@aprilsarahjune My water broke at 3am and I didn't even call the hospital until 7am. The nurse was like "yeah, you should probably just get yourself ready and come in."
DH then showered and SHAVED before we left. We do only like like 5 minutes from the hospital so it wasn't like a mad dash but... probably not typical, lol.
I could have written this. My water broke at 4am, I showered and shaved (all the areas, ha), then we went to the hospital, also only about 5 min away.
@dogperson11 I also cringed at a lot of the names in the names thread. I hate the trend of giving babies unusual names just for the sake of being different.
@singing_lyn it's great that you got to have a birth experience that you remember fondly. However, not everyone's birth plan is the same, not everyone's goes according to plan, and definitely not everyone deals with pain in the same way. Like @virginiaham said, your post did come across as "why didn't she labor more like me," which isn't a fair judgment on the other mom or on others who might not deal with pain as calmly as you were able to.
I didn't mean for it to come across that way, like I said I understand everyone labors differently. I've just been there for my sister having 4 babies, and I have a huge family, and a lot of us I guess labor in the same way, so sitting there trying to rest, and nurse for the first time and having someone in the room directly next door screaming bloody murder was very jarring, and I don't remember my labor fondly it was not my favorite experience, almost the only one that I would have gone through until this surprise, and not at all according to any plan that I had. But I'm also the kind of person that as a kid I threw 1 tantrum and threw everything all over my room, and then proceeded to pick it all up myself and think that was the dumbest thing that I've ever done. I guess I internalize a lot more than anyone, so I guess I'll shut up now, because I'll just keep getting beat on for an opinion that not many people can see from my perspective I guess.
@dogperson11 I also cringed at a lot of the names in the names thread. I hate the trend of giving babies unusual names just for the sake of being different.
@singing_lyn it's great that you got to have a birth experience that you remember fondly. However, not everyone's birth plan is the same, not everyone's goes according to plan, and definitely not everyone deals with pain in the same way. Like @virginiaham said, your post did come across as "why didn't she labor more like me," which isn't a fair judgment on the other mom or on others who might not deal with pain as calmly as you were able to.
I didn't mean for it to come across that way, like I said I understand everyone labors differently. I've just been there for my sister having 4 babies, and I have a huge family, and a lot of us I guess labor in the same way, so sitting there trying to rest, and nurse for the first time and having someone in the room directly next door screaming bloody murder was very jarring, and I don't remember my labor fondly it was not my favorite experience, almost the only one that I would have gone through until this surprise, and not at all according to any plan that I had. But I'm also the kind of person that as a kid I threw 1 tantrum and threw everything all over my room, and then proceeded to pick it all up myself and think that was the dumbest thing that I've ever done. I guess I internalize a lot more than anyone, so I guess I'll shut up now, because I'll just keep getting beat on <\b>for an opinion that not many people can see from my perspective I guess.
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@dogperson11 I also cringed at a lot of the names in the names thread. I hate the trend of giving babies unusual names just for the sake of being different.
@singing_lyn it's great that you got to have a birth experience that you remember fondly. However, not everyone's birth plan is the same, not everyone's goes according to plan, and definitely not everyone deals with pain in the same way. Like @virginiaham said, your post did come across as "why didn't she labor more like me," which isn't a fair judgment on the other mom or on others who might not deal with pain as calmly as you were able to.
I didn't mean for it to come across that way, like I said I understand everyone labors differently. I've just been there for my sister having 4 babies, and I have a huge family, and a lot of us I guess labor in the same way, so sitting there trying to rest, and nurse for the first time and having someone in the room directly next door screaming bloody murder was very jarring, and I don't remember my labor fondly it was not my favorite experience, almost the only one that I would have gone through until this surprise, and not at all according to any plan that I had. But I'm also the kind of person that as a kid I threw 1 tantrum and threw everything all over my room, and then proceeded to pick it all up myself and think that was the dumbest thing that I've ever done. I guess I internalize a lot more than anyone, so I guess I'll shut up now, because I'll just keep getting beat on for an opinion that not many people can see from my perspective I guess.
That was probably me! Sorry! I'm sure you don't want to hear my birth story... about how my once nice OB bullied me into rushing labor (checking in too soon, breaking water early, inducing, ending in emergency C-section)... meanwhile 3 tries of the epidural failed to last longer than 30 minutes. All this meant I was restricted to my bed, lying down, in pain even between contractions because of the stress.
@singing_lyn It's different for everyone and there's also no way to know until you're there. I'm very crunchy, hippy, did a birthing center birth for my first and I was so sure I'd have this quiet time in the labor tub. In everything else in my life I've had a very high pain tolerance and the more I hurt the more quiet I become. I was a no drugs, no ties down.... screaming my head off like I was going to die. I felt so bad afterword too. My throat hurt for days. It felt like it wasn't even me in control of what I was doing at that point. I also had a precipitous labor, that's where it goes way way fast and is crazy scary, which I'm sure played a big roll in how it felt to me. I went from "Huh, that feels like a contraction." to "oh look a baby!" In under 3 hours. So my long winded point here is I somehow bet the woman screaming didn't have that in mind for her labor either, and if she's anything like me she felt like crap for putting everyone around her through that as well, but in that moment it was all she knew. I don't know if that helps put the why of screaming in any better perspective or not.
I hope for quite this time, but I've been told if your first labor is precipitous it's rather likely your next will go even faster so I'm honestly really afraid.
My UO is that I can't stand when my friends on social media make custom hashtags for each of their children. I LOVE seeing friends baby photos, but honestly the hashtags with their first, middle, and last names just make me roll my eyes.
(I bet I'm totally going to give in to the dark side and make a hashtag when my LO is born.)
I agree with the legalizing of marijuana. I have a cousin that is just way to high strung when we would hang out at parties he would smoke and became this awesome guy. And my brother in law has this undiagnosed something or other that causes him severe pain throughout his body and he smokes to relieve it. The health impact alone makes me feel it's worth it even though I have never and will never smoke it.
My UO is I can not understand people that get loud and angry and just all kinds of crazy while giving birth. When I had my son I basically went into this meditative state doing pain excercises my neurologist taught me for my headaches that I used to get and basically didn't say 2 words to people. Then as I was nursing my son and getting settled in for the night this other woman in the room next door was screaming constantly like she was being murdered, up and down the halls while walking, in the water delivery room down the hall, and then back to the room next to me before she finally must have had the baby because she got insanely quiet or they gave her drugs. In the middle of the night none the less. I do believe some people have a higher pain tolerance as well, but I just could not understand why she was screaming like that. And I was in labor for 54 hours no drugs, barely any sleep, or food.
I was more of the curl into a ball and wimper in pain like a lost and dying puppy. The screamers made me so scared of labor. But everyone is different and if screaming helps you through the pain then have at it!
I know there are a few L&D nurses on here, I'm curious of the stats? How many scream, how many cry and how many beat their husbands? (Mine got threatened once for singing "push it real good.")
HAHAHAHAHAHA OMG I hope my husband sings that. That would seriously cheer me up.
@kmornelas29 ya know, I can't tell you how much I agree with you.
Part of my job is to "background" check people... and ironically, Hashtags are a big go-to for me. Couldn't tell you how much personal information is attached to that, especially if it were your actual name!
@supergluzie I'm not cool enough to constantly hashtag on social media BUT I think those parents do the hashtags so it's easier to find all the photos years later. If i'ts unique enough, the hashtag will pretty much be their own personal search engine tool.
@singing_lyn It's different for everyone and there's also no way to know until you're there. I'm very crunchy, hippy, did a birthing center birth for my first and I was so sure I'd have this quiet time in the labor tub. In everything else in my life I've had a very high pain tolerance and the more I hurt the more quiet I become. I was a no drugs, no ties down.... screaming my head off like I was going to die. I felt so bad afterword too. My throat hurt for days. It felt like it wasn't even me in control of what I was doing at that point. I also had a precipitous labor, that's where it goes way way fast and is crazy scary, which I'm sure played a big roll in how it felt to me. I went from "Huh, that feels like a contraction." to "oh look a baby!" In under 3 hours. So my long winded point here is I somehow bet the woman screaming didn't have that in mind for her labor either, and if she's anything like me she felt like crap for putting everyone around her through that as well, but in that moment it was all she knew. I don't know if that helps put the why of screaming in any better perspective or not.
I hope for quite this time, but I've been told if your first labor is precipitous it's rather likely your next will go even faster so I'm honestly really afraid.
My cousin was like that with her labor it was so quick she tore so bad as soon as she gave birth they had to whisk her away to surgery to sew her up and her second was quicker as well. But thank you for explaining your screaming it gave me a different perspective on it. Understanding it was something you had no control of changes how I view it, I thought it was just something she was doing that she had control over but maybe she didn't. I just have always controlled myself so fiercely in different things I don't know how I would act if I had no control of something and did something like that so out of character for me. Again not saying anything about how other people behave just myself, but I know I'm very abnormal compared to the rest of the country. I live in a very stoic, control yourself, do what you're told community. People from Finland settled here and that's my main heritage and I read stuff about Finnish people all the time and it's like oh that's why we are all like that. It's very much hereditary and how they were all raised and now we were all raised.
I'm from Oregon and I support legal marijuana even though I don't use it myself. Saying it's "causing more crimes" is a bit misleading. There has been a small uptick in marijuana-impaired driving.
Interesting to hear other perspectives. Have you read articles that say it's a "small uptick"? I ask because DH is a state trooper and he estimates he gives out about 30% more marijuana DUIs now then before it was legalized. I suspect people who haven't used before don't realize how impaired they actually are.
I read in the Oregonian that overall impaired driving was up 7%, including the increase in marijuana-impaired driving. I don't know how it's broken out if you just look at marijuana but I trust your DH's perspective. My main point was that the phrase "causing more crime" leads people to think of crimes like robberies and assaults. Totally valid to bring up the increase in impaired driving, which is something to take seriously in itself.
I'm pretty sure marijuana is still considered a "gateway" drug to harder, illegal drugs like cocaine and heroine, when used recreationally. Would be interested in seeing the stats in that regard in areas where it's legal.
TTC x 1.5 years.
Acupuncture, Femera x3 cyles, and HSG. BFP in September 2014, DS born June 2015. TTC x2 months. BFP January 2017.
@VLillyV Completely agree with you! I'm in Colorado and one of my coworkers suffered from hyperemesis gravidarum and her doctor recommended edibles when the drugs didn't work for her. I wish there were more studies but I'm so glad we live somewhere she was able to get some relief!
The doctor recommended it? Which country does this doctor practice? The ACOG in US not only doesn't recommend it, it strongly discourages the use due to safety concerns to to fetus.
TTC x 1.5 years.
Acupuncture, Femera x3 cyles, and HSG. BFP in September 2014, DS born June 2015. TTC x2 months. BFP January 2017.
@ForwardnBackward Actually, the only negative effects observed have been ADHD, and that was in a flawed study. Medical professionals here in Colorado are more open to the idea of marijuana as medicine than elsewhere in the country, I'm sure.
@singing_lyn I do understand stoic. If it gives any perspective I waked around on a broken foot for 2 years when I had no health care and rarely said anything about pain. It was such a scary out of body feeling. I seriously thought I was going to die. I remember begging my midwife to help me because it was killing me. I also tore rather badly, not as bad as your cousin, but enough that even 6 years laters my DH had to be very careful how he does some things sex related or I have pain from the scar tissue. I felt so robbed of my birth experience. Which I know happens to a lot of women so I'm not trying to say my experience was more valid or anything like that. We all have our own stories and it's valid. It's more about I had this plan. I had a play list and a labor tub and it was going to be a smooth entry into the world. Instead I was naked (because they forced me out of the tub because things were moving to fast for them to feel safe) and screaming and so afraid. This time I don't have a plan. I just hope I can endure it with what I'm afraid is coming. Part of me fully expects to give birth on the side of the road in a car because I won't have time to get where I need to be. And now I'm completely running away with this and it's not about what it was supposed to be about anymore so I'll stop. This might need to be it's own thread later, or belong someplace else.
@GenTK thank you for sharing your story. I think it's important for us to understand that albeit you may have a plan, it may not come to fruition and that birth can be much scarier and harder/more paimful on your body then thought out or planned. I feel like it's helpful for me to know your birth story for a few reasons, so again, Thank you for sharing it.
@ForwardnBackward Actually, the only negative effects observed have been ADHD, and that was in a flawed study. Medical professionals here in Colorado are more open to the idea of marijuana as medicine than elsewhere in the country, I'm sure.
I'm pretty sure that's not the only negative effect. Here is the link to the ACOG statement.
After reading this (of course I could read all the citations and pick them apart too) I'd be concerned about physicians ok-ing/recommending marijuana use during pregnancy unless they are properly disclosing the potential risks associated with it to the patient.
TTC x 1.5 years.
Acupuncture, Femera x3 cyles, and HSG. BFP in September 2014, DS born June 2015. TTC x2 months. BFP January 2017.
@ForwardnBackward So, the problem is that the studies cited either are "self-reported" surveys or are non-human models with hugely outsized dosages. The best study I have seen was the Jamaica one, which found no impairment and actually suggested the possibility of a cognitive benefit. I really wish there were more studies! But personally, I trust marijuana more than many pharmaceuticals. It's an extreme example and not applicable now that regulations are so much stricter, but consider the women in the 60s who smoked pot for morning sickness versus those who took thalidomide. Our testing protocols are worlds better now, but I would generally still choose marijuana (vaped or eaten) over pharmaceuticals, for my own peace of mind.
ETA that I'm no way intending to encourage others to use marijuana!!! I trust everyone to make the best decisions for themselves, their baby, and their specific circumstances.
@migdala I feel like I should say that I generally don't have any issues with marijuana use, recreational or medicinal. I lived in Seattle for 6 years while it was legal and I work with oncology patients for my job. But when it comes to growing humans, I prefer to avoid interventions, natural or otherwise, where the country's experts who analyze all the data andd put together a consensus statement that actively DISCOURAGES (not just "not recommend") it's use. But your body, your choice.
TTC x 1.5 years.
Acupuncture, Femera x3 cyles, and HSG. BFP in September 2014, DS born June 2015. TTC x2 months. BFP January 2017.
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That was probably me! Sorry!
I'm still a little bitter about it, obviously
I was a no drugs, no ties down.... screaming my head off like I was going to die. I felt so bad afterword too. My throat hurt for days. It felt like it wasn't even me in control of what I was doing at that point.
I also had a precipitous labor, that's where it goes way way fast and is crazy scary, which I'm sure played a big roll in how it felt to me. I went from "Huh, that feels like a contraction." to "oh look a baby!" In under 3 hours.
So my long winded point here is I somehow bet the woman screaming didn't have that in mind for her labor either, and if she's anything like me she felt like crap for putting everyone around her through that as well, but in that moment it was all she knew. I don't know if that helps put the why of screaming in any better perspective or not.
I hope for quite this time, but I've been told if your first labor is precipitous it's rather likely your next will go even faster so I'm honestly really afraid.
My UO is that I can't stand when my friends on social media make custom hashtags for each of their children. I LOVE seeing friends baby photos, but honestly the hashtags with their first, middle, and last names just make me roll my eyes.
(I bet I'm totally going to give in to the dark side and make a hashtag when my LO is born.)
Part of my job is to "background" check people... and ironically, Hashtags are a big go-to for me. Couldn't tell you how much personal information is attached to that, especially if it were your actual name!
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BFP in September 2014, DS born June 2015.
TTC x2 months.
BFP January 2017.
BFP in September 2014, DS born June 2015.
TTC x2 months.
BFP January 2017.
I felt so robbed of my birth experience. Which I know happens to a lot of women so I'm not trying to say my experience was more valid or anything like that. We all have our own stories and it's valid. It's more about I had this plan. I had a play list and a labor tub and it was going to be a smooth entry into the world. Instead I was naked (because they forced me out of the tub because things were moving to fast for them to feel safe) and screaming and so afraid.
This time I don't have a plan. I just hope I can endure it with what I'm afraid is coming. Part of me fully expects to give birth on the side of the road in a car because I won't have time to get where I need to be.
And now I'm completely running away with this and it's not about what it was supposed to be about anymore so I'll stop. This might need to be it's own thread later, or belong someplace else.
https://m.acog.org/Resources-And-Publications/Committee-Opinions/Committee-on-Obstetric-Practice/Marijuana-Use-During-Pregnancy-and-Lactation?IsMobileSet=true
After reading this (of course I could read all the citations and pick them apart too) I'd be concerned about physicians ok-ing/recommending marijuana use during pregnancy unless they are properly disclosing the potential risks associated with it to the patient.
BFP in September 2014, DS born June 2015.
TTC x2 months.
BFP January 2017.
ETA that I'm no way intending to encourage others to use marijuana!!! I trust everyone to make the best decisions for themselves, their baby, and their specific circumstances.
BFP in September 2014, DS born June 2015.
TTC x2 months.
BFP January 2017.