Weekly Spam 6/2-6/9

AMCsquared

I didn't see a new one!

AMCsquared

I told my fellow teachers at work yesterday that I'm pregnant. Apparently that same afternoon, one of my students from last year who I haven't seen all this year, asked my 1 teacher friend if I'm pregnant. The kids literally ask every day, for years, so them asking is nothing new. But my friend said yes!! LOL She told me this morning so then I debated if I should announce to my classes today. I decided not to because I wasn't planning to tell them for another couple of weeks. Now I'm just hoping the gossip doesn't get around from that 1 girl because I was really looking forward to telling the news to my kids myself.

NME44

@AMCsquared, how many more weeks of school do you have?

moonlady-2

@AMCsquared Maybe you could talk to the girl about not saying anything? 

I'm debating on when to tell everyone at my school too. Part of me just wants to show up in Sept with a surprise bump ha ha ha 

AMCsquared

I literally haven't seen the girl even once this year! We must pass in the hallway at some point when I don't see her or something.

We finish June 26

Haha the surprise bump!  The reason I decided against that is I want to share the excitement of the news with my current kids. My new kids in September won't care bc they won't know me yet! 

NME44

Wow, so late! School ended here yesterday.

moonlady-2

June 27th here ;(

grammergalnyc

Congrats, fellow teachers! Deciding when (and who!) to tell is definitely a big decision. I recently told my supervisor and a couple of close friends at school; but am debating whether or not to tell anyone else before the fall. Part of my hesitation is I feel like I was just starting to get to know people better (it's only my first year here!), and I'm not quite ready to just become "the pregnant one" yet...
Super excited about all this, of course, but also well aware of how our personal and professional identities will naturally shift as we grow into our new mom roles. 

I can't wait to be a first-time parent -- and to throw myself into that role completely! -- but I'm also still coming to terms with everything I'll be giving up when that time comes: spontaneity(!), casual social relationships, the opportunity to grow at my job, etc. Re: work, I recently found out I won't be able to continue working with my same group of kids next year as planned (it won't make sense with my timing), meaning I'll be starting out next fall in an unfamiliar and far less interesting role. And I can tell (from seeing other moms at school and hearing from all of you) that it's going to be a constant struggle trying to maintain that work/family balance. So as much as I'm counting down the days/weeks/months til DD, I'm also realizing how much I'll be giving up to make room for making someone else the biggest priority in my life.

It seems so strange, after 30+ years on this planet(!), to start to see myself, and get ready to BE seen, as a mom first -- and everything else second. Wondering of this is something any of you ladies are also thinking about/struggling with?! Curious to hear from any/all FT or STMs!!

NME44

@grammergalnyc, I'll be a TTM, and I don't feel like having children has changed the way I see myself that much. I know realistically I'm a "mom" and I love taking care of these kids and watching them grow, but I still don't see myself as a "mom." I just feel like myself in charge of kiddos, now. 

To be fair, I was never one for going out at all times of night. Having kids hasn't really stopped us from traveling or going on vacations. (Although 3 really could put a damper on that.) I also still make sure I'm making time for my hobbies and interests.

NME44

This morning I was just wearing a tank top with no bra (my normal nighttime wear) and DS asked, "what are those missiles?" Uh huh.

i asked DH if, when I had milk, I could squirt him in the face and tell him they're milk missiles 

clovelyone

@NME44  That's so frickin hilarious! 

jlemons-2

I'm going to the Henry Doorly Zoo in Omaha today! Yay!!

GraysonsMama

My phone broke yesterday. Just freaked out and stopped working. Now dh wants to switch carriers so I have no idea how long it will be before I get a phone... Uggggg

lestex

The American Red Cross calls me often (or used to) for blood donations. Before pregnancy, I donated often. Since 2013, I've been pregnant, then breastfed for a year, then was pregnant, then breastfed for a year, and am now pregnant (and will likely breastfeed for a year.) They usually call when I'm postpartum, ask how long I plan on breastfeeding and then put me on a do not call list for the year. When that year is up, the calls resume. At this point, they probably think I'm lying. On the breastfeeding note: my boobs(normally a small b cup) look like sad deflated balloons when I'm done bf. getting pregnant immediately afterwards plumps them up and I'm afraid that if this is my last pregnancy, I'm going to be stuck with sad balloons!

NME44

@lestex , I have no idea what's going on with that tag.

i feel ya on the sad deflated boobs. I had them for almost two years bc DD didn't really bf, and I'm not looking forward to going back to it. I hear that several years down the road maybe it gets better again? One can only hope...

ETA: weird, the tag is normal now. When I put it n it put quotes around it and weird spacing. Oh well.

vvitchhazel

@NME44 The same thing happened to me when I tried tagging her the other day!

Tennis11785

Not a teacher, but I've also been having the internal debate as to when to tell work.  It's one of those things, you can't put the cat back in the bag once it's out.  My boss isn't local - in fact no one on my team is - so I could (in theory) hide it for a really long time.  Although the people in my office could catch on and say something that gets back to my boss.  

jackiesmom324

im so over my job ughh. im leaving june 30 and it cant come close enough. of course its bad when you are leaving a job and people are mad at you for leaving. and you are like:

flowerpower5838

@tennis11785 I didn't tell my job with DS until 18 weeks. They're big into Halloween and do a costume contest thing every year so I announced with my costume. If that wasn't the case I honestly probably would have waited another few weeks. I didn't really start showing til then anyway. I'll probably follow a similar timeline this time assuming I don't start showing a lot sooner. My opinion is that It's medical information - it's not something they need to know that far in advance. 

Marley629

I had told my job right away but they also knew about our ttc troubles and everything and are very family friendly.  I told them so early mainly Bc I was so sick and they allow me to work from home on really bad days.   If they weren't like that, I prob wouldn't tell them until I started showing which as a FTM it wasn't until closer to 17-18 weeks for me. 

cait5413

I plan to tell my boss this week because I want as much time as possible to figure out what we're going to do; it may involve rearranging schedules for this fall as well if someone is going to cover one or more of my classes in the spring, so I want time to hash it all out. 

tmk0325

My boss isn't located where i'm at, we were supposed to have a meeting today, but she ended up having to go to a conference. I asked when she'd be back at our location and she said June 20. Looks like that's the day I'll be telling work people.  I want to tell her before we announce on facebook, because I do have some coworkers I'm friends with and I don't want her finding out before them! 

blueskies17

I've been wishing for some IRL pregnant friends because most of my close friends aren't planning on it yet. Last week, I found out that one of my best friends is pregnant. So exciting, because it wasn't planned and I didn't think that any of my close friends would be having babies anytime soon. I hadn't told her that I was pregnant yet, so we were both super excited when I spilled the beans! And then today, I found out that another good friend of ours is expecting too (and her EDD is within a week of mine!) Oh, the power of wishful thinking! 

MJDsquared

Just decided to start looking at daycares and on Care.com there are 13 pages of them within 5 miles of me. However, apparently you can't narrow them down by whether they take infants or not, so that's cool. Also, sooo many of them have no online presence aside from on childcare websites! Even if you're running a small in-home daycare, you need a website, damn it! So overwhelming.

Also, I came across one called "Joe Paterno Child Development Center" and thought someone was playing a sick joke. I Googled it and found out it's what the Nike World Headquarters childcare center was called until they changed it in 2012. Yikes.

AMCsquared

Can I say that I really am so impatient and I wish I had a legit baby bump etc. Now that my symptoms are letting up, I feel like wow am I pregnant is this real? I'm ready to embrace full pregnancy mode and feel like 13 weeks is such an in between stage!

Jellybelly119

@AMCsquared It's such an awkward stage! I'm finally comfortable announcing that I'm pregnant and then people kind of look me up and down, see nothing, and are like, "Oh, really?" 

Jellybelly119

Edit because TB app went crazy and double posted on me. Here's a puppy gif to make up for it. 

andipandicWed121369

I have a dentist appt today.  I hate the dentist.  I actually considered 'forgetting' I had an appt.  If I weren't pregnant, I'd take a xanax before I went.  At least with the baby, they can't take xrays and do too much.  Still, boo.

anewadventure

@MJDsquared  that is...creepy. and good luck on your care search, i found that to be the most stressful thing of preparing for LO. luckily we found a provider that we are thrilled with (nearly three years later) but it can seem like a difficult search. 

@andipandicWed121369  good for you for going anyway. i know a lot of people that just...don't. not healthy. GL.

@AMCsquared  @Jellybelly119   LOL. i wish people looked at me that way this time. instead, i've already gotten a few "people say the most ridiculous things to pregnant people" type comments RE: "yeah, i noticed you've been putting on weight" etc. ... RUDE AF. cheers to when we look cute pregnant instead of like nothing or like we ate 100 burritos. 

mdcd44127

andipandicWed121369 said:

I have a dentist appt today.  I hate the dentist.  I actually considered 'forgetting' I had an appt.  If I weren't pregnant, I'd take a xanax before I went.  At least with the baby, they can't take xrays and do too much.  Still, boo.

Oh man, do I hear you. I have massive dentist phobia stemming from very painful surgeries when I was younger, and I don't think I've been to a dentist for even a cleaning in over 7 years? I know, totally gross, but I try to take extra good care of my teeth to make up for it. I was reading about how you really should get a cleaning while pregnant, but just the thought of getting scolded and scraped without the ability to take a xanax makes me want to scream.

anewadventure

PSA, especially for you STMs - stride rite is on zulily today.

jlemons-2

@MJDsquared  Good luck with the daycare searching.  I agree with @anewadventure, it was the most stressful thing for me too with DD.  

AFM,

I haven't logged on in a few days and I feel like I missed so much!  We went on two little getaways back to back.  Then last night, my best friend had her baby and I had the opportunity to be there.  It was so amazing and magical, it got me so excited to experience labor again! Six months to go!

And one more thing,  is any one else super excited that there are now TWO birth month boards after us? I feel like we are making some progress in these pregnancies.

vvitchhazel

Thanks for the heads up, @anewadventure. I just went and checked and they've got one pair of hot pink shoes in DD's next size. 

ETA: I'm so not into hot pink.

atack

@AMCsquared I have 6 days left until school ends and I have been holding onto this secret.  Flowy tops and dresses are my go to.  I just don't feel like sharing it with the entire student body.  I can tell many may be starting to question or wonder.  It's not that obvious.  I actually weigh less than I did when I first found out - just doesn't look like it  

Can't wait for school to end.  I am actually dreading telling my principal too.

breezybee

@jlemons-2 Yes!  It's crazy that there are 2 BMBs after us!  I feel like time is really flying by now that the first agonizing weeks are past us (I'm a little behind a lot of you at 10.5 weeks). Love it!

AMCsquared

@anewadventure seriously people say u packed on some pounds? how LOVELY of them! its really so dumb for people to say that crap.    
someone asked me today if i'm pregnant but i'm used to it because i've been getting asked that for YEARS. i said no lol. it always feels like an insult to weight but its become so frequent for me (2x a week typically) over the past few years that it semi doesn't bother me anymore.

aw @atack so you don't want to tell your students? they are actually the only people i WANT to tell at work haha. i'm so excited for that! otherwise, i'd be waiting til september to tell anyone at school.

flowerpower5838

I just had Portillo's for lunch and it was fucking delicious. That is all. 

jlemons-2

@breezybee I was behind everyone with my first and it was nice because I didn't know anything  and everyone experienced it first so I had something to compare to. However, in first tri, it was weird. 

tamaraaaa

A Facebook friend posted an announcement she is due February 2018 and it totally freaked me out.  Did you pee on the stick and come straight to Facebook??

jlemons-2

Some people announce the day they find out! 

breezybee

Too early!!!  Too early!!!