WTF Wednesday/AW Rants 03.08

OmegaRose3

I know it's late in the day, but I think we could all use a WTF Wednesday to rant.

Let's commiserate!

RainyDays86

Thanks for starting this @OmegaRose3! I feel this this has been an especially tough day in May '17 world.

WTF uterus, calm down! I've been having frequent BH contractions all day since chemo. I called the nurses line at my OB and they suggested a bunch of stuff I'd already tried and then they suggested l taking some Tylonel and a bath. That helped for a while, but now I'm having contractions again. They're infrequent now but I figured better safe than sorry so I called back. I'm waiting for a call from the on-call OB now. I really really really don't think it's anything serious but I'm worried they're going to want me to go in. I definitely want to be safe but I also don't want to go to l&d if I don't need to.

OmegaRose3

Today started out really decent, SIL and I went over to MIL's house to hang out and everything was fine until DD (1.5-ish) decided it was the end of the world when we went on a grocery store run. Not only did I run into an old friend mid shit fit, it took everything within me not to flip off the 15y/o girl who gave me a dirty look. I don't think I've been this frustrated, embarrassed and defeated in a long time. I'm relieved she's asleep now, but god I need a really strong drink so I'm just going to eat nachos and cry instead.

OmegaRose3

@RainyDays86 Keep us posted! I hope you don't have to go into L&D early though, that's scary!

starphish18

I just can't get comfortable right now. I feel like my stomach is about to explode, acid reflux is really bad, can barely breath, and my back is sore. I've been groaning and resituating myself for the past hour and a half. I just want to fall asleep and start over tomorrow.

RainyDays86

Thanks @OmegaRose3. The doc called back and she said that since the BH have decreased to just watch for now. I'm a little nervous because unlike real labor these don't have the same clear start and stop and I worry I might be missing some, but I'm glad they aren't super concerned.

kat81

I posted about this in mental health but my wtf was that DS had an hour-long dangerous meltdown because we cleaned up his legos off the floor so that the cleaners could come vacuum (and he was warned about this for like 4 days leading up to it.) Less than an hour later, after DS had calmed down and even flipped his mood to the polar opposite, DD had a 15+ min screaming/flopping/writhing meltdown because she wanted to put the toothpaste on her toothbrush herself. AND I had let her, but when she put too much on I cut her off and she was mad because she wanted even more than the too much amount.

And can I post someone else's WTF from today from a facebook group I'm in for moms in my profession of kids with special needs? This mom said she is traveling with her DH and without her 3 kids for the first time in 6 years. The trip involves a work conference and some much-needed couple time, and to prepare for it they needed to involve both sets of grandparents in addition to a special care facility for their special needs kid, and they worked on the plans for MONTHS, including going to the special care facility to train the workers and practice a stay there as a family. So anyway, some co-worker of hers who is going to the same conference with her DH and 9 mo old then had the gall to ask this mom, "hey would you mind watching our baby for some of the conference so we can attend sessions, since you're not bringing your kids?" Apparently the conference has childcare, too! This was one of the biggest WTF situations I've ever heard of.

Hansolosparka

@kat81 oh hell to the no!!!

hp_momma

starphish18 said:

I just can't get comfortable right now. I feel like my stomach is about to explode, acid reflux is really bad, can barely breath, and my back is sore. I've been groaning and resituating myself for the past hour and a half. I just want to fall asleep and start over tomorrow.

Ughh YES. My stomach feels so stretched out today like it's going to explode. I'm hungry but I feel like there isn't possibly any room left! 

museic-2

@kat81 that mom's wtf is awful! The other mom was very inconsiderate to ask that. I hope she said no.

Mine isn't anywhere near as bad but:
WTF nausea. I thought I was done with you. First time in months I've pushed myself to actually cook some healthy food on a weeknight after being exhausted from teaching and I throw up absolutely everything. Hoping this is a fluke. Feeling so yucky.

OmegaRose3

@kat81 Some people...wow, I hope she said no.

KMD1106

Thanks for sharing this @OmegaRose3! I'm seriously regretting eating bacon wrapped jalapeños for dinner. My ulcerative colitis + those is making for a very upset colon. That on top of braxton hicks is making for a not so fun night. 

chailife34

WTF smoke detectors! Why do you keep going off randomly day and night?! Your batteries have all been changed multiple times and every unit checked by the fire department and gas maintenance worker. When one goes off, all do, because they are electronically connected throughout the house. Wtfffff! Worst noise ever! I'm replacing every one of them with battery only ones first thing tomorrow.  

kns1988

WTF garages that try to overcharge. A garage told me it would be $460 to replace a part plus $100 for labor. I did a google search and was like, I can get that part for $100 - $200; can I buy it and just have you do the labor? He said no, but he said he would see if he could find a cheaper part. Called me back literally 2 minutes later because he "found a cheaper part" (yeah right) and knocked $100 off, but by then he had a pissy attitude. Look, guy, I'm well within my rights to haggle with you. Go ahead and get pissy - I saved money. 

nda_roxybabe

Day late, but WTF
WTF: My stomach being SO tight last night. I'm pretty sure I still haven't had any BH, but sometimes my stomach is just so tight/ stretched feeling.
WTF: Extreme hunger in the middle of the night. I finally had to munch on a bar at 2:30a because I was burping up so much acid from being hungry
WTF: Why is my tired tired this morning? I was fine until I got to work and now I feel like I need a nap.
AW: I had my maternity photos last night and I cant waiiiiit to see them.

RainyDays86

hp_momma said:

starphish18 said:

I just can't get comfortable right now. I feel like my stomach is about to explode, acid reflux is really bad, can barely breath, and my back is sore. I've been groaning and resituating myself for the past hour and a half. I just want to fall asleep and start over tomorrow.

Ughh YES. My stomach feels so stretched out today like it's going to explode. I'm hungry but I feel like there isn't possibly any room left! 

This is how I was feeling all day yesterday!  It was sooo uncomfortable.  I had the day off because of chemo but honestly my worst symptom was my giant pregnancy belly.

kat81

@OmegaRose3
@museic
@Hansolosparka

She said she actually just turned around and walked away from the conversation because she couldn't deal. I think she cried in her office. In the clueless/awful mom's defense, perhaps she didn't know that the other mom had a special needs kid who needs that much special care. Still, though, even if you have 3 neuro-typical kids and you don't bring them to a conference, that takes a lot of planning and the last thing you want to do is watch another kid. What makes things worse is that the offending mom had apparently won a childcare grant through a an outside (but work-related) agency, like, to help with her childcare costs in general (including for use, presumably, at a conference like this.) Seems to me they gave that grant to the wrong person!

starphish18

@kat81 That story baffles me. Like you said, even assuming the one clueless mom (mom B ) had no clue the other mom (mom A) had special needs children, why would mom B possibly assume mom A would want to watch HER (mom B's) kids while they're at the same conference. Clearly, mom A went through the trouble of making plans for her kids to stay home. That alone should be indication to mom B that mom A isn't looking to babysit at this thing. I don't get it.

kat81

starphish18 said:

@kat81 That story baffles me. Like you said, even assuming the one clueless mom (mom B ) had no clue the other mom (mom A) had special needs children, why would mom B possibly assume mom A would want to watch HER (mom B's) kids while they're at the same conference. Clearly, mom A went through the trouble of making plans for her kids to stay home. That alone should be indication to mom B that mom A isn't looking to babysit at this thing. I don't get it.

EXACTLY. No matter what, mom B is in the wrong. I think it's especially obtuse given that there is childcare offered. When I go to conferences I don't bring my husband, which means I don't go through huge hoops to make arrangements for the kids (it's also possible that mom B didn't realize mom A was bringing her DH). In that case I would offer to watch someone's kid for 1-2 key sessions. Mom B was bringing her kid and her DH, and there was one session they were co-chairing, so they do need childcare then, presumably, at a minimum. I'd probably offer that to a close friend if there were no other sessions I wanted to attend at that time...AND if there was no childcare offered by the conference. But with the conference offering childcare, I'm sorry, there is no reason you should ask ANYONE else to watch the kid.

RedInLove

RainyDays86 said:

hp_momma said:

starphish18 said:

I just can't get comfortable right now. I feel like my stomach is about to explode, acid reflux is really bad, can barely breath, and my back is sore. I've been groaning and resituating myself for the past hour and a half. I just want to fall asleep and start over tomorrow.

Ughh YES. My stomach feels so stretched out today like it's going to explode. I'm hungry but I feel like there isn't possibly any room left! 

This is how I was feeling all day yesterday!  It was sooo uncomfortable.  I had the day off because of chemo but honestly my worst symptom was my giant pregnancy belly.

This is what my BH feel like - my belly gets tight and firm for a minuet they're not painful, not even uncomfortable, I just feel them. 

ShadeofGreen816

RedInLove said:

RainyDays86 said:

hp_momma said:

starphish18 said:

I just can't get comfortable right now. I feel like my stomach is about to explode, acid reflux is really bad, can barely breath, and my back is sore. I've been groaning and resituating myself for the past hour and a half. I just want to fall asleep and start over tomorrow.

Ughh YES. My stomach feels so stretched out today like it's going to explode. I'm hungry but I feel like there isn't possibly any room left! 

This is how I was feeling all day yesterday!  It was sooo uncomfortable.  I had the day off because of chemo but honestly my worst symptom was my giant pregnancy belly.

This is what my BH feel like - my belly gets tight and firm for a minuet they're not painful, not even uncomfortable, I just feel them. 

This is how my BH are too - it always makes me worried that I'm having more than I realize because often the only way I know I'm having one is if I touch my belly. I asked my doctor and he said some people just have an "irritable uterus" (I know my words don't all match up but I didn't want to deal with the plural of uterus...). 

BabyMC517

WTF to he right side of my face randomly breaking out. 

NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot

ShadeofGreen816 said:

RedInLove said:

RainyDays86 said:

hp_momma said:

starphish18 said:

I just can't get comfortable right now. I feel like my stomach is about to explode, acid reflux is really bad, can barely breath, and my back is sore. I've been groaning and resituating myself for the past hour and a half. I just want to fall asleep and start over tomorrow.

Ughh YES. My stomach feels so stretched out today like it's going to explode. I'm hungry but I feel like there isn't possibly any room left! 

This is how I was feeling all day yesterday!  It was sooo uncomfortable.  I had the day off because of chemo but honestly my worst symptom was my giant pregnancy belly.

This is what my BH feel like - my belly gets tight and firm for a minuet they're not painful, not even uncomfortable, I just feel them. 

This is how my BH are too - it always makes me worried that I'm having more than I realize because often the only way I know I'm having one is if I touch my belly. I asked my doctor and he said some people just have an "irritable uterus" (I know my words don't all match up but I didn't want to deal with the plural of uterus...). 

Last time, my OB said I had an irritable uterus. I seriously have them all the time. It's almost constant. And I had to be induced late with DD. 

SparkySunDevil

I have an irritable uterus as well. I have contractions all the freaking time and they never do anything. Doctor checks my cervix (via ultrasound) each appointment just to make sure they're not "productive" contractions 

hp_momma

My stomach is always tight but I've never considered it BH contractions. Mainly because it lasts for hours rather than just for small amounts of time... 

With DD1 and DD2 I swore I was never having any contractions when the doctors would ask at my appts, but then by my 36wk cervical check I was 2cm dialated with both girls, so I must have been having some sort of contractions! If only my true labor contractions were that painless... 

mrsrep123

@starphish18 and @hp_momma my stomach usually feels right and stretched after dinner until I wake up the next morning! Ugh, good times. 

WTF: I cannot yawn silently these days. I'm sitting at the nurses' station constantly yawning while huffing and puffing. Everyone's laughing at me. Then, my charge nurse says I should check my O2 sats because constant yawning can indicate that me and/or baby aren't getting enough oxygen. I quickly replied that I am really tired because I didn't get my nap today... but then got up and hooked myself up to the monitor. 99% on room air! Yeah, I just need a nap!

RedInLove

NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot said:

ShadeofGreen816 said:

RedInLove said:

RainyDays86 said:

hp_momma said:

starphish18 said:

I just can't get comfortable right now. I feel like my stomach is about to explode, acid reflux is really bad, can barely breath, and my back is sore. I've been groaning and resituating myself for the past hour and a half. I just want to fall asleep and start over tomorrow.

Ughh YES. My stomach feels so stretched out today like it's going to explode. I'm hungry but I feel like there isn't possibly any room left! 

This is how I was feeling all day yesterday!  It was sooo uncomfortable.  I had the day off because of chemo but honestly my worst symptom was my giant pregnancy belly.

This is what my BH feel like - my belly gets tight and firm for a minuet they're not painful, not even uncomfortable, I just feel them. 

This is how my BH are too - it always makes me worried that I'm having more than I realize because often the only way I know I'm having one is if I touch my belly. I asked my doctor and he said some people just have an "irritable uterus" (I know my words don't all match up but I didn't want to deal with the plural of uterus...). 

Last time, my OB said I had an irritable uterus. I seriously have them all the time. It's almost constant. And I had to be induced late with DD. 

I've never had my BH experience called an irritable uterus. They are the same this pregnancy as with DD so I never gave it any more thought. Interesting, and now I want to Dr. Google it. 

ETA I had DD on her due date, and labor was very sudden and quick - I almost didn't make it to L&D even with a ride from the fire department. I wonder if they're related?

SKZW

hp_momma said:

With DD1 and DD2 I swore I was never having any contractions when the doctors would ask at my appts, but then by my 36wk cervical check I was 2cm dialated with both girls, so I must have been having some sort of contractions! If only my true labor contractions were that painless... 

Amen to that. I was walking around at 3cm for two weeks before going into labor, and I said to the doc, "That was easy! Surely the rest of the way will be the same, right?" ForeheadPalm. Couldn't be further from the truth.

PghMom412

Wtf husband. You had the day off without a toddler and our house still looks like someone broke in and rummaged to find our non existent hidden treasure and/or a toddler tornado hit. I was so looking forward to not having to waddle around cleaning this weekend.