Why I'm Rolling My Eyes at My SO 4/7

DuchessOfCambridge

Changing the title of this a little bit, I don't ever refer to DH as an a-hole because he's not, and it makes me not want to participate in this thread. 

jess0211

@DuchessOfCambridge love it! Thanks for changing it up. Every time I mention a pregnancy symptom, such as my current shortness of breath, DH says, "Yea I have beem having that too, I think I am getting sick" and he's serious. But he did but m breakfast at work this morning so I guess I won't eye roll too hard 

DuchessOfCambridge

@jess0211 lol at your DH's pregnancy symptoms! I had a dream that DH surprised me with tickets to Disney and I was sad when I woke up and it wasn't true. I told DH and he just said "I'm sorry".  No, DH, get the hint and take me to Disney!

sarahunderthesea

DD brought home the stomach flu from daycare so I stayed home with her yesterday and ended up catching it myself. So I am sick and she is sick. H comes home from work and I decide to go to bed early. Not even 15 min later he drops DD in bed with me "because she wants mommy". Thanks for helping. This morning DD and I are feeling a bit better and H has caught it and he tells me "you don't understand how bad this (stomach flu) is to me". Umm...yes I do, I just did it 9 weeks pregnant, so morning sickness/nausea compounded on top of the symptoms, plus RLP, and the worry about the well being of the baby, while taking care of a sick toddler.  Tell me how bad you have it H.

hedgepig

@DuchessOfCambridge Thanks for changing the name! I don't have anything to add right now, but I definitely was less likely to post in the other one as I (almost) never consider my H an asshole. But, I HAVE been known to roll my eyes a time or two

megankth

@sarahunderthesea I'm rolling my eyes with you and about every man when they get sick. Just went through this same scenario. Why do they act like such babies when they're sick? I'll never get it.

MKMandeville

Last week we found out DH may be losing his job (he is our sole source of income). He had a meeting with HR yesterday and it turns out he isn't losing his job but they may be changing some of his responsibilities. He was relieved after his meeting yesterday and seemed to be in a better mood but this morning he was just negative again saying he will never find another job and he will be stuck there in that entry level position the rest of his life. I just want to roll my eyes and tell him to be thankful he still has a job to go to while he searches for another one. 

av2323

I've caught DS's stomach virus.  Instead of being sympathetic to my plight my husband is more concerned that he is next on the list.

baker1jm2

My husband thinks I over exaggerate pregnancy symptoms. He has very little sympathy.  I remind him frequently of the time a couple of months ago when he was "dying" of a sore throat so he had to go to the after hours clinic (huge bill) they literally told him he's fine and to take a Tylenol.  He then went to the store and spent $70..yes $70..on cold remedies, oils, throat lozenges etc. I almost lost my mind

DuchessOfCambridge

@jess0211 @lahansen glad you like the name change! I just wasn't comfortable participating in the other one, my DH is not an a-hole, he is really really sweet to me all the time, and I'm sure every lady here agrees about her SO

emucoleman

I appreciate the name change too. My husband makes me roll my eyes occasionally but he is always wonderful and lovable! 

My DH can't cook at all, except for grilled cheese sandwiches, waffles, and chocolate chip cookies (umm yeah, he figured out how to make chocolate chip cookies, can't he follow another recipe??). It's never been an issue because I love to cook, but now that I'm sick with MS I don't want to cook...and I just have to, because we're on a budget and we can't go out every night. He also hasn't helped with the dishes, or to clean up the kitchen, or anything. A few days ago I asked him kindly to put his dirty dishes in the dishwasher once he's done with them. Has he done it? No. 

jka427

Mine flipped out at me for accidentally changing our cable subscription to cost 10$ more a month. #notanemergency

JAGClark

@baker1jm2 DHs are clearly related! 

DH always asks if I think I've caught something when I throw up from the nausea. And then proceeds to tell me that I could be getting sick because I never had nausea with DS. You know... because all pregnancies are carbon copies of the previous one!    

When I was pg with DS, DH was positive I exaggerated all my symptoms, and didn't believe I was put on modified bed rest. I'm expecting the same thing this time. 

elsieisamoocow

I had a major eye roll at DH on Wednesday night. He has a habit of falling asleep on the couch about a half hour after we eat dinner. Normally, I then watch a few shows and wake him up when it's time to go to bed. But on Wednesday he was working an opening night of a show and didn't get home until probably 11:30 so I went to bed at 10. I woke up when he got home, and he said he was going to eat his food in the living room and then come to bed. Well I woke up at 5:56am and he wasn't in bed, and hadn't been in bed. Went to the living room and he was passed out on the couch under a freaking blanket! He freaked when I told him it was almost 6am, and then he came to bed for a whole half hour before waking up for work. Silly, silly man.

bklynchica

BF is trying to lose his little belly and is going through a smoothie phase. He bought some fancy blender and makes these smoothies at 9pm for the next morning and it is SO LOUD. I worry our neighbors will think we're doing late night construction. And then every time there is something wrong with the smoothie. Today it's too thick. The guy is just incapable of following a recipe and I wonder if this is all gearing up to try to get me to make them for him.

dragonfly87-2

I am rolling my eyes at DH because he has a low threshold for functioning when sick or has a headache.

Last night, we both worked about 12 hours (parent teacher conferences--yay) and were exhausted when we got home. I was feeling awful due to my now nightly nausea bouts, but I still had to finish a mailing of invites to an event. So I was sitting on the floor putting stamps on 200 invitations (our Development Director is on maternity leave--so I am picking up her normal tasks) and it was about 9pm. DH came in and said he had a headache and was tired, but we needed to still clean up the living room/kitchen since his family is arriving in town this afternoon. 

Despite me feeling like crap and still working, I sucked it up, powered through the invitations and then started cleaning up the kitchen. DH laid in bed moaning about his headache and being tired. He finally started doing dishes about 30 minutes later, but with a major attitude. I was so irritated with him.

I feel like man colds, headaches and fevers are so much more dramatic when he gets them...

rms924

Let me preface this by saying that DH is honestly the sweetest man. But he doesn't believe that pregnancy symptoms are "that bad." He says that I am particularly sensitive to nausea and that it's prob not that bad and wouldn't the gym help my nausea. No dear man, because if walking from our garage to the house makes me more nauseous, I do not think the stair master is the answer to feeling better.

Guess who just called me to say that he's coming home early potentially because he ate vitamins on an empty stomach and feels so nauseous? Oh yea. Sweet, sweet justice. 

theearlymajority

I love the theme here of DHs having a low threshold for sickness/ailments. It's endearingly annoying. @baker1jm2 I was cracking up at your story. 

cabbeeby-2

I feel like the lucky one in this thread! When my DH was little his mom yelled at him for being "inconsiderate" because she dragged him on an outing while sick and he threw up. He's still mad about it and very conscientious about taking other people seriously when they feel ill.

I had an eye roll comment but now after writing that I don't remember it. That's a rant all on its own! I can't remember anything. This morning I couldn't remember the name of the company I have worked at for the last 4 years... 

emucoleman

@cabbeeby-2 Today I forgot a completely normal word! Very weird. Of course now I can't even remember what the word was. 
It kind of makes me happy how harmless this thread is. Our SOs can be wusses, but we love them. Haha. I think we'll all be happy to share how our SOs are awesome tomorrow.  

DuchessOfCambridge

 @emucoleman agreed, I don't want to bash DH and we don't call each other names, the a-hole thread was a bit disrespectful for my taste. I just want to poke fun at him like when dream DH takes me to Disney and real DH doesn't DH's are awesome!

cmessamore

I agree my DH is awesome, but he had me rolling my eyes last night!! I had a crazy day with all the kids, a doctors appointment for one, dentist for another, cub scouts for one, football for the other, and had to squeeze in dinner in between. When my husband got home from work, I pulled him aside and said "I know you just got home, but I'm exhausted and nauseated, while the kids are unwinding from the day, can I just go lay down for 20 mins." He said "of course, go rest!" So I did. And in that 15 mins of me trying to enjoy silence, he came in 6 TIMES!! To ask me silly questions "like, where are more of the baby's diapers." (In his closet where I hoard boxes of them and he knows this.) "J____ says he has pajama day at school tomorrow." (Yes, I know-and you would like me to do what about it now??). Etc....   I eventually just got up and did it all myself because it's easier, I think that's his plan sometimes! Lol

zigzag8412

Prefacing with DH being the most wonderful man on the face of the earth and SO attentive and helpful through everything so far, but on the same note as cmessamore, I had to eye role Wednesday when I really wasn't feeling well and he told me to skip church choir practice and he would just take DD and himself to church so I could have the house to myself but then immediately followed the comment with "but I have to be there early and won't have time to feed us."  I responded with "Well, when I had to pick her up and be there early I just grabbed fast food after picking her up from daycare and we ate it on the way to church."  (Not ideal, but also rare- it's happened maybe three times in six months) I heard the lightbulb click over the phone and he goes "Ok, I think I can do that!"    In the totally adorable way (no disrespect intended), men would not have survived existence this long without us, ladies!

cmessamore

@zigzag8412 I ask my DH all the time how he survived before me! Said it to him today actually when he was getting ready for a dance that he's going to with his 6 year old tonight. He couldn't find his dress shoes or belt (both in the bedroom closet where they belong) and then had to ask if should wear white or black socks with his black dress pants and black shoes. Ugh...I love him so much, but sometimes he is absolutely another one of my children! 

elsieisamoocow

@cmessamore it's so funny, DH used to be a really stylish dresser and had all of these fancy designer suits and shoes and everything. Somehow 6 years of marriage changed that, and now he needs to ask me every morning if his outfit matches

jhsoontobe3

I love my DH to death but he's just a jerk when he gets woke up. Yesterday he promised that he would get up with DD this AM for once (we wake up at 6 and he sleeps until 10 or 11!) I woke him up at 6 when she started crying and he says, "ugh I just can't." And rolled back over and went back to sleep. Ugh! Major eye roll. I stomped around until he finally got up and told me to go back to bed. 

NYTino24

I told him I was exhausted and couldn't wait to go to sleep. Then he acted like I couldn't possibly know what tired felt like since he works 24 hours shifts twice a week.

Also, yesterday I found a string in my salad at the restaurant. He told me it was a celery strong and not only did I point out that there wasn't any celery in the salad, but it also wouldn't break. He refused to let me send it back and switched with me. Gross!

car1a

My DH is the exact same way when he's sick - it's very exaggerated! But a few months back he had a man-moment breakthrough. I was very sick right before the holidays, and we were hosting family for 4 nights. I didn't decorate quite as much as I would've liked, but all went well and I cooked all weekend (was feeling better but still couldn't taste anything which was interesting). A month goes by and DH gets sick and was a lounge-y mess all week. One night out of the blue he said "I can't believe how terrible I feel. I can't believe you cooked Christmas dinner feeling this terrible. I'm sorry". Frankly it was never a big deal to me and I wouldn't have had it another way (love to cook!) But I don't know if we honestly just don't feel as sick as they do, or if we just suck it up, but it's probably the latter and it was a nice acknowledgment of how awesome women are!

vppittman

DD recently decided she would like to go down our stairs by herself by "sitting and scooting" while I hold her hand. I was holding her hand this morning while she was going down and she pulled really hard and got lose. The pulling momentum sent her on a small tumble forward down two steps. She was scared and cried for two seconds, but wasn't hurt at all. DH proceeds to yell at me for not being careful enough. He clearly doesn't understand mom guilt. I was already beating myself up before her short two stair two second tumble even ended. 

Tourmalily

I'm rolling my eyes at my husband bc he got me sick and I'm pregnant yet he's acting like he's dying and I'm still going about my routine as best as I'm able. Come on, dude. You're not sick, you just stayed up until 1am and that's why you're so tired! You aren't fooling me!

NYTino24

My boobs have pretty much almost doubled in size at this point (about 8 weeks) and DH was all over me last night. Glad you love them, buddy... but I want to sleep!