Fertility treatment and work

rayoflight80

*TW* mc

Here's something I've been wrestling with: DH and I have been trying to have a baby for years. During that time I was pregnant and had a mc while I was at my most recent job. I stayed in that job for longer than I would have wanted to because I didn't want to start a new job and get pregnant right away (oh, how idealistic I was! I could have been in a different job for years now if I'd switched jobs back then). 

About 8 months ago, I got laid off. We were waiting on IVF for several reasons and did our one and only round in Jan/Feb a couple months ago (it didn't work due to DH's azoospermia). All the while I've been out looking for a job and interviewing. To be honest, we really need the money. 

Recently I've been interviewing with one company in particular and I feel like they're ready to offer me something next week. I also did my first IUI today with good chances of success (we've gone with donor sperm).

I'm feeling pretty anxious about taking a new (big) job and getting pregnant the same week (hopefully). Does anyone have any experience taking a new job while being newly pregnant? I am prob being overly hopeful that this treatment has worked but I'm also scared that the new employer will hate me when I've been there 3 months, have taken a bunch of time for doctor's appointments, and then reveal I'm pregnant. 

cashewchicken

Go for the job, and see what happens.  I don't think you should hold back just because you may be pregnant (I hope you are!).  People take time off work for reasons other than pregnancy, and some people may just up and leave less than a year after getting a job.  I feel like it's all a risk employers take and as long as you work hard to demonstrate that you can be a valuable employee, no employer will hate you.  We recently hired someone this year and she was already a couple of months into her pregnancy (we didn't know at the time of hire) but we developed a plan and it's fine.  

By the way, I'm in a similar situation you were in a few years ago.  I think I've stayed at my job far longer than I should have.  At the time I started TTC (3 years ago), my workplace was stable, and it was a fun place to be.  After going through a management change, things took turn for the worse.  So many employees have left and the future looks a bit grim.  I know I should look for a job but I'm in the middle of IVF now and am hesitant to switch.  My current workplace is super flexible so going to all the appointments and taking some time off for ER hasn't been an issue for me.  I'm just hoping that everything will workout and that I'm pregnant by this summer, but I don't now...

rayoflight80

Thanks for the advice @cashewchicken You're right! I can still show value in the first 8 months in a role. 

As for your situation, I totally understand where you're coming from. Having flexibility for appointments is really valuable. I think my mistake was being miserable in the job (maybe you're not that far gone). I think IVF is all encompassing anyway, so I'd wait a few weeks until finishing that before putting energy towards looking for something new anyway.