Missed miscarriage

nursenat87

Hello everyone.  Sorry to be joining this group but I have been lurking and can see how supportive and wonderful everyone is. 

I went in for my first 8 week scan last week and the doctor told me there was no heart beat and the baby was only measuring 6 weeks with a very large yolk sack.  I tried cytotec during the week because I just needed it to be over but unfortunately it did absolutely nothing.  My doctor scheduled me for a d&c on Tuesday.  I am nervous but eager for this all to be over.  

We we want to start ttc again as soon as possible.  My doctor says there's no reason to wait beyond 2 weeks (for infection risk post d&c).  My question is, how will I ever not be a crazy paranoid person in my next pregnancy? I feel like this has ruined the experience of being pregnant because, despite the baby being technically gone, I still feel pregnant. I literally had no idea anything was wrong until the scan and now I don't know how I'll be able to enjoy being pregnant.  Or at the very least not be a paranoid wreck.  

I feel like im dealing okay with the loss but I worry about my next pregnancy.  

Mack2342

I'm so sorry for your loss.  This is a difficult process and MC definitely takes being pregnant to whole different level.  I have had two and with the first one I had no idea that anything was wrong.  2nd one I didn't feel very positive about it not sure why I just didn't.  Maybe it was intuition.  I was definitely nervous when I got pregnant this last time.  All I can say is that when you do get pregnant again just take it one day at a time.  You can't control anything about it so just try and enjoy it when it happens again. I know easier said than done   

ccm2017

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I'm somewhat in the same boat. Dr found an empty sac and now I'm waiting for my next u/s for final confirmation of no baby. Then, I'll probably choose D&C since waiting to miscarry is really taking a toll. It's really hard feeling pregnant but knowing it's not real *hugs*

Mack2342

@ccm2017 so sorry for your loss.  Take care of yourself.  

myley124

I'm so sorry for your loss. This happened to me as well except there was a heartbeat at 7 weeks but no heartbeat at 11 weeks. I had the d&c procedure 2 weeks ago and honestly I am glad I had the procedure because it was the best way for me.  The physical healing since then had been a breeze.  It has been painless.  But I feel exactly the same way you do about trying again.  My two weeks are up tomorrow and I'm scared to try again.  The thing I've come to realize is that yeah,  I'm going to be a paranoid wreck but that is okay.  I'll take it one day at a time like I've done with the miscarriage. There's nothing wrong with being nervous about it because you have every right and reason to be.  I'd be more worried about someone who isn't nervous about it.  Just make sure you talk to people,  talk to you doctor about your concerns,  and just the things one day at a time.  Get yourself a good support system. And remember that being nervous is okay.  That's all you can do.  That's how I plan on handling it. 

seannemairi

So sorry you're going through this! Monday I was also diagnosed with a missed miscarriage at about 9 weeks measuring about 7 no heartbeat.  My ob gave me my options and I chose to wait. I'm supposed to call Monday if nothing happens over the weekend. Very minor and sporadic cramping so far and no spitting at all. Next option will be the pill.  If love to schedule a d&c but my insurance sucks and it will cost me an arm and a leg. The good news is, I'm in a good place emotionally (for whatever reason I hadn't really connected with this pregnancy yet and the Dr. said it never would have progressed normally) and I have a beautiful 2 year old daughter. The anticipation, though, is giving me crazy anxiety. Also knowing there's this thing inside me that's not alive anymore. It's pretty surreal and really shitty, for lack of a better word. Thinking of all you guys!!

Sparklingjewel

Same boat as you! Missed miscarriage at 8 weeks measuring 7, empty sac, and d&c within the same week. Horrifying week overall, but recovered really well with the d&c (i'd surely go for it again if ever), just took me a day. My husband and I have also recovered well emotionally but i get sick thinking what if it happens again on my next?!? What am i doing wrong? How can i do better this time? Do i need to take or eat anything that might help? And all these questions I know no one not even the doctor could answer. Im just doing my best in terms of my nutrition and got back to working out to prepare my body better this time and give my next baby our best shot. Im sure you will too Baby dust to you!