Mental Health Monday Check In 4/10/17

Jens_Hoes

I'm realizing we have a lot of Monday threads... Should I wait to post until Tuesday or screw it and keep it Monday?

Otherwise, how's everyone doing?

BabyMC517

I feel like we have a lot of Monday threads too, but that's because its the start of the week maybe this one would end up being a weekly like the Monday BF since we tend to spill over into other days...? 

As for my mental health check in...I'm doing okay. Feeling a little eh today. Mainly I'm just tired, feet are swollen, baby is in a weird position - I feel like he's laying sideways and up against my stomach wall (?) because its hard - constantly going to the bathroom this morning and just feeling blah. I want to be curled up either in my bed or on the couch. Other than those lovely pregnancy symptoms, my mental health is okay!  

nda_roxybabe

I think this is an important one to start the week with, but can totally go all week.

Hoping this is a good mental week for all! I'm feeling pretty good.

Jens_Hoes

Sounds good to me! 
Glad you ladies are feeling good this week overall.  
I've been feeling ok for the most part.  I feel just overall exhausted and run down.  I can't believe I have to do this for a 7 more weeks (or more!)
Work is so stressful, and has such a high burnout rate in general, I'm really dreading going to work in general. 
But I keep telling myself, if I last until 42 weeks, then I have only 35 days left of work including today.  When I tell myself that, it doesn't seem so bad.

lilmisscrafty-2

I don't mind keeping it Monday or expanding it to a weekly. I kind of like all the threads. 

Saturday was a difficult day. I spent most of the day in bed trying to tame contractions. DH had plans with his BF and asked if it was still ok for him to go. Not wanting to ruin his only day off I told him it was fine. Or so I thought. I felt so alone and jealous that he gets to go out and do whatever he wants while I'm miserable. I guess I'm feeling resentful that everyone gets to go on with their lives while I'm stuck here resting. 

Today is a much better day. Actually looking forward to the multiple appointments I have this week. 

starphish18

@Jens_Hoes Work is massively stressing me out, too. I feel like I've been complaining about this for weeks, but my boss (who I'm training to take over for me), is just driving me up a wall. I can't force her to train properly with me (she's the boss!), but it's just causing problems. I don't feel like she's going to be prepared to take things over in 3 weeks, and what she HAS taken over isn't getting done, like supplies. I had to run out and buy paper towel today because we were completely out and I couldn't get a hold of her to see if/when she'd even be here today (still haven't heard from her). I'm really trying to just let go of all the work stuff right now.

@LilMissCrafty I'm glad you're feeling better today!

nda_roxybabe

@starphish18 Was it you whose H said to just go ahead and leave? I'd wash my hands of it. She's being stupid and wasting your time and energy.

starphish18

@nda_roxybabe He did. I'd feel so guilty leaving right now, though. It'd be such a huge mess. I feel like it's going to be a mess regardless with this woman taking over as manager, but at least I will know I've done everything to equip her for the job by the time I leave (assuming she shows up a couple more times). 

nda_roxybabe

@starphish18 You've got a better work ethic than I would at this point I totally understand though.

chailife34

I was doing so well but sort of lost it tonight. I'm on Day 5 of 18 (including recovery after surgery), 2nd visit (first time was 4 days) of hospital stay. I miss my family so much. We live an hour away so they aren't able to come often. This is the longest I've ever been apart from DW and DD and I'm so sad. I made the mistake of looking at pictures of them, it only made it worse. 

One day at a time... one at a time... tomorrow will be 8 days till baby. Almost there.. almost there.. 

BabyMC517

Hang in there @chailife34! I can only imagine how difficult that must be, but you're doing great!! Almost there! 

kns1988

That would be really tough, @chailife34, but you can make it 8 more days! Hang in there.

I'm doing okay. I was cranky yesterday, and I'm starting to get worried about how ready DH will be for the spring season at camp. He still needs to hire 2 lifeguards, so I hope he can make some progress on that today. He also has some repairs that need to be made on the pool, which is going to be crazy stressful if it doesn't get done in time. Plus, the baby is due the first week of camp and we're moving in 3 weeks, so there's a lot going on! I have my own full time job, but I live there with him in the summer (and part time in spring/fall when we have groups), so it's hard not to feel like his job is my job, too. I'm so used to being in control, and I have to find a way to let it go. 

We're finally having a beautiful spring week here, so I'm going to try to get outside a few times and turn my mood around today. I love having this thread to vent and support each other!

Jens_Hoes

@chailife34 how are you feeling today? 

@kns1988 did your husband move forward with hiring anyone?

jayandaplus

I'm sorry you're stuck in the hospital  @chailife34. I'm hoping today is better. Thinking about you a lot lately. It'll be easier once baby (Emilia?) is here!

lilbeautysxt

I'm with you ladies on the job stress!! Short staffed and micro managed is not a good combo!! I have a job interview on the 26th so cross your fingers for me!!

chailife34

@Jens_Hoes @jayandaplus
thanks for checking in.. I've been pretty lonely lately and antsy to be able to leave my room and actually walk around but no go. They are pretty cautious about preventing another bleed before it's go time.
Because we live so far away (a solid hour one direction), DW and DD come every other day and we don't have any family nearby. Luckily I've got a few things to look forward to: DD/DW are coming today, my dad is flying in from the east coast in 5 days, baby will arrive in 7 days, and home 4 days after that. It's a slow countdown but the clock keeps ticking (sometimes that's all I can do, watch the red second hand of the clock tick by). 

@jayandaplus DD is Emilia, this new LO will be either Eleanor or Isaac 

Jens_Hoes

@chailife34 I'm sorry it is still stressful! At least you have a countdown and aren't just waiting and hoping for something to happen. Hopefully you'll have a good visit with your DW/DD today!

kns1988

@Jens_Hoes, unfortunately he hasn't found anyone yet. I got up to pee at 1 in the morning last night and he kind of unloaded that he wanted to quit his job and doesn't feel like he's capable of doing it - then he fell asleep and I was up until 3 worrying! It's okay, though. I probably would have been up anyways because pregnancy, and I want him to talk to me when he's stressed. He was feeling much better today about everything.

ETA: I realized I already kind of vented about my lack of sleep in Hogwarts. It's weird posting in two places!

jayandaplus

@chailife34 it's good you have a countdown! I'm sorry it's so lonely. Thinking about you mama!! Do you have books and such?

SKZW

@jayandaplus: I think you mentioned (in some thread, somewhere!) that you had an appt today with a dif OB? How did that go? Do you feel more at ease, having had contacted someone else to rely on if needed? Did you get all your Qs answered?

chailife34

@jayandaplus yep, books, and I've been knitting a lot, teaching myself with the help of YouTube.

today ended up turning around after two sh!tty days. I had my favorite nurses all day. DW brought some home comforts so I could actually take a better shower, clip my toenails, and change into comfy clothes. DD was so sweet and cuddled and sang to me. I also had a few surprise visitors (one who brought me dinner, flowers, and books). So all in all, it turned out to be a happy day, and I am ridiculously grateful for that. 

there are good days and not so good days, and today is a very good day.

thanks for the well wishes and for the space to check in

jayandaplus

@chailife34 I'm so glad to hear it turned into a good day! Hopefully there are enough of those that they out number the not so good days!