating. However, I know is very common for breastfeeding women to have a couple of anovulatory cycles.

@becausescience My little one only really started eating table foods at a year. We just kept offering and trying. Eventually she got the hang of it. Have you tried those little yogurt dot things? That was a good variation for us from just the carb based finger foods.

What number are you trying for? 2

Cycle/Month? 5/2

WTO/TWW? TWW

Ages of other child(ren)? 18 months

Any thoughts about this cycle? *fingers crossed* we had good timing!

Any questions? Nope.

GTKY: leashes for toddlers: no freaking way or hell yes my kid is a runner? Luckily my kiddo isn't a runner so we don't use one but no judgement on people who do!

mirizzi&A · July 2017

What number are you trying for? 2

Cycle/Month? 1/1

WTO/TWW? TWW

Ages of other child(red)? 21 months

Any thoughts about this cycle? Wonky temps, traveling, and the plague coming through our household means FF and I disagree on O date so... I'm thinking this cycle is a bust

Any questions? Not yet!

GTKY: leashes for toddlers: no freaking way or hell yes my kid is a runner?

I leash my toddler when we go for walks. And I hold his hand, the leash is just a backup. He isn't a runner, but the usual level of toddler-curious. Anything I have to do to keep him safe, and prevent him from getting run over, I'll do. I don't mind the judgement from others when we're out and about: his safety is just too important. He also insists on wearing the leash (monkey backpack), so I've got buy in from the toddler himself.

garnetandgoldgrace · July 2017

What number are you trying for? 2nd

Cycle/Month? 3/3

WTO/TWW? TWW.. CD1 to be exact. ew.

Ages of other child(ren)? 18 months

Any thoughts about this cycle? Well I just finished a long ass 48 day cycle so I am just a little exhausted because I had questionable tests and just multiple things that made me feel in and out and then when I finally got AF I was just... ready for it to be over so I can start new.
For this cycle I am going to be focusing on weight loss. This is how I got pregnant with my son and so I will need to get my weight under control first.

Any questions? Not at the moment.

GTKY: leashes for toddlers: no freaking way or hell yes my kid is a runner?
I haven't used one yet but I have a leash back pack ready to try out whenever... no judging here, ladies.

mileswithmyles · July 2017

What number are you trying for? Number 2!

Cycle/Month? First cycle

WTO/TWW? WTO. I think it's coming in the next few days based on my CM. My temps have been a little erratic and no positive OPK yet.

Ages of other child(ren)? Three year old son

Any thoughts about this cycle? This is our first cycle, so I'm trying not to get my hopes up. I'm a little out of practice with tracking everything on Fertilitu Friend.

Any questions? Anyone else noticed erratic temps after getting an IUD removed?

GTKY: leashes for toddlers: no freaking way or hell yes my kid is a runner? No way for me. But if he was a runner, I'd probably do it.

mileswithmyles · July 2017

@ChloandCoco I had a loss the cycle before I got pregnant with our son and never had a period in between. Fingers crossed for you and good luck!

thisnthat314 · July 2017

What number are you trying for? 2

Cycle/Month? 4/4

WTO/TWW? WTO

Ages of other child(ren)? 3 next month

Any thoughts about this cycle? Getting bbt and opks in mail tomorrow.... going to reluctantly temp this cycle

Any questions? Any of you have cramps after getting IUD removed like for a few months almost nonstop?

GTKY: leashes for toddlers: no freaking way or hell yes my kid is a runner?
Nah- he is a runner but so am I

cards10 · July 2017

What number are you trying for? 2

Cycle/Month? 3/3

WTO/TWW? CD21 so I think TWW but I'm not temping this cycle so HIO just in case

Ages of other child(ren)? 1.5

Any thoughts about this cycle? Good timing but need some luck to go with it. FX

Any questions?
@thisnthat314 I had my IUD taken out several years ago due to a large ovarian cyst forming (I essentially had a tennis ball removed from my ovary). But I don't remember cramping. Although I never had many menstrual symptoms before either. Everyone is different but cramping for a few months warrants an email or call to your doctor. My doctor has a portal I can email questions too, I find it helpful for things like this. Hopefully they can help alleviate your concern.

GTKY: leashes for toddlers: no freaking way or hell yes my kid is a runner? I used to give some serious side eye to leash-parents. Until I had my own toddler that hates holding hands in public, crowded, dangerous places. I see you leash-parents, I see you. Do what you need to do to get through the day.

fishsticks-n-custard · July 2017

@thisnthat314 I had cramping for a couple of weeks after my IUD removal the first time (it had been in about 4 years). When I had my last IUD removed in Feb, I didn't have any cramping but it had only been in a year. Not sure if that's helpful or not, but I agree with @cards10, probably worth checking with your doctor.

@cards10 I have an 18 month old too!

cards10 · July 2017

@fishsticks-n-custard Ah, we can revel in all the joys of birthdays being so close to Christmas... not lol

fishsticks-n-custard · July 2017

@cards10 My daughter was born NYE, which means she'll always have fireworks for her birthday! But did have a very surreal experience, waking up in the hospital after delivering and wondering why I was hearing gunshots.

nanilani04 · July 2017

@cards10 My son hates holding my hand too (unless he's dragging me somewhere). WTF kid, you're one! I thought you were still supposed to like me

Jk, I know he just wants to be independent.

50Wife · July 2017

What number are you trying for? 2

Cycle/Month? I think I'm at 14/13

WTO/TWW? WTO...should be any day now but the RE is monitoring me so no temps or OPKs for me anymore (hallelujah!!!). So we're on an every other day schedule and I go in Monday to confirm O

Ages of other child(ren)? Our son is 2.5

Any thoughts about this cycle? I'm feeling positive!! Last shot before IUI next cycle. Had an HSG last week and they confirmed my tubes were blocked and they were able to clear so I'm way too hopeful

Any questions? Nada!

GTKY: leashes for toddlers: no freaking way or hell yes my kid is a runner?
I think I'm with a lot of you when I say that I used to hard core judge this before having my son. But now I'm just like ok mom/dad...you do whatever works for you and your kid to keep them safe and yourself sane!

becausescience · July 2017

@50Wife Holy cow - glad they were able to clear your tubes. Did they say what could have caused them to become blocked?

@thisnthat314 Good luck temping. I don't find it bad at all, while others seem to hate it. I set my alarm a hour earlier than my normal wake up time, take my temp and then go back to bed. I read it right away, but I'm pretty sure most thermometers store the last temp, so you can read it later.

@garnetandgoldgrace Sorry for such a mind f cycle. I need to lose some weight too, but am having a hard time getting motivated to start counting calories and exercising. I used BFing as an excuse for the longest time, so now that I'm weaning away from the pump (we stopped nursing months ago) I have no more excuses!

50Wife · July 2017

@becausescience that was my exact question. She initially just said debris.
My husband and I were both like ummmm what exactly do you mean by debris (my husband's exact words were, "Debris? Like a car door??")
So she basically said period residue, bacteria, stuff like that.

garnetandgoldgrace · July 2017

@becausescience -- my husband was a little TOO good at making lactation cookies while I was BFing and I gained a lot of weight. I used it as an excuse too. But honestly it never made me lose weight. My body grew in places it never grew before and I am just super uncomfortable. I saw pics of me from yesterday and I was like "yea... no....this has to stop!!!" Today kind of sucked but I will just have to keep moving forward and looking at those pics for motivation. If you need support to start... I am here for you. And with keto you don't have to county calories really. Just low carb and high fat!

kangaroo85 · July 2017

Hi everyone!!

What number are you trying for? 2

Cycle/Month? 3/3

WTO/TWW? TWW

Ages of other child(ren)? He will be 3 next week!

Any thoughts about this cycle? Meh not getting my hopes up. I started tempting last week so it's been interesting! My temp is going down ever so slightly so I'm thinking this months is a bust.

Any questions?

GTKY: leashes for toddlers: no freaking way or hell yes my kid is a runner? My son is a clinger so I never had the need for it but I totally understand some parents need it to keep their kids safe.

becausescience · July 2017

@garnetandgoldgrace Thanks so much for the support. I probably should do low carb with my PCOS - but bread is so delicious. I was doing the 21 day fix for like a week before I got pregnant with DD. My goal is to get in a workout tomorrow - I'll let you know if I get it in so you can hold me accountable.

Just finished a project making drool pads and a "case" for my ergo 360. I'm pretty happy with how it turned out as I had to make my own pattern and use the buttonhole stitch. The project dragged on for a while because I had to order different snaps as my fabric was too thick. So glad to finally use them. Pics in spoiler:

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So today was the first day of 4 bottles a day instead of 5 for my 10 month old. It went ok, but naps didn't quite work out as planned. We'll give it another try tomorrow and make adjustments as needed. And thanks to all who gave me advice on solids. She is doing much better - still prefers "carbs" but has been actually eating some cheese and carrots. What kind of fruit is easiest to pick up for babies? I've tried bananas, pears, peaches, and strawberries but they all seem too slippery for her to grab.

petethecat · July 2017

@becausescience Blueberries and cuties or halos (with the slices cut up smaller since she's learning). Those were our go tos. Blueberries are still the fav fruit around here.

becausescience · July 2017

@kbamomma33 Thanks so much for your advice on all my (somewhat ridiculous paranoid mom) questions! Do you cut the blueberries in half? Quarters? Smaller than quarters? And do you remove the "skin" (not the peel) around the clementine wedge before you cut it?

petethecat · July 2017

@becausescience I used to just squish the blueberries a little between my fingertips to break the skin for her and make them less slippery and easier for her to gum. I may have cut them in half a time or two if they were bigger blueberries. I never removed the skin after taking off the peel on the clementines. I just made sure to cut them up into small enough pieces so there wasn't any chance of her choking on a big glob of the skin. And your questions are not ridiculous or paranoid! I'm pretty sure that I was just as stressed about all those details during our transition to solids too. It's a big deal going from just milk to trying all the new foods.

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