Weekly Random 3/27

lewliv

Comments? Questions? Rants? Raves?
If you don't know where it goes, it goes here!

smallbutmighty77

This seems a little crazy, but I have decided my child must take after DH in her sleep habits. The only time I feel her is around 10am, between 9-10pm, and I woke up to her 'dance party' at like 2am today! I am the early riser and early to bed one in the family, my husband would wake up at noon if he could, and go to bed at 3am. So I keep telling him she already likes his schedule! 

lewliv

That's my random for the week...

imwithbaby

@LivLew so jealous! Hope you're having a blast!

britvahok

@LivLew I'm so jealous!!!! That pic doesn't even look real!!!

littlebug2010

@LivLew I am so jealous.  I looked at going to Bermuda but I like temperatures to be HOT, and so I decided to save money and figured I could go somewhere tropical post baby! 

@smallbutmighty77 my little dude is just like his daddy.  He is always super stretched out when we see him at the US, with his feet crossed at the ankles, just like dad.  He also has super long fingers, and big toes, also like dad.  So I have decided that I am clearly creating a clone of my husband.  

littlebeansma

@smallbutmighty77 LOL I believe it.. in our US she always has her arm up over her head and my SO laughs because that's how I like to sleep. He says she's already picking up my habits ha

Kathryn0903

When I see people that are not as far along in their pregnancy, it totally makes me realize how far along I've come. I take a prenatal fitness class and we had a new woman join us tonight that is due October 13th. The fact that she's due a full 2 months later and that you'd never know she's pregnant made me realize how the end is not as far away as it seems.

megaroo42

@Kathryn0903 I feel the same way! I can't believe I'm halfway there, especially when I think back to how sick I was. Granted, I'm hoping the next 20 weeks go slow since there's so much to do!

NatSprat0703

@smallbutmighty77 that's the exact times I feel my little one move!! Last night at 10, DH even put his hands on my belly and told her it's time for her daily dance party lol. 
@Kathryn0903 yes!! Sometimes I still can't believe I'm even pregnant let alone halfway done!

imwithbaby

When should we start the hunt for a pediatrician? 

Kudlica27

@mrsmatt1212, it's never too early. Ask for recommendations, check with your insurance, and visit the office. Make a list of your priorities (delayed vax, hours, locations, etc.) and look for those things. 

SouthernMama15

Too funny

https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=10155152490061742&id=235374096741

brookeelyse527

does anyone else feel the weekly posts clutter the board? Like this one, the symptoms, and appts. They don't even seem to get that long to restart a new one. I wonder if they should be biweekly? It just bothers me to see last week's symptoms thread right next to this week's getting comments still, for example, it happens a lot maybe not right now. But I don't participate that much to make any decisions just throwing it out there. 

DeansGirl14

SouthernMama15 said:

Too funny

https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=10155152490061742&id=235374096741

Can't even. 
DH works with a foreign-born gentleman named Maboob. Makes me giggle every time he tells a work story including him. 
I also had a geometry teacher named Richard Storm, nicknamed Dick. At least in high school we called teachers by Mr./Mrs./Ms. because Dick Storm is way too porno for me. 

lwhrmomma

DeansGirl14 said:

SouthernMama15 said:

Too funny

https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=10155152490061742&id=235374096741

Can't even. 
DH works with a foreign-born gentleman named Maboob. Makes me giggle every time he tells a work story including him. 
I also had a geometry teacher named Richard Storm, nicknamed Dick. At least in high school we called teachers by Mr./Mrs./Ms. because Dick Storm is way too porno for me. 

OMG....Why would he ever choose to go by that name?!

I had a student many years ago named Vijaya.  Taking attendance on the first day of school in front of a class of middle school kids was pure torture.  Thank goodness she asked me to call her by her middle name instead, because I would have absolutely slipped and called her Vagina by accident.

LSP87

@brookedeyo no. I get what you're saying but I feel like if it weren't for these weekly posts, the board would be totally dead, honestly.

Kudlica27

brookedeyo said:

does anyone else feel the weekly posts clutter the board? Like this one, the symptoms, and appts. They don't even seem to get that long to restart a new one. I wonder if they should be biweekly? It just bothers me to see last week's symptoms thread right next to this week's getting comments still, for example, it happens a lot maybe not right now. But I don't participate that much to make any decisions just throwing it out there. 

A lot of times the old ones are bumped up because people are updating. That's how they get next to each other. Also, I think they could get quite lengthy being biweekly. 

littlebeansma

I just logged in on my laptop for the first time (always on mobile) and HOLY SMOKES this is SOOOO different! Ive been so used to mobile...this is so overwhelming. lmao

lyse01

@brookedeyo yep! I understand ticker changes restarting each week, but things like "why my kid is crying" could be 10 or 50 posts in a week, and if it's still on the first page, I don't see the point in starting a new thread.

dtspmama

I know I rarely post on the message boards but I need to say this somewhere and this seems like the right place:

My sister had a baby today.  She was due two days ago and demanded an induction "so she can start losing weight for her wedding in June."  And I have no words.

SouthernMama15

kristenk727 said:

DeansGirl14 said:

SouthernMama15 said:

Too funny

https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=10155152490061742&id=235374096741

Can't even. 
DH works with a foreign-born gentleman named Maboob. Makes me giggle every time he tells a work story including him. 
I also had a geometry teacher named Richard Storm, nicknamed Dick. At least in high school we called teachers by Mr./Mrs./Ms. because Dick Storm is way too porno for me. 

OMG....Why would he ever choose to go by that name?!

I had a student many years ago named Vijaya.  Taking attendance on the first day of school in front of a class of middle school kids was pure torture.  Thank goodness she asked me to call her by her middle name instead, because I would have absolutely slipped and called her Vagina by accident.

Dead. I have an uncle with a family member named Regina,  but they pronounce it Ragina. When my aunt and uncle got married,  my Granny called her Vagina. 

lyse01

@dtspmama omg. Yeah, I fully plan on not giving a damn at my wedding about my weight, because hello - newborn! 

knottie0d8cc4d43bacc09f

@dtspmama Yikes... I guess some people just have different priorities! I was asking my doctor about delivery timing since DH's parents are overseas and wanted to try and be here for the birth. She said a normal range for them to come would be a week before/week after my due date. Then she said "or we can schedule your delivery right now". UMMMM negative. Why do doctor's even offer this when there isn't a medical reason?? I quickly declined...

DeansGirl14

secicc12 said:

@dtspmama Yikes... I guess some people just have different priorities! I was asking my doctor about delivery timing since DH's parents are overseas and wanted to try and be here for the birth. She said a normal range for them to come would be a week before/week after my due date. Then she said "or we can schedule your delivery right now". UMMMM negative. Why do doctor's even offer this when there isn't a medical reason?? I quickly declined...

The idea of birth on command rather weirds me out. I know a couple people who scheduled inductions or Cs but I'm not nosy enough (nor did I want to know, honestly) to inquire why they did it. 

Reminds me of that episode of Gilmore Girls where Shari went into labor before her scheduled C-section. "This wasn't supposed to happen today I WROTE IT DOWN."

PinkPrincessPiper

@DeansGirl14 Why so judgemental towards c-sections? I had an emergency c/s with my first two, and scheduled c/s with my last baby & will have another repeat this time. I'm not scheduling my c-section for convenience, I'm having a repeat c/s because I'm at a high risk for complications from a vaginal birth. I need to be around for my husband & 4 kids, and if that means a c/s is safer, than that's what I'm opting for. 

and_peggy

I'm just sitting here thinking about how different this pregnancy is. First baby - watch diet, track your weeks, have everything ready, and now I'm just over here eating my fruit roll up, wondering how many weeks pregnant I am.

SouthernMama15

PinkPrincessPiper said:see

@DeansGirl14 Why so judgemental towards c-sections? I had an emergency c/s with my first two, and scheduled c/s with my last baby & will have another repeat this time. I'm not scheduling my c-section for convenience, I'm having a repeat c/s because I'm at a high risk for complications from a vaginal birth. I need to be around for my husband & 4 kids, and if that means a c/s is safer, than that's what I'm opting for. 

I had a scheduled c section with my first because he flipped breech at around 37 weeks. He was too big to flip back. My c section was at 39+2 and I was beyond terrified as I'd never had surgery or a baby before.  He weighed 9 pounds and 5 ounces and was 22.5 inches long. If I'd tried to have a version to turn him, I more than likely would have wound up with an emergency c section and possible ruptured uterus or hysterectomy. I'll have a scheduled c section this time as well because the doctors office I use does not allow VBACs and frankly, it's not worth the risk.  I can assure anyone that it was not scheduled out of convenience,  laziness, or anything else. In fact I was super upset because my husband had to leave the very next morning at 5 am and be gone 2.5 days because he had work obligations he couldn't get out of. 

kvh22

@PinkPrincessPiper - I didn't read @DeansGirl14's comment as against them (especially for medical reasons since she specifically stated that). She was just saying she didn't see a reason for her to schedule it since there was no medical reason and the doctor was very quick to offer it obviously knowing she had no medical reason for it.

It is a big trend depending on your location to just schedule your c-section for a week early for no medical reason. I am hoping to have a vaginal birth and the hospital my OB goes to has a high rate of c-sections which she just told me up front was because so many people opt for them and a few doctors who specialize in scheduled c-sections go there and bring the rate up.

Anyways, I don't think anyone was talking about scheduling for medical reasons (except to say that isn't the case in her situation - no medical reason to schedule).

imwithbaby

secicc12 said:

@dtspmama Yikes... I guess some people just have different priorities! I was asking my doctor about delivery timing since DH's parents are overseas and wanted to try and be here for the birth. She said a normal range for them to come would be a week before/week after my due date. Then she said "or we can schedule your delivery right now". UMMMM negative. Why do doctor's even offer this when there isn't a medical reason?? I quickly declined...

Seriously! It's scary. There is obviously a time and place and need for inductions and scheduled c-sections. But to prompt a woman who is healthy to "schedule" her birth because of travel arrangements (or anything non-medical) is absurd and quite frankly, dangerous and irresponsible. I'm not sure how this has become such standard practice. As someone who has a graduate degree in public health and who personally has delved into the research behind the dangers of high c-section rates, it infuriates me to see doctors be so callous with such extreme measures that are intended for emergency situations and for the times when it is shown to have less risk than an unmedicated/no-intervention birth. Our c-section rate is insanely high, almost double that of what the World Health Organization deems medically necessary (10-15% of c/s births in a country, US is around 37.5%) and I just wonder if some doctors didn't have such a laissez faire attitude about these risky (but needed) interventions if our rate would drop.

Our maternal and fetal death rate is among the highest of all developed nations, and we've got to start taking better, more proactive care of mommies and babies. 

(This is totally not against inductions or c-sections when medically necessary, and a scheduled c/s can absolutely be medically necessary. Clearly they are totally needed, and the WHO agrees that up to 15% of births can result in a c-section and maternal and infant health still be ideal. I love reading all of your birth stories, and can only imagine how scary it can be having to have these interventions and I'm so glad they're available for us when we need them!)

imwithbaby

Totally realize that came across with some serious fear-mongering which was not my intention! Just really passionate about public health and this issue that has to do with doctors not moms!

knottie0d8cc4d43bacc09f

@mrsmatt1212 I totally see your point. I hope no one misinterpreted my comment the wrong way.. tons of moms schedule c sections for serious medical reasons that can't be avoided. I was just surprised when my OB brought up scheduling a birth that's 20 weeks away so my in-laws could attend. She seemed so non chalant offering that as an option. 

Lefin

Here's my random!  I just got some maternity clothes.  Oh my!  I've been so tired of busting out of my regular clothes.  These bump friendly clothes make me look and feel so amazing that I'm almost in tears.  I'm on cloud nine right now.  Why did I wait so long?!

SouthernMama15

I sincerely want to know who these doctors are that perform elective c sections.  I've never heard of anyone having one. I get that sometimes doctors do them if a labor is taking a long time and they don't want to wait,  but I keep reading the phrase "too posh to push" on social media and I honestly don't know of anyone who chose to have a c section just because and that it was allowed. 

DeansGirl14

PinkPrincessPiper said:

@DeansGirl14 Why so judgemental towards c-sections? I had an emergency c/s with my first two, and scheduled c/s with my last baby & will have another repeat this time. I'm not scheduling my c-section for convenience, I'm having a repeat c/s because I'm at a high risk for complications from a vaginal birth. I need to be around for my husband & 4 kids, and if that means a c/s is safer, than that's what I'm opting for. 

Oh I'm not judgmental at all! I'm sorry if my post read that way. The idea of scheduling a delivery without a known medical reason- like Shari appeared to in Gilmore Girls- just sounds odd because I thought babies come when they're meant to come. Even my very best friend had a scheduled induction (not C) and I never questioned her, but she'd also never mentioned that she had any kind of medical reason. That doesn't mean she didn't have one. But, for all I know, her and her doctor just figured that a baby should come out around 39 weeks and scheduled it. Other women have mentioned in casual conversation things like, "My doctor said if they're not out by x date we'll induce." They never say why. To repeat, I thought a baby was going to come when it was ready. FTM here. 
Again, no judgment, sorry! 

imwithbaby

@SouthernMama15 from what I can tell the "too posh to push" movement came from both LA and Manhattan with it skewing mainly toward full time executive women who are AMA. I think it's wild that a doctor would go along with that, especially since no one in that movement seems to care too much about what the baby needs. Although, I haven't heard that term in a while so maybe the "too posh to push" movement is dying out a bit. 

PinkPrincessPiper

@Deansgirl14 No worries. I think I'm just sensitive because I'm on c-section #4. 

imwithbaby

@PinkPrincessPiper sending you major love for c/s #4! I've heard that recovery is no joke, and you're totally right that it's safer for you since you had a c/s already! Beast mode for you dealing with recovery with littles around! 

kvh22

@SouthernMama15 It happens all the time in my area. Not quite the same as what @DeansGirl14 is talking about. Since it's so common, people freely say "I wanted to do a c-section so I scheduled my delivery for 39 weeks." Some of the girls at my office are very chatty about their wedding and baby planning so I know far more than I should about some things. In California (not sure if this is still the case but it was a few years ago) you got an extra 2 weeks at 55% of your pay to recover if you had a c-section. Obviously, some c-sections are for medical reasons but I think there are doctors who will just do it because you want to and those who won't. Like I said, my OB mentioned that a few doctors who specialize in scheduled c-sections deliver where I am planning to which pulls the whole average of the hospital up. My OB wanted to make sure that (ETA) that I knew it wasn't because of delivery complications, but because of the doctor's specialization. Knowing some of the women at my office who did it for purely elective reasons, not medical, I'm kind of putting 2+2 together (but maybe I'm getting 5, not 4).

Edited to clarify

knottiee689565f63838b35

@aehogan90 this is my first and while I'm tracking weeks, I'm not watching what I eat very carefully. I have fruit snacks all the time and my grandma sends me with fruit roll ups when I visit because she knows I like them. I figure as long as I'm healthy and the doctor says I'm doing fine, no need to change from eating lucky charms sometimes 2x a day lol

SouthernMama15

@mrsmatt1212 and @kvh22 that blows my mind. Everyone I know who has had to have one has been beyond devastated. Not to mention people legit believe that if you have a c section you're not a real mother.