So I wanted to post this yesterday but was way too busy chasing LO around.
I know we all have been venting a lot about our SO/H. With fathers day yesterday I figured lets get a positive thread going to help remind us that it isn't always bad (at least I hope).
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TTC#1 July 2015
- BFP: 9/16/15 — MC: 11/8/15 Blighted Ovum
- BFP: 3/10/16 — Baby Girl born 11/20/16
TTC#2 April 2019
- BFP: 9/12/19 — EDD 5/15/20
Re: Things I love about my SO/H
He is an AMAZING man, husband, and father, whose heart and mind are always in the right place. I love the way he looks at our kids and plans for all of our futures as though nothing in this world could ever change a darn thing.
He also makes a mean dinner.
Welcomed baby girl: 06.10.14
Second pregnancy EDD: 06.16.16 MC: 10.29.15
Welcomed baby boy: 11.25.16
My H is the most helpful daddy! If I need a minute to myself he knows and will totally take over. He loves LO so much and loves making memories with him and us as a family. I am very, very lucky!
- BFP: 3/10/16 — Baby Girl born 11/20/16
TTC#2 April 2019I love that he exclusively cleans the bathrooms (and we have 4!.. though not as often as I would like) He also lost a bad bet once and now forever has to clean my hair out of the shower drain so that's pretty great.
But I was thinking about this yesterday actually, about the traits I do hope B picks up. He is really handy around the house when it comes to fixing things, he built our deck, does car repair/maintenance/etc. But he works in IT so he has that good combination of office job but also being very handy. He also has that provider mentality and definitely want to be a good provider both for me and for B from a financial aspect. He set up B's 529 plan last year and funded it and has been contributing again this year and tells me not to worry about it when I talk about also contributing.
he is cheerful and always try to make me smile, it is hard these days.
- BFP: 3/10/16 — Baby Girl born 11/20/16
TTC#2 April 2019It has been compounded by his anger issues which ultimately lead to apathy about it all. In many ways I think his anger issues scared him from wanting to be involved because he doesn't trust himself not to snap and do something unintentionally bad. He has been more involved in the past couple of months, still on a very minimal level, which is good but still. If he was actively trying to do better in other areas I think it would help but he refuses to try to figure out anything with his anger (it wasn't always like this, I never would have dated him let alone married him had he acted like this from the beginning) and refuses to cut back on drinking which creates this whole other vicious cycle.
And I'm scared that B will end up picking up on these actions and thinking it is ok to act this way.
That's the challenge for all of us in one way or another. It's extremely humbling when a toddler begins to mimic how they see you. I know it has - and still does - cause me to change constantly.
Welcomed baby girl: 06.10.14
Second pregnancy EDD: 06.16.16 MC: 10.29.15
Welcomed baby boy: 11.25.16
Things I love about him are definitely centered around how he is with our kids. Yes he has less patience than I would like but he still is so loving and supportive of them and their little dreams. He encourages them whether it be in art, sports, or something educational. He usually gives them baths and will then read with them and brush their teeth and tuck them in. The girls are definitely daddy's girls which makes me happy because I'm a daddy's girl too. He is very loving with our son (again.. has to work on patience but who doesnt?) And always talks to him about how they're twins and how excited he is to be his dad. He puts up well with most of my crap too, so I have to give him credit for that.
One thing I recently told him is that I feel so safe with him. Seriously, in any situation I can imagine, I know that if he was with us, we'd be safe. He would do anything to protect us (physically, financially, spiritually). He is brave and wise and has so much integrity. I've watched him grow from a boy to a man and I respect him so much.
I also love that he choose me and our daughters. He always puts family time before anything else, which means the world to me.
He drives me crazy, for sure, but I also love him like crazy and I am so thankful we still like each other so darn much!
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On a personal, probably TMI, note, I love that he is patient with my body and self-esteem. He always makes sure I know that he finds me beautiful and sexy. When we have sex (which isn't nearly as often as he would like), he does everything he can to make sure I'm enjoying myself and not just going through the motions.
I love that after almost 10 years of marriage, he can still surprise me every day.
He has very little natural instinct when it comes to kids so he tries his hardest to problem solve her. He's very graceful at taking instruction and he's learning pretty quickly now that she's able to give him more interaction . It's kind of beautiful watching him learn to be a dad.
I was hesitant to read it, as to be honest hearing complaints about the DH is much easier to handle.
But it's nice to hear that their are some special ones too, or that they aren't always being dicks to you.
Enjoy those lovely moments with them and your LO's!
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