I feel like i need to flame myself for this confession. DH and I haven't done the deed since around when we conceived this one. Between being sick 1st trimester and now the stress of moving, i just haven't been in the mood. I need to force myself to get in the mood or we're going to forget how this works lol.
We share accounts. I like not having to worry about splitting things or who paid for what last. It just works for us. Though I'll admit, I feel bad if I go out and shop for myself because I worry I may have spent too much. We are both pretty frugile people and really watch what we spend, so we don't spend a lot without telling each other first.
We just need to win the lottery so we don't have to worry about money and how much we spend
I keep putting off going to the eye doctor to get contacts because for some reason, the idea of contacts makes me anxious. But my vision is SO bad now. I can't wear my glasses since they give me headaches from the nose piece sitting on a blood vein in the bridge of my nose. I don't wanna put things in my eyes!
My DH and I have a joint account. And it just works. He makes way more money than I do and we don't fight about it at all. I pay my car payment, our phone bill, and things like that where he takes care of his truck and all of his equipment. It just works. He handles the budgeting aspect of it because he's self employed he know exactly what's going in and out so I just tell/ask if I plan on making a major purchase. Which isn't often.
it helps because we did pre-marriage counceling through our church (which I highly reccomend, I think Catholic Churches require it before getting married) but we laid out a plan on how to deal with finances and things like that before we were ever married and ever had a joint account. Therefore there's no need to fight about it because we agreed on it before we started it.
oh my sister is a very talented photographer. she did our pregnancy announcement. everyone keeps commenting "[my sister's name] what a creative idea for an announcement, i love it!" uhhhh....IT WAS MY IDEA! (that i got from pintrest...but that is neither here nor there). so im mad i am not getting credit for creativity (that i stole myself).
oh my sister is a very talented photographer. she did our pregnancy announcement. everyone keeps commenting "[my sister's name] what a creative idea for an announcement, i love it!" uhhhh....IT WAS MY IDEA! (that i got from pintrest...but that is neither here nor there). so im mad i am not getting credit for creativity (that i stole myself).
I can relate from the opposite side. SIL came up with all the ideas for her newborn pictures and I took the pictures. She started posting on fb and everyone is all "omg they're so amazing!" guess who is getting zero credit for actually taking the pictures? I don't want a damn medal or anything, just some acknowledgement that I spent 2 hours taking pics and even more time editing them. For FREE
@carries2018@sjohns08 ugh don't get me started about photographer credits. I do free work for a few close friends, and they can't even be bothered to credit me on social media. Also, when they decide to filter the photos or make them black and white on their own, even though I offer to do it if they want.
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I separate my laundry (colors and whites) but that's it. I also do laundry every single week. It's my least favorite chore to do. But I never take things to the dry cleaner. I accidently (well.. it was on purpose) washed his (ETA- DH) dress pants in the washer and dryer and the hem came out. He was like WTF and I was like bitch, I ain't dry cleaning your clothes.
I also clean my bathrooms every week but only because I use enough hair spray to destroy the atmosphere and it cakes on everything and then I shed like crazy and just... yuck. But I also work part time and have no kids so it's easy to muster up the energy even when I'm feeling tired because I just take a break mid way through. So I have a clean house. But only because I have a lot of time. Once this baby comes I'm terrified of what my house will look like.
We also have a joint bank account. It's always worked for us. We usually always talk about what we are buying (although sometimes DH gets packages and I immediately give him the side eye.. lol). But we don't really have any issues regarding buying shit.
I want a pop really bad right now. And am going to have one today.
@beezeemarie I could go on a rant for days. I never seem to get credit for them, plus people always want to jerk you around on when to do them. If I were a paid professional, who you would be shelling out $500+ for, they wouldn't let you just be all "oh, well, I know you were supposed to be here in 15 minutes, but can we reschedule?". Stabby. Stabby. Stabby.
I feel like i need to flame myself for this confession. DH and I haven't done the deed since around when we conceived this one. Between being sick 1st trimester and now the stress of moving, i just haven't been in the mood. I need to force myself to get in the mood or we're going to forget how this works lol.
Flame away!!
We haven't had sex since the afternoon we conceived this kid
I feel like i need to flame myself for this confession. DH and I haven't done the deed since around when we conceived this one. Between being sick 1st trimester and now the stress of moving, i just haven't been in the mood. I need to force myself to get in the mood or we're going to forget how this works lol.
Flame away!!
We haven't had sex since the afternoon we conceived this kid
Yeah.....this. In my defense, I've had some spotting so I'm scared to. But also at my last appointment I didn't ask if it would be ok to do the deed bc I'm just tired. Perhaps I'll ask at my next appointment in a few weeks. My poor husband.
@beezeemarie and @sjohns08 that is illegal! don't let people do that! watermark them or insist that they have to tag you, or better yet post them yourself then share to their wall. Also my sister just does social media images so they are lower resolution they can't make prints and her watermark is on it.
i understand if you do it as a favor for free, but insist on them tagging you. those are my sisters rulez for me. i have no problem with it, that is HER work!
@Mommaswizz and @carries2018 Same here. We've only done it once since conception. And it was like 3 weeks ago. I think I'll attempt tonight but man, where is that horniness that everyone talks about ?!?
I feel like i need to flame myself for this confession. DH and I haven't done the deed since around when we conceived this one. Between being sick 1st trimester and now the stress of moving, i just haven't been in the mood. I need to force myself to get in the mood or we're going to forget how this works lol.
Flame away!!
We haven't had sex since the afternoon we conceived this kid
We've had sex twice since this kid was conceived. Between morning sickness and now headaches and *TMI* now hemmorrhoids, that just ain't happening
Feeling bad for these DHs not getting any. but at least i'm not the only one! Usually a glass or two of wine used to be all it took for me to get a little frisky. Now, i got nothing lol
i dont feel that bad, they can drink their sorrows away. i am here feeling like ish, with the only thing going on in my life is food. and it am just getting fatter. im sorry you have to take care of yourself and have fun on the weekends...your life must be really hard H. i'll start you a gofundme to cope.
I had a SUPER high sex drive with my last pregnancy but I can't remember when it started. This was during the several year span where DH was virtually not interested at all so it was miserable.
Now he's all pissy if he hasn't had sex for a week and I'm like... dude you rejected me my entire last pregnancy. Suck it up.
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We've probably done it once or twice since this kid was conceived. I really feel bad about it, but I'm glad to hear it's not uncommon. I have had some bleeding and am on pelvic rest until May 18 at least and of course I feel my drive amping up and I reallllly want to! That SCH better be GONE when I get my anatomy scan!
We haven't had sex since the beginning of January. I had gallbladder surgery mid January and had to heal from that, then had an embryo transfer and had to abstain. The progesterone suppositories grossed me out too much to do it, and now I have to abstain until the SCH goes away. I just want the D!
Me: 31 DH:35 TTC #1: March 2011 Fur-children: 3 dogs + 2 cats (all rescued) dx: Endometriosis and Fibroids 2 Laps and 1 Abdominal Myomectomy 6 rounds of clomid 5 rounds of iui IVF #1 Gonal F, Menopur and Cetrotide ER 12/1/2016:Retrieved 22 eggs 12 fertilized, developed moderate OHSS 4/4 day 5 embryos were normal for PGS!!! 2 boys/2 girls FET 1/10/2017 Gallbladder surgery 1/10/2017 FET 2/2 BFP 2/7/17 Beta#1: 594!!! Beta#2 1630!!! Having a girl! EDD 10/21/17
@jesssssrg Dreft detergent is expensive and plus DS get filthier than any of us while at the daycare. In fact we should separate our less dirty clothes from his poopy muddy one side haha jk so glad we have a good wishing machine.
Me: 30 DH: 32 BFP#1: 9/9/2014 DS born 4/7/15 BFP#2: 6/16/2016 MC/D&C: 7/29/2016 BFP#3: 10/14/2016 (fingers crossed for a sticky bean)
I'm taking full advantage of it now because I'm afraid the further along I get DH might be like "omg I'm going to poke the baby" and all that. I'm not ready to be borderline celebate. And it helps that DH is super hot and I'm still just as, if not more attracted to him than when we met #mmmmmmmmmm
Regarding the sex drive, mine hasn't returned yet. DH and I have only been doing it a few times a week since getting pregnant. Not as much as normal, but I'm hoping we can increase a bit once my sex drive comes back.
I definitely separate my laundry. Lights, mediums, and darks. I've taught this to DH so many times, but he continues to get confused about it.
We share a bank account, and it works for us. When we first got married, I made more money. Now that I'm back in school he makes twice what I do. We just know we take turns supporting each other. But I'm completely in charge of paying the bills because DH likes to "stick it to the man" and pay everything a day or two late. Uhh...do you not want a good credit score??
We've almost always had a shared account. I don't even remember when we merged. But, since I stay home now it doesn't matter since my account would be zero. I pay all the bills anyway. I don't even think DH would know how to pay our bills. Finances is the only thing that causes issues for us. He gets total side eye from me when Amazon packages come for him. But, since this BFP we've gone back to our budgeting and he gets his weekly "allowance" (not sure what else to call it without making him sound like a 12 year old) that he can buy his stupid stuff with.
Speaking of Amazon, do you guys know you can share a prime membership with your spouse but have your own account so they can't see your order history? Works great for gift giving issues...and hiding all of your candy purchases.
you guys don't even want to see the state of my shower right now. I was thinking about cleaning it today but I need to go grocery shopping. I can't take on too much at once.
@purplestarz that's so funny that you refer to it as his allowance. That's what my parents do. My dad will be all "I spent my allowance on lunch, so I need more for such and such" and my mom will say tough shit lol. Always made me laugh
We just call it personal money. We each get a set amount each month to spend however we want. It's definitely helped quell money arguments.
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@sjohns08 haha I know, it's ridiculous. We watched some Dave Ramsey back in the day and he referred to it as "blow money" but I can't say that and keep a straight face.
Speaking of Amazon, do you guys know you can share a prime membership with your spouse but have your own account so they can't see your order history? Works great for gift giving issues...and hiding all of your candy purchases.
How do you do this? I'd love to get DH his own account. I knew a bunch of my Christmas gifts in advance because Amazon texted and emailed me when DH ordered them.
Wow, so much to catch up on, I don't even remember all of my comments:
- I miss the days form last pregnancy when DH was scared of hurting the baby, now he want's it regularly and I'm over here all sensitive, feeling raw and in pain when we DTD. I seriously HATE BJs (like our honeymoon was the last) but am seriously considering it just to satisfy DH while providing me some relieve.
- We joined bank accounts after our first year of marriage and it has been so much easier and stress free! Before when our accounts were separate we were spending way too much money, now we sort of balance each other out.
- Actually we share everything now, Amazon accounts, credit cards. If we are gift giving I'll usually give him a heads up not to look and visa versa. But it's usually off our wish lists so we have an idea. He's terrible at gift giving and terrible about wanting gifts. Our anniversary is coming up and I have no clue what to get him.
-Laundry is always sorted into whites, colors, pinks (now that DD's and mine make up a whole load) towels and hang dry. I usually do laundry on Saturdays and can get it done all within the day.
-You guys are really pushing me to clean my house that desperately needs it. We have been so busy and/or gone lately that I haven't had time or the energy to do it. This weekend is looking like a perfect weekend to catch up.
FFFC I hate Dreft! Its expensive, its overpowering and it's pointless to only wash babies clothes in something special. We will use All Free and Clear for our whole family.
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Flame away!!
We just need to win the lottery so we don't have to worry about money and how much we spend
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Married 9/27/2014
TTC Since 1/1/2017
BFP: 2/6/2017
Due Date: 10/13/17
it helps because we did pre-marriage counceling through our church (which I highly reccomend, I think Catholic Churches require it before getting married) but we laid out a plan on how to deal with finances and things like that before we were ever married and ever had a joint account. Therefore there's no need to fight about it because we agreed on it before we started it.
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I also clean my bathrooms every week but only because I use enough hair spray to destroy the atmosphere and it cakes on everything and then I shed like crazy and just... yuck. But I also work part time and have no kids so it's easy to muster up the energy even when I'm feeling tired because I just take a break mid way through. So I have a clean house. But only because I have a lot of time. Once this baby comes I'm terrified of what my house will look like.
We also have a joint bank account. It's always worked for us. We usually always talk about what we are buying (although sometimes DH gets packages and I immediately give him the side eye.. lol). But we don't really have any issues regarding buying shit.
I want a pop really bad right now. And am going to have one today.
Baby Boy due October 2017
i understand if you do it as a favor for free, but insist on them tagging you. those are my sisters rulez for me. i have no problem with it, that is HER work!
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Now he's all pissy if he hasn't had sex for a week and I'm like... dude you rejected me my entire last pregnancy. Suck it up.
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“Happiness can be found even in the darkest of times,
if one only remembers to turn on the light."
- Albus Dumbledore
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BFP#3: 2/9/13 EDD 10/18/17. Team Green for Round 2!
Oct. '17 June S.C. "You Had 1 Job"
me: DD1! please be careful with that. ::returns to looking at my phone::
May Siggy Challenge: Parenting Fails
TTC #1: March 2011
Fur-children: 3 dogs + 2 cats (all rescued)
dx: Endometriosis and Fibroids
2 Laps and 1 Abdominal Myomectomy
6 rounds of clomid
5 rounds of iui
IVF #1 Gonal F, Menopur and Cetrotide
ER 12/1/2016:Retrieved 22 eggs 12 fertilized, developed moderate OHSS
4/4 day 5 embryos were normal for PGS!!! 2 boys/2 girls
FET 1/10/2017
Gallbladder surgery 1/10/2017
FET 2/2
BFP 2/7/17
Having a girl! EDD 10/21/17
Oct. '17 June S.C. "You Had 1 Job"
BFP#1: 9/9/2014 DS born 4/7/15
BFP#2: 6/16/2016 MC/D&C: 7/29/2016
BFP#3: 10/14/2016 (fingers crossed for a sticky bean)
I definitely separate my laundry. Lights, mediums, and darks. I've taught this to DH so many times, but he continues to get confused about it.
We share a bank account, and it works for us. When we first got married, I made more money. Now that I'm back in school he makes twice what I do. We just know we take turns supporting each other. But I'm completely in charge of paying the bills because DH likes to "stick it to the man" and pay everything a day or two late. Uhh...do you not want a good credit score??
Speaking of Amazon, do you guys know you can share a prime membership with your spouse but have your own account so they can't see your order history? Works great for gift giving issues...and hiding all of your candy purchases.
you guys don't even want to see the state of my shower right now. I was thinking about cleaning it today but I need to go grocery shopping. I can't take on too much at once.
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“Happiness can be found even in the darkest of times,
if one only remembers to turn on the light."
- Albus Dumbledore
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Wow, so much to catch up on, I don't even remember all of my comments:
- I miss the days form last pregnancy when DH was scared of hurting the baby, now he want's it regularly and I'm over here all sensitive, feeling raw and in pain when we DTD. I seriously HATE BJs (like our honeymoon was the last) but am seriously considering it just to satisfy DH while providing me some relieve.
- We joined bank accounts after our first year of marriage and it has been so much easier and stress free! Before when our accounts were separate we were spending way too much money, now we sort of balance each other out.
- Actually we share everything now, Amazon accounts, credit cards. If we are gift giving I'll usually give him a heads up not to look and visa versa. But it's usually off our wish lists so we have an idea. He's terrible at gift giving and terrible about wanting gifts. Our anniversary is coming up and I have no clue what to get him.
-Laundry is always sorted into whites, colors, pinks (now that DD's and mine make up a whole load) towels and hang dry. I usually do laundry on Saturdays and can get it done all within the day.
-You guys are really pushing me to clean my house that desperately needs it. We have been so busy and/or gone lately that I haven't had time or the energy to do it. This weekend is looking like a perfect weekend to catch up.
FFFC I hate Dreft! Its expensive, its overpowering and it's pointless to only wash babies clothes in something special. We will use All Free and Clear for our whole family.
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