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Ok STM+, we know we are not perfect parents, and parenting is effing hard. Let's share our biggest mom fails to make each other feel better about our shortcomings, and give FTMs a sobering though humorous sense of what's to come. It's ok to laugh once it's over.
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Last summer DH and I were walking with DD between us and we were swinging her by her hands and lifting her in the air. Something we've done a million times. Suddenly DD starts crying and holding her wrist. DH says he felt a "pop." DD won't stop crying nor will she let anyone touch her arm or get near her.
We were out of town and rush her to the nearest urgent care. They take X-rays, exam, the whole nine yards. Then, as suddenly as she started freaking out, she's fine.
Doctor tells us something in her wrist probably got popped out of place, but managed to pop itself back in. Or a similar condition to nurse maids elbow but in her wrist. She's fine, but we got a stern lecture about how we should never swing a child like that. Cue feeling like horrible parents and we don't deserve to raise a child.
I'm sure I have more fails to share but I've tried to repress most of them. I hope DD does the same
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BFP in September 2014, DS born June 2015.
TTC x2 months.
BFP January 2017.
The worst part was the gleeful look I saw on his face right before he fell -- like he clearly thought he was about to do something really cool and fun. Poor kid was so disappointed and sad.
I also finally mentioned him squinting his eyes to the pedi at his 2 year appointment and she gave us a referral to an ophthalmologist. Eye doctor examines him and says "It's good you brought him in because he is extremely far sighted and needs glasses." Cue melt down from me because I had totally convinced myself he just liked to make that face and I felt so horrible that I didn't say anything before and that he was having such a hard time seeing.
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Last weekend, dh was playing with dd2, pulling her across the floor by her arms and then dropped her arms. She lost it and refused to move her arm for an hour and would scream if you touched it. Then, just like you said, she was fine. SIL is an ER nurse and told us later that night it sounded like nurse maids elbow.
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ETA for clarification: DD2 was still holding on to DD1's hair that was still attached. She didn't rip it out... that would be even more terrible.
When DD was 9 months old, I slipped on the stairs while carrying her down from a diaper change, on my left hip. I was holding the hand rail and everything, but about halfway down, my heel slipped when I stepped down on the carpeted stair and it came right out from under me. DDs leg was behind me when I landed. She screamed and I cried hoping she was ok. She seemed fine, but would wimper when we tried to move her right leg. This was of course on New Years Eve. Thankfully we were able to call the consulting nurse and get an appointment with the oncall pediatrician. The doctor predicted a broken leg and she went through X-rays. And he was right. I broke my baby girls leg. Cue tears and worst parent ever feelings. The doctor was so kind and assured me that it happens on a very regular basis. Because baby's bones aren't solid yet, it was more like a bend in the bone. So they couldn't cast it or anything. It took 10 days and lots of Tylenol to get her back to normal. She was a trooper for sure. And I started walking at an even slower snails pace on the stairs, with slippers on, bracing myself the entire way.
This was the worst of the worst. Huge mom guilt afterwards! I felt absolutely horrible.
Shes never had any issues growing or walking, thank goodness!
Thanks for sharing these stories ladies...I don't have any to contribute (yet?) but I'll be lurking along!
Together since 2010, Married August 2014
TTC: Off and on since April 2015
Diagnosis: Severe MFI
1/15/2017: FET #1, successful. Baby boy delivered via c-section 9/30/17
1/2/2018: FET #2: BFN
On the topic of nursemaids elbow, when DD2 was about 13 months old we were in a grocery store. I was looking at something on the top shelf and she was twisting around to look at me because the cart was on my side. Her elbow got stuck in the slats of he cart and she yanked it while twisting. I've never heard a scream like that. Even when she fell out of her crib at 2 and broke her wrist.
ETA: we used a set cover for the most part but that one particular day it was left in the wash!
Told you I had stories.
When DD1 was a few months old , I turned a corner too tight and bonked her head on the frame pretty hard.
I have a lot of school related parenting fails. Forgetting to send things in, forgetting certain dates, the works.
They both have fallen down the stairs plenty of times. Fact, my 10 year old missed a step and slid down just recently. They're carpeted steps and she had socks on
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1) I was a babywearer with DS and he accompanied me for so many poops because I wasn't going to risk disturbing his nap and I didn't want to shit my pants either.
2) I sent him to daycare one day although he was grizzly all the night before and had some sniffles. By midday he got a 104 fever and I got called to collect him. Turns out he had an ear infection.
3) I jammed his fingers in the car door. Not where it opens but where it's hinged. Luckily it was a soft close so no damage was done... kind of..
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getting hurt
1) DD1 was like 3 months old. I was watching a movie on the couch with her on my chest. I fell asleep. I woke up and she was on the floor sleeping.
2) more than one time I've hit DD2 on the head opening the fridge. She is the perfect height where she just clears it. But small enough I can't see her.
3) I was grocery and DD1 was standing on the front of the cart. I was almost done and rushing. She kept jumping off. I was getting annoyed bc I kept telling her to stop doing that. I snapped at her to get back on which she did and I started pushing right away so she wouldn't jump off again...except she did. And I ran over her foot with a full cart of groceries.
May Siggy Challenge: Parenting Fails
1) DD1 came home one day and said "Abby did yoga today but I didn't bc you didn't pay for it" ooops I forgot.
2) DD2's teacher came up to me:
teacher: her sunscreen has expired we need a new one
me: oh it's ok I don't mind you can use that one still
teacher: ::blank stare:: no. We need a new one.
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@carries2018 LOL at the sunscreen
The worst, while technically not entirely my fault, was right after DD turned 1. My cousin came to visit me with my mom and sisters. She left a hair straightener plugged up and the cord hanging. I was standing near it getting ready and didn't notice that she had left it there (she left the room) and DD pulled it off the counter and it burned her arm. She still has a pretty bad scar. I'm still so thankful it wasn't her face!
Shortly after she turned 2, we moved to our current home, with stairs. I was carrying her and my feet slipped right out from under me. She was actually completely fine, but it scared me to death. I was too worried about her to realize I was the one that was hurt. Fractured my tail bone and apparently a "fat fracture" is a thing. I still have a dent in my left butt cheek a year and a half later lol. The bruise that left was pretty gruesome.
The most recent was a few months ago (yep, she's 3 now, so I guess we are making it a yearly thing). She was walking down the stairs (she was upstairs with my mom when she was visiting). I told her I had a surprise for her (DH was home from work). For some reason she decided she would close her eyes and keep walking down so she wouldn't see the surprise. She fell and bruised her lower back. Thankfully it was just the lower, shorter portion of the stairs!
I definitely bonked her head on a door frame at least twice when she was a baby.
When she was 3 I was pushing her on the swings at the park. She wasn't holding on as tightly as I thought and I pushed her right out of the swing. She landed on her head and had a bad concussion. I felt horrible.
She is still my accident prone child (has also broke her arm and leg, neither were my fault) and I'm fully expecting something to happen any time now because its been a while.
As siggy says, I have ID girls. Our peds have always allowed us to do their wellness checks simultaneously. So, at their 18 mos. appointment, I take off DDs' clothes down to their diapers as instructed and follow the nurse to the hallway where the scales are. Another mom and child with a separate nurse got in line behind us. I hand over DD2 but tell the nurse that it is DD1. Nurse weighs and does multiple measurements of DD2 and puts that info on DD1's chart. (Because I suck at motherhood.) Then I hand over DD1 and tell the nurse that it is DD2. I realized half way through the second set of measurements that I had screwed it up. Because there was another family behind us and I was feeling like a failure, I whispered it to the nurse, who politely waited until we got back to the room with a closed door before she started correcting the charts.
In my defense, they were similar in size and their differences in appearance were barely noticeable in general, and at that moment, I couldn't even use clothing cues to tell them apart.
Now, DDs try so hard to trick me but never can.
TL;DR Identical twins are sometimes identical, even to their mother and even in important moments.
Preemie ID DDs; then DS; then natural M/C; now due 10/17
High risk for pre-term: weekly Makena injections
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“Happiness can be found even in the darkest of times,
if one only remembers to turn on the light."
- Albus Dumbledore
May Siggy Challenge: Parenting Fails
Preemie ID DDs; then DS; then natural M/C; now due 10/17
High risk for pre-term: weekly Makena injections
Oct. '17 June S.C. "You Had 1 Job"
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