UO 6.8

mrsrep123

Ooh I miss reading these... Let's hear 'em!


Aaaaaaand I miss this guy!

mcvgal

I don't think summer school should be used as a child care service. I thinks children need their summer vacations. Summer school should be for kids that are falling behind academically and need extra assistance.

kat81

mcvgal said:

I don't think summer school should be used as a child care service. I thinks children need their summer vacations. Summer school should be for kids that are falling behind academically and need extra assistance.

I agree that summer SCHOOL, especially of the public variety, is for kids who need it academically. But I'm curious -- are you against kids going to "for fun" summer school (private ones, like for nerdy kids) or other camps or anything? If so, what should the childcare plan be for families in which both parents work? Is it best for one parent to not work? Nanny/babysitter only so kids are truly on vacation?

SKZW

I miss that guy too.
He looks so young in that pic!

kat81

My UO: I am totally cool with going out and doing things with a newborn before they have a schedule and/or when they are able to sleep anywhere in the infant bucket carrier or whatever. For example, I think a bar is a perfectly acceptable place for an infant as long as at least one parent is sober enough to take care of said infant and the place isn't so crowded (i.e. there is room for the carrier or the parent wears the baby or whatever.)

Two days ago, on my birthday, I took public transit with my baby to the city (50 min ride on two vehicles, through some sketchy neighborhoods) and then went out to eat with a friend from 5:30-9pm, at which time I reversed the trip home. It was great! We had a blast. Last night I went to a neighbor's house for a get-together with other neighborhood women in which we played games. I just rolled dice and nursed the baby at the same time and it was nbd. And drank wine both nights. As long as you have things "under control" with regard to your health (i.e. recovered from a c-section, etc) and the baby (i.e. nursing, colick, etc), then I say go for it! Go out while you can! Oh, and huge thanks to DH who took care of the older kids both evenings while I had fun.

mcvgal

@kat81 summer camps and private ones are great, but public schools should be for education. This came about because a friend of mine is sending her son to summer school before entering first grade. She has a family member watching her two younger kids during the summer, but she's sending the older one to school even though his teacher did not require it.

mrsrep123

I'm probably going to sound whiny and bratty, but I wish Hogwarts wasn't formed, at least not so soon. I know it's probably easier for most to "bump" that way, but I feel like we built such a community here and now it's a ghost town... especially when we all could use the extra support or distraction. 

I think this was my first real UO.

mamatowildones

I don't see anything wrong with drinking and breastfeeding. One or two glasses of wine and I still nurse. It takes a few hours to drink them anyway. I only give him a bottle of I'm having a hard drink. Lots of side eye from friends who refuse to drink a drop until baby is done nursing in however many months. My nightly glass of wine is something I look forward to every single day! Three boys under five earns a treat for this mama. 

mcvgal

@mrsrep123 I agree, it's like the Hogwarts exodus happened over night, and then everyone was gone.

SKZW

@mrsrep123 @mcvgal: Totally agree. Ghost town. You're right about missing having it as a distraction. The upshot is I'm reading a lot of library books!

ChristinaWild

mamatowildones said:

I don't see anything wrong with drinking and breastfeeding. One or two glasses of wine and I still nurse. It takes a few hours to drink them anyway. I only give him a bottle of I'm having a hard drink. Lots of side eye from friends who refuse to drink a drop until baby is done nursing in however many months. My nightly glass of wine is something I look forward to every single day! Three boys under five earns a treat for this mama. 

Amen to all of this!!!

ShadeofGreen816

I am in hogwarts but still miss the board being more active! I do think there's a component of everyone being busy with little ones too. 

I am with you @mamatowildones. I actually got seriously judged I think by my discharging nurse at the hospital. We were getting ready to leave and she was trying to get me to take a norco before we left and I said "no I'm planning to drink a beer when we get home so I shouldn't." And she was just taken aback. And then said like 7 times during our discharge teaching how I shouldn't drink while on pain meds... ugh. I won't. I don't even like the Norco! Give me a beer!!

SKZW

@ShadeofGreen816: She sounds helpful....

bubsalicious

I definitely miss TB community, I find it easier to keep up than Hogwarts in the small amount of time I do get. I feel like I'm constantly going and everybody wants something from me.
@ShadeofGreen816 your nurse sounds like she was pleasant...

mrsrep123

@ShadeofGreen816 did she know that you are a nurse as well? Ahem, nurse practitioner? 

OmegaRose3

@mrsrep123 I 100% agree about the Hogwarts exodus!

UO: I yell when I'm frustrated and I don't think it's really all that bad of a thing if it means I get all of my frustration out in the moment instead of seething about something for hours

chailife34

Count me in, I miss our sweet community so much. Come back please! We miss you!

@OmegaRose3 this is me too. Just let me get it out and I'm good. I hate the internalization of negativity

OmegaRose3

@chailife34 Yes! I know a lot of people disagree because I've gotten some crap for it, but I definitely think it's healthier to express frustration in the moment

ShadeofGreen816

@mrsrep123 I think she knew I was a nurse. I didn't mention NP to anyone since I'm not really an NP since I've never worked as one. We actually loved her up until that and it kinda ruined it for me. Like seriously one beer isn't going to hurt my child. I've done some research on this in my NINE MONTHS sober (nearly sober)!

BabyMC517

I get it about Hobwarts and how it has become so quiet around here. I'm really trying to post at both places, but honestly the fb app is much easier to use and I'm on my phone when I post. When I was at work I would use my computer but I hardly get on the computer here at home. Plus getting used to taking care of a new tiny human is time consuming! 

Re: drinking...go for it! You do you! I'm pretty sure if you've made that decision that you've researched it enough to make a good decision. Screw whatever everyone else thinks! 

MollyandD

My UO is that I like it when my cereal is a little soggy with milk. Sometimes, I'll get my bowl ready, and then go get dressed before I sit down to eat it. 

rkstro2

@ShadeofGreen816 I want to go back there and tell the nurse to check herself!  I couldn't wait to get a drink!!!! I quit taking Percocet so I could drink one in the evening.   I went for my first "walk" one evening this week and took my beer in the cup holder on the stroller.  Apparently the shocks on the stroller aren't great so I went over a bump and the beer spilled all over the handle and the cup holder.  Oopsie.  My first walk and I defiled my stroller with a party foul! 

mcvgal

I tend to agree with most of the UOs posted all these months, but @MollyandD cereal is not meant to be soggy.

RedInLove

I try to post in both. I access both on my phone so it's not any easier or harder to use one or the other. But I'm more active in my DD's BMB FB group, we formed a couple months before our May 2014 babies were born and I know them quite well, so I do spend most of my time there. 

mrsrep123

I get it about Hogwarts. If I had an account I'm sure I'd be there too. 

MollyandD

mcvgal said:

I tend to agree with most of the UOs posted all these months, but @MollyandD cereal is not meant to be soggy.

Well, if everyone agreed with me, it would be a popular opinion. ;p

bubsalicious

MollyandD said:

My UO is that I like it when my cereal is a little soggy with milk. Sometimes, I'll get my bowl ready, and then go get dressed before I sit down to eat it. 

Slightly soggy cereal for life! What's the point of the milk if it isn't going to soak in a little?

ShadeofGreen816

Ew to soggy cereal!! I often don't put milk on my cereal if I don't have time to eat it as fast as possible while the cereal is still crunchy!

psherman42wwsa

I love crunchy cereal. My h let's the milk soak in for awhile and I never understood why he likes it.

Add me to the list of those who look forward to an alcoholic beverage in the evening. A hott shower and a glass of wine is needed after a day with a toddler and newborn. 

Also I may have already went on a walk with some wine in my stroller too. 

thistlenweeds

Honestly I don't know how people with toddlers do newborns. I think I'd kill myself. You guys are amazing.

On the drinking subject: I want a drink so bad but I can never find time lol. I have had my favorite beer in the fridge since before the baby! 

redheeler

@thistlenweeds I personally feel like it's easier this time around, if only because I know what I'm doing with a newborn this time, and my toddler is pretty self-sufficient, I minded my 9 month old niece as well the other day though and I haven't got a clue how people survive with "Irish twins"

OmegaRose3

Ew to soggy cereal here too...I remember many mornings as a child having to choke down cereal that went soggy because we were not allowed to waste food.

redheeler

Ugh, I don't like mushy cereal but I'll eat it. H however won't, it usually leads to a bowl of mush and off milk in my sink because I didn't notice quickly enough, yuck!

UO: I live in a country that doesn't recognise same sex marriage, I couldn't care less about it and I'm sick of hearing about how it's a "right" 
(same sex couples that live together are recognised under the marriage act, they are legally the same as a married couple without actually being married, so they're not being denied anything, this applies to ANY couple who live together)
food, water, shelter. They are rights, marriage is a privilege, I wish people would stop confusing the two.


figure it's been long enough around here, we need a REAL unpopular opinion

Yiggle09

@PartiallyDomesticated what country do you live in
@thistlenweeds for me it's hard and some days I feel horrible sending him off to family or daycare. I also feel horrible having him stay home where I'm constantly voice checking his actions and laying under a baby all day instead of engaging him. I know I'll figure it out but right now I feel like a crap mom. He will be 2 end of August so I know he'll barely remember this time in his life but I still don't want him to be unhappy

mrsrep123

Yiggle09 said:

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@thistlenweeds for me it's hard and some days I feel horrible sending him off to family or daycare. I also feel horrible having him stay home where I'm constantly voice checking his actions and laying under a baby all day instead of engaging him. I know I'll figure it out but right now I feel like a crap mom. He will be 2 end of August so I know he'll barely remember this time in his life but I still don't want him to be unhappy

@Yiggle09 YES to all of this! Voice checking, check. Laying under a baby all day, check. Feel like a crap mom, check. Mine turns 2 the end of July.

mamatowildones

mrsrep123 said:

Yiggle09 said:

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@thistlenweeds for me it's hard and some days I feel horrible sending him off to family or daycare. I also feel horrible having him stay home where I'm constantly voice checking his actions and laying under a baby all day instead of engaging him. I know I'll figure it out but right now I feel like a crap mom. He will be 2 end of August so I know he'll barely remember this time in his life but I still don't want him to be unhappy

@Yiggle09 YES to all of this! Voice checking, check. Laying under a baby all day, check. Feel like a crap mom, check. Mine turns 2 the end of July.

Yes. This is hard. Honestly the third is easier because now my first two have each other and they aren't upset by all the nursing or time their baby is taking up. We read a lot of books and when I'm playing baby is just hanging in his bassinet. 

mcvgal

Completely agree with @mamatowildones having the older two entertain each other really helps during the baby time.

Jens_Hoes

I promise I'm coming back soon! Having this baby has been hard to get back on track. I won't abandon you ladies!

redheeler

@Yiggle09 Australia