I am sorry if this discussion is only helping me, but I was hoping maybe some of you who have struggled with infertility could help me find a way to tell my good friend that I am expecting. I have known her for a little less than a year really but we are good friends and I know she has been struggling with infertility for a long time now so I want to be able to tell her in a way that doesn't make it worse. We work across the hall from each other so I'm aware that it will kind of be right in front of her. My heart aches for her and I want to be able to let her know that though I don't understand her feelings in the same way I will respect her feelings and however she needs to be with me. I just can't find words that don't sound hollow and useless.