*TW we have had two previous losses- one at 10 weeks and one at 6. TW* This time around we want to wait to tell our families until we hear a heartbeat. We were hoping to tell them on Mother's Day but our US isn't until the 17th so we are thinking we will wait and tell them Memorial Day weekend. (*TW which will be the one year anniversary of or first lossTW*) We will wait to officially announce until we are 12-13 weeks.
I'm dying to announce. I've told a few close friends and a couple ppl at work.. im worried about telling my MIL as my SIL hates me for some reason and I have a feeling she'll just go to town on Facebook before we've told others.
I want to tell my mom.. if I do it for Mother's Day, I know she'll go to church and tell everyone and there's no controlling their social media.. I might wait until the day of their surprise 40th anniversary to tell them.. again, there's going to be a lot of people there..
im just struggling with having to tell my parents, his mom and step dad and his dad and step mom and not make anyone feel like they were the last to know or that they have to keep it a secret bc I don't think they will be able to...
im only 8 weeks, shortly after Mother's Day I'll be 9 and the following week, at 10 weeks we are making the 5 hour drive up to see his dad and step mom and it would be nice to tell them in person..
I'm telling my sister today (eek!) since it's her birthday, and that way she can help me surprise my mom for Mother's Day. (They live far away). Then we will tell DH family the middle of next week when we will all be together for a wedding.
So we are sharing the news at 8 weeks so that we can get some in person reactions since we live so far from everyone. My friends will find out a little later.
I'm only 7+5 but it seems everyone knows I'm pregnant. We haven't done a fbook announcement (we'll do that after our first U/S), but we told family early on since we saw both sides shortly after we found out and we wouldn't see either family again for a while. We ended up having to tell the church that my husband pastors because I had to lead worship after puking all morning and looked like I was going to pass out. We live in a small town so since they know, the whole town knows
Is this a good place to ask for announcement advice? I need some major help here. Next Friday I have an appt with our Obgyn for follow up and doppler. (I'll be 11w5d) then the 23rd for my 12 week scan. We are having the Harmony test done as well and we will also be finding out the gender.
Most of our close friends and family know, except a few that 1. Didn't know about our IUI or 2. Just haven't seen them or hasn't been the appropriate time to tell.
The plan was to tell the rest of the family and closer friends after we got the results from the scan and then we would disclose the sex also as an added bonus!
But here is my dilema....my semi close friend literally just texted me that she is pregnant and due the same day as me!!! I am so very excited and happy for her but am torn to stick to original plan to tell her after test results. Or now because I'm worried she'll be upset I didn't Open up to her when she did to me. She was aware of some of the fertility dr stuff, just not ALL the details. Would I be a bad person to still wait to tell? *TW. She is aware of my previous losses TW****
@ShyTonia I think you have the right to tell her on your own time table and she will or should understand that; if you want to tell her now, that's ok too. I don't think you should feel pressured just because she told you her happy news. Maybe when you do announce you can just tell her that you wanted to tell her when she told you but that you and SO had promised to keep it a secret for time being or something
@ShyTonia my personal opinion is if you feel the most comfortable waiting to tell her- that's what you need to do. I would probably reach out to her individually before you do a public announcement but I'm sure she'll understand why you waited.
I think it's a very personal decision on when to announce, especially being PGAL. Good luck to you!
We told both sets of parents at 8 weeks (they're competitive so we needed to tell them at the same time, lol) Told my close girlfriends about that time too. Told my sisters at 9 weeks. I'm not sure when we'll tell more than that. I've had two May miscarriages so I'm just really focused on getting to June.
@ShyTonia u can tell her whenever u feel comfortable. You're not obligated to tell her just bc she told u. I have a friend who had told me when she was 8 weeks. She knows I'm ttc and she's been asking every week and saying I better tell her since she told me. But sorry she's not finding out before my parents.
Our family announcements are this Sunday on mothers day and I'm certain I want to tell them now (I'm 10 weeks) but I also feel a bit of superstition like I hope I'm not giving myself bad luck telling them before 12 weeks. I'm insane it's ok.
Me: 31 DH: 32 DH since 12.2009 Married 08.2013 EDD 12.2017
@Marley629 , @grochril and @AMCsquared thank you so much for the encouragement I was looking for. I get so caught up in worrying about how other people feel and just need to keep reminding myself that this is all about me , DH and lil babe. And what is best for us!
@AMCsquared same here , she's been asking almost every week through text how everything is going wink wink. Almost like she knows I'm not telling her on purpose or something , but there are family members that don't even know yet. I feel the same way about telling too early too. But I def don't think you are giving yourself bad luck! Xoxo enjoy telling your family, and I cannot wait to hear all about it!
I've told my boss and a close friend at work that knew we were doing IVF. We heard the heartbeat at 6 weeks but I wanted to wait until our second scan at 9 weeks (TOMORROW!!) to tell our parents. Then we will tell friends/coworkers/facebook from 12 weeks. It's getting harder and harder to hide at work though as i'm getting bigger and bigger!!
Me (29) DH (31) TTC Since 2015 IUI #1-3 - BFN IVF/ICSI - BFP - EDD 15/12/17
We told family first, but then told everyone else after the first ultrasound and when we saw that little, quick heartbeat. Pregnancy loss happens to so many women, and I'm a very open person, so we're sharing the journey of our second pregnancy. That's just our choice. We shared right away with our son, including all of the complications that we had with him. I like feeling like I have a village of people behind me. Plus, I was just too excited to wait.
Happy Mother's Day and best wishes to those of you who are planning on announcing today! I hope your friends and family are thrilled, excited, and gracious in their responses!
And to those of you who are still holding your secret for awhile - HAPPY (SECRET) MOTHER'S DAY to you!
Hope you all have a really great day! Sending happy & healthy pregnancy vibes to all!
Well, both of the onesies I ordered arrived before our trip, so we announced to my mom with one and announced to my DH's parents with the other--it took all grandparents a little while and some prodding to actually read the onesie! Everyone is excited. My mom thinks it is hilarious because my brother and I are 17 months apart and it was not planned--she has always drilled into me that breastfeeding is not effective birth control! We weren't relying on BFing, just thought I was at a different point in my cycle than I was. Anyway, a surprise 2nd kid runs in the family (or at least a surprise to be having one so soon--we planned on 2 and so did my parents).
Married May 2014 DD born August 2016 Baby #2 due December 2017
I have a funny story!! Last night I was watching little people big world with my dad and 1 of the couples on the show recorded the moment they told their parents they were expecting. My dad got up and said god everyone is so self centered today they're acting like it's the biggest news in the world. Lots of people have babies geez!! And walked away hahahaha. Little does he know he's about to get his own moment today
Me: 31 DH: 32 DH since 12.2009 Married 08.2013 EDD 12.2017
Re: Timelines for announcements!
im worried about telling my MIL as my SIL hates me for some reason and I have a feeling she'll just go to town on Facebook before we've told others.
I want to tell my mom.. if I do it for Mother's Day, I know she'll go to church and tell everyone and there's no controlling their social media.. I might wait until the day of their surprise 40th anniversary to tell them.. again, there's going to be a lot of people there..
im just struggling with having to tell my parents, his mom and step dad and his dad and step mom and not make anyone feel like they were the last to know or that they have to keep it a secret bc I don't think they will be able to...
im only 8 weeks, shortly after Mother's Day I'll be 9 and the following week, at 10 weeks we are making the 5 hour drive up to see his dad and step mom and it would be nice to tell them in person..
So we are sharing the news at 8 weeks so that we can get some in person reactions since we live so far from everyone. My friends will find out a little later.
Next Friday I have an appt with our Obgyn for follow up and doppler. (I'll be 11w5d) then the 23rd for my 12 week scan. We are having the Harmony test done as well and we will also be finding out the gender.
Most of our close friends and family know, except a few that 1. Didn't know about our IUI or 2. Just haven't seen them or hasn't been the appropriate time to tell.
The plan was to tell the rest of the family and closer friends after we got the results from the scan and then we would disclose the sex also as an added bonus!
But here is my dilema....my semi close friend literally just texted me that she is pregnant and due the same day as me!!! I am so very excited and happy for her but am torn to stick to original plan to tell her after test results. Or now because I'm worried she'll be upset I didn't Open up to her when she did to me. She was aware of some of the fertility dr stuff, just not ALL the details. Would I be a bad person to still wait to tell? *TW. She is aware of my previous losses TW****
DX Diminished Ovarian Reserve, Factor V Leiden Mutation, Secondary Infertility
MFI (SA #1Count 11mill, Motility: 18%, Morphology: 1%)
AMH .328 | FSH 13.2
I think it's a very personal decision on when to announce, especially being PGAL. Good luck to you!
I'm not sure when we'll tell more than that. I've had two May miscarriages so I'm just really focused on getting to June.
I have a friend who had told me when she was 8 weeks. She knows I'm ttc and she's been asking every week and saying I better tell her since she told me. But sorry she's not finding out before my parents.
Our family announcements are this Sunday on mothers day and I'm certain I want to tell them now (I'm 10 weeks) but I also feel a bit of superstition like I hope I'm not giving myself bad luck telling them before 12 weeks. I'm insane it's ok.
@AMCsquared same here , she's been asking almost every week through text how everything is going wink wink. Almost like she knows I'm not telling her on purpose or something , but there are family members that don't even know yet. I feel the same way about telling too early too. But I def don't think you are giving yourself bad luck! Xoxo enjoy telling your family, and I cannot wait to hear all about it!
Me (29) DH (31)
TTC Since 2015
IUI #1-3 - BFN
IVF/ICSI - BFP - EDD 15/12/17
Married 4/22/16
**TW**
BFP 2/1/16 I MC 3/21/16 (11w)
TTCAL 6/15/16
BFP 3/23/2017 Team pink! Quinn Leigh EDD December 1, 2017
And to those of you who are still holding your secret for awhile - HAPPY (SECRET) MOTHER'S DAY to you!
Hope you all have a really great day! Sending happy & healthy pregnancy vibes to all!
Married May 2014
DD born August 2016
Baby #2 due December 2017
DX Diminished Ovarian Reserve, Factor V Leiden Mutation, Secondary Infertility
MFI (SA #1Count 11mill, Motility: 18%, Morphology: 1%)
AMH .328 | FSH 13.2