HDBD 6/21/17

NYTino24

Show us those beautiful bumps!

NYTino24

This was Saturday in baby's first wedding at 18w. 

ames011

@NYTino24 love the dress. Perfect bump outfit!

foxaírt

Deleted as is unwelcome 

jess0211

Ignore the mess behind me...That's my current office space. A mess. 

hippiestinkmom

19 week nekkid bump pic. Too hot to bother dressing up nice. So far so good, Honeybee is now able to be felt from the outside and it's fun watching his kicks!

NYTino24

foxaírt said:

I'd take a photo and post it 
Today is a big day
20weeks half way 
We also exchanged contracts for the house yay 
But I also found what seem to be first stretch marks and feel like I've lost my body today . 
I don't even want to record this week's bump photo. 
I've seen it a lot . There's no going back from stretch marks on the stomach . Not to the body image I had not to nude modelling  not to exotic dancing 
I feel like 20 weeks and hardly even showing but getting marks is ominous for the remainder of the pregnancy 
And in general damaging to my self image 

I'm sad that today's bump just offends me 

@foxairt I don't mean to sound rude, but there is no other way to say this. We all go into pregnancy knowing the effects it can and does have on our bodies and we willingly make the sacrifice for our children. Some of us get stretch marks and saggy boobs or acne and excess hair. I doubt anyone looks forward to those things or is happy about them. That being said, this thread is to celebrate our growing babies. I have lost a child before and would have given anything to get stretch marks and see that baby grow. I am not going to knock your chosen profession, but maybe there is a reason some people stop exotic dancing and nude modeling after they have children. If this is so upsetting, maybe you should see a counselor who can help you work through your body issues. You are free to express your feelings, but there was just something about your post that just offended me and probably women who are PGAL, TTCAL, or experiencing IF. Maybe there was a different place to post this.

kissthesky32

NYTino24 said:

foxaírt said:

I'd take a photo and post it 
Today is a big day
20weeks half way 
We also exchanged contracts for the house yay 
But I also found what seem to be first stretch marks and feel like I've lost my body today . 
I don't even want to record this week's bump photo. 
I've seen it a lot . There's no going back from stretch marks on the stomach . Not to the body image I had not to nude modelling  not to exotic dancing 
I feel like 20 weeks and hardly even showing but getting marks is ominous for the remainder of the pregnancy 
And in general damaging to my self image 

I'm sad that today's bump just offends me 

@foxairt I don't mean to sound rude, but there is no other way to say this. We all go into pregnancy knowing the effects it can and does have on our bodies and we willingly make the sacrifice for our children. Some of us get stretch marks and saggy boobs or acne and excess hair. I doubt anyone looks forward to those things or is happy about them. That being said, this thread is to celebrate our growing babies. I have lost a child before and would have given anything to get stretch marks and see that baby grow. I am not going to knock your chosen profession, but maybe there is a reason some people stop exotic dancing and nude modeling after they have children. If this is so upsetting, maybe you should see a counselor who can help you work through your body issues. You are free to express your feelings, but there was just something about your post that just offended me and probably women who are PGAL, TTCAL, or experiencing IF. Maybe there was a different place to post this.

+1 to this. 

MKMandeville

20+2 days today. Had to change bathroom backdrops due to company lol. Baby looks super low today. We cannot wait to see this little one on the screen this afternoon. 

hippiestinkmom

MKMandeville said:

20+2 days today. Had to change bathroom backdrops due to company lol. Baby looks super low today. We cannot wait to see this little one on the screen this afternoon. 

How exciting! I'm with you on the can't wait front, my next appointment is tomorrow!

ames011

19+6 - halfway tomorrow and really feel like I've popped  

DuchessOfCambridge

18+4

ElizabethSchuyler

@DuchessOfCambridge Hey girl nice dress 

bcashaw

@DuchessOfCambridge can you just come over and be my personal shopper? 

kissthesky32

bcashaw said:

@DuchessOfCambridge can you just come over and be my personal shopper? 

Also want this. You have a super cute style! 

KLink15

18 + 4 did a comparison of my first belly pic after the positive test and then today and what a change I see. 

tashandma

bcashaw

someone is running out of space on my lap! 20 weeks I'll post a better photo later. 

BayCamp

kissthesky32

@bcashaw I LOVE that bump picture. (insert heart breaking emoji)

kissthesky32

@BayCamp Your bump is so perfectly round and bump-like! I'm super jealous over here.

JDW0325

pic of the day @baycamp!!! What a great shot!

Love ALLLLLLL these bumps ladies! I'll take a bathroom work pic in a bit and participate for the first time!

edit- what is wrong with me today. I can't spell or type to save my life.

BayCamp

@bcashaw we went to the water park yesterday for the first time in a few weeks and I noticed how much less lap I had now for DS to ride the water slides. He kept falling off my shrinking lap so my niece had to take him down lol 

@kissthesky32 it's gotten SUPER round and bump like recently. Before it was mainly round with the help of maternity clothes, now I'm all kinds of pregnant without them :-) 

DuchessOfCambridge

@bcashaw @kissthesky32 thank you! That's so sweet  
@ElizabethSchuyler too bad we didn't wear our dress on the same day

ElizabethSchuyler

18+2. 

DuchessOfCambridge

Btw, @jess0211 I really want to meet the people who are rude about your bump because you look great! Everyone looks great!

av2323

This was taken last Friday at 20 weeks.  Pardon the photo bomber with a mouth full of waffle.

2Dash

19+2 - Finding out if its another Mister or a sister tomorrow!

dragonfly87-2

@foxaírt While I agree this may not have been the right thread, I do think the response was a bit unfairly harsh. @Nytino24, normally I agree with a lot of what you post and I am not looking to start something because I do recognize that pregnancy is something that we should all expect changes. But until it happens, it’s very much unknown how our bodies or minds will react. We are all a little more hormonal, sensitive and on edge than usual. Being PGAL as well, I get the anxiety and stress that comes with it, but I don’t expect others to necessarily feel the same way or expect them to think pregnancy has to be sunshine and roses either. Foxairts post did not come across as offensive to me, it actually made me more concerned for her personal well-being and how she needs support to get through this, IRL and on here. @NYTino24 Your post, honestly, did make me a little worried about it seeming like the community was shunning her feelings, while you may not have intended that.

foxaírt shared that she was different and I don't think there is anything wrong with it. She didn't say she was resentful of the child growing inside of her, she admitted that her body image has been something she has previously been very cognizant of and it is changing and that is hard. I am sure many woman struggle with this, but society thinks we should all jump for joy because our stomachs are stretches and we are creating a miracle. Yeah, having babies is awesome, but that doesn't mean everyone has to love what it does to their bodies.

Foxairt, I think it is fair to recognize you work in a profession that is very body and image conscious. Just like I always want to put on my best professional demeanor or carry myself in a certain way, you want to look your best as well. Pregnancy changes that, but it doesn’t mean it’s easy to handle. When I had to give presentations or hold meetings while horribly nauseous and half out of it during the early weeks, I felt self-conscious and miserable. I can only imagine that if my profession relied heavily on my appearance and the future of my employability, even after a baby felt threatened, yes, I would be worried and depressed.

While others may not be able to 100% relate or do not approve of that choice, it is not our place to judge or criticize. This is a supportive community that should respect all walks of life and paths through out it. I personally wouldn’t be an exotic dancer (I don’t have the skill nor the body to do it), but I don’t look down on others who are.

I think a simple, “maybe this isn’t the right thread to post the comment” would have sufficed. But that’s just my opinion.

 

End tangent.

ETA: I fully recognize my post is probably a UO.

DuchessOfCambridge

Sorry if I'm sticking my nose where it doesn't belong, but I didn't think @NYTino24 was being harsh at all. She validated foxairt's feelings but asked she not post them here, where we're celebrating our bumps and each others. Foxairt has shared her body image insecurities multiple times on this board in other threads and always gotten support. This is the first time she's been asked to rethink what she's said, and NYTino24 didn't shut her down, she recognized the struggle she's going through and suggested she speak to a counselor about it since this has come up with foxairt before and seems to be something that is really difficult for her.

This really just wasn't the place. I sort of equate it to the Gender Disappointment thread. Someone who has gone through a loss can easily stay away from that thread, which may bring up horrible feelings since they'd give anything to have either gender. It's not that those who are posting in the gender thread's feelings aren't valid, they should just be shared carefully.

dragonfly87-2

@duchessofcambridge I think tone is very hard to pick up on in these threads and while I recognize foxairt has posted before, I didn't read the response as a suggestion to rethink. I read is as "be appreciative of being pregnant and see a counselor if you can't". I am not saying that was the intention, but its how I read it.

DuchessOfCambridge

@dragonfly87-2 true, tone is hard on the internet!

Tourmalily

@dragonfly87-2 that's how I read it, too, tbh.

08-16-08jms

Taking the kiddies to the pool. 17w5d 

Tourmalily

I really dislike the work bathroom selfie but it's the only mirror with sufficient lighting

slaven

20 weeks

bklynchica

FTM with twins. 20 weeks today! Also these are the H&M pants that are good for shorties.

Our office building just got new bathrooms and the mirrors are awesome 

NYTino24

@BayCamp Wow, both you and the scenery look gorgeous!
@KLink15 I love your expression!
@2Dash Hope tomorrow is great for you!
@DuchessOfCambridge I see a bump!
@MKMAndeville I'll be looking for an update.

ineedsixeggs

[19+6] I tried on this maternity shirt but it still looks a bit silly to me. So I changed into something more flowy after the pic 

NYTino24

@dragonfly87-2 My post was intended exactly as I said.... that perhaps a counselor could help with body image.

lala123321567789

18w FTM. This was just before yoga, so excuse the workout clothes!