I am getting ready to be a 2nd time Mom at 38. Our DD is 11 and my husband I decided to try again, and now we're expecting a DS. Do any other 35+ Moms experience rude comments? I had the medical assistant at my Dr office say, "we are the same age...if I were pregnant, I'd die!" And it's not just her, I hear it from family friends too. Am I just being sensitive? I feel like this is SO rude.
Re: Rude Comments
In general, pregnancy and parenthood seem to open us up to blatant criticism and commentary. The commentary never bothers me, people love kiddos and pregnant ladies are making kiddos, comments are a way to connect with that process and I think that want for connection is really awesome. The criticism is harder to deal with....but I'm pretty blunt, set in my ways, and usually research the crap out of something before acting on it, so it's easy for me to say "thanks, but I am confidant in my choices". I am also open to learning.....so I try very hard to take information as just that, and not as a critique (after all I can't know ALL the things)
hope that helps a little?
TTC#1 since November 2015
9/16/2016 IUI#1 - BFN
10/12/2016 IUI#2 - BFN
1/21/2017 Clomid/IUI#3 - BFN
March 2017 IVF: BFP! (beta#1 191, beta#2 378!) - it's a boy! DS born 12/6/2017
TTC #2 since July 2018
May 2019 IVF #2: BFP! (beta#1 346, beta#2 646) - vanishing twin at 8 weeks. Baby B still going strong - due 2/8/20!
I see it in their eyes, but I don't really care. I'm ftm, but I've heard how intense the advice gets once you have a baby, and everyone wants to tell you that you're caring for them wrong. Gotta thicken my skin now!
7 IUIs, 7 BFNs.
2 IVF attempts, both cancelled and converted to IUI, both BFNs.
Decided that my tired old ovaries are ready to retire.
Next step- reciprocal IVF, using my wife's eggs, my uterus!
fresh 5 day transfer (2 embryos) 4/17/17- BFP!
Identical twins "due" 1/2/17 (but anticipated arrival sometime December)
It's not like older mom's are a new thing... Both my grandma and Dh's had ama pregnancies, they were just on their fifth or sixth kid
As far as friends go, I'm more likely to have them tell me they wished they had waited longer to have kids.
BFP #2 7/11/17 | EDD 3/24/18
BFP #1 5/2/17 | EDD 1/12/18 | MC 5/18/17
I had a lady tell me once in reference to my toddler "Oh yeah, my dog does that all the time"
My wife is Vietnamese and they are straight up mean (curt is cultural) as to them you aren't even allowed to complain, let alone be heavier than 100 lbs.
We have had sales people in stores say things like "But she is so fat. You shouldn't be that fat! Doesnt matter if your pregnant! You are too fat"
Dont even get me started on her aunts...
My family doesn’t know yet but if anyone says any rude comments I am not going to hold back. I will let them know if they don’t have anything nice to say then to keep it to themselves. I am forty I am aware it’s not the most ideal age to have a baby but i actually tried for 5 years and it’s a blessing to be able to carry and birth a child. I am prepared to have thick skin and live each day to the fullest.
This is our 1st and I'm already hyper sensitive, the last thing I need are those comments!
Someone above said pregnancy opens you up for some strange form of criticism and opins spewing - they were sure correct. I just say that totally baffles me. People can be so rude.
I have my ultrasound next weekend so we'll start telling people then.
I'm 46 having our 3rd. I'm sure ill hear some crap...lol
And its our 2nd birth control baby..lol
I got pregnant with my 4 year old while I had an IUD. This time I'm pregnant after Essure.