I basically consider anyone whose sn I recognize as a regualr a "cool kid". Maybe we should make a list of the cool kids. Those are the ones I would be comfortable having in a private FB group haha.
A list seems a little exclusive - at least a written one. But I agree that there are SNs I recognize, even if they don't post all the time. And that recognition of a active participant in the community is what I would look for in people for a Facebook group.
Mom advice is generally very good but lately I have been finding it confusing. My friend is AMA and has told me a few untrue things so far (not purposely) and it's really confusing me because then I have to go searching for the right answer. Most recently she told me circumcisions are not covered by insurance and they are always outpatient and must be done 2-3 weeks after birth, that's what her insurance told her and what all her mom friends said. But then my insurance info says circumcision is covered as long as it's done inpatient while mom is still recovering from birth and that this is fine to do as long as baby is healthy and stable. She's also the one who scared me about Wubbanubs. It's making me not want to talk to her about baby stuff anymore. I'm nervous too but having a nervous STM tell me anxiety-inducing things is not helping!
I basically consider anyone whose sn I recognize as a regualr a "cool kid". Maybe we should make a list of the cool kids. Those are the ones I would be comfortable having in a private FB group haha.
A list seems a little exclusive - at least a written one. But I agree that there are SNs I recognize, even if they don't post all the time. And that recognition of a active participant in the community is what I would look for in people for a Facebook group.
An official posted list probably not a fair thing to do, buuut I don't wanna end up with one of those posts of just send me an email and you can join thing either, I would prefer it be a little more exclusive than not but that's just me.
I basically consider anyone whose sn I recognize as a regualr a "cool kid". Maybe we should make a list of the cool kids. Those are the ones I would be comfortable having in a private FB group haha.
A list seems a little exclusive - at least a written one. But I agree that there are SNs I recognize, even if they don't post all the time. And that recognition of a active participant in the community is what I would look for in people for a Facebook group.
An official posted list probably not a fair thing to do, buuut I don't wanna end up with one of those posts of just send me an email and you can join thing either, I would prefer it be a little more exclusive than not but that's just me.
I was jk about a list. I assumed it'd be more like we'd have a moderator or two for the group and people would be let in that way. I'll defer best method to those who have had BMBs move to FB before!
@DuchessOfCambridge my doctor actually was the one who mentioned to me that circumcision isn't always covered by insurance. I still need to call and check.
@BayCamp I had the worst time finding a bathing suit. Found a tankini top pretty easily but it's kind of an old lady print. Then the bottoms didn't work and I really had to search for some bottoms that matched/were comfortable.
@DuchessOfCambridge that article almost seems like satire to me. It's impossible to live without food and I'm sure no doctor would sign off on that for a pregnant woman. Off to google "breatharian"...
"The cool kids"... I debated making this its own discussion lol.
What i I meant was that sometimes I almost feel like one of the "un-cool kids" like back in high school. You all have done NOTHING mean-spirited or anything like that to me, I just feel that way when I don't have much to contribute. The best example I can give is when everyone was talking about their love or hate for goat cheese, and their favorite cheeses. All I could think was "gee I have pepper jack and Colby jack cheese". Lmao I felt like a loser over cheese!
Anyways, I think I am getting over my funk and trying to contribute more. I appreciate each of you and going on this journey together!
@08-16-08jms pepper jack and Colby jack are solid cheeses IMO
@pawcall TBH I'm ready for FB but not pushing it until others are. I know it'll expose us to each other more but you still can't see people's personal profiles and I'll feel way more comfortabe posting pictures in a private FB group than on here. My profile picture doesn't even have my face in it. But anyway, I'm pretty ready to move when others are.
I am actually more comfortable with FB than I was with list. The list made me uncomfortable as it was available to everyone, whereas I assume an FB group will be a bit more exclusive.
Im starting to feel more comfortable with Facebook as well, which surprised me. As much as I wish I didn't, I check fb all the time and posting is way easier. But we would need a moderator because I'm still never going to publicly post my name here. I want zero trackable connection between my bump sn and fb.
Eta and a group doesn't mean we have to friend each other, and I probably wouldn't friend anyone for a while still.
Im starting to feel more comfortable with Facebook as well, which surprised me. As much as I wish I didn't, I check fb all the time and posting is way easier. But we would need a moderator because I'm still never going to publicly post my name here. I want zero trackable connection between my bump sn and fb.
Eta and a group doesn't mean we have to friend each other, and I probably wouldn't friend anyone for a while still.
Same.
...sooo should we start an officia N17 private FB group? Whoever is comfortable out of us could join now and others could join as they please? We could have two moderators that we nominate? I personally will also still keep checking TB, I don't plan to abandon our BMB or anything.
No worries at all if this is a no go, I'm fine with it either way.
@DuchessOfCambridge I am game for it but don't feel up to being a moderator. I am too Spacey for that haha. I will definitely keep up on both but wouldn't mind the private FB group!
@ooodalollly I've been debating taking myself off of the list for that reason. I don't really understand the point?
Totally not judging regulars on the spreadsheet. It makes sense for you to be there. I just don't know why someone with an sn I've never seen before wants any of us to have any of their personal info. Like, what's the point? It's not like we're mailing out welcome packages.
My question as far as FB goes is who decides who the regulars are? Do we deny access to people wanting to join who we don't "know?" Also would there still be different daily discussion threads or would it just be like an ongoing weekly randoms? I don't know how any of this works
@ooodalollly I assume moderators would decide who is regular enough to join. I don't know how any of the rest of it works, I'm new to this too! Monkey-covering-face emoji haha
i think I have a sad, scary lack of stranger danger
Same here. And honestly a friend that's pregnant with twins and due in October already added me to an October 2017 group since my due date is at the end of the month. I'm not a regular poster there since it's such a big group but it's there. I haven't friended anyone from it so it still feels fairly anonymous.
I am open to a Facebook group too, as I find it easier to navigate. Wouldn't we have to have a correlation between our bump sn and our Facebook name? How else do we know who each other are? Or am I missing something obvious? Lol also, I use the bump on my phone and I don't know how to find my "pm" area...? I swear I am more computer literate than this post portrays!
@08-16-08jms I figure if I send people links to the group it weeds out randos trying to join. Once you're in there we could share what our sns are. The PM area is the link that says Inbox at the top above November 2017 Moms
@08-16-08jms I'll try it out with you first, if you're comfortable with that! I hope I can just send the link to let people join and not have to collect email addresses.
ETA for anyone who IS comfortable PMing me their email, feel free and I'll add you. Again, no pressure at all. I made the group secret so it won't show up on your page or anything and it's not searchable.
On breatharian (so?) thing. I read that article this morning on yahoo and was intrigued and started googling. According to wikipedia (yep, I know, but where else would one go with something like this???) multiple breatharians have died doing the breatharian fasting. Seems like a good reason NOT to do that...?
Re: Weekly Randoms 6/12
~EDD Nov 18, 2017 with my IUI success story~
[spoiler]
Mom advice is generally very good but lately I have been finding it confusing. My friend is AMA and has told me a few untrue things so far (not purposely) and it's really confusing me because then I have to go searching for the right answer. Most recently she told me circumcisions are not covered by insurance and they are always outpatient and must be done 2-3 weeks after birth, that's what her insurance told her and what all her mom friends said. But then my insurance info says circumcision is covered as long as it's done inpatient while mom is still recovering from birth and that this is fine to do as long as baby is healthy and stable. She's also the one who scared me about Wubbanubs. It's making me not want to talk to her about baby stuff anymore. I'm nervous too but having a nervous STM tell me anxiety-inducing things is not helping!
Eta autocorrect sucks
I still haven't added anything to the spreadsheet and I'm here all the time.
~EDD Nov 18, 2017 with my IUI success story~
[spoiler]
What i I meant was that sometimes I almost feel like one of the "un-cool kids" like back in high school. You all have done NOTHING mean-spirited or anything like that to me, I just feel that way when I don't have much to contribute. The best example I can give is when everyone was talking about their love or hate for goat cheese, and their favorite cheeses. All I could think was "gee I have pepper jack and Colby jack cheese". Lmao I felt like a loser over cheese!
Anyways, I think I am getting over my funk and trying to contribute more. I appreciate each of you and going on this journey together!
@pawcall TBH I'm ready for FB but not pushing it until others are. I know it'll expose us to each other more but you still can't see people's personal profiles and I'll feel way more comfortabe posting pictures in a private FB group than on here. My profile picture doesn't even have my face in it. But anyway, I'm pretty ready to move when others are.
Im starting to feel more comfortable with Facebook as well, which surprised me. As much as I wish I didn't, I check fb all the time and posting is way easier. But we would need a moderator because I'm still never going to publicly post my name here. I want zero trackable connection between my bump sn and fb.
Eta and a group doesn't mean we have to friend each other, and I probably wouldn't friend anyone for a while still.
~EDD Nov 18, 2017 with my IUI success story~
[spoiler]
...sooo should we start an officia N17 private FB group? Whoever is comfortable out of us could join now and others could join as they please? We could have two moderators that we nominate? I personally will also still keep checking TB, I don't plan to abandon our BMB or anything.
No worries at all if this is a no go, I'm fine with it either way.
My question as far as FB goes is who decides who the regulars are? Do we deny access to people wanting to join who we don't "know?" Also would there still be different daily discussion threads or would it just be like an ongoing weekly randoms? I don't know how any of this works
ETA for anyone who IS comfortable PMing me their email, feel free and I'll add you. Again, no pressure at all. I made the group secret so it won't show up on your page or anything and it's not searchable.