weight gain

carawasa

I don't think this has been discussed yet, but how much weight have you guys gained and how far along are you? I have an OB appointment today and I want to know how I compare with others.

I'm 15 weeks and gained about 7-8lbs. I'm plus size, though, so im sure this will be an issue. Oh well, here's to next month! 

Becky012016

My gain or lack of has no baring on yours. Every body and every pregnancy is different. Make healthy food choices, get some exercise, and your body will take care of the rest. 

mrsmarygs

First of all, since I've seen this type of thread blow up on other boards, let's not compare ourselves with other people. We all started at different weights, and we all gain differently based on body types and many other factors. I love all you ladies, and I am confident we can have a great encouraging conversation about what can be a touchy subject to some.

(Eta because this came out somewhat condescending. I just don't want anyone's feelings to get hurt.)

I'm 15w4d, and I've gained about 3-4 pounds. I'm a little worried about how fast those pounds have come on, because I just started gaining weight about 2 weeks ago. So I'm hoping the trend doesn't continue.

carawasa

Oh god I don't know how this could blow up, lol. Everyone is different, I'm just wondering what others have gained. 

cmar1006

I am 14 weeks today with twins. I started out about 10-15 lbs over my ideal weight. I have had incredibly terrible morning sickness with many food aversions so I haven't eaten a lot. I've maintained my pre-pregnancy weight, although the weight is definitely being redistributed. 

With DD in my first trimester I lost 10 lbs. So with these two I am just glad I haven't lost weight. 

Each pregnancy is different. Don't be too hard on yourself. 

kelseyrayay

With my first pregnancy I gained 6-7 lbs in the first 4 months. This baby I haven't gained anything. Like others have said no one should feel bad about anything they have gained. Every pregnancy is different. 

HollyGolightly09

I have no idea, to be honest with you. I lost weight between my 1st and 2nd appointments, but they didn't mention it either way at my last one. My clothes still fit, just a little differently, so whatever I've gained or lost can't have been too much. 

msashley2010-2

I gained five pounds total at my last appointment where I was 17 weeks. However, I have also been stuffing my face and not exercising, which is of course not healthy. I would really like to make better choices from here forward. 

lap018

lap018

carawasa said:

Oh god I don't know how this could blow up, lol. Everyone is different, I'm just wondering what others have gained. 

why? First of all that's none of your business, second your doctor will let you know if you are gaining too much or not enough so why even ask this question???????? 

carawasa

LOL you guys are killing me. Who cares we're pregnant we gain (or lose) weight. Do we not? Not sure how this is such a sensitive topic. 

carawasa

lap018 said:

carawasa said:

Oh god I don't know how this could blow up, lol. Everyone is different, I'm just wondering what others have gained. 

why? First of all that's none of your business, second your doctor will let you know if you are gaining too much or not enough so why even ask this question???????? 

Mmmmk so don't respond if you don't want to. No
one is forcing you. I'm LITRALLY just asking a question. 

carawasa

let's ask and talk about our sex life, but not mention weight because that's no ones business! This is why people are uncomfortable with their bodies. 

kelseyrayay

@carawasa I don't know many women pregnant or not who like to disclose how much weight they have gained. It can be a very touchy subject to some. 

msashley2010-2

carawasa said:

LOL you guys are killing me. Who cares we're pregnant we gain (or lose) weight. Do we not? Not sure how this is such a sensitive topic. 

I can't speak for anyone else here, but I tend to be extremely hard on myself personally. I have always struggled with worrying about my weight. I gained a lot of weight with DD and it caused a lot of self esteem issues. Perhaps comparing weight gain with other mothers may be a trigger for self esteem issues or even perhaps worry for those mothers who have lost weight because they have been sick. 

lap018

carawasa said:

lap018 said:

carawasa said:

Oh god I don't know how this could blow up, lol. Everyone is different, I'm just wondering what others have gained. 

why? First of all that's none of your business, second your doctor will let you know if you are gaining too much or not enough so why even ask this question???????? 

Mmmmk so don't respond if you don't want to. No
one is forcing you. I'm LITRALLY just asking a question. 

Oh honey there's nothing I wanted more than to reply to this. You're asking a question that's irrelevant. It "LITRALLY" makes no difference what we have all gained or not gained. And when someone gets on here all "how much weight have you gained" (which is none of anyone's business in the first place) someone may feel worried or scared or like something is wrong if they haven't gained any or have even lost weight when others are gaining or if they have gained a lot more than anyone else on here and the last thing I want is for anyone on here to feel bad or less than or worry or like something may be wrong just because some nosy person got on here an asked a question that has no bearing on her or her pregnancy. "Mmmmk" 

carawasa

Msashley2010 said:

carawasa said:

LOL you guys are killing me. Who cares we're pregnant we gain (or lose) weight. Do we not? Not sure how this is such a sensitive topic. 

I can't speak for anyone else here, but I tend to be extremely hard on myself personally. I have always struggled with worrying about my weight. I gained a lot of weight with DD and it caused a lot of self esteem issues. Perhaps comparing weight gain with other mothers may be a trigger for self esteem issues or even perhaps worry for those mothers who have lost weight because they have been sick. 

I can understand that, but don't we post HDBD pictures? I mean people talk about their weight in round about ways. 

carawasa

K

msashley2010-2

@carawasa I feel like HDBD pictures are a lot different. There is literally nothing but praise/good vibes and compliments on those threads.  

I feel like us comparing how much we've gained vs other moms on here may cause some insecurities and could breed some negative feelings for some. I remember being extremely insecure at the end of my last pregnancy from how much I gained. 

carawasa

I guess I'm not here to compare myself to others. 

msashley2010-2

carawasa said:

I have an OB appointment today and I want to know how I compare with others. 

carawasa

Msashley2010 said:

carawasa said:

I have an OB appointment today and I want to know how I compare with others. 

LOL I guess I worded that wrong. I guess I was just interested in the average amount of weight ppl in their first tri gain. Not that I'm comparing myself to someone who has gained 3-4lbs. If that makes sense 

lap018

Msashley2010 said:

carawasa said:

I have an OB appointment today and I want to know how I compare with others. 

LITRALLY dead

carawasa

 

mrs_tacos

@carawasa People are uncomfortable with their bodies because our society constantly compares us to an ideal, not because we don't talk about them enough. If anything, women's bodies are talked about and dissected too much. Also, have you ever known anyone with an eating disorder? I had one when I was younger, but I often tell people it's not something you ever really get cured of. Like an alcoholic, I'm constantly recovering, but I'm never recovered. From a group therapy I used to do, I know many women who had similar issues, and a discussion thread like this would be triggering for many of them. That's not to mention people for whom body issues could be a trigger for depression and anxiety. We have at least a hundred participants in this board, and many more lurkers. I'm willing to bet it could be a triggering discussion for at least a few of them.
 carawasa said:

LOL you guys are killing me. Who cares we're pregnant we gain (or lose) weight. Do we not? -snip-

You do, you care. You specifically started this thread saying, "...I want to know how I compare to others." 

As others have said, it's never an even comparison, because our bodies are all so different. If you'll look at HDBD, I have one of the more pregnant-looking bellies at this point. I started out about 35 pounds overweight, yet I've lost 27 pounds, and have gained none. My baby is perfectly healthy, but my doctor is worried about me. He's probably going to have my thyroid checked, and have me work with a nutritionist to up my daily calorie intake in a healthy way. You'd never guess that to look at my body, which looks like I've gained more weight than others. My point being, just knowing the number people have gained or lost isn't helpful if you know nothing about their body type or medical concerns.

kelseyrayay

carawasa said:

I'm gonna DD this because obviously 

kelseyrayay

Not a smart move 

msashley2010-2

I just don't think you should beat yourself up over the amount you have gained so far. Your doctor will let you know if they are concerned. But I think the first trimester is all about survival. When I was feeling sick all I could stomach were really fatty and high carb foods. Not to mention being tired all the time and not exercising a bit. 

I would just go by whatever suggestions your doctor has for you. I'm personally going to try to eat healthier and exercise more. 

carawasa

Why? Someone gonna boot me? go for it. 

Swazzle

carawasa said:

I can understand that, but don't we post HDBD pictures? I mean people talk about their weight in round about ways. 

I haven't been here long, I've only posted twice for HDBD, but can you tell from those how much weight I've gained? Pretty sure that's a big nope. 

carawasa

I have an under active thyroid so trust me, I know. It's too bad women can't talk to other pregnant women openly about their bodies. Oh well, not the kind of people I want to talk to anyways. Toodaloooo

lap018

carawasa said:

I don't think this has been discussed yet, but how much weight have you guys gained and how far along are you? I have an OB appointment today and I want to know how I compare with others.

I'm 15 weeks and gained about 7-8lbs. I'm plus size, though, so im sure this will be an issue. Oh well, here's to next month! 

Well QFP then

kelseyrayay

Who said someone was gonna boot you? Im just advising you that it wouldn't be the best move to DD. 

carawasa

why though hahaha

carawasa

TB was so fun 3 years ago. Tsk tsk 

kelseyrayay

if you DD you will more than likely get flamed. 

Becky012016

carawasa said:

I don't think this has been discussed yet, but how much weight have you guys gained and how far along are you? I have an OB appointment today and I want to know how I compare with others.

I'm 15 weeks and gained about 7-8lbs. I'm plus size, though, so im sure this will be an issue. Oh well, here's to next month! 

Since youre "plus size" you shouldn't have gained any weight yet. 11-20lbs for the whole pregnancy is recommended. Your baby isn't even a pound yet so you're already over on what you should have gained by now. 

kelseyrayay

just trying to help you out. 

carawasa

And I care if I get flamed...why?

mercury94

I have also seen this topic blow up into some terrible craziness when lurking on other BMBs. It's a touchy subject.

I am very self-conscious about my weight and I always have been. I am overweight, but lost almost 30 pounds when I was TTC (I was told I would never get pregnant if I didn't lose the weight). My doctor told me I shouldn't gain more than 15 pounds during pregnancy. Every time I get on the scale and see any increase (even half a pound), I feel like I'm failing. I've gained about 3 pounds at 15w. Because I'm only supposed to gain 15 pounds, I'm already probably beyond where I should be. Also, my clothes don't fit anymore, which makes me feel huge. 

I'm hoping that my long response helps show why people find this topic upsetting. It is not a fun thing to discuss. And, as others have said, everyone is different and every pregnancy is different. My friend who is not overweight was told she should gain close to 30 pounds during pregnancy. She is not concerned about gaining 3 pounds in the first trimester, because it's not considered a problem for her. I'm always terrified that my doctor is going to scold me about weight gain, which I probably can't handle emotionally right now. You shouldn't compare yourself to others. Just do the best you can for you and your baby. 

carawasa

Becky012016 said:

carawasa said:

I don't think this has been discussed yet, but how much weight have you guys gained and how far along are you? I have an OB appointment today and I want to know how I compare with others.

I'm 15 weeks and gained about 7-8lbs. I'm plus size, though, so im sure this will be an issue. Oh well, here's to next month! 

Since youre "plus size" you shouldn't have gained any weight yet. 11-20lbs for the whole pregnancy is recommended. Your baby isn't even a pound yet so you're already over on what you should have gained by now. 

11-20lbs by the END of your pregnancy. But thanks