I figured this topic might deserve a thread of its own.
DH and I are in the middle of talking about permanent birth control. The pill has always reeked havoc on my system and I am a tad absent minded and can forget (even with a daily alarm in my phone) - we chose that method for about 9 months after our second was born. We knew we wanted one more but wanted to space the last one out a little longer than the gap between our first two. I do not trust either of us on temporary birth control - pill or condom so now we are discussing permanent options. 3 kids in 3 years is perfect for us, we are happy with the timing and size.
My concern with tubal ligation is ectopic pregnancy risks and I won't be able to deliver at the hospital I prefer since it is a catholic hospital. Now I am having a c-section so it wouldn't be any more recovery or a seperate surgery - they do it right after the c-section and the other hospital was great - I am really happy with both - the bedside manner and intimate feel of the catholic facility (even though I am not religious) was just better.
DH is scared of the vasectomy surgery and freaked out a bit when I sent him an article on the pros and cons of each "because he was at menards" like that was some sort of sacred place he couldn't get an article about it, he then kinda freaked like I was planning a life after him or wanted another baby and wasn't telling him - which was simply a cover for his being scared of the surgery. After a truly candid conversation he agreed to it but I know he is against it and I wonder if making him go through a surgery is wrong since the tubal can be done with no additional surgery/recovery on my end. I can't seem to feel one way or the other and I know he does not want to take time off work to recover.
Sorry for the novel - just hoping for some advice and opinions. It obviously has me stressed and I am still a tad lost. Plus I am very interested in what others are doing and considering.