Oh!So, I'm a year smoke free
@AllyTheKid That's great!!!So I totally called in sick today so I could spend time with the baby. I just needed a mental health day haha
What kinds of finger foods are you guys feeding your LOs? The pedi suggested we give more finger foods and less puree. We do bread crusts, scrambled eggs, strawberries, bananas, crackers, chicken, pork. I have seen it suggested that I roll slippery foods like avocado in oatmeal first to give it a grip, but instead it just seems to clump on LO's fingers and the avocado goes slip slidin' away. He is super lazy apparently and prefers to be fed (he'll stick his arms behind him and lean forward with his mouth wide open...it's kinda cute and hard to resist, I'll admit) rather than feed himself.
I'm hoping for a little inspiration here. Pedi suggested frozen, thawed blueberries. What else ya got?
@AllyThekid I do not envy your situation. I don't know all of the ins and outs of your relationship status so I'm a little wary of giving you the "wrong" advice. I understand somewhat how you're feeling although I've never been in this exact situation. Since you say you have already made your decision and want to stick to it, I suppose I would recommend maybe penning a heartfelt letter or some other regarding your ex's father to whomever would be the best person to receive it. That's something to do for you so you can work through your grief and show support for people who have had meaning in your life regardless of the current status of that relationship.
I'm warily suggesting that you just "let it go" re discussing this with him. It sounds like an issue that is connected to lots of other little sore spots and you may want to avoid pressing those spots too hard if your ultimate goal is to heal. That being said, if you think you will harbor any resentment toward him for passive-aggressively preventing you from going, then definitely get it out. If you don't think you can totally let it go and handle the grief aspect without physically going to the memorial, then YES, tell him exactly how you feel. He can put on his big boy pants and deal with it.