My UO is that I plan on taking advantage of the nursery at the hospital when I deliver. My last 2 labors were 21 and 16 hours and I was exhausted by the end. I know not everyone agrees with it, but once we are settled and I've had a chance to nurse, I see no problem with sending baby to the nursery so I can get a couple hours of sleep.
I thought of one yesterday.... I hate when people announce to fb or extended family (not talking close family) when they are .3 seconds pregnant. A few years ago, DH's cousin called his dad to tell everyone she was 5 weeks pregnant. We live like 10 states away, it's not like she needed to spill the beans so soon. She also had a photo shoot to announce to FB 2 weeks later. Call me old fashioned but i have no desire to tell extended family till at least 12 weeks. I'll be 13 weeks tomorrow and i'm still not sure I'm ready to tell the general public.
I'm with you @OliveOyl2014 . It kills me that so many hospitals don't have nurseries or push moms not to use them. My mom works in Maternity and always tell the the moms off the record to get rest and utilize the nursery. Technically she could lose her job for that! They're supposed to push "baby friendly" standards which are clearly not very "mom friendly"
@Mommaswizz 100% with you on this. One of my family members does this. With each baby she has announced on social media within a day or two of getting a BFP, and some of them have included pictures of the pee stick.
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UO... which i think I've said before. Not really enjoying pregnancy. Approaching week 13 in a couple of days. Although I'm feeling better, I'm still not great.... I know I'm "supposed" to be over joyed that i'm pregnant, but the fact is I'm not. I'm over joyed that I'll have a child in 6 months, but these last 3 months have been rough.
I thought of one yesterday.... I hate when people announce to fb or extended family (not talking close family) when they are .3 seconds pregnant. A few years ago, DH's cousin called his dad to tell everyone she was 5 weeks pregnant. We live like 10 states away, it's not like she needed to spill the beans so soon. She also had a photo shoot to announce to FB 2 weeks later. Call me old fashioned but i have no desire to tell extended family till at least 12 weeks. I'll be 13 weeks tomorrow and i'm still not sure I'm ready to tell the general public.
I understand being nervous for them, but who cares if they choose to share "early"? We shared DD1 at just 8 weeks. If something had happened we would have wanted the support. YOU do what YOU are comfortable with and leave others alone. Then sharing "early" doesn't mean you have to.
^^Of course! It has absolutely no bearing on me whatsoever. It's probably a combination of worry for them but also that they're naive to all the things that could happen. I'm not sure why it irks me really. But yeah, totally annoys me lol I know the group is likely divided on this. That's why i figured it's a good UO i feel oddly strong about
I have no problem with baby bath photos on social media as long as private areas are covered.
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This UO is inspired by a disagreement I had with DH last week that I mentioned here.
I think that the majority of stuff sold in those health supplement type stores are a scam. Very little research has been done on them, and when something is labeled as a "supplement," the FDA doesn't even look at it. So they can make whatever claims they want, with barely any oversight. I don't mean protein shake type stuff, I mean most of the rest of it.
^^Of course! It has absolutely no bearing on me whatsoever. It's probably a combination of worry for them but also that they're naive to all the things that could happen. I'm not sure why it irks me really. But yeah, totally annoys me lol I know the group is likely divided on this. That's why i figured it's a good UO i feel oddly strong about
That's pretty judgmental. They're freshly pregnant so how could they *possibly* know anything about pregnancy?! (Sarcasm) Ha
My UO is I that I think you're full of it if you say you havn't or wont have a "forbidden" pregnancy food. Even if it is just once. We all do it, have done it, or will do it.
^^Of course! It has absolutely no bearing on me whatsoever. It's probably a combination of worry for them but also that they're naive to all the things that could happen. I'm not sure why it irks me really. But yeah, totally annoys me lol I know the group is likely divided on this. That's why i figured it's a good UO i feel oddly strong about
I wouldn't assume they are naive to what might happen.... unless they have said to you "well why not... I'm in the clear". After TTC for 1.5 years with my first i couldn't wait to tell people so I did... many people before my missed period. Though not on social media because that's not my style. And certainly knew I wasn't in the clear.... not until that baby is kicking screaming on your arms (and even then it's SIDS you aren't in the clear of... and then the next thing)
My UO: I dislike when people say "I don't want to 'untell' people or it was awful to 'untell' people" I mean I get what you're saying... and surely it sucks.... but you're not un-telling... un-telling isn't a real ..... word?
TTC x 1.5 years.
Acupuncture, Femera x3 cyles, and HSG. BFP in September 2014, DS born June 2015. TTC x2 months. BFP January 2017.
@canonmom413 I had a strawberry salad with tons of feta on it Sunday for lunch.
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^^Of course! It has absolutely no bearing on me whatsoever. It's probably a combination of worry for them but also that they're naive to all the things that could happen. I'm not sure why it irks me really. But yeah, totally annoys me lol I know the group is likely divided on this. That's why i figured it's a good UO i feel oddly strong about
I wouldn't assume they are naive to what might happen.... unless they have said to you "well why not... I'm in the clear". After TTC for 1.5 years with my first i couldn't wait to tell people so I did... many people before my missed period. Though not on social media because that's not my style. And certainly knew I wasn't in the clear.... not until that baby is kicking screaming on your arms (and even then it's SIDS you aren't in the clear of... and then the next thing)
My UO: I dislike when people say "I don't want to 'untell' people or it was awful to 'untell' people" I mean I get what you're saying... and surely it sucks.... but you're not un-telling... un-telling isn't a real ..... word?
I agree. I think this is why miscarriage still holds such a stigma and "secrecy". I understand that some people aren't comfortable with sharing their grief with the world and that is fine. Other people would want to lean on their support system and therefore there is no reason not to tell them.
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@Mommaswizz we told DH's cousin and his wife a little past 10 weeks...when they heard my due date they told me one of their friends had a due date after mine and had been posting on Facebook about the pee stick, every puke, every "bloat", etc...for the past 5 weeks already.
I just...can't even. Do you even know how much fun it is to have that big of a secret with your SO for awhile???
Also? Facebook doesn't care. haha
BFP#1: 12/3/13 EDD 8/15/13. Heartbeat found on 12/26/13, HB gone on 1/4/13. D&C 1/7/13
BFP#2: 4/19/13 EDD 12/28/13. Team Green for pregnancy and Baby Girl arrived 12/21/13. BFP#3: 2/9/13 EDD 10/18/17. Team Green for Round 2!
careful @OliveOyl2014 someone's grandma had bad stories about the nursery back in 1941
10000% agree with using the nursery. and i hate the term "baby friendly" hospital. wtf does that even mean. i hate babies bc i had one ripped from my stomach in a csection and sent her to the nursery for 2 hours? its just the latest terms to toss around to feel special. i have a close friend that only had the option of a "baby friendly" hospital near her. and it was absolute mess they way they pressured her, and in turn affected her baby.
disclaimer: each hospital is different just bc her experience was like that doesnt mean everyone's will be. but i still hate the term.
^^Of course! It has absolutely no bearing on me whatsoever. It's probably a combination of worry for them but also that they're naive to all the things that could happen. I'm not sure why it irks me really. But yeah, totally annoys me lol I know the group is likely divided on this. That's why i figured it's a good UO i feel oddly strong about
That's pretty judgmental. They're freshly pregnant so how could they *possibly* know anything about pregnancy?! (Sarcasm) Ha
In all fairness, i'm not trying to be judgmental. Maybe it's projecting my own experience. With my first pregnancy I was MUCH less worried about all the things that could go wrong. This time around i was waiting with baited breath to hit that mark where things felt "safe." Which is probably naive of ME! My mother had a stillborn before i was born. I guess it's never really safe till you're holding that baby right?
I feel it needs reminding, just because my opinion is different that yours does not make me judgmental. Cool your jets with the finger pointing. It's the UO thread lol
i think people can announce whenever they want to, and i am happy people are so excited to share. i tend to share around 8-10 weeks so that is early. but i still hold my breath when i see someone post on FB as soon as the pee dries.
I totally judge when I see a super early fb share, but I also think to each her own. I'm actually a little envious of that kind of, I don't know what to call it, naive confidence? Naive has a bad connotation to it and I don't mean it in a bad way. I just mean that after 1.5 years of trying, all the money and tears, and watching so many friends both IRL and on here lose pregnancies, I will never have that blissful security.
^Yes! @bluejeanbabi05 I think that sums it up perfectly. I think maybe i get that twinge of jealousy wishing i was that confident. I really dont mean this opinion to be a dick lol. Sharing early is just not for me. To each their own though! Tell whenever you want, people!
After being up for 48hrs straight between labor, delivery, visitors, staring at new baby, listing to said baby cry from 10p-4a the first night at the hospital....I sent him to the nursery so we could sleep for 3 hours. The nurses did their magic and got him swaddled and to sleep and we woke up with him sleeping In our room. It was heaven. In the moment I felt a bit of guilt, but I knew needed the sleep. This time with two babies, I have no shame in sending them if it comes down to it. You gotta do what you need to do as a parent. A few hours in a nursery isn't going to mess your baby up for life.
^^Of course! It has absolutely no bearing on me whatsoever. It's probably a combination of worry for them but also that they're naive to all the things that could happen. I'm not sure why it irks me really. But yeah, totally annoys me lol I know the group is likely divided on this. That's why i figured it's a good UO i feel oddly strong about
I'm all for to each their own when they want to share. All 3 of my sisters were quick to jump on the announcement train. I think it's funny now that they are squirming to let the news out about 2.0 but I'm making them wait.
But I think the deep down issue is that so many moms don't care to be informed about pregnancy/babies. I mean obviously we are all in a much different boat as we've run to pregnancy/baby sources which led us here. But a lot of moms in my area just rely on what their moms tell them which is 20-30 year old information. I probably have a different perspective from many as I come from a very poor state. It's just sad watching how low economic levels affect some women's desire for knowledge about healthy pregnancies. I figure someone will jump down my throat for that statement, but remember I watched my SIL smoke her entire pregnancy and then wonder why her baby was having such a difficult time.
@Mommaswizz we told DH's cousin and his wife a little past 10 weeks...when they heard my due date they told me one of their friends had a due date after mine and had been posting on Facebook about the pee stick, every puke, every "bloat", etc...for the past 5 weeks already.
To me, this just screams of someone wanting all the attention. And baby is their new shiny toy.
@wbleyl While I don't hate IKEA, I do have to make sure my anxiety is in check. I love how cheap things can be, but I have really high social anxiety. That place tends to send me in an attack. As long as I go in prepared and not on a busy day I'm ok.
I never had feta and strawberry but OMG it sounds amazing right now. I guess I have to try it! What else goes in there? I had fried halloumi and apple the other day, it was delicious! and the babies to nursery discussion...there was no way that anyone was allowed to remove my fresh, new baby from my eyesight. I couldn't sleep anyway, I kept waking up checking on him!
I guess my unpopular opinion is that grandparents have to earn their right to babysit. Neither set of grandparents has looked after my 16 month old without my husband and I present. My mom lives abroad, so less of an issue with her, but the in laws are a two hour drive away. Until I can trust them to follow my instructions and to treat/look after my son as I want them to, there is no way I'd let them babysit. They don't get 'why I am being like that', but I don't care. He is my child.
@sjohns08 Oh man. That must make pregnancy easier for you...I miss my wine so much! We live in Virginia and there are tons of wineries all over the place so we visit them frequently. I can understand why some people don't like it though!
@JessDG pretty much lol. I'm just not big on alcohol in general, but wine and champagne are too bitter for me. Now not being able to take my migraine meds is brutal and the only thing I have an issue with during pregnancy. Most women count down to having a drink after birth. Me? I count down till I can take my meds again
Then again, I told my friend today that I've thrown up so much this pregnancy, I'm considering giving up alcohol after I give birth because I just never, ever want to throw up again.
BFP#1: 12/3/13 EDD 8/15/13. Heartbeat found on 12/26/13, HB gone on 1/4/13. D&C 1/7/13
BFP#2: 4/19/13 EDD 12/28/13. Team Green for pregnancy and Baby Girl arrived 12/21/13. BFP#3: 2/9/13 EDD 10/18/17. Team Green for Round 2!
@AiramH it was an actual salad with spinach topped with strawberries, mandarin oranges, candied pecans, feta and grilled chicken with a balsamic vinaigrette. Soooo delicious.
You can also make a fruit salad with strawberries, balsamic vinegar, Basil and feta. Mmmmm.
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My best friend makes this amazing Greek chip dip with tomatoes and feta cheese and Greek seasonings and other wonderful things I can't think of right now. Sooo good.
My UO: I don't think there is such a thing a a man/woman brain. I keep being told by a male co-worker that I have a "man-brain" because I'm not emotional. Some people just aren't emotional. Some people force themselves not to be because they're taught not to be. It irks me to no end.
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@AiramH... and until they get WHY you are being "like that" they won't be ready. I am on your team too. I will not trust just anyone with my kid for the sake of "going out" or anything otherwise.
Re: Baby Friendly hospitals - I've been a L&D/Nursery RN that has worked nights (because days would kill me, haha) for almost 9 years. I hate this with every fiber of my being. As a Nurse that is incredibly Type A at my job....I need to see these little ones at all times. Especially if I know Mom and Dad are asleep. I need to know they are being fed. I need to know Mom hasn't passed out from exhaustion and baby is buried under 3 blankets and a pillow (ok, I'm exaggerating a little, but you'd be surprised the stuff you encounter...). Not everything wrong presents itself at birth or immediately after. I have caught countless things in newborns because I had them in the Nursery overnight. Low blood sugar, respiratory issues, stomach issues, etc.
I don't say all that to scare anyone or insinuate if you do choose to room in with your baby that you aren't taking good care of him/her. I am just saying that so often Mom is exhausted from hours of labor, recovering from a c-section, etc. and literally cannot keep her eyes open. My hospital wouldn't be happy to know I round my little ones up at bedtime if Mom & Dad want to utilize Nursery and I don't feel one bit bad for doing it. I've never met a little one that didn't bond with Mom & Dad because he/she stayed in the Nursery all night.
About the only thing folks need to worry about is the Nursing staff spoiling the crap out of your baby. If we're not busy where I work, I can guarantee you everyone will have a little one they snuggle the entire shift save for trips to Mom to feed if they are breastfed.
/soapbox
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I have no problem with baby bath photos on social media as long as private areas are covered.
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This UO is inspired by a disagreement I had with DH last week that I mentioned here.
I think that the majority of stuff sold in those health supplement type stores are a scam. Very little research has been done on them, and when something is labeled as a "supplement," the FDA doesn't even look at it. So they can make whatever claims they want, with barely any oversight. I don't mean protein shake type stuff, I mean most of the rest of it.
Baby Boy due October 2017
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My UO: I dislike when people say "I don't want to 'untell' people or it was awful to 'untell' people" I mean I get what you're saying... and surely
it sucks.... but you're not un-telling... un-telling isn't a real ..... word?
BFP in September 2014, DS born June 2015.
TTC x2 months.
BFP January 2017.
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I just...can't even. Do you even know how much fun it is to have that big of a secret with your SO for awhile???
Also? Facebook doesn't care. haha
BFP#3: 2/9/13 EDD 10/18/17. Team Green for Round 2!
10000% agree with using the nursery. and i hate the term "baby friendly" hospital. wtf does that even mean. i hate babies bc i had one ripped from my stomach in a csection and sent her to the nursery for 2 hours? its just the latest terms to toss around to feel special. i have a close friend that only had the option of a "baby friendly" hospital near her. and it was absolute mess they way they pressured her, and in turn affected her baby.
disclaimer: each hospital is different just bc her experience was like that doesnt mean everyone's will be. but i still hate the term.
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I feel it needs reminding, just because my opinion is different that yours does not make me judgmental. Cool your jets with the finger pointing. It's the UO thread lol
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I'm all for to each their own when they want to share. All 3 of my sisters were quick to jump on the announcement train. I think it's funny now that they are squirming to let the news out about 2.0 but I'm making them wait.
But I think the deep down issue is that so many moms don't care to be informed about pregnancy/babies. I mean obviously we are all in a much different boat as we've run to pregnancy/baby sources which led us here. But a lot of moms in my area just rely on what their moms tell them which is 20-30 year old information. I probably have a different perspective from many as I come from a very poor state. It's just sad watching how low economic levels affect some women's desire for knowledge about healthy pregnancies. I figure someone will jump down my throat for that statement, but remember I watched my SIL smoke her entire pregnancy and then wonder why her baby was having such a difficult time.
To me, this just screams of someone wanting all the attention. And baby is their new shiny toy.
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and the babies to nursery discussion...there was no way that anyone was allowed to remove my fresh, new baby from my eyesight. I couldn't sleep anyway, I kept waking up checking on him!
Oh, my.
Then again, I told my friend today that I've thrown up so much this pregnancy, I'm considering giving up alcohol after I give birth because I just never, ever want to throw up again.
BFP#3: 2/9/13 EDD 10/18/17. Team Green for Round 2!
You can also make a fruit salad with strawberries, balsamic vinegar, Basil and feta. Mmmmm.
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BFP: 2/6/2017
Due Date: 10/13/17
I don't say all that to scare anyone or insinuate if you do choose to room in with your baby that you aren't taking good care of him/her. I am just saying that so often Mom is exhausted from hours of labor, recovering from a c-section, etc. and literally cannot keep her eyes open. My hospital wouldn't be happy to know I round my little ones up at bedtime if Mom & Dad want to utilize Nursery and I don't feel one bit bad for doing it. I've never met a little one that didn't bond with Mom & Dad because he/she stayed in the Nursery all night.
About the only thing folks need to worry about is the Nursing staff spoiling the crap out of your baby.
/soapbox
Married since 05.16.2009
Expecting #1: 10.10.2017