Plus Size 4/19

SuzieMay827

Good morning good morning. Sorry I'm starting this a bit later than usual.

Please feel free to chatter away about all things plus size and/or pregnancy related. As always post those cute bumps on the HDBD thread if you're comfortable. If not, feel free to post your picture here.

GTKY: what's your biggest fear?

SuzieMay827

This week had been pretty good I suppose. I'm officially over halfway so things are feeling real.

I had to drop my dogs at the vet today. One of them needs minor surgery and we are putting the other in daycare today while we get a new hot water heater installed.  They looked so sad and pitiful when I left. I had a really hard time not crying even though it's only one day (thanks hormones!). I feel incredibly fortunate that I'll be a (mostly) sahm once Baby comes because I think I'd be a wreck leaving him. Speaking of, I'm planning on staying at my job until I deliver because my company offers 12 weeks paid maternity leave and it seems crazy to throw that away. I don't make enough to make daycare worth it once he's born, so I won't go back, but I have every intention of staying on until then. However, my in-laws and even DH to an extent have been pressuring me to quit my full time job early. The thing is between my full-time and part time jobs I work 6-7 days a week. Neither job is particularly strenuous, but there's not much time for rest or just enjoying our last time as a couple. DH is saying we'll make it work once Baby is here, there's no reason we can't make it work a few months earlier. And his family is kind of making me feel as if I'm not being responsible by continuing to work. But I'm sorry, we're adding another very expensive person to our family. How can I give up my income through November when I'm physically able to work?? Anyone else figuring out the working/not working situation either now or after Baby arrives?

GTKY: what's your biggest fear? The dentist. And failure-sometimes I avoid new situations for fear of not succeeding. I've gotten better about this in the past few years, but it can still be a struggle as a huge perfectionist.

dogdisnylovr

@suziemay827 Dropping my dogs off at any place without be (unless it's their Grammie's) makes me sad! Hopefully surgery goes well! I am no help with the deciding on when/if to quit working. But I will say that I am totally jealous of your 12 weeks paid maternity leave and your plans to be a SAHM.

This week has been pretty stressful. I posted before that I had to go in for a Panorama test due to increased risk and waiting for these tests to come back is pure torture.

The AC in my car is out. We were going to get it fixed last week but then we got the call about the baby and I don't even care anymore. I just sit in a sauna on my way home from work. 

The daycare process has started. I visited on a couple weeks ago. I have plans to visit 2 more as soon as work dies down and I can take a 1/2 day off. Hopefully Monday. Completely off topic, but Monday would be perfect because Disney is supposedly dropping a huge discount that day and as a Disney Travel Planner I will be quite busy. Last year I pulled an all nighter and then went to work. I am not in the position to do that this year. 

GTKY: what's your biggest fear? I have many fears, but I would say large spiders are the biggest. When I say large, anything bigger than the size of my pinky. They completely paralyze me and they must die (but not by me because I can't get that close to them). My new biggest fear has been this baby. I want so badly for everything to be ok! 

SuzieMay827

@dogdisnylovr looking at daycares is a stressful process! I had looked quite a bit before we did the math and realized it didn't make sense. We live in a pretty small town so the only two daycares near me only accept 3yo and up. So it was home daycare or driving 30 minutes out of the way for drop off before work. Yikes! I hope you find one you love and are comfortable with.

I have been anxiously waiting to hear if you had your results yet. Will you please update on this thread when you know anything? I'm not as active on other threads as I should be and I don't want to miss it. For my Panorama results I think I waited a total of 10 days, so hopefully not much longer for you. I'm sure the wait must be torture, but I am praying for you and your little family!

dogdisnylovr

@suziemay827 Thank you! The thoughts and prayers are greatly appreciated! I will definitely update. Hopefully sooner rather than later. 

mercury94

@SuzieMay827 I don't have advice about leaving jobs. I will be working. I make more than DH and we really need both salaries. I think that if I was going to quit, I would work as long as possible and take advantage of the leave. Also, I hope the dog's surgery goes well. I always hate leaving my dogs too. 

@dogdisnylovr  Thinking of you and hoping for good test results. Please keep us updated when you hear. 

I have my second glucose test tomorrow.  I'm visiting a day care super early in the morning before that appointment. It's a great facility, but significantly pricier than I would like, so it probably needs to be a lot better than the other options I find. I feel like the day care visit might help me keep my mind off the fact that I can't eat before my appointment if nothing else. 

My greatest fear is snakes. I hate those things. 

jena333-2

I don't post in this thread regularly, so hi!

19+1 today. I went maternity clothes shopping on Monday. Destination Motherhood had like 4 or 5 plus sized pants styles. I ended up with a pair of jeans that aren't totally wretched, and a pair of black work pants that aren't bad. I think that's probably the best I can expect. Plus sized maternity shopping with my 108 lb best friend was a little stressful (but totally from within my brain, not anything she did). 

And when I weighed myself yesterday I was "officially" at my 4 week (BFP day) weight. With the 1st tri nausea I went down a few pounds, and it let my stomach shrink back down, so I've been full faster and have been eating less than I did pre-pregnancy, thus slowing the weight gain process. I'm trying to be logical - I'm nearly half way and have no net gain, that's on track with "hoping" to only gain 10-15 pounds. But I also hated seeing that old number. 

latershrader

Hi all. 19+2 and just getting back from celebrating my big 4-0 in Florida with my best friends. It was a great trip with lots of sun and rest. However, my allergies are really kicking my butt today and I'm kind of miserable. The usual meds aren't doing anything for me. So here I sit suffering. Hope allergy season is quick this year. So I am still under my pre-pregnancy weight by about 4lbs. I still have no "bump". My pants do feel more snug but I can still wear most pre-pregnancy clothes. I do feel self-conscious about the "no bump" thing because that's what everyone looks at when they see me or I tell them i'm pregnant. I'm sure in a few weeks I'll be dying for the "no bump" look as I'll be huge and uncomfortable. However, on the positive side, I've been feeling my boy move around a lot lately. It's surreal. And it's a comfort too. I do enjoy being pregnant, so that's a positive as well!

QOTW: I would say roaches. I live in fear of finding them in my house. So far so good, but I am fastidious for this reason!

dogdisnylovr

@suziemay827 and @bridge-and-wall and anyone else who sent prayers or good thoughts.

I heard from my MW this morning and my test came back negative! Thank you so much for your thoughts and prayers! I feel like a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders. 

I want so badly to log on and look at the results again (sometimes it feels like a dream) but I am afraid I will see the sex of the baby. So another part of me want to call the MW back and have her tell me again...lol. Anyways, thank you again for helping me keep my sanity through this! 

dogdisnylovr

@latershrader I'm glad you had a great trip but sorry for your suffering! I feel your pain with the no bump thing. I still don't have a bump to the point where someone would think I am pregnant. My stomach is more out there, but not terribly noticeable and I look more pudgy than pregnant. Like you said, I am sure I will thankful of that in the upcoming months but I am sad I don't get to participate in HDBD. 

Roaches are the worst! I moved into an apartment right out of college that looked wonderful. Shortly after I learned that it was infested with roaches. When I would get up in the morning and flip the kitchen light on they would scatter. It was awful! I roach bombed like crazy but they kept coming back. My only thought was that they lived in the walls and the neighbors kept them around because I have never had roaches in my life. After staying there for maybe a month I forfeited by deposit and ran far away. 

latershrader

@dogdisnylovr Thank goodness your results were good!!! I'm SO happy for you. I hope the rest of your pregnancy goes smoothly! 

mercury94

@dogdisnylovr Yay! I'm so happy for you and your LO. I totally felt the same way after the nurse at my OB's office told me Emmy test came back negative for all trisomies. I even asked them to go over the results with me again at the next appointment. It's such great news, I just wanted to hear it over and over again. 

mercury94

I put this in the ransoms too, but I had my 3 hour glucose test today. It sucked. I ended up calling out sick for the rest of the day because I'm so lightheaded. If the OB makes me do this test again, I'm really tempted to just ask her to put me on the diet. 

dogdisnylovr

@bridge-and-wall Uhh! A 3 hour test sounds awful. I remember eating so much food right after my glucose test. My stomach was so upset from all that sugar and I think it was trying to dilute it. Hopefully no repeats! I am already dreading my next glucose test at 28 weeks. 

SuzieMay827

@dogdisnylovr I haven't been super active in TB lately but logged on just now hoping maybe you had your results and I'm SOOO glad I did! So incredibly happy for you that you're baby is low risk and your mind can feel more at ease. I'm so sorry to you and bridge-and-wall for going through all this worry unnecessarily. But so very pleased to hear the good news!

@latershrader happy belated birthday! I'm glad you enjoyed your trip but sorry for the allergies, I feel your pain on that.
On the other end of the spectrum I went to the obgyn this morning  and gained 8 lbs since my last visit. I just about died and of course my doctor was a little concerned as well. I don't feel like I've been eating an insane amount, although I could make better choices, and I've been walking a lot so I was surprised. But I guess the moral of the story is that everybody's different in how they carry their pregnancies. And there's no right or wrong. You're body is beautiful and doing an awesome thing! Your belly will show when it's ready

@bridge-and-wall that sounds so miserable! I'm so sorry for the bad experience and I can't blame you for not wanting to go through that again. Not feeling super excited for when it's my turn. But it's all worth it I suppose. At least you can put it behind you now.

Sugargirl1019

@dogdisnylovr Yay for negative Panorama test!!! What a happy relief!!

mercury94

Update: glucose test came back normal. I'm happy to not have diabetes, but I'm still really afraid of the possibility of doing that test again. 

SuzieMay827

@bridge-and-wall yay for no GD! I really hope you don't have to endure that again any time soon.

wineren

@bridge-and-wall I had to do an early test in March due to a family history of GD and had to do a 3 hour follow up too. The next test for me is the "regular" time they do it at 26 weeks and my doctor already said to expect to do the three hour test again. I'm not looking forward to it. At least they gave me a private room with a bed so I could take a nap (even though I didn't). 
Do you know if you're going to have another one hour glucose test?

mercury94

@wineren I really might refuse to do the one hour again. I don't want to miss the extra time from work when I'm clearly going to fail it again. Also, I'm jealous of the private room with a bed. I was allowed to sit in their uncomfortable chairs or walk around the hospital. I would have been much happier if I had a place to take a nap. 

dogdisnylovr

@bridge-and-wall So glad to hear the test came back negative! I would ask to skip the next hour too rather than torturing yourself twice. 

wineren

@bridge-and-wall I'd say it's not a bad idea to skip the one hour if they'll let you. My doctor's office has a lab on site for most things but the longer tests like the 3 hour I go to the bigger lab at the hospital. So I do most tests the same time I have appointments. It would honestly be nice to not have that anxiety of failing the one hour again. I already blocked my schedule off for the 3 hour :-/
Good luck! I hope they let you skip it.

klcarr19

I haven't been on TB consistently. I was diagnosed with HG at 15 weeks and I work full time as a special needs teacher. Work has been crazy and most nights I pass out at 8 when my 2 year old goes to bed. This week has been ok, I only have had one low blood pressure drop a day which is an increase from weeks past. Hoping to find out gender on May 1st. 

We moved to Florida in December and my husband works at Universal studios as a computer programmer. Well his project is their brand new water park... and since we get access all summer I have a major predicament... plus size maternity swim suit. Look swim suit shopping on a plus size 6ft frame is rough (always tankinis because too long in torso for a one piece) but add a huge second time mommy baby bump... lord. I checked out motherhood and felt like a sausage being squeezed into its casing... in 3X! I normall run 1x-2x depending on what it is. Swimwear I ALWAYS go to the 22-24 equivalent because I don't like being poured into anything... who has successfully found a plus size swimsuit?!? I'm so distraught right now. I'm not going to go without swimming for the summer because my 2 year old loved the water... but my regular suit is already starting to get snug around my 18wk bump. (I swear I have a small tank in me). 

Biggest fear goes along with a PP: SNAKES yuck!

klcarr19

jena333-2 said:

I don't post in this thread regularly, so hi!

19+1 today. I went maternity clothes shopping on Monday. Destination Motherhood had like 4 or 5 plus sized pants styles. I ended up with a pair of jeans that aren't totally wretched, and a pair of black work pants that aren't bad. I think that's probably the best I can expect. Plus sized maternity shopping with my 108 lb best friend was a little stressful (but totally from within my brain, not anything she did). 

And when I weighed myself yesterday I was "officially" at my 4 week (BFP day) weight. With the 1st tri nausea I went down a few pounds, and it let my stomach shrink back down, so I've been full faster and have been eating less than I did pre-pregnancy, thus slowing the weight gain process. I'm trying to be logical - I'm nearly half way and have no net gain, that's on track with "hoping" to only gain 10-15 pounds. But I also hated seeing that old number. 

@jena333-2 I found that Old navy has best luck for tops! I fit into the 2xl maternity! I love it! And morherhood gave me the best luck on pants. Since as a teacher I am off in the summer I plan to be in Nike shorts all summer that have a great deal of stretch to get me though. Don't get too discouraged with maternity shopping. I had to remind myself the first time I only have to wear it for a few months. 4 months until we get our old wardrobe back!

jena333-2

After washing and drying the jeans, I wore them today and more than "don't hate them," I am really pretty happy with them! 

seasqrd

Tbh I'm not really comfortable with posting selfie/bumpies anywhere because I'm 275+ (but still losing with gastric bypass, thankfully everything is healthy with me and our little girl).

It's difficult because no one believes I'm pregnant because I had a flat stomach to begin with, so now I just look proportional with my big stomach & big breasts that went up two cup sizes again *sigh* to a K cup (which I was originally before the surgery) - and at almost 6 months pregnant wish I could post a bumpie but you can't really tell still.  

Biggest fear: Besides the birthing process (I'm not a candidate for an epidural as I have severe orthopedic problems) / SIDS of course what every mother worries about / and the sleep deprivation in September?

I'd say not related to pregnancy my greatest fear is dying alone - but I guess a lot of people fear that. 

latershrader

@Seapb I hear you on not posting a bump. I am in your same boat. But congrats on the weightloss! That's amazing! I have the same issues w/ not having a bump and people looking straight at my tummy when I tell them I'm preg. Oh well!

@jena333-2 I have found some luck w/ plus size maternity wear on Amazon. I also know this website might help: https://plussizebirth.com/plus-size-maternity-clothes-must-haves/