I haven't changed a poopy diaper in months. When the nausea was horrid in the first trimester, I told my husband I may puke changing diapers. He's changed every poopy diaper since without question!
With all the random complications/ possible complications that have popped up I honestly don't know if I want to bother to attempt to breastfeed. It was an absolute nightmare the first time around as recovery was rough, had PPD and my milk never fully can in. After 6 months of pumping I gave up since I was breaking down. Not sure I can go through that again.
With all the random complications/ possible complications that have popped up I honestly don't know if I want to bother to attempt to breastfeed. It was an absolute nightmare the first time around as recovery was rough, had PPD and my milk never fully can in. After 6 months of pumping I gave up since I was breaking down. Not sure I can go through that again.
I am in the same boat. Trying to breastfeed my first was a nightmare. I had "inverted nipples" and managed to pump about 8 oz before my milk went away. I also struggled with PPD. Formula was a life saver. I am still open minded about the option of breastfeeding but just assume that I will have another formula baby.
My husband's not home for a few days and I can now fart loudly, wherever, whenever.
I fart when DH is around and DH farts with me around (so does our dog). We dont ever close the bathroom door, we do not care.
**TW Loss/pregnancy mentioned** Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 5/30/16 and MC on 7/6/16 BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17 BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19 BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19 BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2 Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage IVF started Feb 2020 retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal. Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
Mommy to a super cute havanesse puppy and baby boy!
I am excited today is friday but the weekend just goes by too quick we have a busy weekend and Monday and Tuesday DH will be out of town for work. I am dreading it because that means I have to change poopy diapers
Also about breastfeeding I failed the first time as pretty much the lactation consultant at the hospital was an old hag that told be I was never going to breastfeed as I started baby girl on formula when she came out do to me loosing so much blood giving birth to her I was exhausted and the nurses were to busy as the hospital was packed with many pregnant women and were unable to help me out as far as me wanting to breastfeed that is why the damn hospital plan was epic fail to me because everything went out the window.... I want to attempt this time around but I know if I get that old hag again I am going to snap out. She did not care for shit and the following day I asked for someone to come try and see that I was doing it alright and she popped up and was just standing there and just walked away and left without saying nothing.
I'm pissed off that my city's baseball and basketball teams are doing well because this means a bunch of idiots who don't know how to drive downtown make my drive home hell. I am unashamed to say that I hope the Astros AND the Rockets eat shit and suck forever. I also don't care for the Texans but I like JJ Watt. I am a Scrooge.
My FFFC, I love to watch Dr. Pimple Popper! I dont care for the really nasty stuff, or the things that arent popping zits, but I love watching a good black head get popped!
**TW Loss/pregnancy mentioned** Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 5/30/16 and MC on 7/6/16 BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17 BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19 BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19 BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2 Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage IVF started Feb 2020 retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal. Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
Mommy to a super cute havanesse puppy and baby boy!
@Kudlica27 The better question is, is it never not raining where I am? (Answer: it was sunny for like one day this week...and then we had a huge rain storm.)
I just had a horrific thing happen! We had a cinco de Mayo potluck at our office (I ate too much and am sleepy) and it just came up. I puked in my trash can at my desk, ran to the bathroom and puked so hard I peed myself. And no, I don't have a spare pair of undies with me.
I also have inverted nipples, but doubt that had anything to do with my breastfeeding failure. I had a militant b@#($ for a lactation consultant at the hospital. She called my husband "useless" and then proceeded to scold me when I removed my son from my breast because it felt like shards of glass were coming through my nipples. It turned out I was bleeding from the pores in my nipples. She said it was "normal". I was then advised by the hospitals breastfeeding helpline (run by same woman) to pump for 20 minutes each side 12-14 times a day to help my milk come in-- it never really did. It was brutal. We ended up starting my son son on formula 10 days after birth since it was either that or have him readmitted to the hospital due to his weight loss. He was getting milk from me, I just didn't have enough to sustain him. FWIW, I probably held on way longer than I should have and only gave up pumping 6-8 times a day until I was a complete mental wreck and finally got treatment for the PPD.
Post breastfeeding I've talked to my sister's lactation consultant friend and she said that what I was told was "ridiculous" and it's no wonder I never lasted. She also suggested a medical grade pump which my OB's office seemed blase about. Hoping to possible consult with another lactation consultant that is non- hospital related. My OB's office has 8 doctors, yet no consultant. I did talk to one nurse at my OB's office, but she kept recommending the militant woman at the hospital. Not sure if it is better to consult before or after baby is here.
On the bright side I know many women who struggled to breastfeed baby #1, yet baby #2 went smoothly so it gives me hope.
@mrsmatt1212, I know breastfeeding sounds a bit intimidating, but every woman is different and think it is worth giving it a try. You'll never know unless you give it a try.
@Kudlica27 Didn't think what I said was too terribly negative against breastfeeding. I never anticipated struggling to do so before baby #1. Really hoping it works out this time around, but it's tough not to be hesitant after my experience. I would love to talk to someone who failed for baby #1 and was successful for baby #2. In my opinion fed is best, no matter how it gets done.
Oh @tova24 Im so sorry! I hope you were able to go home, and that you are feeling better!
**TW Loss/pregnancy mentioned** Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 5/30/16 and MC on 7/6/16 BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17 BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19 BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19 BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2 Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage IVF started Feb 2020 retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal. Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
Mommy to a super cute havanesse puppy and baby boy!
So vent(fession).. IF YOU'RE SICK DON'T VISIT PEOPLE IN THE FUCKING HOSPITAL YOU GODDAM DIPSHITS. My Dad just had colon surgery on Tuesday and he was doing really well until my Aunt and her IDIOT husband came up to visit him with PNEUMONIA. So remember when you're in the hospital with your newborn babies to *specifically* tell people not to come to the hospital sick..
I would like to add if your kid is sick do not send them to the play cafe/ indoor playground, spraypad, gym, school, daycare, sports, dance class, etc.
I would like to add if your kid is sick do not send them to the play cafe/ indoor playground, spraypad, gym, school, daycare, sports, dance class, etc.
I UO'd or FFFC'd this a few months ago and more than one person was like "oh well I'm an asshole and do not care if you're kid gets sick from mine" (ok so those weren't their exact words but I'm paraphrasing)
@Nxy YES! like what are people thinking? and for the bringing the sick kids places, I don't even have kids yet and that makes me angry! Like you can't send them to daycare/school with certain conditions- don't bring them to my nieces birthday party!
TW: 1 infant loss 8/17: Our daughter was born 8/18: Our daughter kicked open heart surgery ass 2/19: We lost our son to Prader-Willi/Paradoxical Vocal Cord/ Noonans at 6wks old 4/26/2020: EDD for baby #3!!!
Mine is the anti @Kudlica27 confession. I hate when people don't talk about the struggles of breastfeeding. It's the hardest thing I have ever tried (and failed at) and I was not at all prepared because everyone in my life talked it up as this amazing, natural, easy experience.
^ except that is more of a UO, so my confession is I took my son to the taco shop and got myself a burrito twice the size of my face and almost ate the whole thing. I still feel sick.
Oh and I bought all new dishes today for no other reason than I'm nesting and I needed something new and pretty in my cabinets.
@taylormarie923 I agree that the struggles should be talked about! I openly share my struggles, especially since I went on to nurse for 21 months. Thankfully, I had people to share their struggles with me (along with encouragement and suggestions.) I just find that a lot of people make negative statements about nursing and if I made the same statements about formula, it wouldn't be taken so well. I have even found when I make a positive statement about breastfeeding, the response is "fed Is best." (Even though I never state otherwise)
We are buying a used car seat from friends for this LO. They are a very trusted source and have hardly used them in the year their twins were born. They have a nanny who doesn't take the girls anywhere. I have no shame in this.
***TW in Siggy*** Me: 34 / DH: 33 Married: Nov 2011 TTC #1: Jan 2013, BFP Sept 2013, DD: June 2014 TTC #2: Aug 2016, BFP Nov 2016, DS: August 2017
I'll use my pregnancy as an excuse to avoid a business trip. I feel good, midwife ok'ed my trips but... I just spent 14hs in a plane. It will take another 6hs before I get home. I won't be home for even 24hs as tomorrow I fly to Las Vegas. In 2wks I'm going to San Diego and in 4wks I'm supposed to go to Orlando. I just can't... I'm sitting on the airport planning on emailing my boss and asking her to reassign the Orlando trip to someone else. I feel bad because I already have people covering me from mid June to November but I'm just so damn tired of planes and airports.
There are 2 hospitals in my town and they are merging this year. The "community hospital" just voted to shut down all OB services, meaning 100% of births will happen at the formally-private hospital. Because my husband works at the private hospital and is Native Alaskan, (I'm considered "non-Native OB" aka "sacred vessel for Native offspring") I've been able to use its services for the first time in my life. Now I'm feeling snotty because I was going to have the whole OB floor to myself around my due date, but it's now the only option in town.
@Lauradi1010 sounds like the old hag I had she straight shut me down and then later my nurse whom checked up on me told me we can put a complaint in because that discouraged me from BF and I was milking like a damn cow and had milk coming out but than it completely stop which all i could hear was her damn words, I told my nurse I would not complain because half of my complaint would have been cursed out to full potential it just upset me and made me feel a failure but I am attempting with this baby see how it goes.
Re: FFFC 5/5
Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17
BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19
BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19
BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2
Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage
IVF started Feb 2020
retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal.
Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
Also about breastfeeding I failed the first time as pretty much the lactation consultant at the hospital was an old hag that told be I was never going to breastfeed as I started baby girl on formula when she came out do to me loosing so much blood giving birth to her I was exhausted and the nurses were to busy as the hospital was packed with many pregnant women and were unable to help me out as far as me wanting to breastfeed that is why the damn hospital plan was epic fail to me because everything went out the window.... I want to attempt this time around but I know if I get that old hag again I am going to snap out. She did not care for shit and the following day I asked for someone to come try and see that I was doing it alright and she popped up and was just standing there and just walked away and left without saying nothing.
Which inspires my FFFC, I hate when people talk negatively about breastfeeding.
Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17
BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19
BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19
BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2
Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage
IVF started Feb 2020
retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal.
Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
I also have inverted nipples, but doubt that had anything to do with my breastfeeding failure. I had a militant b@#($ for a lactation consultant at the hospital. She called my husband "useless" and then proceeded to scold me when I removed my son from my breast because it felt like shards of glass were coming through my nipples. It turned out I was bleeding from the pores in my nipples. She said it was "normal". I was then advised by the hospitals breastfeeding helpline (run by same woman) to pump for 20 minutes each side 12-14 times a day to help my milk come in-- it never really did. It was brutal. We ended up starting my son son on formula 10 days after birth since it was either that or have him readmitted to the hospital due to his weight loss. He was getting milk from me, I just didn't have enough to sustain him. FWIW, I probably held on way longer than I should have and only gave up pumping 6-8 times a day until I was a complete mental wreck and finally got treatment for the PPD.
Post breastfeeding I've talked to my sister's lactation consultant friend and she said that what I was told was "ridiculous" and it's no wonder I never lasted. She also suggested a medical grade pump which my OB's office seemed blase about. Hoping to possible consult with another lactation consultant that is non- hospital related. My OB's office has 8 doctors, yet no consultant. I did talk to one nurse at my OB's office, but she kept recommending the militant woman at the hospital. Not sure if it is better to consult before or after baby is here.
On the bright side I know many women who struggled to breastfeed baby #1, yet baby #2 went smoothly so it gives me hope.
@mrsmatt1212,
I know breastfeeding sounds a bit intimidating, but every woman is different and think it is worth giving it a try. You'll never know unless you give it a try.
@Kudlica27 Didn't think what I said was too terribly negative against breastfeeding. I never anticipated struggling to do so before baby #1. Really hoping it works out this time around, but it's tough not to be hesitant after my experience. I would love to talk to someone who failed for baby #1 and was successful for baby #2. In my opinion fed is best, no matter how it gets done.
Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17
BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19
BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19
BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2
Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage
IVF started Feb 2020
retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal.
Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
I would like to add if your kid is sick do not send them to the play cafe/ indoor playground, spraypad, gym, school, daycare, sports, dance class, etc.
1 infant loss
8/17: Our daughter was born
8/18: Our daughter kicked open heart surgery ass
2/19: We lost our son to Prader-Willi/Paradoxical Vocal Cord/ Noonans at 6wks old
4/26/2020: EDD for baby #3!!!
@Nxy That would seriously piss me off. Send some flowers and call it a day. No one will be upset that you didn't visit with f-ing PNEUMONIA
Oh and I bought all new dishes today for no other reason than I'm nesting and I needed something new and pretty in my cabinets.
Chips and salsa though - so yummy!
***TW in Siggy***
Me: 34 / DH: 33
Married: Nov 2011
TTC #1: Jan 2013, BFP Sept 2013, DD: June 2014
TTC #2: Aug 2016, BFP Nov 2016, DS: August 2017