Weekly random/spam 5/15-5/21

katiegeminimoon

katiegeminimoon

Is it me or does this BMB seem slow? I'm used to TTGP where it's crazy busy all the time!

MJDsquared

@ktcakes87 Yes! I've lurked November for a while and they're always pretty active. So when I joined here, I figured maybe it was too early and it'd pick up. Buut January is already busier than here, I think! (I'm super likely to deliver in January/it seems like everyone here is soooo much farther along than me, but I still don't want to switch!) But I do hope we see more action here.

katiegeminimoon

@MJDsquared I was on November for awhile, but I decided to stick with December. The ladies here seem awesome, but I just need more posts to keep up with! I keep hoping it'll pick up!

flowerpower5838

ktcakes87 @MJDsquared I feel the sameeeee way. It's so slow. Which makes me not want to participate since I feel like I am talking to myself but then I keep coming back because I really liked this community with DS. So I am really just here in spurts since the board is so inconsistent, which I know only contributes to the problem. Le sigh. 

afternoonduck

I am so crazy busy right now I don't get a lot of time to catch up on the board, so I kind of appreciate the slowness. It's not so overwhelming to try to pick up where I left off!

On the other hand, it *IS* hard to engage when no one's talking. Are the other boards as organized as ours? I'm wondering if chaos may lend to conversation 

Marley629

I do hope it picks up after more people have scans and stuff. It has been pretty quiet but I've also been lurking November and they are super active 

failuretofly

I totally agree! I'm used to TTGP too where I felt if I didn't check in like 2-3x a day at least I'd get lost! 
And holy crap January has just taken right off! 
Lurkers? Where are you!?!?! 

splsmama2016

My computer died and I hate using the app on my phone.... but I truly do believe it will pick up as we get further into our pregnancies. 


That being said!! I had my first appointment today! Saw the heartbeat, my due date has been moved up 4 days. I can start state genetic testing on the 23rd, but I'll probably wait until the following week when my in laws are here so I don't have to wrangle a baby while getting blood drawn... NT in about 3 weeks too! 

breezybee

I don't know what else to do. I try to start threads and participate as much as possible!
We need more fun GTKY's. Let's start one tomorrow!

AMCsquared

I sort of wish individual threads were more accepted here because I feel like a lot of times questions get overlooked or answered by like 1 person only when they are within the "proper" thread

blueskies17

@breezybee +1 for more fun GTKY's! We haven't had many. 

Hopefully more lurkers will start participating in second tri. Which feels so close yet so far away! 

jlemons-2

I agree with a couple other ladies on here about more individual threads. They are easier to use to get to know each other. However, I guess not enough of us feel that way. I think the forced assigned threads make it too difficult for me to connect. Especially the symptoms thread. When I log on, there's so many different things being discussed that I just can't jump in at all. 

jlemons-2

Also, December is bound to be slower anyway since it's not most popular month to have a baby. 

Tennis11785

Actually, most boards are much more organized and one off posts aren't supported.  People are immediately directed to the correct place to post.  

I actually think our flexibility and allowing one-off posts actually contribute to less conversation.  Because when we have a one-off thread for each symptom, the people respond to that one specific question/comment.  Opposed to grouping similar things together that tend to generate larger conversations.  Additionally, a lot of people who aren't experiencing that symptom might not open that thread (unless they recognize the OP as someone they care about), because they don't feel like they will have something to contribute. 

The organization wasn't set up because someone was being hyper-organized or trying to take over the board.  It was set up this way because over months and months, trends about what works have been identified.  

jlemons-2

Says you. Everyone has different opinions and your way isn't necessarily the right way. It's just your opinion. 

peachy13

Speaking of individual threads -- I have a question regarding NT scans and didn't really know where to post. I have mine next week, and already did the blood work for it which was sent to an outside lab. 

Will I receive results at the ultrasound? I will be 12 weeks 2 days at the scan, and my doctor said my baseline risk is 1 in 500. She also warned me that sometimes these tests have false positives, so if something comes back off, it's not exactly something to worry about just yet. I have to admit I'm a little nervous about everything. I guess my question is, did you already have yours/do you have any advice to keep stress down before the appt?

ohmickey331

I'm very used to a busy BMB, with my DS, our group was so active. A lot of us got super close really fast. I really hope that can happen here too! 

Tennis11785

@peachy13 - We got the results of the u/s the same day.  Our u/s tech gave us the top line results and then we saw a doctor who explained everything.  Although don't freak out if the tech doesn't say anything - I actually think they aren't supposed to tell you, but I'm not sure and that might differ based on office (I've heard others say their techs are always tight lipped, but mine tells me everything she sees).  Obviously, each situation is different and I don't know your doctor's office, but if the tech doesn't say anything and for some reason you don't see a doctor immediately afterward (and they say they'll call with the results), my guess is you're fine.  They can see right away if there is something wrong, and **TW**  when I had mine (and failed it miserably), they were really quick to (1) tell me there was an issue and (2) get me into a specialist to take care of next steps.  I had my CVS about an hour after I failed the NT test.  It all moved VERY QUICKLY once they knew something was wrong.  **End TW**


@jlemons-2 - No need to get snarky.  Yes, I'm free to have my own opinion.  Just like you're free to have your opinion, which you expressed. The only reason I said anything was because people were complaining about this board and how the conversations were going.  I provided a suggestion and my thoughts as to why the board was slow, and pointed out that the format is something that has worked for the active boards, which you can confirm by visiting those boards.  It's not like I'm going to every one-off post and yelling at people to post in the right place.  Yes - I tried to kindly direct a few people in the beginning, but I stopped because I noticed people were complaining about the hyper board organization and I didn't want to force something that people on this board weren't comfortable with.  So I went with what the majority of active people seemed to want.  

ETA - To be clear - if the majority of the board doesn't want organized, I'll do whatever. I'm not going to force anything on anyone. Like I said - people were complaining, only reason I spoke up.  

peachy13

@Tennis11785 thank you for sharing your experience!

disneyfan0511

So both of my kids have strep throat. For the second time in a month. I'm going crazy trying to clean my house to get rid of these germs. It's May - enough with the illness already. So over it. 

rainbowdashh

I just got back from vacation and am having major post vacation blues. My kids are adjusting to the time zone change which sucks for everyone. I've been hiding a little mostly due to my own anxiety and because a dear friend and D17 mama had a loss last week and I'm just so damn heartbroken for her.

MJDsquared

I'm just happy that my insurance resets on March 1st and not January 1st, so I'm not going to be totally screwed if I end up delivering in January, which is highly likely. (I was lurking in January and it sounds like for a lot of them, their insurance starts over in January.)

acgonzalez22

I found out what we are having today It's DH's birthday and I can't wait until 5 to tell him! I had the bakery make him a special cake!

disneyfan0511

@acgonzalez22 So exciting!! Were you surprised or did it go with your intuition??

acgonzalez22

@disneyfan0511 My mama feeling was right! I'm not an emotional person at all and I've been sobbing and thanking God for such a healthy baby all day. Harmony showed zero signs of trisomy.

anewadventure

I agree the board is slow. However, I'm sure many lurkers (of which I am one) are waiting for end of first tri to jump in. I know it picked up last time around once second tri hit. It can be hard to get invested when you're secretly worried about miscarriage statistics. 

I do also find the board to be overly organized. I know the bump has sort of migrated this way in the past few years, it's not just this month's board. Some people will like it better and some won't. I don't think it's a positive, but total chaos totally blows too. It can be hard to find the balance. 

And, take a deep breath my friends. If a question is asked regarding a board being slow or too organized, and an opinion is given in response, that does not equal "complaints" or "snarkiness." TBH, a board without snarkiness sucks a whole lot. Max organization plus kissing each other's special snowflake unicorn butts is just cloying. I'm sure a mix of sarcasm and snark will at least serve to liven up the deadness. 

flowerpower5838

I personally prefer the organization. Important things can get overlooked when every person feels entitled to a "I feel bloated," "help me pick a name," "analyze my US and tell me boy or girl" etc thread. There are only so many threads on page 1, including pinned posts which we'll only gain more. Once the page picks up posts are going to fall off of page 1 quickly and I'd rather not have people starting repeat ticket changes/daily check ins or even missing those in favor of AW one off threads that likely could have been posted in an existing thread. Additionally, board organization is known to encourage a community feel since you're getting more back and forth rather than the one off questions which is likely why it's been adopted by basically the entire Bump community. Just my two cents and of course everyone is entitled to their own opinion but this method is tried and true for a reason. 

Edited spelling 

pandawares

I have to do a Dreaded Thing soon, and it's stressing me out. But I had a Red Bull (a little one, and no other caffeine today), and I'm feeling a little more capable.

flowerpower5838

@pandawares Good luck!

disneyfan0511

@acgonzalez22 what fantastic news! Be sure to share how your DH reacts!! 

jackiesmom324

I like the organization of the board 

kater622

I like the organization too. If there were too many random threads I would lose interest quickly. Also...I like that we strive to be polite to one another here. It's nice to see strangers treating each with respect because I feel like that can be a rare thing on the internet.  It's a welcome "getaway" from a lot of the BS on other social media platforms like Facebook and Twitter. So thank you. 

AMCsquared

@jlemons-2 I totally agree with what u said. Some threads r so long that important things get skipped over. All the time lol.

@vauxthekate I agree I like that we r all nice to each other. I left the ttc boards bc everyone jumped down everyone's throats all the time and I couldn't take it anymore. Loving the love

kate0506

This is my first time using this forum, didn't join one with first baby. I didn't really notice it was slow but think it is early days for everyone and I'm sure it will pick up once everyone is having  more scans and appointments etc. Hold in there ladies don't leave  

kate0506

@vauxthekate definitely agree, so nice that everyone is being supportive and nice to one another. After all that's what these forums are supposed to be for, sharing advice, helping each other out and for constant support. I for one don't have any family to talk to as I don't speak to my parents etc. So it's so nice to be able to talk to people (other than my dh) who know exactly what I'm going through 

bluejeanbabi05

So I'm totally a lurkerly lurking lurker from Oct, but we had this exact same discussion at seriously the exact same time so I wanted to give my two cents- esp since we are a pretty active BMB (always at least 2-3 of the leaderboard, represent!) plus I love my girls @wabash15 and @tennis11785 here

Things will def pick up, and the one-off posts will settle down. The organization is super helpful to us, because the one-offs just drain the board and make people skip over the regular threads, plus they make the regular threads disappear down the page so ppl don't see them.

You'll see as it goes on, new threads by regulars are not viewed as annoying once you get to know people, so no one who regularly contributes is afraid of posting their own relevant thread, as long as it's not an AW or clear duplicate. Those are the only ones that get flamed in oct. 

Anyway, this discussion caused some drama on our board a couple months ago and the issue just ended up naturally resolving itself anyway, so I wanted to give some reassurance that it probably will here as well

NME44

I'd like to try to help there be some conversation on this board, but I literally have nothing interesting to say.

Jellybelly119

NME44 said:

I'd like to try to help there be some conversation on this board, but I literally have nothing interesting to say.

Edit: Do gifs STILL not work on mobile?! Reason #1 why I'm not as active on TB as last time.

Reason #2 is this exactly for me. 

jljeanblanc

@NME44 with you. I'm feeling pretty boring lately. I'm certainly not a super poster ( usually on ticker change and PAIF threads mostly) but with nausea/fatigue and a super crazy couple of weeks at work, I've been slacking at keeping up . 

breezybee

@Jellybelly119 GIFS totally work now 

Although, I have to use the picture icon instead of the paper icon on mobile.