I realized I didn't have enough time to buy FIL a Father's Day card from DS and have DS sign it. I needed to get it in the mail or it would definitely be late. So I scribbled on it myself and popped that bad boy in the mail.
If no one is going to throw a shower for you and it's your first baby, I think it's 0% tacky to throw your own. Why do you not deserve a shower just because your mom/best friend/MIL isn't into throwing it for you? Seems unfair.
After attending my baby cousin's first birthday party last weekend with far too many littles, I conveniently forgot to sent invites to DS's class for his birthday party this weekend. Oops! I guess it'll be a family only party
@DuchessOfCambridge That makes sense. But I personally wouldn't want to throw my own because I've never been to a baby shower that didn't have 4+ hostesses, so that's a lot for the guest of honor to have to worry about.
We still have two weeks left for my school, and I am so checked out. They're working on a project they'll present next week, I'm grading tests at my desk, and we're all just trying to get through the next two weeks. Who schedules school to go all the way through June 30th??
@ooodalollly for sure, but if you want one and no one will host it for you and you're ok doing all the work yourself, then I think you should get to without worrying about people thinking you're tacky. But also eye roll at the people in your life for putting you in that position. It's one thing if you don't want one but completely another if you do and no one steps up to throw it for you. It makes me sad
@DuchessOfCambridge I'm sure the tech will appreciate not having a huge audience. With my first I brought like 3 extra people to several of my u/s's (despite the room being cramped) so my mom almost didn't buy it. But I'm at a different clinic with different policies this time
For who knows what reason, I picture the moms in earlier BMBs than ours as older and wiser. Which is dumb because there are certainly moms that are younger than me and lots of STMs+ on our BMB but I'm just like "they have much knowledge".
Not gonna lie I didn't bother to ask if we could have extra guests because to me it's moment DH and I get to share, another moment of our little family. I will happily tell our friends and family about it later but those moments are ones I selfishly want for just us. I also am firmly putting my foot down that DH is the only person allowed in the delivery room with me and doctors. I don't need my bits on display for anyone that isn't medically needed. We will let everyone know when we go into labour BUT during labor and at least the first hour after birth I don't want any visitors. They can sit at the hospital if they want but they aren't coming in as I want to do delayed clamping, cleaning and allow for immediate skin to skin and hopefully a breast crawl.
My PGAL anxiety brain would never let me bring anyone but DH to an ultrasound. I'm always terrified for the first 2 minutes until I see that heartbeat.
I keep telling people that we don't have a name picked out because I don't want to deal with their reactions. It's much harder to be rude about a name once the baby is here and already named.
I keep telling people that we don't have a name picked out because I don't want to deal with their reactions. It's much harder to be rude about a name once the baby is here and already named.
We are kind of doing the same. I don't specifically have a name picked but have some ideas that I don't feel like sharing
I keep telling people that we don't have a name picked out because I don't want to deal with their reactions. It's much harder to be rude about a name once the baby is here and already named.
Did the same thing with my first The only down side was everyone felt obligated to offer their suggestions.
I keep telling people that we don't have a name picked out because I don't want to deal with their reactions. It's much harder to be rude about a name once the baby is here and already named.
I've just blatantly told people we're not sharing. Most have approved of this and left us alone. My mom argued a bit but gave up pretty quickly.
@av2323 I told DH we wouldn't be telling people our name choices and would not be telling them when we are going to have the A/S because I don't want to be badgered and I don't care about their opinions on names.
@DuchessOfCambridge I'm a total control freak so even though my aunt and mom are throwing it with extra help from my best friend and 2 close friends I'm calling all the shots.
@ElizabethSchuyler I forgot to get FD to make a card for her biodad but did remember to print out a picture of her so I glued the picture in and scribbled marker all over the paper (and photo) and voila. I'm sure he will never know she didn't do it.
We have friends from our church who just had their fourth boy. All of our kids are the same ages/grades in school. They named the baby Tyke. Tyke?? I confession is that although I typically apply the rule "your kid, your name" I just cannot wrap my mind around Tyke.
@av2323 As far as the names we didn't tell with DD2 and we won't with this one. I changed DD1's name last minute even though I told people the name I had picked originally... DH and I tell people the names we hate or just funny ones anytime people ask and they stopped asking....
@DuchessOfCambridge I'm a total control freak so even though my aunt and mom are throwing it with extra help from my best friend and 2 close friends I'm calling all the shots.
This may be happening here too lol but part of it is the ppl throwing it can't get together and agree on anything.
I think if you feel very strongly that sex and gender cannot be used interchangeably at this point then I expect you to refer to your LO as male/female not boy/girl because male/female is sex and boy/girl is gender, that is all.
*Inspired by a really annoying AF "article" I just read shaming me for having a gender reveal instead of a sex reveal*
@DuchessOfCambridge I was super excited at the beginning and filled out as much of my journal as I possibly could and then I have maybe added to it once or twice.
I think if you feel very strongly that sex and gender cannot be used interchangeably at this point then I expect you to refer to your LO as male/female not boy/girl because male/female is sex and boy/girl is gender, that is all.
*Inspired by a really annoying AF "article" I just read shaming me for having a gender reveal instead of a sex reveal*
This was a huge thing in my first BMB. You would get hardcore flamed if you ever said the word "gender" and it drove me crazy. If either one of my kids one day tells me they'd rather me use another pronoun I'll cross that bridge then and respect their wishes wholeheartedly. But until that unlikely (statistically) day comes I've got boys.
@BayCamp if someone feels really strongly about it that's fine, but don't push it on me and you really should be saying you're having a little female instead of a little girl. Practice what you preach. But agreed, I'll cross that bridge if we get to it. As I've said before, this baby doesn't even know it exists right now much less what gender it identifies with.
Because I'm an English teacher, I keep having a nerdy thought when I hear "female" by itself. Female is an adjective, so unless it's describing something, ie female baby, it sounds incomplete. Female what? Female velociraptor? Female hedgehog? Political correctness is dumb.
I think political correctness is a positive thing. To me PC is "we found this is highly offensive to a group of people so we are going to stop doing/saying this offensive thing". I do think it can be taken to extremes in very specific cases, such as children who don't yet have enough opinions to identify with a gender being one of them. I would, however, be respectful to a person who had decided they identified with one gender or another.
I was super excited to do my birthday dinner tonight with my parents until I realized I unwittingly agreed to my dad's aunt and uncle coming. Guys they are nosy AF and are gonna probably ask questions about the baby and pregnancy all dinner and honestly I just wanna start the conversation with "no discussion of the baby today" is that totally horrible?!
Today I spent the day with my two step-children as DS1, 2, & 3 are still in school for a while longer. I let them pick lunch (they picked McDonald's) and I let them pick dinner (they picked Chuck E. Cheese). So I let them eat terrible food for lunch and dinner and I bought them cotton candy and let them drink soda and brought them back to their mom's all excited and sugared up. They had such a great day and I don't feel bad at all!
liz4382 I am allowed to have 2 guests. So after DH, there is only one spot. MIL asked if she could go...and I nicely told her no for the first two ultrasounds. My PGAL anxiety is also high and I don't want to have to deal with potential sad news with someone else other than DH in the room. I am also very anxious until I see the heartbeat.
My FFFC:
For the anatomy scan, I told MIL and my mother that the waiting room outside of the U/S area is too small to accommodate anyone other than patients. I don't want them there getting me all worked up prior to the appointment. I just want to get there, try to relax and then have a private moment with DH to take it in after our anatomy scan. It's not entirely a lie because technically the room right outside the U/S area only has 4 seats....even though the room right outside of that has about 20. I just told them we can meet for breakfast after to announce the sex of the baby.
DH had to go back into work tonight and I've just bounced between all my sources of social media. Hence the multiple late night, Friday night postings. I don't know why I didn't just put on a movie or something while I waited for him. I came up with a confession earlier while I was getting a snack, but promptly forgot before getting back to my phone. (Was it food related or something???)
Re: FFFC 6.16
DS1 is 7. DD is 1. DS2 is coming in late April.
*Inspired by a really annoying AF "article" I just read shaming me for having a gender reveal instead of a sex reveal*
My FFFC:
For the anatomy scan, I told MIL and my mother that the waiting room outside of the U/S area is too small to accommodate anyone other than patients. I don't want them there getting me all worked up prior to the appointment. I just want to get there, try to relax and then have a private moment with DH to take it in after our anatomy scan. It's not entirely a lie because technically the room right outside the U/S area only has 4 seats....even though the room right outside of that has about 20. I just told them we can meet for breakfast after to announce the sex of the baby.