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kswiger06

varimama

Sometimes I get a little annoyed at DH for getting to sleep through the night when I get up 3-4 times to breastfeed. Especially when he complains about being woken up when Inknow it's just for a minute then I hear him snoring again. 

But then I feel guilty when he's at work all day and all I've accomplished is keeping a little human fed, cleaned, and at least sort of happy. 

LivingLaVidaGinger

marriedhamstermom said:

Sometimes I get a little annoyed at DH for getting to sleep through the night when I get up 3-4 times to breastfeed. Especially when he complains about being woken up when Inknow it's just for a minute then I hear him snoring again. 

But then I feel guilty when he's at work all day and all I've accomplished is keeping a little human fed, cleaned, and at least sort of happy. 

This. So much this. 

Vastra

@marriedhamstermom and @LivingLaVidaGinger Yes. Same here. The other night he actually left and slept in the guest room and 3am+hormones+crying baby=I sobbed for ten minutes. But then the next night he made dinner while I was napping and later brought me water while I was bf without being asked. 
Meanwhile, I am supposed to go to a wedding tomorrow, about 1.5 hours away. We decided not to bring the baby, and instead the plan is for me to go alone while he stays home with her. I went out  today to do errands, and when I got home she was asleep but hadn't taken the bottle, and had just finished screaming her head off. I'm leaning toward not going to the wedding at all now, even though he says I should. I just feel like I won't enjoy it, I'll be worried/feeling guilty the entire time. I'll decide in the morning, but unless I can get her to take bottles tonight, I'm thinking I'll stay home. 

MommaBean

@Vastra can you take her with you?

Vastra

@MommaBean I have considered it, but her pediatrician really doesn't want her around crowds yet (she hasn't had her 2 month vaxes). And it's a wedding where I know a lot of people, so everyone would be up in her face. I did think about all of us going, and H staying with her in a hotel room, but he doesn't want to do that. 

poetryandoceans

In the same area, I get so frustrated when my husband throws in the towel on naptime. 'He doesn't want to sleep right now' my ass. He's two months old, he doesn't know what he wants, and what he needs is to sleep right now so he isn't a total pill at two in the morning, when you're blissfully slumbering away.

ColeBug89

I just wanted to AW that DD rolled over (belly to back) 3 times in a row tonight! She just hit 3 months on Wednesday, but with being 6 weeks early we weren't sure when she would be doing certain things. Proud momma here!

lfrank12

Lately I feel like a single parent. H works 11 am to 9:30 pm and with Amelia's current schedule (schedule being a very loose term), we aren't getting up until 9ish & then feeding for an hour and at night I'm trying to get her down by 11 if I can. That leaves little time for him to really help with anything except maybe 1 diaper and holding her after the night feeding. He has also been having to work most Saturday afternoons. Hoping this will improve once she's on a normal schedule but right now things are rough

chef'swife

@lfrank12 It's rough when your partner works a schedule like that. I have told my husband several times over the past 7 years that I'm feeling like a single parent because of his crazy work hours. He usually goes to his restaurant around 10-12 depending on how busy they are and doesn't get home till 12-2 in the morning.   But we try to have a family breakfast together every day before DD goes to school. And we always take care of house projects or special days for DD on Sunday or Monday when he is off. 
Is there anything he could do in his off hours to help you prep for the day, to lighten your load?  Maybe meal prep, dishes, or a load of laundry? So that you aren't trying to do all home chores plus care for LO. 

lfrank12

@chef'swife Yes he has been good about doing meal prep for the week on Sundays. It is more so the lack of time spent with the baby. He was previously in the restaurant industry and left in order to have a more stable schedule but I don't know that this one is that much better than he had before. I hope we will adjust but it will just be temporary until I go back to work and we have to learn a new schedule at that point

varimama

I feel ya @lfrank12. DH leaves the house at 6:30am and gets back at 6:30pm. Of course that's when Ridley wants to eat so he eats dinner while I feed Rid and then DH puts him to bed while I eat dinner and then it's pretty much a night for us. I feel bad too that DH doesn't get much time with Rid on the weekdays. He takes him a lot on the weekends though. 

Gretchypoo

I feel for you all in the single mom's club. H works nights so RN he sees her a little bit every day bc we are both home. But when I go back to work he's going to be asleep when we get home from daycare and at work when we get home in the morning. He's applied for a job that would have him working 5pm- 1am. So he would come home, sleep and take care of her while I'm at work-- yay no daycare! Sad that i will barely see my H.

BUT H is also applying to a Master's program and if he gets in (which I hope he does) then I'm really a single mom a few days a week bc the school is 4 hrs away... it would be good for our family in the future but suck for the 16-22 months the program lasts.