My coworkers are idiots. The guy I support thinks I am his personal admin and not his support specialist. He asked me to do his expense report today and he did not understand that no that's not my job. So I now have his expenses on my desk. While I have admin duties I am not an admin. He was also complaining about how poorly he is paid. He makes an easy 30k above me. I get he's a strong employee but seriously...he couldn't function if it weren't for me, and I am not tooting my own horn.
I have a coworker who is starting to get gossipy about my recent weight gain (ahem, bloat). I'm really annoyed because I know he's going to say something to the other office gossips and we're not announcing at work for another 2 weeks. I was actually in a decent mood until I found out and now I'm feeling super bitchy.
@burnsmommy27 if he had said something to me directly I probably would have but he asked one of my best work friends whether I was so she sent me a text to give me a heads up. I can't really say anything to him without outing her.
@gusgus14 Put him on the spot! Tell him "I've heard you've been running your mouth behind my back, anything you'd like to say to my face?" He'll probably deny or fabricate, then take the high road by telling him gossiping is unprofessional and if he has concerns or questions to address them with the person involved . You know, like an adult. *burn, high five*
@Ready4theParty That would drive me mad. He sounds like an a*@hole. It also makes me cringe re: the gender dynamic, though that might play no part... I've just found men in offices sometimes expect female subordinates to operate like PAs or secretaries when that isn't their job.
@gusgus14 What the absolute hell? Did someone tell you he said that? And what man talks
about another woman’s body/weight like that? Hugs, and if you punch him, I'd totally be on your side
Super long post today - but I seriously need to bitch!
So we've been slowly announcing the pregnancy to our family and friends. Last weekend, DH shared with his two best friends we were expecting. Fast forward to yesterday, we went over to another friend's of DH, and told him right before one of the best friend's & his GF showed up. Well apparently, because we didn't specifically mention it to the best friend's GF (who I assumed already knew), we were "snubbing" her. Then turns out she basically bad mouthed me to her BF after we got done hanging out, and was saying I was deliberately being disrespectful towards her. We were all playing the board game, and talked very little outside of playing the game. So somehow during the game, I was being disrespectful, while all I was doing was following along with the game? Also, DH told me (after we got home last night) that when his friend had told the GF about the pregnancy last week, she basically threw a fit (I think because she really wants to get married and have children and her BF isn't ready yet). But I'm sorry - since when is it okay to turn somebody else's happy news and make it all about them? And if you really were that unhappy about my news, how the heck can you possibly be offended that we didn't specifically tell you about the pregnancy? Ugh, I just can't handle this drama!
@darkrose88 Ugh. People! I bet you are spot on that she is having serious issues coming to terms with her own situation/fears her BF won't marry her/wants a baby... Some people just can't see past their own issues to celebrate with someone else. Frustrating.
This will be trivial compared to the above..but! Finally feeling better and went to make a smoothie for breakfast only to find the new juice I'd bought yesterday is nowhere to be found. Yup..charged for it but never made it in the bag. Back to the store we go..
@LemmyRN - I would but then he would know my other co-worker told me and I don't want to throw her under the bus. @EmilyLove25 - yeah, it's not the best environment for female employees; there are very few of us. I mean, it's usually not terrible and nobody would ever say anything to my face but it's still disgusting to gossip about. Plus honestly, most of my weight gain was from poor diet before getting KU and now I have terrible bloat on top of it so it mostly just makes me feel crappy. Like yes, I am actually pregnant but that's not a baby bump so thanks.
To top all of that off, the new security system is in place and I just realized I somehow managed to lose my key card today after having it all of 3 business days so now I can't access our upstairs area until I find it or suck it up and ask them to print another one for me. It's just not a good day.
Sorry, I also have a bit of a long story. My sister is a teacher assistant so she does not work during the summer. Her fiance is going out of town for training this week and she is notorious for planning things with other family members during this time since she doesn't like to alone with the kids. Well, first she asked me if they could come down all week and stay with us. My mother lives with us and is our daycare to our DS. I said no, as my husband just started his summer hours so he starts at 6 am and I work from home one day a week. I also told her that during the week is not good for us to have people over, hinting for the future as she likes to come down during the week. We do not like them in our house when we are not there. They do not respect our stuff (new house and new furniture), are mean to our dogs as they are not dog people and her youngest is mean to my son as she finds him annoying because he wants to play with her toys. So we just want to be there whenever they are there from now on. After telling her no, my DH and I joked that next would be my mom asking to take our son up by them for a few days ( 2 1/2 hours away), low and behold, a week later she did in fact ask that. We said no, we were not comfortable with that. Then today, my mom calls and asks me for a favor. She wants to know if my sister and her kids can come down tomorrow, stay the night and go back Wednesday once my DH gets home.......apparently there is something at the library she wants to bring my nephew to. I am so mad. She has now put me in a very awkward place. If I let them come down, it will be a fight between my DH and myself, if I say no, there will be added tension to my relationship with my sister. We have already said no twice! Arggg, I am just so mad. Oh and plus, tomorrow is my work from day, so yea, having them there is not an option. She said they will be gone all day so wouldn't have to worry about the dogs or anything. My son still naps, so they will be home for some of the day. And, one of the reasons I work from home is so that I can see my son on my breaks, if they are gone, I do not get that. Sorry just needed to vent.
BFP #1 1/4/14 | Diagnosed with Trisomy 13 at 12 weeks 3/6/14 | MMC 3/21/14 | D&C 3/24/14
BFP #2 7/1/14 | DS born March 2015 BFP#3 5/22/17 | MC 6/17/17 at 7w3d
@EmilyLove25 Her BF has expressed his doubts about their relationship, so I completely can see how she is feeling insecure. It just sucks because people I was worried who would have a negative reaction (like DH step mom who has been trying to have a baby for 2 plus years) were SO supportive and happy for us. And she just turned it into this big, melodrama. I almost wish DH never told me any of this, because it is just bringing down my mood.
@gusgus14 I am sorry, that stinks that he feels he can comment on your "weight gain". Just leave people alone!
@darkrose88 sorry she is being such a pain, some people get offeneded over the weirdest things. I am generally a more quite person and don't talk just ot fill space. Silence doesn't bother me So sometimes people do think I am being cold towards them if they don't know me really well. If I dont have anything useful to say, I dont say anything. Hopefully she will cool down about it.
BFP #1 1/4/14 | Diagnosed with Trisomy 13 at 12 weeks 3/6/14 | MMC 3/21/14 | D&C 3/24/14
BFP #2 7/1/14 | DS born March 2015 BFP#3 5/22/17 | MC 6/17/17 at 7w3d
@labgrand2012 I am totally the same way. I do not talk much, especially in larger groups, so I can come off as standoffish. Unfortunately, it looks like she is taking that as me being disrespectful and unfriendly. At this point, to be honest, even I made an effort to be friendly, I think she would still be bitter because of the other reasons I mentioned. Hopefully she will cool down, because I still have to interact with her.
So I work at a university, and while there are some perks to the summer (less traffic! For sure time to workout! Longer lunches!), I am so bored half the time. I would say we have meetings/classes to teach on average three days a week and even then not the full day. I need to be busy in order to be motivated... So bored, y'all
@gusgus14 oh hell no. I'd probably have a hard time not fake whispering around him if anyone else noticed that his deodorant appears to have stopped working, or something equally petty. @labgrand2012 that is really frustrating, I'm sorry. @EmilyLove25 up until today I have had literally nothing to do for work since the middle of May. I have binge watched so. much. tv. its not even funny. This week I start a project and I'm so excited to have something to actually do! (don't get me wrong with the exhaustion etc its been nice to not have to do anything, but I'm starting to go stir crazy).
@gusgus14 Someone needs to whack that guy upside his head. It is NEVER appropriate to talk about a woman's weight - pregnant or not. My irritable state lately would have probably said something to him.
@darkrose88 Wow, your friend sounds interesting. Her boyfriend told her previously about the pregnancy, but then she got upset that you did not mention it a week later? Sounds like she is pissed at her boyfriend, but taking it out on you. Sorry
Then today, my mom calls and asks me for a favor. She wants to know if my sister and her kids can come down tomorrow, stay the night and go back Wednesday once my DH gets home.......apparently there is something at the library she wants to bring my nephew to. I am so mad. She has now put me in a very awkward place. If I let them come down, it will be a fight between my DH and myself, if I say no, there will be added tension to my relationship with my sister. We have already said no twice! Arggg, I am just so mad. Oh and plus, tomorrow is my work from day, so yea, having them there is not an option. She said they will be gone all day so wouldn't have to worry about the dogs or anything. My son still naps, so they will be home for some of the day. And, one of the reasons I work from home is so that I can see my son on my breaks, if they are gone, I do not get that. Sorry just needed to vent.
Stand your ground @labgrand2012! (Says someone who isn't in your shoes.) It's like you said, you already said no twice - don't back down now - she'll just do it again if you do. You have good reasons for saying no. I'm cheering for you!
My boss is working on my last nerve...I have to go to a conference at the end of June. I've told him the dates multiple times, he's got multiple emails with the date in it, but what does he do? He replies to one of those emails that has said dates in it to ask me "When will you be out of town for xxx conference again?" I have now calendar noticed him, but if he asks one more time, I am going to come UNGLUED!
@EmilyLove25 he's a judgemental a-hole. We get a long great and are close in age, but he has an opinion and better way of doing things for EVERYTHING. He has also only worked for our company and doesn't realize how good our company is to us most of the time.
Don't people know you should never comment on anyone's weight ever?? I also work with a lot of gossipy people. A few have straight up asked me if I was pregnant. I said it will never be your business to know. If my family and friends don't know yet, I am certainly not telling co-workers! Don't people understand why people wait to announce a pregnancy? And the absolute worst is when you do announce and they proudly shout I KNEW IT!!! Like you win a prize or something. Get over yourself!
@ajolly932 Im so glad you said this! I felt bad because I hated the way my MIL reacted when my DH told her we're pregnant. She just kept saying "I knew it! I knew it! I knew it!" Like 20 times! She also never acknowledged our marriage either. But I felt bad because inside I hated how she reacted. Like, even if you may have thought something, how about act surprised and say Congratulations, sheesh.
@ajolly932@livingoffpbjs That annoys me so bad!! First of all, no you didn't. You thought it but you didn't know it. And even then if you were suspicious, it's your duty as a human being to act surprised and say congratulations.
On the flip side, I've had a couple friends who waited so long to tell it was extremely obvious and then were all upset when everyone said, "I knew it." It still shouldn't have been said but really, come on!
@ajolly932 this happened with DS. We had visited DH's family and I wasn't feeling well. My SIL had just told everyone she was pregnant that day (our boys are 4 days apart!). I thought I might be, so didn't drink, but was still getting negatives on the HPT. We told SIL first who warned us that MIL was suspicious and telling other family members she thought I was based on what she "observed" that day. I didn't even know I was pregnant at the time. When we told MIL she said "I knew it!" And didn't believe me when I said I didn't even know at the time. It was really hurtful and our relationship has changed ever since because of it.
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He'll probably deny or fabricate, then take the high road by telling him gossiping is unprofessional and if he has concerns or questions to address them with the person involved
@Ready4theParty That would drive me mad. He sounds like an a*@hole. It also makes me cringe re: the gender dynamic, though that might play no part... I've just found men in offices sometimes expect female subordinates to operate like PAs or secretaries when that isn't their job.
@gusgus14 What the absolute hell? Did someone tell you he said that? And what man talks about another woman’s body/weight like that? Hugs, and if you punch him, I'd totally be on your side
DD1 EDD 9/29/2015, Born 9/24/2015
DS1 EDD 1/3/2018, Born 12/26/2017
BFP #3 3/21/2019, EDD 11/29/2019, MMC/D&C 5/7/2019
BFP #4 6/28/2019, EDD 3/12/2020
I don't have anything to bitch about today yet. Yet.
So we've been slowly announcing the pregnancy to our family and friends. Last weekend, DH shared with his two best friends we were expecting. Fast forward to yesterday, we went over to another friend's of DH, and told him right before one of the best friend's & his GF showed up. Well apparently, because we didn't specifically mention it to the best friend's GF (who I assumed already knew), we were "snubbing" her. Then turns out she basically bad mouthed me to her BF after we got done hanging out, and was saying I was deliberately being disrespectful towards her. We were all playing the board game, and talked very little outside of playing the game. So somehow during the game, I was being disrespectful, while all I was doing was following along with the game? Also, DH told me (after we got home last night) that when his friend had told the GF about the pregnancy last week, she basically threw a fit (I think because she really wants to get married and have children and her BF isn't ready yet). But I'm sorry - since when is it okay to turn somebody else's happy news and make it all about them? And if you really were that unhappy about my news, how the heck can you possibly be offended that we didn't specifically tell you about the pregnancy? Ugh, I just can't handle this drama!
DD1 EDD 9/29/2015, Born 9/24/2015
DS1 EDD 1/3/2018, Born 12/26/2017
BFP #3 3/21/2019, EDD 11/29/2019, MMC/D&C 5/7/2019
BFP #4 6/28/2019, EDD 3/12/2020
@EmilyLove25 - yeah, it's not the best environment for female employees; there are very few of us. I mean, it's usually not terrible and nobody would ever say anything to my face but it's still disgusting to gossip about. Plus honestly, most of my weight gain was from poor diet before getting KU and now I have terrible bloat on top of it so it mostly just makes me feel crappy. Like yes, I am actually pregnant but that's not a baby bump so thanks.
To top all of that off, the new security system is in place and I just realized I somehow managed to lose my key card today after having it all of 3 business days so now I can't access our upstairs area until I find it or suck it up and ask them to print another one for me. It's just not a good day.
After telling her no, my DH and I joked that next would be my mom asking to take our son up by them for a few days ( 2 1/2 hours away), low and behold, a week later she did in fact ask that. We said no, we were not comfortable with that.
Then today, my mom calls and asks me for a favor. She wants to know if my sister and her kids can come down tomorrow, stay the night and go back Wednesday once my DH gets home.......apparently there is something at the library she wants to bring my nephew to. I am so mad. She has now put me in a very awkward place. If I let them come down, it will be a fight between my DH and myself, if I say no, there will be added tension to my relationship with my sister. We have already said no twice! Arggg, I am just so mad. Oh and plus, tomorrow is my work from day, so yea, having them there is not an option. She said they will be gone all day so wouldn't have to worry about the dogs or anything. My son still naps, so they will be home for some of the day. And, one of the reasons I work from home is so that I can see my son on my breaks, if they are gone, I do not get that. Sorry just needed to vent.
BFP#3 5/22/17 | MC 6/17/17 at 7w3d
@darkrose88 sorry she is being such a pain, some people get offeneded over the weirdest things. I am generally a more quite person and don't talk just ot fill space. Silence doesn't bother me
BFP#3 5/22/17 | MC 6/17/17 at 7w3d
It's so hot here guys. I feel like I'm melting.
DD1 EDD 9/29/2015, Born 9/24/2015
DS1 EDD 1/3/2018, Born 12/26/2017
BFP #3 3/21/2019, EDD 11/29/2019, MMC/D&C 5/7/2019
BFP #4 6/28/2019, EDD 3/12/2020
@labgrand2012 that is really frustrating, I'm sorry.
@EmilyLove25 up until today I have had literally nothing to do for work since the middle of May. I have binge watched so. much. tv. its not even funny. This week I start a project and I'm so excited to have something to actually do! (don't get me wrong with the exhaustion etc its been nice to not have to do anything, but I'm starting to go stir crazy).
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@darkrose88 Wow, your friend sounds interesting. Her boyfriend told her previously about the pregnancy, but then she got upset that you did not mention it a week later? Sounds like she is pissed at her boyfriend, but taking it out on you. Sorry
Me: 34 | DH: 32
Married: May 2015
DS: 12/17
BFP#2: 12/26, EDD#2: 9/5
My boss is working on my last nerve...I have to go to a conference at the end of June. I've told him the dates multiple times, he's got multiple emails with the date in it, but what does he do? He replies to one of those emails that has said dates in it to ask me "When will you be out of town for xxx conference again?" I have now calendar noticed him, but if he asks one more time, I am going to come UNGLUED!
On the flip side, I've had a couple friends who waited so long to tell it was extremely obvious and then were all upset when everyone said, "I knew it." It still shouldn't have been said but really, come on!