I have felt baby kicking/moving since 22 weeks. One time to prove to my DH that baby was moving. I laid in bed, placed my phone on my belly and he could see it moving! As soon as he moved the phone and placed his hand there....baby stopped moving!! Since then, he has felt baby move in the morning & at night!
@JessDG I don't think an hour and a half away is a big deal. If you go into labor, the chances of you having the baby before you get to a hospital are slim. Obviously anything can happen, but personally I wouldn't not go because of the chance. Like you said its not some bit vacation.
Not sure where to ask this, but has anyone used the Freemie collection cups? I really love the idea & concept, but wasn't sure how well they worked. Would love some feed back.
lol I have a wedding October 7, and my EDD is October 13. I already told her we're a maybe and it will be a game time decision It's right in town, and this wedding is going to be EXTRAVAGANT, plus it's close family so I hope we can go, even if just for a bit.
MIL can be a little over the top cautious with things...especially since my couple of bleeding episodes. I'm sure it will be fine. Even if it's an outside wedding on the Friday of Labor day weekend at 5:15 in the afternoon and the dress is formal. On second thought...maybe I should say I'm not allowed to go haha.
@JessDG probably just weird MIL...most people will be totally fine traveling an hour and a half away at 36 weeks. I delivered at 36 weeks 4 days with DD1 but no real signs until my water broke. With DD2 she was 2 weeks old by then. So I personally won't be planning anything for that point, but like I said, most people especially with a first pregnancy would be fine. I have a friend who was at a theme park waterpark at 38 weeks yesterday
At what point should I become concerned that I still haven't really felt the baby move? I think I have felt light movements MAYBE but nothing definitive and I'm starting to worry. We saw the baby moving at our AS.. I'm 20w3d today but was measuring 6 days ahead so could very well be over 21w. I'm also a pretty tiny person so there isn't a whole lot of room for the baby to move. Just seems like I should have felt the baby by now.
@dumbledoredies is your placenta in the front? that can delay it. i have felt light flutters (but also i am a TTM i basically have no muscles in tact there to support anything) but no real kicks, what i feel i know it is movement but i still second guess myself like "but is it REALLY?!" i am 20w2ish days. their bones are just starting to harden now so it will become more apparent. and you will only feel it when it hits the uterus wall.
@dumbledoredies at 20 weeks I was exactly where you are. Flutters that could be movement or could be my stomach doing weird things. It's really just the last week or so (I'm 22+5) that I have been feeling strong kicks that I know are baby.
@carries2018 all I know is that my placenta is over my cervix. I'm not sure if it's in the front or back! If anything I think I've felt the baby roll over. It relieves my anxiety to know that as a third time mom you're still second guessing the movements. I'll wait a few more weeks then until I let myself worry!
@dumbledoredies If your placenta is between baby and your abdominal muscles it will take longer for you to feel movement!
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Thanks guys! I think I'm getting so frustrated with it because most days I don't feel pregnant at all and I just want to feel closer to the baby. I keep telling it to kick me hard already and they aren't listening!
@dumbledoredies I had weird "bubbly" sensations in my stomach around 19-20 weeks, and over the next couple of weeks after that I started feeling distinct movement/kicks that feel like muscle twitches. I'm 23w+1d today. I'm sure your LO is fine in there!
@JessDG I wouldn't even consider an hour and a half "traveling," lol. I wouldn't worry.
@dumbledoredies hopefully you'll feel movement soon so you can feel more attached.
I don't know what else to wait for... maybe starting the registry and readying the nursery? I feel this kiddo and have the round belly to prove it, but I still feel very detached from it all. I force DH to feel the kicks hoping his excitement and attachment will rub off on me but nothing really yet. Maybe if we pick a name. Who knows. Love the kid obviously, just sorta in the background of this whole thing.
@PizzaMonster3 I feel that way sometimes too, like sometimes it doesn't feel real. It got better once we found out the sex, so I could start referring to her as "she," which made me feel much more like she's a real person. Feeling movement helps too. Hopefully naming her will help as well.
But I do wish H were feeling a little more proactive about working on our registry and cleaning out our second bedroom/setting up the nursery. I know he hopes we're going to buy a house and move out of our apartment before she's born, but dang it, I need to feel like this is real!
@PizzaMonster3 I feel that way sometimes too, like sometimes it doesn't feel real. It got better once we found out the sex, so I could start referring to her as "she," which made me feel much more like she's a real person. Feeling movement helps too. Hopefully naming her will help as well.
But I do wish H were feeling a little more proactive about working on our registry and cleaning out our second bedroom/setting up the nursery. I know he hopes we're going to buy a house and move out of our apartment before she's born, but dang it, I need to feel like this is real!
Sometimes I just think to myself, "Wow I am really pregnant." Lol sometimes it doesn't seem real to me either.
I never really felt much of an attachment to DS until he was born. You are not broken if you don't feel a bond while pregnant!
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@jessafishy thank you. I'm excited for others feeling so excited and having those bonding moments, I love their happiness! Just hoping to maybe share in some of it too
@JessDG I have a wedding at 36 weeks to that is 2ish hours away. We are planning to stay overnight. As long as I'm not in pre-term labor or put on bedrest, I don't see any reason not to go (even on bedrest I might still go... they are really close friends and would make sure there was a place for me to lie down). I will make sure I know where the local hospitals are, just in case, and suggest you do the same. I'd like to think that if I do the research I won't need it
@PizzaMonster3 and @soprano19 I feel the same way. DH and I are both more stressed than excited because we're not as financially stable as we'd like to be and we have a lot of projects we need to finish up before baby comes. I think if he were more excited it would help it feel more real. I think setting up the nursery will help, but it will be at least another month or two before we are ready to do that. I love being pregnant and can't wait to be a mom, but it's not all the happy times I was expecting.
What do STMs think of the feasibility of attending a wedding about two weeks after my due date? I told her we'd likely be able to come but wasn't sure if I was overestimating my recovery abilities.
Does anyone else's belly grow like 2 sizes after the sun goes down? I have a few pairs of normal pants I can fit into during the day, but in the evening they don't even come close to buttoning. It's like I grow from 5 months to 7 months pregnant over the course of the day, and then magically at night I shrink back down. Perhaps I'm pregnant with a werewolf?
@jessirh I would say it fully depends on how your labor/delivery goes. But about 2 weeks after I had DD, DH and I went to a fancy dinner for my birthday. I think we were gone about 3 hours and that was about as long as my boobs could handle.
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@jessafishy it's so hard! I feel like I should be more attached but I don't feel the baby move, we aren't finding out the gender so I can't name the baby.. I feel so disconnected. I rarely ever talk to the baby because half of the time I forget it's in there. And DH and I absolutely are so in love either he baby already! It's just so hard to have a connection.
@jessirh - yes, I had to breastfeed as soon as I got home to relieve myself. I mean, we were probably in the restaurant for about 2 hours (we did it up - apps, drinks, entrees, desserts) and then probably another 2 hours from our house to dropping DD off with grandparents, driving to restaurant, driving back to grandparents, then driving home. So I might have gone 4ish hours? But at the time, it was tough and I was starting to feel the pain.
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@jessirh i would say you will prob be fine enough recovery wise. i'd bring a pump to the venue and go to the bathroom or car and pump for 15 min (also bring a cooler to store said pumped milk assuming you won't be drunk yet). i've had plenty of friends have to take pump breaks at weddings before
your biggest issue will prob be missing the baby but enjoy yourself! 9 months of behaving is hard!
what @jessafishy said, i didnt even bond immediately after birth either. it wasnt until 6ish+ months. so you are not broken if that happens either. now i'd cut a biotch for my kids it will all come when it comes! so don't get yourself down about the bonding.
DH's cousin is getting married about 1 and a half hours away from us on September 1. I will be 36 weeks. MIL told me yesterday to put a note in my RSVP about being a maybe since I may not be able to travel far away from home at that point. If I have no complications, is that really a thing? I could understand being told not to go on a big vacation at that point, but not being able to go an hour and a half away at 36 weeks? Is that something doctors do, or is MIL just being weird?
MIL is being weird (unless you have a history of issues or preterm labor)
Idk if this has been asked before - but someone on my FB posted a rant that people need to stop giving them a hard time for putting their less than 1yo in forward facing car seat. They said they do it because of the baby's reflux.
What do STMs think of the feasibility of attending a wedding about two weeks after my due date? I told her we'd likely be able to come but wasn't sure if I was overestimating my recovery abilities.
Even as a STM I wouldn't commit to an event 2 weeks PP. Putting aside my physical recovery, my baby was not a good nurser and we spent the first 2.5 weeks in and out of the lactation specialist's office (literally every other day). Plus I was exhausted (DD nursed for 45 minutes, then I had to pump [20 minutes], wash pump parts, and then try to sleep before the cycle started again).
I also personally wouldn't leave a 2 week old with a babysitter (family member or not) because you're still figuring out routines and needs and trying to establish your milk supply.
Idk if this has been asked before - but someone on my FB posted a rant that people need to stop giving them a hard time for putting their less than 1yo in forward facing car seat. They said they do it because of the baby's reflux.
Is this a real thing?
An infant seat does have a deeper recline then convertible, so I can see why people would want to switch; however they should be RF in a convertible if the infant seat is truly too reclined for the reflux. On a side note, I don't know any laws that allow FF before 1 year old (even proper use states). And laws aside, kids should not be FF before 2.
Idk if this has been asked before - but someone on my FB posted a rant that people need to stop giving them a hard time for putting their less than 1yo in forward facing car seat. They said they do it because of the baby's reflux.
Is this a real thing?
Maybe but a better option is finding a seat where they can be more upright. Its very dangerous to FF even before 2yo. Most people will never be in an accident so they think it's NBD. I'm anxiety girl so I'm always focused on worst case scenario.
Worst case scenario, hopefully if my child might suffer from reflux while in the car they would come out alive in an accident. Dramatic? Maybe. Car seats and vaccines are basically my hills to die on.
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i know not everyone can have someone riding with them at all time to watch a baby if they're having reflux and choking, but it just seems very reckless to be forward facing. I'm not sure what I would do
i know not everyone can have someone riding with them at all time to watch a baby if they're having reflux and choking, but it just seems very reckless to be forward facing. I'm not sure what I would do
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@JessDG I wouldn't even consider an hour and a half "traveling," lol. I wouldn't worry.
I don't know what else to wait for... maybe starting the registry and readying the nursery? I feel this kiddo and have the round belly to prove it, but I still feel very detached from it all. I force DH to feel the kicks hoping his excitement and attachment will rub off on me but nothing really yet. Maybe if we pick a name. Who knows. Love the kid obviously, just sorta in the background of this whole thing.
But I do wish H were feeling a little more proactive about working on our registry and cleaning out our second bedroom/setting up the nursery. I know he hopes we're going to buy a house and move out of our apartment before she's born, but dang it, I need to feel like this is real!
Re: attachment to baby
I never really felt much of an attachment to DS until he was born. You are not broken if you don't feel a bond while pregnant!
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@PizzaMonster3 and @soprano19 I feel the same way. DH and I are both more stressed than excited because we're not as financially stable as we'd like to be and we have a lot of projects we need to finish up before baby comes. I think if he were more excited it would help it feel more real. I think setting up the nursery will help, but it will be at least another month or two before we are ready to do that. I love being pregnant and can't wait to be a mom, but it's not all the happy times I was expecting.
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your biggest issue will prob be missing the baby but enjoy yourself! 9 months of behaving is hard!
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Is this a real thing?
I also personally wouldn't leave a 2 week old with a babysitter (family member or not) because you're still figuring out routines and needs and trying to establish your milk supply.
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Worst case scenario, hopefully if my child might suffer from reflux while in the car they would come out alive in an accident. Dramatic? Maybe. Car seats and vaccines are basically my hills to die on.
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