LMAO, I'm just laughing because I thought being team green meant you don't know the sex yet . I requested to add team green on the spreadsheet, but I totally want to know and I hope it's one of each (twins). It's a surprise whether I find out today, tomorrow, next month or during the birth. I have no issues with gender specific (or nonspecific) clothing for babies. Once they're old enough to have an opinion, I will let them help choose outfits, but as babies, they'll wear whatever I want LOL.
If you really look at it everyone forces their perspectives on their children. Girls in pink and frilly or girls in traditionally boy attire, you are making the decision. My children will be encouraged to dress hope they like (within reason of course) but until they have an opinion I'm going to live it up. For example: I dressed my ds fairly preppy and I hate all things character. But now that he's 3 he loves Mickey mouse and minions and whatnot. I have "given in" and thrown some character stuff into the mix because it makes him happy and it's not that big of a deal. I also love pink and frilly and headbands and bows. Dd rocks that when I HAVE to get her dressed. However, she does wear her brother's old sleepers around the house. Just my opinion.
This exactly. DS chooses what he wants to wear each day. I decide what to buy him but I choose based on his tastes. Same with DD. I love pink everything. Her favorite color, however, is blue. When she was littler, she wore a ton of pink. Now I buy her what she likes. She just happens to love Disney princesses. I bought her a generic princess pajama set for her birthday, but she flat out refuses to wear it. She has some of her brother's hand me downs too and if she chooses those, I put her in those. And they're usually with me to give their opinion on what I buy for them.
so will be the same with this one. I will dress it in whatever boy or girl clothes I want until it has opinions. Then I will respect those opinions.
We are team green at the moment. i could have found out today but opted not to.
We already have 3 other kids. 2 girls and 1 boy. Although one is with the angels. This is our last and the only time we didn't find out. Will see if I make it to the end without finding out. Not finding out cause husband didn't want to and I agreed. It'll be a nice suprise.
My DH said he wouldn't want to tell anyone else the sex of our baby to avoid stereotypical boy/girl gifts. And I don't want to keep another secret from friends and family... so team green!!
@AMCsquared a hobby farm a small farm operated for pleasure or supplemental income rather than for primary income. So, we sell eggs, but it's fun money, not income we depend on. And our goats are really just pets...we don't breed or milk them, they just amuse us and keep the poison ivy at bay.
I really enjoyed being team green with baby 1.... we all thought for sure I was carrying a boy, so when my daughter was born it was a huge surprise. Leaning team green again. I like not having an "identity" for the baby... makes the pregancy move faster and keeps me from shopping!
@Amber_Waves God I love goats! We had one and he was sooo mean. He tried to butt anyone who came near him. When he died we got another one and he followed me around like a dog. I would drop his lead and run and he'd just follow me. I miss him!
OK. in general this thread gets a big ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ from me because, really, if you want to find out then find out. if you want to be team green then be team green. if you and your husband disagree then this is a great chance to work on communication and compromise, because believe me that's going to happen a lot once you pop out your LO.
as for gifts. i guess i'm at etiquette person too, in the old-fashioned sense. people can get you whatever they hell they want. i mean, we're not talking a blatant slap-to-the-face against your values kind of thing, like SERIOUSLY WEIRD GIFT here. clothes? this just doesn't qualify in that sense. i'll be the first to say that the overly-gendered, cutesy saying baby clothes are totally NMS and make me cringe. that doesn't mean i'm offended if someone else thinks they're the bee knees and gets some for my LO. accept the gift with grace. and then, here's the thing - when something is GIFTED to you, it is now YOURS TO DO WITH AS YOU PLEASE. which means, if you immediately return it to a store for credit to buy something you like, then great. you are under no obligation to use or keep the gift. there's a line past which both sides shall not pass - don't try to control what someone is buying you of their own volition, and the gift giver ceases to have any control over how the gift is used (or not) once it is opened. period.
not telling people the sex does help you get more "things" and neutral stuff. so don't, if that's important to you. but don't then get annoyed at what people actually do buy you. that's just entitled. i'm all about personal boundaries in life, but gift-giving at the NB age is pretty much never going to cross any major lines.
Met: September 2005Married: October 2008 DS: 09/2014
@Amber_Waves I was going to say something in the GTKY facts thread, but forgot! Your life sounds like our goal life! We want a hobby farm on some decent acreage. DH and I looove goats and want them as pets, not for milk or anything. I'm even considering a pig. My cousin has a little one who is about a year old and I'm just obsessed. She'll get to be about the size of a smaller lab (which is how big mom is, full grown). She sleeps in bed with them and is litter trained.
And since pigs are TOTALLY off topic, I guess I can contribute to the thread... My husband didn't care about finding out with our first, but I couldn't wait. He said whatever we chose to do the first time around, we need to carry on with the next baby. Which wouldn't have been a problem... I'm too impatient. I just think it's fun knowing that we're having another little girl and being able to already refer to her by her name.
As far as being team green for the sake of the shower, we almost didn't announce prior to the shower because I just did not want tons of sex specific dumb crap. Then I felt kind of bad, because it's not up to me what people choose to give me. So I just slipped a female pronoun on the invitation, never technically announced. Did we get a ton of sex specific dumb crap? Yep. We took back what we could and donated what we couldn't. Whatever.
I also found that I gravitated towards a lot of neutral clothes and jammies when I was buying, but most of that stuff went unworn. I don't like frilly pink girly stuff at all, but just grey and white was a little boring for me. Which is absurd, because everything of mine (walls, carpet, couch, dressers, etc) is grey and white. I bought A 3- pack of jammies yesterday for LO... Almost grabbed the cute neutral set, but remembered that that stuff didn't get as much use. Instead, I got the girl pack. One pair is white and navy striped with pink trim, one is two different shades of pink, one is white with pink and blue bow ties. That level of girliness I can handle, I suppose.
We have chosen to be on the green team because we have opted out of ultrasounds when we came upon the information that they could be harmful to the baby. This is our third child and we are trying to go the route of least intervention possible. After my midwife confirmed that info, we opted out of U/S and hearing the heartbeat until we could hear it via fetoscope at around 20 weeks. I've always like "neutral" colored clothes and baby items anyway, plus it's seems to somehow take your mind off the minute details of the already tumultuous journey of pregnancy/childbirth. We've kind of adopted a 'we'll deal with it when it happens approach', it's much more relaxed! We're just focusing on what's best for Mom and baby, and in the end, that's all that matters, right? #TeamGreen
Re: To be team green....or not to be team green?
Side note. .... what is "hobby" farming?
so will be the same with this one. I will dress it in whatever boy or girl clothes I want until it has opinions. Then I will respect those opinions.
i could have found out today but opted not to.
We already have 3 other kids. 2 girls and 1 boy. Although one is with the angels. This is our last and the only time we didn't find out. Will see if I make it to the end without finding out. Not finding out cause husband didn't want to and I agreed. It'll be a nice suprise.
a hobby farm a small farm operated for pleasure or supplemental income rather than for primary income. So, we sell eggs, but it's fun money, not income we depend on. And our goats are really just pets...we don't breed or milk them, they just amuse us and keep the poison ivy at bay.
DD - 12/28/17
TTC #2 3/2019
BFP 5/2019 || MC - D&C 5/2019
BFP 2/2020 || EDD 10/10/2020
as for gifts. i guess i'm at etiquette person too, in the old-fashioned sense. people can get you whatever they hell they want. i mean, we're not talking a blatant slap-to-the-face against your values kind of thing, like SERIOUSLY WEIRD GIFT here. clothes? this just doesn't qualify in that sense. i'll be the first to say that the overly-gendered, cutesy saying baby clothes are totally NMS and make me cringe. that doesn't mean i'm offended if someone else thinks they're the bee knees and gets some for my LO. accept the gift with grace. and then, here's the thing - when something is GIFTED to you, it is now YOURS TO DO WITH AS YOU PLEASE. which means, if you immediately return it to a store for credit to buy something you like, then great. you are under no obligation to use or keep the gift. there's a line past which both sides shall not pass - don't try to control what someone is buying you of their own volition, and the gift giver ceases to have any control over how the gift is used (or not) once it is opened. period.
not telling people the sex does help you get more "things" and neutral stuff. so don't, if that's important to you. but don't then get annoyed at what people actually do buy you. that's just entitled. i'm all about personal boundaries in life, but gift-giving at the NB age is pretty much never going to cross any major lines.
Met: September 2005 Married: October 2008 DS: 09/2014
As far as being team green for the sake of the shower, we almost didn't announce prior to the shower because I just did not want tons of sex specific dumb crap. Then I felt kind of bad, because it's not up to me what people choose to give me. So I just slipped a female pronoun on the invitation, never technically announced. Did we get a ton of sex specific dumb crap? Yep. We took back what we could and donated what we couldn't. Whatever.
I also found that I gravitated towards a lot of neutral clothes and jammies when I was buying, but most of that stuff went unworn. I don't like frilly pink girly stuff at all, but just grey and white was a little boring for me. Which is absurd, because everything of mine (walls, carpet, couch, dressers, etc) is grey and white. I bought A 3- pack of jammies yesterday for LO... Almost grabbed the cute neutral set, but remembered that that stuff didn't get as much use. Instead, I got the girl pack. One pair is white and navy striped with pink trim, one is two different shades of pink, one is white with pink and blue bow ties. That level of girliness I can handle, I suppose.