Weekly Randoms - Week of 4/10

LoveInDC

Let's get random! What's going on in your life friends? Any plans during the week? Anything exciting happen over the weekend?

Here is a dog enjoying a swing to make you smile

LoveInDC

Given the issues we've been having in our Grad thread lately (people posting who shouldn't, people not posting who should), and the lovely example set by @LuND, I made a thing. Thoughts?

EDITED to remove old version. New one lower in the comments! Also, participate in the poll as we all vote on the change.

lulu1180

@LoveInDC I mostly love it but my honest opinion about the third option (asking grads in your BMB) if there are others in their same situation it might make them think they should all post.  Maybe just take out the ask the grads in your BMB part...?  I really love the rest though!  Sorry if I'm being too critical, I'm in a horrible mood thanks to CD1 and I saw someone who moved quietly onto their BMB very recently and then complain that no one has asked her to come back and post in the grad thread after being on here only about 6 weeks or so

pebbledam

@LoveInDC - I haven't been here long enough to give good constructive criticism, but FWIW I love it! 

LoveInDC

@lulu1180 critiques are super welcome! I obviously can't speak for the whole board, so the more opinions, the better! I included the "ask the grads" to direct people who are on the fence. The grads will (helpfully) tell them what to do minus flames.

Edit: We were talking about different people

tamalahoops

To me posting in the grad thread means you put in your time. You developed relationships and tried to get pregnant. You didn't just have sex and get lucky.  You graduated from our board. For example, I went to college for a year and then found a great full time job and left. But they didn't give me a cap and gown for that shit. I just moved on with my life. 

So I think the flow chart is great! 

hartmich

@lulu1180 She can
 

P.S. JT was so cute in those days. Damn. 

LoveInDC

tamalahoops said:

To me posting in the grad thread means you put in your time. You developed relationships and tried to get pregnant. You didn't just have sex and get lucky.  You graduated from our board. For example, I went to college for a year and then found a great full time job and left. But they didn't give me a cap and gown for that shit. I just moved on with my life. 

So I think the flow chart is great! 

Thanks @tamalahoops! Although, I am reminded of a recent SS who talked about how they "really tried" for 1 cycle in her "grad" post. Not everyone has that common sense perspective

tamalahoops

@LoveInDC yesssssssss I hated that one. the drive bys suck but the idiots that think they belong are so much worse.

doula-mama

@LoveInDC I love that chart! I wish we could get that one and the one @LuND made added to the Newbie Guide! I do agree with @lulu1180 about taking out the 'ask the other grads' bit - I could see people being so excited about being KU that they encourage people on the fence to post who maybe shouldn't. I really think that like @tamalahoops said, it's for people who worked hard, participated and graduated, and really feel like people know if they should post or not

LoveInDC

Update to remove "ask the grads" Feelings about adding this to future grad threads? Or should it live like @LuND's masterpiece that comes out as needed?

doula-mama

@LoveInDC I kinda like the idea of adding it to the grad thread - I feel like it's harder to ignore than just a line saying 'if you were a regular member'... although regardless, we know there will always be the odd person who just can't help it, but maybe this will cut back on them!

lulu1180

I agree with @Sailing_Mama that I think it should be added to the grad thread. Do you want to start a separate thread or poll asking about the change @LoveInDC?  That might get more attention that it being in the randoms

SoldiersMom

I also vote Add to grad thread.

LoveInDC

@lulu1180 @Sailing_Mama starting a poll thread now

mschanandlerbong1214

I'm definitely a newbie here so here's my perspective. While I'd be super excited to get a bfp so soon and I'd love to share my news I will just ghost out of here. I'll miss you all and your humor, support and love but I'd just disappear. 

AlohaKumu

I'm so sad right now. My wedding dress had a small stain on it and I put it next to the laundry area so I could try to treat it today. My husband decided that he was going to be helpful and washed the dress (which is fine for the material), but then he put it in the dryer. I now have a Barbie doll-sized wedding dress I know it's just a dress and that our wedding is long-gone, but I'm so sad that I'll never be able to put it on again. He feels really badly about it and I'm trying not to be mad at him because I know he just wanted to be helpful, but my heart is a little broken.

Augusta108

@AlohaKumu, oh no!!! It's rough when you know your spouse meant well but their good intentions had such bad results! 

lulu1180

I'm sorry about your wedding dress @AlohaKumu!  

breezybee

Oh how sad @AlohaKumu I'm so sorry!

pebbledam

@AlohaKumu - So sorry about your dress! I would be a little heart broken too!

Cricket648

@AlohaKumu - That's so sad! I'm sorry about your dress!

jsnakehole

I agree with what @tamalahoops said, and I love the chart. That said, I'm not sure where I fit in. Since I'm benched, I don't post in the dailies, but because I'm not medically benched I don't feel comfortable posting in the benched weekly thread. However, I've been on TB for four months now and have invested in everyone's story, and participate in other threads fairly frequently, so part of me feels like I should be able to post my BFP if and when it happens. I guess it will depend on when it happens and the vibe of the board at that moment.

LoveInDC

@jsnakehole There's a whole lotta gray. But as I mentioned on the poll thread, you won't be benched when you get your BFP (obviously) so there's opportunity for you to post then. And part of the chart is that you go off what most applies to you. As a frequent poster on numerous threads for 4+ months, I think that would give you the green light over not being in WTO for that whole time. But as you said, it's something to feel out in the moment. Rest assured, there are many TTGP lurkers who will PM someone if they leave without a proper goodbye that we think is deserved

@AlohaKumu That story made me so sad Hugs

MJDsquared

@jsnakehole I would personally love to see your grad post one day! You're very active and I think yours is a unique situation.

jsnakehole

@LoveInDC and @MJDsquared thanks for that. As I said, I'm going to feel things out when the time comes. Hopefully, it'll be an entirely new crowd since all of y'all will have moved on to your BMBs by the time my husband gets back. And I'll be sitting around here as the old person talking about how things were, like Grandpa Simpson.

lulu1180

@jsnakehole IMO I wouldn't have a problem with you posting in the grad thread.  You're in a unique situation and have been an active member in the threads that you can be until you are able to actively TTC again.  Also, just because you are not benched for medical reasons doesn't mean you can't post in the benched thread.  It is for those who started to TTC and had to stop for reasons beyond their control.  I think you fit the description perfectly. Just my two cents on the whole situation 

breezybee

@jsnakehole I would be pissed if you DIDN'T post your BFP!

mschanandlerbong1214

@AlohaKumu my heart just sank for you. That's so sad!

mschanandlerbong1214

@jsnakehole I gotta agree with the others. Your grad post is one I'm looking forward to reading!

MJDsquared

I poured red wine with dinner, and then DH wanted slurpees. I saved my wine so I could drive and get them. So I'm over here with a slurpee on one side and a glass of wine on the other. The very definition of class.

msmeeseeks

MJDsquared said:

I poured red wine with dinner, and then DH wanted slurpees. I saved my wine so I could drive and get them. So I'm over here with a slurpee on one side and a glass of wine on the other. The very definition of class.

I just got here like 3 seconds ago, but I felt compelled to comment. You are a national treasure, @MJDsquared. Enjoy all of your beverages!

pebbledam

@jsnakehole - Girl! You are an active member here! And I echo what @lulu1180 said about you being able to post on the benched thread! Also, I hope you get KTFU on your first month back to actively TTC and you better post it because we will all come out of the woodworks to congratulate you. 

Eta spelling matters

jsnakehole

MJDsquared said:

I poured red wine with dinner, and then DH wanted slurpees. I saved my wine so I could drive and get them. So I'm over here with a slurpee on one side and a glass of wine on the other. The very definition of class.

When we were in college, my best friend and I would blend wine (albeit, Franzia) with pink lemonade Crystal Light and ice cubes. Boom- wine slurpee. 

KariAnn323

@jsnakehole Mmm wine slurpees!

msmeeseeks

@jsnakehole - That sounds amazing! I am a firm believer that there is a time and a place for all alcohol. In college I had a group of friends that would get a box of Franzia to play Wine Bag. Your slurpee recipe is a far better (and probably less dangerous?) use for Franzia.

jenotontx

msmeeseeks said:

@jsnakehole - That sounds amazing! I am a firm believer that there is a time and a place for all alcohol. In college I had a group of friends that would get a box of Franzia to play Wine Bag. Your slurpee recipe is a far better (and probably less dangerous?) use for Franzia.

Slap the bag!? Ohh college   How I miss carrying around a bag of Franzia. Lmao. 

ETA-

zwink1

@MJDsquared I see nothing wrong with wine and slurpees, lol.

@msmeeseeks, omgsh, my H would love your username... He thinks R&M is great.

@jsnakehole, that is some creativity! I have a mix that you can add to a bottle of wine to make wine slushes and it is fantastic.

jsnakehole

@msmeeseeks DH and I are huge Rick and Morty fans. We just ordered the card game for the house. And I might be ordering him a Mr. Poopybutthole body pillow. So, in short, I love your username and I hope existence is not pain.

jenotontx

Why is the drive by who wants to wait another 2-3 years before getting KU now posting in the pet thread? 

msmeeseeks

@JJMNO1616 - Yes, Slap the Bag! You must be a veteran of the sport!

@zwink1, @jsnakehole  - My H is pretty much obsessed with Rick and Morty. About once a week he would check for season 3. I kept telling him that if it were available, the internet would tell us! Then April Fools Day happened, and I'm pretty sure his exact words were "OMG SEASON THREE RICK AND MORTY! THIS IS NOT A DRILL. RICK AND MORTYYYYYY!"