Hey ladies, I just wondered if anyone else is in this boat or has dealt with it before. DH and I are both second marriage, so we both have kids from before with someone else.
My ex and I are on fairly good terms and tend to be able to talk about things so, while I think telling him with be somewhat awkward I'm not to worried about things there. My DH's ex though... she's very spiteful and mean. Example, 2 days after DH and I got back in town from our tiny wedding she had her lawyer on us over 'back child support' which turned out to be around $200 we had missed because we messed up when he was out of work over a year before the wedding. This woman waited a year to come after us over $200 just so she could do it right after our wedding! She also claimed that the investments my DH cashed in to pay for our trip and ceremony she was intitled to part of, which she wasn't and that was held up.
My over all point is just how spiteful she is and how she goes out of her way to make happy things for us turn sour. I don't even want to face telling her. If we could never let her know I'd do that, but we will be telling his other kids (of corse!) and anything they know they tell their mom.
I want to be happy. I want to enjoy this with DH. I want my daughter to be able to be excited. I don't want his ex to do something crazy and make things bad again like she always does.
Do anyone have any advise? I'm only 8 weeks so it's not hard to hide or anything right now, but I know that won't last forever. My daughter will be finding out when we go for ultrasound at the end of next week because I'm going to have to bring her with me due to crazy schedules. Once she knows she will tell her brothers, but we have 50/50 so ultrasound is a week we don't have the boys so I've got about 3 weeks to figure this out.
I know it's going to boil down to deal with it and whatever she does, but I'm so stressed about
this. Any help would be great.