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Weekly B-Fest (6/12)

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Re: Weekly B-Fest (6/12)

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  • Only 6 people came to my daughter's 2nd birthday on Saturday. 15 rsvped.. So much for family. They all plan on going to my nephews 1st bday party next month. (My only sister didn't wish her only neice a happy birthday, didn't show up, didn't even send a card, but expects me to attend her son's party) 

    I don't feel comfortable attending because for over a year she's called my daughter a terror, has not even acknowledged her, has not even said 2 words to her in the last year, and didn't even support my family adopting a cat from the pound.. She doesn't even know we have 2 now..
  • @natleilynn being a hormonal wreck about it today too. I don't even know what to do anymore. Tired of it
  • @natleilynn thank you. I should have a tv show at this point lol 
  • @mommykay I'm so sorry that hardly anyone came to the party, at least you know now who is willing to make the time and effort for a next special occasion. I think you are also totally allowed to not want to go to that other party, it would only be fair and honestly, why put in the effort?
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  • @VLillyV it's just terrible that my family has favorites. I make it to everyone else's though and I'm just extremely heartbroken for my daughter. 
    I'm pretty sure next year it's just going to be the family I made. It's just a sad situation I have here.
  • @MommyKay *hugs* I can totally understand.
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  • My BF is my hair. It is always a grease ball. I cannot do anything with it. Ever. Anymore. 
  • I'm well aware this could potentially make me out to a flaming b!tch, but I'm just super bummed out.

    *TW*

    I think I've told this story before, but long story short - my first pregnancy ended in miscarriage at 12 weeks. A week after my D/C my SIL and best friend both told me they were pregnant (due within a month of my original due date). So happy face throughout their pregnancies, I got pregnant again fairly quickly and life went on. Fast forward to now, my best friend has had a really hard time getting pregnant again. I've tried to be sensitive and don't talk about it unless she brings it up. Which....is never. She lives in a different state and since I got out of the first trimester she hasn't asked how it's going, for a belly shot, how DD is doing with it all, nothing.

    I get it, she's going through a hard time. But I've been there. And I still made the effort to check in at least once a week to get a belly shot, see how doctor's appointments went, see how she was feeling, etc. Even though I was dying inside, I was still happy for her and excited for her. I mean, I had to watch two of the people I was closest to in the world be pregnant as soon as I lost mine. I understand the struggle, I do.

    I just feel like I'm not allowed to be excited about this baby around her, which makes me sad...this will be our last and she knows I had a stressed out pregnancy the first time and didn't enjoy it because pGAL brain. 

    Again...I'm not shoving this in her face whatsoever. She's not on social media and I have posted exactly one time about being pregnant online. I call her, I text her, I email her - and I am careful to discuss anything except babies and pregnancy. She rarely reaches out to me. I feel like I'm being punished because I got pregnant. And it just makes me sad. And I don't know what to do except continue doing what I'm doing and just not talking about it around her.
    BFP#1: 12/3/13 EDD 8/15/13. Heartbeat found on 12/26/13, HB gone on 1/4/13. D&C 1/7/13
    BFP#2: 4/19/13 EDD 12/28/13. Team Green for pregnancy and Baby Girl arrived 12/21/13.
    BFP#3: 2/9/13 EDD 10/18/17. Team Green for Round 2!

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  • @natleilynn ugh, that's a hard situation for both of you. No flames from me. But I will venture to say it's probably a bit unfair to assume she's deliberately punishing you. I would guess she holds zero grudge against you and is genuinely happy for you, but is holding up her own mental health as what she needs to focus on right now. She probably even feels really guilty about it, too. Rock and a hard place :(
    @bluejeanbabi05 you're right, that was unfair. I think I just feel like I went out of my way to make her feel like she should be happy before, even when I was sad. And it's not being reciprocated when the situation is reversed. But I guess everyone deals with it in their own way. It just stinks because before I got pregnant, we were so close and talked all the time. And it doesn't happen anymore unless I reach out to her. I'm just worried it's going to drive a wedge in our friendship that's not going to heal. But I guess there's not really anything I can do about that except give her space.
    BFP#1: 12/3/13 EDD 8/15/13. Heartbeat found on 12/26/13, HB gone on 1/4/13. D&C 1/7/13
    BFP#2: 4/19/13 EDD 12/28/13. Team Green for pregnancy and Baby Girl arrived 12/21/13.
    BFP#3: 2/9/13 EDD 10/18/17. Team Green for Round 2!

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  • @dumbledoredies omg I can't believe that people like that exist. Hopefully the young lady didn't hear her. Even if she did, it sounds like it didn't phase her. I would have a hard time holding back too. Who the f says something like that, and to a kid no less.  
  • @bluejeanbabi05 Yep everything you just said. 
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    Fur-children: 3 dogs + 2 cats (all rescued)
    dx: Endometriosis and Fibroids 
    2 Laps and 1 Abdominal Myomectomy
    6 rounds of clomid
    5 rounds of iui
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    @dumbledoredies Wow. What a horrible person. My mouth dropped when I read that. I am appalled.

    @natleilynn That's tough. There is a couple that I know that have lost two babies and I always feel kind of awkward or guilty talking about my pregnancy around them these days. They are super nice though and always ask how I am. One baby had trisomy 13 and they asked me if my test results came back okay. We're not very close but I feel so bad for those two  :/

    I hope the situation with your friend gets better. Maybe she does need someone to talk to about it. It is unfair that you feel the need not to bring up your pregnancy though especially since you were so supportive.
  • For the third time in the last 2 months we are having a problem with ants. First it was the small ones, then ones with wings, now the big thick ones. We put out traps but these big ones don't seem interested. I have found them on the counters, our couch, and even on our bed. I'm so grossed out. 
  • @dumbledoredies reading that made my blood boil.  Many of my clients are children with special needs, so when I hear stories like that I immediately turn into mama bear.  I would have turned around right there (like I forgot something, needed to go back, whatever), and given that miserable woman a piece of my mind.  Ugh, I'm sorry you had to see that kind of ugliness in the world.
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  • My bathtub is clogged  :s 
    it was working fine yesterday but not today
  • @OliveOyl2014 ugh ants are so frustrating! We have the little house ants every year and they are relentless. I can't set a pop can on my counter without them appearing out of no where within an hour and swarming it. But those big ones and the winged ones would be awful. 

    DH goes outside and watches them to figure out where their nests are and sets the spike traps and sprays bug killer along their routes, which has helped.
  • @sjohns908 sorry you have to deal with them too! And I think I'll send DH outside to stalk them lol. 
  • @mommykay I'm so sorry your family did that. Hopefully next year you can plan something really fun with DD's friends from daycare/preschool/playgroups/etc. so it won't make much of a difference to her who else shows up. 

    @natleilynn Agree with the others. I have a friend who MC'd a few months before we got pregnant, and she's been really supportive and genuinely interested in my pregnancy. However, I've realized that I'm uncomfortable talking about it with her and hold back on the details. I would say turn up the baby talk a notch or two and see how she responds - she may care a lot more than you think but isn't asking questions because it seems like you are avoiding the topic. 

    I have two BFs this week:
    1. I had my follow-up A/S because they didn't get a good picture of the left leg the first time. They charged me another co-pay for it. I feel like they made the mistake the first time, I shouldn't have to pay again. 
    2. I've been really anxious about money with the baby coming, and have been encouraging DH to cut back on unnecessary spending. Well, he went to a bachelor party this past weekend where they had two dinners over $100/pp (the second one was nearly $200/pp), and their lunches and bar tabs were pretty high, too. I've never gone to a bachelorette where we spent even close to that on food - maybe one really nice $75-100/pp meal but the rest is much more casual. DH did most of the planning, including choosing the restaurants, so he totally could have been more responsible about it. But he feels no guilt whatsoever. 
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