Diastasis Recti and Pelvic Girdle Pain

TobbynS

Hi to all! This is baby #3 for me, and I haven't been on the message boards much. However, I need support and/or suggestions. About 3 weeks ago my pelvis separated causing me terrible pain and barely being able to walk. I was finally somewhat coping with it, and starting to try some stretches and exercises to help. Then, I wake up early one morning with such pain down the middle of my stomach. My Midwife said the pain usually last for a few days while the actual separation is occurring and then should feel better unless I strain the muscles. She also said a pregnancy belt will help, but no luck so far. I ordered a different one, so maybe that will help. However, it's been 6 days and the pain is so bad, especially in the evening and at night, I just start crying. Does anyone have any experience with this? I have 8-10 more weeks, and I just don't know how I can get through it! 

mezalune

Check in the weekly symptoms thread.  Lots of ladies talking on this subject there this week.

HgPa

You need to go to the doctor. If the pain is that severe, you may need physical therapy. And mezalune is right, this issue is being discussed in the symptoms thread.

anitamargarita_82

So you're not a part of our group but want to create your own thread and use us as your personal google?  Did you visit the symptoms thread at all before thinking you needed your own one off topic thread?  Have you contributed at all to anyone's else's concern or were you just here to ask for answers but offer no support to anyone else?  

silliegirlie143

erinh84

Thank you!

shmarpler

I had pelvic pain with DD1. I had to sleep with a pillow between my knees to keep my legs parallel or I couldn't sleep on my side. Some people also say it helps to put a thin pillow under your bump. I would also recommend looking for a chiropractic who deals with prenatal care. I personally feel that discomfort can be normal as everything is shifting and stretching, but strong pain is usually a good indicator that something is not quite right. Some adjustments may be needed before and after baby is born.

Hopefully you can get back to feeling a bit better. 

TobbynS

For those of you who left snarky comments, they are certainly not appreciated.  These boards are for support during a difficult time.  I left a separate thread because no one is talking about Diastasis Recti in the symptom thread, and because it is a condition that there is nothing any doctor can do until after baby comes (except early induction).  Women who suffer from D.R. during pregnancy have serious labor concerns and postpartum concerns, including possible postpartum surgery.  I am looking for women who are going through this, so we can support each other.  Please refrain yourself from posting unnecessary comments.  

mirdamae03

This is not meant to be snarky, but you last posted in this group back in October. If you want support, it's generally a good idea to hang around and give it to other members of this group, not just show up when it benefits you. I've been around TB for 9 years, and you get what you give when it comes to these kinds of community forums.

ladylolly89

TobbynS said:

For those of you who left snarky comments, they are certainly not appreciated.  These boards are for support during a difficult time. 

Hmm, are they? Some other women on here have also been having an incredibly difficult time or worse, and where has your support been? The "support" thing is a give and take. 

ellie111227

TobbynS said:

For those of you who left snarky comments, they are certainly not appreciated.  These boards are for support during a difficult time.  I left a separate thread because no one is talking about Diastasis Recti in the symptom thread, and because it is a condition that there is nothing any doctor can do until after baby comes (except early induction).  Women who suffer from D.R. during pregnancy have serious labor concerns and postpartum concerns, including possible postpartum surgery.  I am looking for women who are going through this, so we can support each other.  Please refrain yourself from posting unnecessary comments.  

Maybe no one was taking about it in the symptom thread because you didn't bring it up. It's still a symptom, even if it is a particularly shitty one, and that's the place where we talk about symptoms. It would be a perfectly valid topic to bring up there. Policing the responses you get won't get you very far around here, especially when you are demanding support from people you have never offered any support to. 

CurlyMommy416

TobbynS said:

For those of you who left snarky comments, they are certainly not appreciated.  These boards are for support during a difficult time.  I left a separate thread because no one is talking about Diastasis Recti in the symptom thread, and because it is a condition that there is nothing any doctor can do until after baby comes (except early induction).  Women who suffer from D.R. during pregnancy have serious labor concerns and postpartum concerns, including possible postpartum surgery.  I am looking for women who are going through this, so we can support each other.  Please refrain yourself from posting unnecessary comments.  

WorkingOnMyNightCheese

@TobbynS I just went to my midwife/OB's office this morning for the same two issues. I literally feel your pain. My advice would be to wear your belt consistently, for me the pressure/pain in the pelvic area gets much worse when I don't wear it for a day. It makes my belly a funny shape but...I'd rather that than walk around like a cowboy.

In terms of the abdominal pain, have you tried a couple acetaminophen? Or a warm bath? Both helped me a lot yesterday.

good luck, I'll let you know if I can come with anything else to help!

anitamargarita_82

@TobbynS what you have is a symptom of pregnancy (cue the sounds of shock and awe)..... just like we all have symptoms and commiserate with each other over on the symptoms thread as PP have said.  Why you felt the need to just roll up into our BMB and make up your own thread is anyone's guess.  I suppose you think because nobody else was talking about it you should make a separate thread.  If we all made our own threads about each symptom we had that wasn't being addressed in the symptoms thread our board would be over run with stuff and the important threads for people seeking legitimate advice or shoulders to lean on would be lost.  And believe it or not there are ladies in this group who have had some very trying times lately and we've all stood by them and offered support because they are all vested in being a genuine part of this group and not some random drive by.   And then have the audacity to tell us what we can and can not say.... nope nope nope.  Girl bye!

WorkingOnMyNightCheese

Wearmi1 said:

@TobbynS what you have is a symptom of pregnancy (cue the sounds of shock and awe)..... just like we all have symptoms and commiserate with each other over on the symptoms thread as PP have said.  Why you felt the need to just roll up into our BMB and make up your own thread is anyone's guess.  I suppose you think because nobody else was talking about it you should make a separate thread.  If we all made our own threads about each symptom we had that wasn't being addressed in the symptoms thread our board would be over run with stuff and the important threads for people seeking legitimate advice or shoulders to lean on would be lost.  And believe it or not there are ladies in this group who have had some very trying times lately and we've all stood by them and offered support because they are all vested in being a genuine part of this group and not some random drive by.   And then have the audacity to tell us what we can and can not say.... nope nope nope.  Girl bye!

Okay so... let me get this straight. A.) her question and advice needed was not legitimate? No one's talking about diastasis on the symptoms thread, to my knowledge. And saying it's not there because she "didn't bring it up" isn't quite fair, because someone brought up PUPPPs on a separate thread and didn't get chewed out for it. B.) She can't tell you what to say, but you can tell her not to post? Is this not a public internet forum? 

I guess all I'm trying to say is, maybe we should all lighten up a bit. 


Edited because words are hard sometimes. 

anitamargarita_82

Whelp this is the way I feel about it.  The pupps thread was started by a regular not some random drive by.  Yes a reg should know better but hey whatever, we all have our days.  And yes she should have posted in the symptoms page whether it was being talked about or not.  The insteps of my feet hurt, should I start my own thread for that because no one else is talking about it on the symptoms thread... nope!   Yes this is a public forum, and yes we all have a right to speak our minds especially when some random person shows up in here telling us to keep our unnecessary comments to ourselves.  But hey if you're riding your horse today and want to White Knight this drive by go right ahead. 

silliegirlie143

@TobbynS
I am sorry you're in pain. It's unfortunate that you felt you didn't get the support you were looking for from this great group of women. Take a look at our high-risk thread, search previous posts for our member losses, read into our family drama, look at our mental health updates. We have lots of members who are suffering from the symptoms, side-effects, and shitty situations surrounding these pregnancies. We are not unique in this. We are real people, living real lives. We share the good, the bad, and the ugly. There is a TON of support on this board.

Here's what we don't do: we don't take too well to someone essentially walking into a group mid-conversation to say "hey! Take a look at my issue and give me support" when we really don't know you. Now, if you were a poster that we recognize who was going into crisis and needed support NOW, we would all drop what we were doing to show the love. 

You are asking our respect of your troubles, we are asking your respect for the group dynamics. If you're not sure of those dynamics, I invite you to rejoin for a couple days as a wall flower. See what's going on in our daily conversations and see if there's an appropriate place for you to jump in to give and receive the support you deserve. 

ladylolly89

WorkingOnMyNightCheese

Wearmi1 said:

Whelp this is the way I feel about it.  The pupps thread was started by a regular not some random drive by.  Yes a reg should know better but hey whatever, we all have our days.  And yes she should have posted in the symptoms page whether it was being talked about or not.  The insteps of my feet hurt, should I start my own thread for that because no one else is talking about it on the symptoms thread... nope!   Yes this is a public forum, and yes we all have a right to speak our minds especially when some random person shows up in here telling us to keep our unnecessary comments to ourselves.  But hey if you're riding your horse today and want to White Knight this drive by go right ahead. 

I'm assuming you're calling me a WK, which is new for me, but I knew would happen. I've been on TB for two years, which is long enough to know when you'll be flamed. So I'm no stranger to the term, but I have never been known as one before. I'm not someone that says don't be snarky, I'm all for snark. All I'm trying to say is that I think in this BMB there's a tendency to jump on people that seem to be in real need of help for not following the rules, when it could be possibly suggested in a gentler way. 

I'm sorry if my comment upsets people, that's not the intention, but I do think it wouldn't hurt to take a bit of a breather in these scenarios and explain a little more clearly and in a gentler way to the OP the climate of the board, like @silliegirlie143 did.

I'm not interested in arguing this topic back and forth, it's been done dozens of times in our BMB. Just trying to remind people that yes, the group has a dynamic, but sometimes it leaves something to be desired in the welcoming department. I'm well aware that's an unpopular sentiment so no need to flame me for it, I'll do it myself for you.  

ladylolly89

If someone is in real need of help, that is what medical professionals are for. Clearly it was not an emergency considering it took OP two days to return to the thread.

meg2704

For what it's worth, I am going to a penatal yoga class and we went over exercises to help with this (not going to try to spell it, I'm tired). I think that may help if you google for it. I hope you find some relief.