BFP on Deployment Day

MrsBunz

Hey all, I am just hoping there are others on this board who are in or have been in similar situations. We found out we were pregnant on DH deployment day. We had been TTC, we wanted him to just miss the pregnancy this time (last deployment, he left when DS was 2 mo and returned at 7mo). I'm sure I'll feel better after my first scan, once I see a heartbeat. But as of right now, every cramp and bit of discharge freaks me out. I keep thinking I'm getting AF. Anyone been here? How did you deal with the early pregnancy emotions on top of deployment blues? Any tips will help!

Ae_Lovely321

My husband was gone for close to 3 weeks during my 1st trimester for a tdy and with his job he'll likely be gone again sometime before the baby is born.  It was rough dealing with all the chores, dogs, full time job, and dealing with all the lovely things that come with the 1st trimester. Nothing really helped getting over him being gone except for the pictures and phone calls but as far as the pregnancy blues I started crocheting baby blankets in my down time. Maybe pick a project that will help you destress and get you excited. 

Knottie1442286612

We found out the day before he left for his deployment that I was pregnant. I was really depressed and anxious until 10 weeks or so, and almost asked my OB for meds. I also had some abdominal pain and bleeding around 6 weeks, and went to the ED where I was checked out (everything was fine) - but that whole ordeal was awful. Other than that, I've had a normal pregnancy.. but like you, I worry about everything.

I've been trying to be really gentle with myself. I've been forcing myself to walk daily out in the sunshine, and trying to eat regularly/healthfully (I don't feel like cooking much while DH is deployed, honestly). I've been trying to stay busy with friends and schedule things to do, even when I don't feel like it. It helps some. I've gotten my nails done once, and try and take baths frequently, as a self-care thing. Staying busy makes the days go by faster. 

I thought being pregnant while DH was away would be a breeze, but it has been really hard. A lot harder than I thought. I'm just taking it one day at a time, and trying to take care of both myself and the baby. I'm about 14.5 weeks now, and things have gotten more bearable emotionally and physically, but honestly, it has really sucked most of the time.

Good luck, mama! I totally get where you are at. Hang in there and take care of yourself!

MrsBunz

Thank you both for your replies. Unfortunately we lost this one, so we will start TTC once DH gets home in a few months. @Ae_Lovely321 My husband had to go to SERE and on a few TDYs while I was pregnant with DS. One thing that helped us was sending belly pictures. Also make sure to know who your husband's shirt is (I'm not sure what branch you are, but that is what they call it in the AF), so you know who to contact during the TDY if an emergency arises, and the chaplain is always a great resource if you need them. 

Ae_Lovely321

@MrsBunz I am sorry to hear that. We're AF too, so I know about the 1st sgt/shirt. Thank you for the advice on the belly pics. I'm wishing you guys nothing but the best and hoping for a safe return for your hubby.