UO Thursday

neludelu

I read an open letter written by a mom who had multiple loses. She was basically shaming women for not enjoying everymoment of being pregnant. Initially I agreed with her and made an effort to soak every moment up but then I started feeling really guilty and annoyed. I feel that people should be allowed to be annoyed by being uncomfortable and still enjoy or be thankful for being pregnant. Being overwhelmed with happy feeling and floating in the moment isn't reality. Sometime being pregnant sucks whether you have had perfect pregnancies or multiple losses. This article did give me the green light to enjoy the sh!t out of a pint of ice cream though. 

shmarpler

I kind of feel the same way about mother's day. I know there are a lot of people out there who really hurt because they don't have a mom, or can't be a mom, and that totally sucks. I honestly am sad for people in those situations, but sometimes I wish people would just let me be happy for what I do have.

Maybe I'm just an ass. 

Kylieslip24

I've lost babies and have miserable pregnancies. I am just thankful I can complain. Because boy do I. Lol my back hurts, I feel ugly, and I spend a lot of time puking or feeling like I need to. I am just careful not to complain to people who might be going through it. Dh and family get to hear lots of whining. 
I just woke up so ill think of a uo and come back. 

Wino0920

I am in the middle. I absolutely think women should be allowed to be annoyed or complain about whatever they want. No one, but them, is experiencing what they are and pregnancy can be hard. BUT, I get very annoyed with the constant complainer. Sometimes, I feel women just complain to complain and get sympathy. Maybe just people I'm around and this isn't common, but I feel like screaming.. shut up and find something to be happy about. 

But I get annoyed with complainers in general. 

lmudra

I had 4 losses before this magical unicorn baby (2 in 2016).  I feel super guilty complaining about my pregnancy woes.  I feel like I have all sorts of pregnancy related complications and it's just a pregnancy pile on at this point.  Not sure what my point really is but I don't need a blogger to make me feel more guilty about how hard pregnancy is for me.  I already feel like if I complain one more time I'm going to jinx the whole thing so the added pressure of the internet telling my I'm a bad person for complaining is not necessary.  Women are already hard on themselves.  

shmarpler

lmudra said:

I had 4 losses before this magical unicorn baby (2 in 2016).  I feel super guilty complaining about my pregnancy woes.  I feel like I have all sorts of pregnancy related complications and it's just a pregnancy pile on at this point.  Not sure what my point really is but I don't need a blogger to make me feel more guilty about how hard pregnancy is for me.  I already feel like if I complain one more time I'm going to jinx the whole thing so the added pressure of the internet telling my I'm a bad person for complaining is not necessary.  Women are already hard on themselves.  

I'm 100% for ignoring those bloggers. We all have our own battles, and those battles change as life moves on. Sometimes the battle is wasting a baby, sometimes it is surviving a colicy baby.