February 2017 Moms
teenuhvo
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3.5 month temper tantrums
teenuhvo
member
Hello all.My daughter was the most easy going baby through the newborn stage. Since she was 1 month old she spontaneously starting sleeping through the night from 1am until 1pm, waking up 2 or 3 times to feed. During the day she was always so easy to put down for naps. Just give her the pacifier and pat her butt and she's out. But ever since she turned 3 months, it's like night and day. She fights her naps so much! When I even ATTEMPT to lay her down in my arms she screams (not cries) and tenses up or burrows her face into my arm. Now its taking at least 2 or 3 hours for her just to stop fighting her tiredness and give into some sleep. And even when she does fall asleep, if I put her down she wakes up immediately and the whole process restarts. Or if I do keep her in my arms the most she will sleep is 15 min and wake up seeming uncomfortable and frustrated. (BTW I never used to hold her when she naps, she was always fine being laid after she fell asleep). Even when I put her on her favorite swing to wash her bottles she screams at the top of her lungs until I pick her up. Am I teaching her bad attitude habbits?
Re: 3.5 month temper tantrums
But lolz.
Married: October, 19, 2015
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What does the bolded even mean? Do you have bad attitude habbits?
As pointed out a 3.5 month old baby isn't throwing "temper tantrums", if she is screaming and tensing her body, maybe call her Dr to have them check her out. Otherwise, maybe her schedule is shifting and she just doesn't want to sleep until 1 p.m. anymore... or maybe she isn't ready for a nap. Or maybe she buries her face in your arm looking for the boob. Maybe she's hungry. In general it sounds like you're overexaggerating too much for anyone to even try to be helpful, plus we don't know you or your baby so I doubt we could actually answer anything for you, based off what you posted.
We experienced exactly the same thing with our 3 month old - you are not alone! He was a great sleeper since he was a month old, but then he suddenly decided he didn't want to sleep/nap anymore, and wouldn't let us put him down in any of the places he associated with sleep (e.g., his swing, his moses basket, his crib). It's like he's decided life is too fun to sleep!
We decided to do cry-it-out (extinction version) and it worked like a charm, and very quickly. I know lots of moms on this board are judgy about that, but letting him cry alone 20 mins the first night and now really just 5 mins whenever we put him down for a nap/sleep seems infinitely better than him crying for hours in our arms. It led to 10 days of bliss for the whole family, with our LO clearly more energetic and in better moods the whole day. Then, he started rolling over, which means we had to take away his magic merlin sleep suit.. so we're probably going to have to reset and start again. Not the end of the world though.
Would love to hear about anything you discover that works too!
No, infants dont have temper tantrums.
I haven't been around in a while but I popped in and saw this. I personally think 20 mins is too long to let your baby "cry it out". When they finally fall asleep, they've wore themselves out and pass out, and you never really figured out what the underlining issue was. I did start letting my older two cry it out at 12 months, but only for 10 mins tops. But that's just me....
This is what I know from my 3 boys, close to 3 months, the napping schedule changes. Babies don't sleep as much. Your daughter may not be tired! Maybe she has alot of gas. Maybe you need to switch the formula you use. Some other questions to figure it out what's going on: Did she get over stimulated while playing with the baby gym or did you spend enough time playing on the floor to ware her out? Is she still hungry, maybe give her more formula. Is her diaper wet? some babies like their diaper changed right before falling asleep. Talk to your doctor too, she could have an ear infection or something that you're missing. Babies cry because they're trying to tell you something is up.
Also, she's a baby and may just want to be close to her mom, since that's where she was for most of her life....pop her in an infant carrier, and wear her while getting house work done. You aren't going to spoil an infant.