Circumcision? Yes or No?

Britt&Max2010

We are not finding out the sex of baby, but we are having discussions on what we would do regarding circumcision if baby is a boy. We have two daughters and have always found out the sex during pregnancy so it has not been an issue before. I am trying to do my research and my instincts say 'no' to doing the circumcision, but my husband is torn. He initially said 'yes' and then agreed to look into it further. Anyone going through this same discussion? Any advice on articles or literature to help with the decision making?

VLillyV

This has been discussed in great length on our board. I highly suggest you look into the below thread that was recently posted here. The topic of discussion is personal preference, a big choice, and one to not be made lightly. 

https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12705895/poll-circumcising-or-no/p1

Britt&Max2010

Thank you!  I tried to search before posting and did not see this.  I will check it out.

carries2018

personal choice, but we are circumcising
 

kmornelas29

Absolutely! One thing hubby and I are 100% on. 

ctnurse-2

this is my 3rd boy...and he will be circumcised like his brothers 

MamaStreeter

We're team green, too! And we will be leaving our son (if it's a boy) intact 100%.  

wondermom911

I went through this with our first son. My husband wanted him circumcised and I didn't. His argument was that he had no experience with non circumcised penises. Mine was it was unnecessary, the skin was there for a reason, we wouldn't circumcise baby if it was a girl, not to mention how they go about doing it. We were still at odds when our son was born till the nurse told us that insurance wouldn't cover it and it would cost $100! Needless to say that helped him to see my side of things lol Our son is now almost 6 and we have had no issues with it and would choose to not circumcise any future boys.

joforyoga

  My husband is circumcised but he's pretty sure that his parents only did that because it was the social norm back then and doing it just because, wasn't enough of a reason for us personally  and we did not have any religious reason to do so and I personally don't feel there's any medical reason to do so so we did not circumcise our son .

mommar13

We are not circumcising. DH is cut, but DS is not and this one won't be either. There is actually no health organization in the world that recomends it and it's honestly much easier to clean. Just wipe like a finger, no retracting. The foreskin is attached to the head of the penis when they are young. It's a personal choice, but since it has no medical reason to be done and the forskin has so many benefits we decided against it for our boys. 

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mommar13 said:

We are not circumcising. DH is cut, but DS is not and this one won't be either. There is actually no health organization in the world that recomends it and it's honestly much easier to clean. Just wipe like a finger, no retracting. The foreskin is attached to the head of the penis when they are young. It's a personal choice, but since it has no medical reason to be done and the forskin has so many benefits we decided against it for our boys. 

This is a misleading statement to make.  Most health organizations take a neutral stance (and thus don't recommend NOT circumcisizng either).

ETA: US Health organizations to be clear

carries2018

Is it just me or do people always come off as holier than thou. Who cares? Circumcise or don't the same information is available to us all, there isn't a wrong choice just whatever feels right to you/your H. Your reasoning doesn't matter. Even if it is just pain old "social norm" 

canonmom413

@carries2018

bluejeanbabi05

Aw @canonmom413 I love pregnant bitmojis

carries2018

YOU CAN MAKE YOUR BITMOJI PREGNANT?!

monstera13

@carries2018 Yes! It's not an option in the body shapes, but there is a clothing line that gives you a pregnant belly. They are sooooo cute  

carries2018

i am going to be so hip!

canonmom413

Buaha @carries2018 @bluejeanbabi05 they're my fave!! Some of the scenarios and pictures you find make it that much more hilarious with the bump added. Love it. Sorry to hijak but like this one:

jessafishy

This is the best.

VLillyV

came back thinking all war had broken loose. Nup. Only KU'd Bitmojis.

beezeee

You guise. Idk anything about these bitmojis. Where do they come from? What are they for? I feel so out of the loop.

canonmom413

beezeemarie said:

You guise. Idk anything about these bitmojis. Where do they come from? What are they for? I feel so out of the loop.

They started out a thing on snap chat. Then you were able to customize even more through the Bitmoji app.  You can save directly to your phone through the app or share etc in a message. Comes in handy for super snark. 

carries2018

yea i use it for texting. and my bitomji is hotter than me IRL so i like to use it and pretend it is me.

tsa208

Good arguments both for and against. After doing my research, I have no strong feelings either way so I'm deferring to DH. He's leaning towards yes.

natleilynn

tsa208 said:

Good arguments both for and against. After doing my research, I have no strong feelings either way so I'm deferring to DH. He's leaning towards yes.

I totally thought this was in reference to the bitomji's at first...

monstera13

Even my Bitmoji takes bump selfies in the work bathroom 

Mariahst

Totally a personal decision. If we have a boy we will! I work in health care and I see so many complications with patients that are not.

feeislove

When I first asked DH how he felt about it, his stance was if we have a boy he was getting circumcised. The best reason he was able to come up with was because it was "normal". Ok, fine. What irked me about it was how important it was to be "normal". Again, whatever. I didn't feel strongly about it one way or the other so I was leaving it up to him. This was before we were even TTGP. Fast forward a bit and at one of my doctor's appointments I was given a paper that says circumcision would need to be paid up front, $300. They would file it with the insurance afterwards and would refund us if anything was due back. Oh no said DH, that doesn't make sense to him. He would call the office and they were going to do it the way he said (file it first and then charge us if there was anything due) and that was the way it was going to be. Yes, he's like that. I get home the next day and he's decided we're just not going to circumcise if the baby is a boy. So much for "normal", right? *eye roll* We're having a girl so it really doesn't matter anymore. 

shan24

We're not circumcising. It's not common practice here and isn't covered by insurance, and we have no real want to have it done. 

ForwardnBackward

@feeislove I can tell by your comment that you already know this, but he needs some education on this topic.

feeislove

ForwardnBackward said:

@feeislove I can tell by your comment that you already know this, but he needs some education on this topic.

Oh for sure. That's also why his response irked me. He wasn't at all informed on the topic at all and was just going with the status quo. 

carries2018

Fffc the "it's not normal" argument doesn't bother me at all. I mean our US kids are looking at 50/50 now, so its kind of moo to them. But for H he is the one presenting his penis lololzzz. I have no idea what that's like. But if he feels more confident being circumcised I think that is a valid thing to bring to the table. For this reason I left the decision 100% up to him and I'm sure "it's not normal" is a large force for his pick. But that's fine with me. 

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carries2018 said:

Fffc the "it's not normal" argument doesn't bother me at all. I mean our US kids are looking at 50/50 now, so its kind of moo to them. But for H he is the one presenting his penis lololzzz. I have no idea what that's like. But if he feels more confident being circumcised I think that is a valid thing to bring to the table. For this reason I left the decision 100% up to him and I'm sure "it's not normal" is a large force for his pick. But that's fine with me. 

I'd accept the argument of "it's normal" if it is phrased as "it feels normal to me".  Saying "it's normal" in general assumes the alternative is abnormal and that's not okay IMO.

carries2018

Yea. But men are bad with words haha. 

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carries2018 said:

Yea. But men are bad with words haha. 

Isn't that the truth 

mamabear148-2

This is our first boy and we're not circumcising. Easy decision for us (esp since DH isn't)

callababy17