Weekly B!tch Fest! 5.1-5.7

BabyMC517

I didn't think I saw it started...

jayandaplus

Thank you for starting this, I've been waiting all day to get this off my chest.

So, due to my uterine irritability and premature contractions the last week and some days, I have not been going to work. I work in an emergency department, and there's no way to "take it easy". I filed for intermittent FMLA so I don't lose my job and notified my boss. I thought everything was fine. They rejected my paperwork, but I found out through my boss. Long vent short, I don't feel like she was very nice and it really upset me. She made me feel like my job is in jeopardy and by calling out of work I am not being kind to the department (note: I'm calling out in plenty of time, not last minute.) She made me feel like I wasn't a team player, and like I was noncommunicative, when I told her early last week I wasn't going to be able to come in and she told me to file intermittent FMLA. Anyway, the paperwork should be corrected tomorrow, so hopefully I won't lose my job, but at this point my bottom line is this: my most important job is carrying this baby to term and being a good mom before it's even born. Period.

L1C4gal

@jayandaplus I'm sorry you're going through that! I would be upset too, but it sounds like you have your priorities straight. You are doing what's best for your baby and that's what matters most!

After making it through the first 8 months of pregnancy without any illness of any kind (it was a magical unicorn period of time), I have now had two in the past two weeks. WTF? The current one is gearing up to be worse and I have so much left to do for both work/school and baby. On a positive note, I just consoled myself with a lunch that involved chocolate chips (dipped in peanut butter, of course) as a side dish. Legitimate adulting, right?

My bigger b!tch is that I feel like I need to wear a sign that says "unsolicited advice about baby names and my birth plan (specifically my plan to have an epidural) is NOT BEING ACCEPTED. BACK AWAY SLOWLY."

/end rant

nda_roxybabe

@jayandaplus What?! Ugh, that is so frustrating. I'm sorry you even have to deal with that

WombThereItIs

8 weeks until we are supposed to move and we no longer no if we are moving anymore and if we still are then to what state even.

How this stress is not enough to put me into labor is really pissing me off. 

llenadevida900

@WombThereItIs only 8 weeks and nothing final!? That would send me over the edge too! Our lease is up in august and I'm stressing, but that's months away! Good luck!

@jayandaplus I hope things work out soon at work. That really sucks! 

Not a big deal, but I'm tired of people asking me how I am. These are all people who have had children. Don't they remember what the last weeks were like? Yeah, just like that. And I feel like I can't be honest because my only real complaint (knock on wood) is my swollen lady bits and painful pelvis. Not really polite conversation. 

jayandaplus

@L1C4gal I'm so sorry you're sick! And with a double whammy. No fair.
@WombThereItIs When will you find out? How stressful! I can't believe they're being so all-over-the-place.
@llenadevida900 I totally think next time someone asks, you should say "My vagina is so swollen, thanks for asking." The look on their face might be worth it alone, but maybe it'd teach 'em a lesson.

Thanks for the support everyone!

redheeler

I am so sick of these bloody contractions going nowhere! I felt his head engage at 2am woke me from a dead sleep because it was so painful, had a shower, had regular contractions for an hour so so, thought I'd try and sleep, woke up at 6am, no longer have Pelvic pain from his head and no more contractions aaarrghhhhh!!! I'm done, let's get this show on the road!!

emilyalso

My mood is currently hovering around a 0 because dinner has turned into a disaster. We are having fajita quesadillas... except I didn't realize we were so low on cheese, so there's only enough for DH's. I also managed to use the wrong method to cook Mexican rice so it's going to suck. And I'm in the kitchen seething, and DH isn't going to know what hit him. 

CherryBananas

@WombThereItIs I'm so sorry. That must be so frustrating!!

I'm super cranky today. I wanted to go out for wings tonight with my brother and SIL but DH doesn't want to eat "junk" for dinner. I know we were out for most of the weekend but we don't have a lot of time left before this baby comes to just go out and not have to think about anything else! And I know I can go by myself but it's a lot of fun when the four of us get together. Ugh. The part that really pisses me off is I told him last night I was going to reheat the rest of the perogies for dinner. How is that not junk food too?! Bah. The worst part is, is he can tell I'm cranky and is trying to be nice and now I feel bad for trying to murder him in my head. 

mrsrep123

@jayandaplus Seriously?! I think I would've lost it on her! That is not ok that she is adding to your stress/worries with departmental issues. You're being considerate by communicating and not going to work (putting you, your colleagues, and patients at risk). I hope it all works out in your favor and I'm glad you have your priorities straight! 

@WombThereItIs WTF?! And especially after that horrendous trip you had to find housing?! Ugh!

jlonie614

I have been up since 3am and everyone at work is pissing me off. I mean nothing too serious but I really don't want to be here today. This guy called a meeting so we could practically do a presentation for him. Yeah buddy, nice try - don't think so! Ugh - at least try and put something together so we can tell you where you are going wrong. 

sweaterboots

Moving my bitch post to the correct thread 

Also a very small bitch compared to most of you but I trained my Mat leave CAD artist yesterday and she actually said "I'll try not to be too fast and make you look bad!". Awkward laugh, then as I trained her throughout the day and saw her work I thought to myself in saturated bitchy voice "Nah. I ain't worried."  

mrsrep123

sweaterboots said:

Moving my bitch post to the correct thread 

Also a very small bitch compared to most of you but I trained my Mat leave CAD artist yesterday and she actually said "I'll try not to be too fast and make you look bad!". Awkward laugh, then as I trained her throughout the day and saw her work I thought to myself in saturated bitchy voice "Nah. I ain't worried."  

@sweaterboots Ooooh, What a b!thx! 

museic-2

Caution: super lengthy bitch fest.
Today my aide took a half day for a dr. appt and of course they didn't give me a sub (even though they always give this other class one and we have more kids). I had to hastily grab the teacher across the hall for a bathroom breaks before I nearly peed myself. Then when my aide got back she asked if I could teach a lesson instead of testing kids, which we desperately need to get done, so she could prep for a different lesson- isn't that your job to be prepared?? And didn't you just have a half day?? THEN during our prep time I spent the whole time testing kids and she sat in the classroom doing who knows what. She didn't even bother to pick up their snack so I had to on top of testing kids. 

The lady that will be supporting our class while I'm out came to observe today and didn't even step foot in our room! They had her observe other classes. I didn't even get to meet her. How does that even make sense? 

Then I was asked to complete a task that requires data from the upcoming 3 weeks...yeah I'm gonna have a baby by then, sorry. I just responded with "You know I'm probably not going to be here next week right?" and they were just genuinely surprised. Have you seen my belly people?

Then I have a parent asking "you mean you're not going to finish the year with them?" I'm due a week and a half BEFORE the end of the year lady! NO I AM NOT!

I'm just so done. As much as I love my class and want to be there for them, teaching Kindergarten with a huge class at a very demanding school is overwhelming and frankly difficult and painful at almost 38 weeks pregnant.
 All I want to do is be home, clean, and be somewhat able to move at the end of the day.

ChristinaWild

@museic- I feel like there are a bunch of people in your world who deserve a solid throat punch. I volunteer my services to do it for you, if you'd like.

Also, and I know I'm repeating myself from another bitchy post, but I swear I'm stabbing the next person who texts or calls asking if I've had the baby yet. First off, it's not news that I'm likely to forget to share. Secondly, assuming the answer is yes and I haven't told you, maybe there is an effing reason. Back off, people. 

ETA: apparently I wasn't done venting! It's even worse when the texted/caller is a woman who has kids! Don't you remember how annoying it was when people did this to you?!?!? 

llenadevida900

@museic you mean you aren't going to squat and deliver your baby during class and then keep teaching!??!?!

seriously people. 

nda_roxybabe

@museic Dang! Does no one get it? Hellllooo, about to have a baby here!

That reminds me as my old job, with my evil boss...one of the girls (a Dr.) unexpectedly went into labor around 34 weeks and had her baby. My boss was SO annoyed and angry that she dare have her baby early. I was like uh.... I'm pretty sure she'd prefer to have waited and not have a NICU baby, WTH?

RedInLove

WTH MIL. Would you please tell me what effing time dinner is tonight that you invited me over for?? I've texted her twice now (in response to her texted invite) and she hasn't answered. She's very much the type that can't and/or won't pick or commit to a time, is habitually late herself, and seems to think we all naturally have such a carefree lifestyle and schedule as she does. And I'm not just going over there 'whenever' to sit there for hours waiting to eat, especially at 9 months pregnant, and with skeevy gross adult BIL there that I can't stand and DD wants nothing to do with. I have a toddler and a pregnant self that eventually needs to be fed and I also need to put her down for the night on schedule. So no time from her, no show by us.

Yiggle09

@nda_roxybabe I've learned if others are inconvenienced it doesn't matter about what the reason is. I had a girl complain about the time it took for me to go pump. I'm sorry some things are sacred babies and how they get fed is one of them

RedInLove

MIL finally replied with a time but followed that up with her not knowing what time FIL would be home from work. I don't know if that means we're eating at said time or waiting for FIL to get home? So I told her what time I have to leave by to get DD to bed. Looks like I'll be packing extra snacks and will have $ on hand to hit McD's on the way home just in case.

We are slowly pulling DD's bedtime back because she'll be starting an extended school year preschool the first week of July, and she's a night owl like me so we will be doing it gradually. I'm not keeping her up extra late for no good reason because it will just set her back. 

SKZW

@RedInLove: That's so frustrating! Why can't she just be clear? Then at least you could plan better. As it stands, you still don't know when you're eating, whether it's with FIL, and you need to leave at a certain time and she still doesn't seem to get why that's important to you. I mean, really.

I take it your hubbs isn't around right now? That makes it harder too, right, b/c it's his side? Hang in there. You're a very nice person for going considering it's a pain and since you have spent today being annoyed.

RedInLove

SKZW said:

@RedInLove: That's so frustrating! Why can't she just be clear? Then at least you could plan better. As it stands, you still don't know when you're eating, whether it's with FIL, and you need to leave at a certain time and she still doesn't seem to get why that's important to you. I mean, really.

I take it your hubbs isn't around right now? That makes it harder too, right, b/c it's his side? Hang in there. You're a very nice person for going considering it's a pain and since you have spent today being annoyed.

Thank you!! Yes, DH is away. He'll be home this weekend for a few weeks though!

MIL finally replied, I went over and luckily we didn't wait for FIL. She did wait over 30 minutes after I arrived to put the chicken in the grill, so I still ended up leaving to go home later than I wanted. And FIL still hadn't arrived home when I left. 

She's just very much about what is convenient for her and doesn't see past that much at all. And DH and I are planners, so we're dealing with complete opposites. She's also pretty flighty. She asked why I brought milk for DD to drink. When I told her it's because DD is lactose intolerant, she acted like it was brand new information. DD's been intolerant for over 1.5 years!! And I always bring milk for DD when we're going somewhere for a meal, so it's not the first time I've told her what container is holding her milk as I put it in her fridge. 

Louise_Belcher

@RedInLove Some people's inability to make a plan in advance and stick with it drives me batty! I am not a stop over and hang out type of person with anyone but my mom and H isn't that way with anyone. We prefer a date and time on the calendar days in advance. Sorry you have to deal with her flightiness and lack of schedule. That is hard. 

RedInLove

Louise_Belcher said:

@RedInLove Some people's inability to make a plan in advance and stick with it drives me batty! I am not a stop over and hang out type of person with anyone but my mom and H isn't that way with anyone. We prefer a date and time on the calendar days in advance. Sorry you have to deal with her flightiness and lack of schedule. That is hard. 

YES!! We're mostly the same way, though I can hang at my parents and BFF's for longer. MIL had actually invited me over yesterday for dinner last night. At almost 5pm. I was already cooking! I can get by usually with a few hours notice (depending on what it is), but super last minute and super up-in-the-air just doesn't work with small kids.

SKZW

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I can get by usually with a few hours notice (depending on what it is), but super last minute and super up-in-the-air just doesn't work with small kids.

@RedInLove: Yes, seriously! I'm not truly a planner by nature but with kids you have to be. It's maybe a top 3 item that people without kids just don't get (and I include my-old-pre-kids-self in that group). 

bubsalicious

SKZW said:

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I can get by usually with a few hours notice (depending on what it is), but super last minute and super up-in-the-air just doesn't work with small kids.

@RedInLove: Yes, seriously! I'm not truly a planner by nature but with kids you have to be. It's maybe a top 3 item that people without kids just don't get (and I include my-old-pre-kids-self in that group). 

I have a friend who has a kid and she pulls crap like this all the time. It is so annoying, and ends in so much complaining I'd rather be alone. It's also resulted in the worst dilly dallying ever when it's time to leave. Like, worse than typical little kid dilly dallying...

museic-2

ChristinaWild said:

@museic- I feel like there are a bunch of people in your world who deserve a solid throat punch. I volunteer my services to do it for you, if you'd like.

 I so appreciated this this week! haha thanks for having my back

llenadevida900 said:

@museic you mean you aren't going to squat and deliver your baby during class and then keep teaching!??!?!

seriously people. 

LOL this made me laugh! Thank goodness yesterday was my last day!

Hansolosparka

I'm so sick of people asking me why I'm working still. At my job FMLA doesn't start until the baby is born and I barely have enough sick leave to get me through my short term disability 20 day elimination period. They don't pay me to stay home and rest boo boo!  How about you bring me a donut or give me a neck massage instead of making sad faces every time you see me walking down the hall at the office?!?!

Yiggle09

@Hansolosparka yes id like to know why so many think you can take time off before as I'm in sa me boat