TWT 4/4

wyomama0427

I can't remember who usually starts this thread... but I have to share my TW story from yesterday!!

msashley2010-2

I'm anxiously awaiting this story @wyomama0427 lol

wyomama0427

My TW nomination goes out to some lady I don't even know... I was going to the grocery store to get some Fritos and lettuce for a taco bake for dinner (which turned out delicious by the way!) and it was snowing like crazy! So I pull into the parking lot and a car pulls in right behind me. There's one spot left in the front row... this is a very small parking lot.. like three rows total.. so I'm about to pull into the spot up front and this lady who was behind me whips in front of me and almost hits me to beat me to the spot! WHILE MAKING EYE CONTACT WITH ME. So in my pregnancy rage I grab my phone, and shoot off a text to DH asking why people are such dicks. I'm in the store and DH still hasn't texted back... I look and I sent the text... TO MY MIL. It was horrible and embarrassing. Thank goodness she's a good sport and said that was an extremely loaded and rhetorical question with an lol at the end. But still. Horribly embarrassed. Thanks random lady. 

Carebella

OMG @wyomama0427, that woman needs some karma to come kick her butt. Also, thank heavens for your MIL being a good sport! Did you end up explaining what happened to her?

wyomama0427

@Carebella Agreed, she almost smashed my new car (new to me....) just to get a few steps closer to the store. Sigh. I told my MIL what happened and she said "Ugh people are assholes" and then asked when we'll know the sex of our little one lol. She is pretty cool but she still gets on DH about cussing... so I can only imagine how she cringed reading the word "dicks" lol! 

jillibean0871

@wyomama0427 that would have been the perfect opportunity to unbutton your jacket and stick your bump out as far as you could force it, sound winded and waddle behind that woman in the grocery store.... I've done this, in hopes that they forget what they were in such a hurry for bc they realized they were an idiot.  Also kudos to MIL for being a good sport!

jillibean0871

My TW nomination goes out to my BIL who stated that I got pregnant to SPITE them! There is also a throat punch coming his way as soon as I'm not pregnant. BTW they've been upset since day one bc they are also pregnant and due three months before us and we did not consult with them as to when we were getting pregnant... people are just @ssholes! 

wyomama0427

@jillibean0871 oh my gosh that made me laugh so hard! Now I wish so bad that I had done that, but I was wearing a hoodie... if I'd had DS with me I probably would have said something to her! 

wyomama0427

jillibean0871 said:

My TW nomination goes out to my BIL who stated that I got pregnant to SPITE them! There is also a throat punch coming his way as soon as I'm not pregnant. BTW they've been upset since day one bc they are also pregnant and due three months before us and we did not consult with them as to when we were getting pregnant... people are just @ssholes! 

WOW this sounds like a huge jealousy problem for him... sounds like he wanted the spotlight all to themselves. That's very sad. TW nomination accepted and presented!! 

beccam1230

@wyomama0427 what a huge bitch!! I can't stand people like that, it's like she had to go out of her way to be nasty. But karma is also a bitch  so she'll get hers. Also, I think we got your snow, haha! We have at least 6 inches so far and it's still snowing!

beccam1230

@jillibean0871 Hahaha wow.. people are ridiculous!! But honestly, how dare you not consult everyone about your reproductive decisions?! Shame!! 

jillibean0871

@wyomama0427 and @beccam1230 snow stinks! Hopefully it is gone soon for you ladies! 

@wyomama0427 it is jealousy they flat out said that none of the pregnancies are special bc they are overwhelmed by the fact others are pregnant at the same time.  I flat out said their emotional issues are not my burden to carry.  It's interesting up in here for sure!

Swazzle

@wyomama0427 Oh geeze! I can't stand rude and inconsiderate people. I can't believe she made eye contact with you WHILE stealing your parking spot. 

@jillibean0871 Wow who knew you were supposed to be scheduling your pregancy around someone else's

HollyGolightly09

@wyomama0427  I can't get past the "snowing like crazy" part of your story. It's April!!

HollyGolightly09

jillibean0871 said:

My TW nomination goes out to my BIL who stated that I got pregnant to SPITE them! There is also a throat punch coming his way as soon as I'm not pregnant. BTW they've been upset since day one bc they are also pregnant and due three months before us and we did not consult with them as to when we were getting pregnant... people are just @ssholes

stuck in the box
what a jerk! I feel like I would be really excited if someone close to me were to get pregnant now! 

 

beccam1230

@jillibean0871 do you think they realize that it's impossible to be pregnant while nobody else is?! It really seems like a petty problem for them! My cousin and several friends are all pregnant at the same time I am, but it certainly doesn't make anything less special for me and my family! But your answer was actually really good, you're right- it's definitely not your problem! Life is too short to be upset about everything.

wyomama0427

HollyGolightly09 said:

@wyomama0427  I can't get past the "snowing like crazy" part of your story. It's April!!

It won't stop until June probably lol. A few years ago it snowed in Wyoming in July! 

@Swazzle that's the part that made me ragey, she knew exactly what she was doing! 

@jillibean0871 it is so sad that they are so self centered that they think that neither pregnancy is special. Every pregnancy is special! And if they weren't being children about it they would see that your babies could grow up best friends! They are purposely choosing to see it this way and they're taking the joy away from themselves! Sad!!!

msashley2010-2

@wyomama0427 That other vehicle was definitely a TW. I swear I don't get why people whip around these parking lots like t is the freaking Daytona 500. 

But lmao at your MIL text!! That is absolutely hilarious. 

msashley2010-2

@jillibean0871 OMG what kind of self centered BS is THAT?!?! How DARE you create a beautiful precious human being that will be so close in age to its cousin that they will likely be great friends and create tons of wonderful childhood memories with each other. The audacity!!! 

But for real, they are being whinebags and need to grow TF up. 

cmar1006

My TW this week is something that really bothers me and it's not towards one particular person, but anyone that does this...

Whenever I tell someone "I am pregnant with twins" their instant response is "oh, do twins run in your family?"

No. No they do not. DH and I struggled for a year and half to get pregnant and had to go through fertility treatments to get pregnant. Thanks for being asking. 

And on that note.. in the year and half that we were trying to get pregnant after having a miscarriage, all the people that were nosy enough to ask us when we would have another child. 

I'm just over it.

cmar1006

@wyomama0427 sorry people are such dicks. But hilarious about the text. I can't tell you how many times I've done that. 

@jillybean800 WTF. Seriously. How entitled is your BIL? I have so many opinions about this, but I'll just leave it at that. Totally f-ed up.  

mrs_tacos

I nominate my friend "Beth." We are pretty good friends with Beth and her H, who we haven't seen since in several months because of hectic schedules. We ran into them last night at the bar where we watched the basketball game, and were really excited to share our pregnancy news. They did all the usual congratulations stuff, and then about 15 minutes later- once we'd moved on to other topics, Beth followed me to the bathroom. Once in there, she gets a concerned look in my face, and asks me if DH and I are doing ok and if our marriage is strong enough to survive the changes of a baby, "because she knows we were really struggling around Christmas time." Um, excuse me, what?! 1: Even if that were true, how rude! And 2: I genuinely have no idea what she's talking about. DH and I are amazing, and have been for awhile. I can't even remember the last time we had more than a minor disagreement. In fact, we made this baby at Christmas time because we couldn't keep our hands off each other even in a house full of too-many relatives. I basically told her as much, and asked her what she thought she knew about us at Christmas, and where she heard it. She clamed up, and said she "didn't want to cause problems with anyone." It was so weird, and I've never known her to be gossipy before. Plus, she's fifty, it's not like she's some young girl who doesn't know better! She dropped it, but kept giving me concerned eyes, and meaningfully squeezed my hand when they left and told me to call her if I need anything. I really feel like she expects me to call with some tearful confession so she can run back to whoever and tell them how my life is falling apart. And now I want to know what all these bitches have been saying about my marriage! We only know a limited number of the same people, so it shouldn't take long to sniff out the gossip. 

cmar1006

@mrs_tacos ugh! I feel like people just need to mind their own effing business. I am so sorry that something so ridiculous soured your exciting news to them. Man.. hopefully you can rise above the situation and your actions will be enough proof that everything is great!

jillibean0871

Oh ladies, thank you all for your support and kind words.  I've actually spent the last 4 months almost, thinking maybe we were wrong and should have just waited until their baby was born.  I was worried it would be a longer journey to conceive bc I'm AMA and unltimately things happened quickly. I do sympathize with their desire to have all the attention but I'm not playing baby games and honestly to say I got pregnant out of spite is just so far fetched! 

ColoradoHiker

@jillibean0871  Haha, if my fSIL had gone full term (niece is fine, just was born very very early), we would have found out we were pregnant right when she gave birth.  She's such a bitch, I totally would have told everyone immediately just to deflate her ego.  Maybe that makes me a TW, but she's genuinely so terrible to my entire family that I don't feel guilty for knowing I would have done it.  

wyomama0427

@cmar1006 Ugh I hate when people poke their nose into your reproductive business like that. I'm sorry people are so nosy!! 

@mrs_tacos WOW that's freakin ridiculous! I'd be pretty pissed too.... I'd want to know who was spreading things... I'd probably give each of my friends a false snippet of gossip, give it a few days or weeks or so, then contact the friend again to see if I could sniff out the leak. That's not okay at all. 

mrsmarygs

@mrs_tacos Ugh, that's so wrong. She still thinks you're having problems after you told her that you made a baby at Christmas?! I hope you can find the source of this gossip.

angeladowns1

I'm definitely the twatwaffle.

I've lost babies before, and I almost lost this one. I've been really annoyed at "gender disappointment" threads... and yet I freaking cried for a minute when I found out yesterday that I'm having another boy. It was a totally unexpected reaction and I feel like the worst person in the universe. It's not at all that this baby is unwanted or unloved, more just that I've always, always pictured having a daughter, and this was supposed to be our last.

Plus two of my co workers are pregnant with girls, and watching all the adorable stuff they've gotten or made subconsciously made me so hopeful that I'd get that too.

and as terrible as it sounds, I feel like all the really fun stuff that happens in a pregnancy is either off the table or has a big damper on it. Like I feel no need to go out and buy anything for the baby, cause I have mountains of boy stuff already. And I feel guilty having another baby shower, because everyone I know just gave me that mountain of boy stuff 3 years ago. I'm honestly even dreading announcing the gender at our family get together on Sunday, because everyone we know basically has expressed wanting and hoping that it's a girl. I feel like somehow I let people down? It sounds absurd, but I can't shake it.

so yeah, I'm a twatwaffle.

msashley2010-2

@cmar1006 I think that's pretty rude of them to poke around your business like that. I don't think they should try to discuss that information with you unless you offer it up first. 

@mrs_tacos omg that is so crazy. If someone was spreading rumors about your marriage I would most definitely want to know who it was. I think some things people blow up to be way more than they are. Sometimes I will vent about my SO, but that doesn't mean our relationship is "struggling." It means we are two different people that don't always agree on everything 100% of the time. 

mrs_tacos

@cmar1006 The nosey people kill me, why can't they just be happy for you and move on? I very much relate to your frustrations. We got a lot of people before this pregnancy asking if we would ever have kids, because we've been married a decade without them. In the last year, I started looking them right in the eye and telling them we've lost two babies and struggle with infertility issues. It made most people really uncomfortable, but that's what you get when you pry. Now people ask if this baby was planned because they just assumed we didn't want kids, since we've been married so long without them. Damned if we do and damned if we don't. 

@msashley2010-2 Here's the thing- I don't vent about DH to these women ever. If I really needn't to talk something through I'll call one of my two best friends- who none of these people know- orIbtalk to my therapist, but I don't really vent to anyone else. It's just a respect thing to me. DH is a vault, I don't think he's ever complained or vented about me to a friend, so I try to give him that same curtesy (but I'm a woman who needs to talk through things, thus my two friends). So whatever this stems from, it's not from either of us. And like I said, our mutual friend group is small. It can only be from four or five people. It really bugs me too, because I know some serious dirt on these women, and I've never told a soul. 

mercury94

Everyone else seems to have worse TWs than me. Nosy people suck and need to stop asking us questions about our reproductive choices, etc. Also, @angeladowns1 you are not a TW. It's normal to react that way when you expect one thing and something else happens. Doesn't mean that you will love your son any less. 

My TW today is defensive driving. I have to take it every three years for work. It takes all day and it's so exhausting. There was a video that talked about what happens when a baby isn't properly strapped in the car seat. I'm just too pregnant to hear that sort of stuff. Plus, I will be MIA for the rest of the day finishing the class. Only on right now because of lunch break. 

beccam1230

@angeladowns1 you're absolutely not a tw. One thing I've discovered over this pregnancy and my last, is sometimes you react differently than you think you will to things, and you usually can't help it! You may not have reacted the way you expected to at the news of your sweet boy, but that definitely doesn't mean you'll love him any less than you will a girl. We recently found out we are having our second boy too! I was surprised at how I reacted too.. but I was incredibly excited. I was worried that I might be disappointed with all the crap I was getting about a girl from my sister, but I wasn't. However... this was also supposed to be our last. Honestly, I went to the store and saw all these adorable little girl clothes and it made me a little sad. Not sad that I'm having another boy, but that I might not actually have a daughter ever. Come to find out, DH felt the same. But honestly, that faded after a few days and now.. I'm happy about the little boy without any thought of a little girl. It's something you just have to get through, and you will! There are so many wonderful things about having two boys!

labby18

@mrs_tacos how strange! i hate nosy beyotches who like drama. Hope you figure that all out, or just let it go to the birdies. 
@angeladowns1 you are not a TW. I have my anatomy scan in a few weeks and I am honestly afraid of how I am going to react either way. I don't really have a preference, but I am nervous.

My TW is my husband. He just does not know how to stick to a damn budget, and when he blows the budget he acts shocked and that somehow i fudged the numbers...when i constantly have to remind him of our budget and how we shouldn't do x because y and z. He just rubbed me the wrong way this morning with a text that I am sure I read wrong, but UGH. 

sarahufl

My TW is my parents and ILs. DD turned 1 yesterday (sniff! sniff!) and we said very specifically no gifts. So who showed up to my house yesterday with tons of shit? The parents. Five or six ugly outfits that DD will never wear, a giant rocking horse thing that looks like a dragonfly and plays music and a ton of kitchen stuff for her toy kitchen. Why do people feel the need to dump a ton of gifts in our house ESPECIALLY after being told not to?

MrsJessS

Nominating my boss. Again. This is the same one that accused me of not liking him because "I remind you of your daddy." 
So today I am informed that my salary isn't getting cut 20% at the end of the month and to nearly half what it is now by the end of July. But working the same hours. I work in life's insurance and I am waiting for my license to be approved by the state so they feel like I need "motivation" to sell and earn commissions. 

The really frustrating ting part is that this was NOT disclosed when I took the job and I turned down another opportunity to take this job. Which I obviously regret. 

awildrose

To the parent of my 12 year old student who is making excuses as to why his son's paper is late (parent's fault, they forgot to remind him and make sure it was done, etc etc) and is getting snappy with me via e-mail when I told him that I would take his son's paper late with a point deduction, but ultimately it's the son/student's responsibility to turn in the work on time that he knew he was missing. We worked on it for 6 DAYS in class before I sent it home because he still hadn't finished it. (Most students finished it in 5 days, by the way.) 

Sigh. 

Souptin

Hi girls, my coworker told me I look 'SO huge today!". So that was neat.

She gets my TW award.

beccam1230

@Souptin haha.. do people think this is a compliment?! What are they thinking when things like this come out of their mouths? Not cool.

mrs_tacos

@MrsJessS Wow, that really sucks!

I think this is more of a WTF?! but it just happened and I'm in shock, so I'm posting this here. I just got a Facebook message from a college friend I have not really kept up with asking if DH and I would contribute to his gofundme campaign to buy an engagement ring for his girlfriend and take her on a celebratory vacation (not their honeymoon, just a vacation). He basically said that he "knows" we have money, and he has been chronically underemployed for years now, and he needs our help to give his girlfriend what she deserves. He also said something about how God wants us to help the less fortunate.

Um, wtf?!? I have never discussed finances with this man ever, so he has no idea what our situation is like, but even if we were millionaires (we are far from it), how tacky is it to message someone and ask them to help pay for a better ring and a vacation?! I also think that's hardly what the Bible is talking about when it says to help the needy. You are trying to buy a diamond not survive another day, dude. I'm just dumbfounded. 

wyomama0427

Souptin said:

Hi girls, my coworker told me I look 'SO huge today!". So that was neat.

She gets my TW award.

mrsmarygs

@mrs_tacos Do people like that have no shame? I mean, what's he going to do when he proposes. "Here, don't you like this ring? A bunch of my friends and people I don't really know helped pay for it." Are they going to do a gofundme for their house too? Ugh, people like that drive me up the wall. And all the stupid gofundme pages too.