I want to start a conversation about work after baby! I need some advice, and want to hear about your future plans?
I am an elementary school teacher (reading specialist). I work Monday through Thursday from 8:00 to 11:30. I have to leave my house by 7 everyday to get to work, and I am usually home by 12:00. Originally, I told my work that I wouldn't be coming back next year, because I was going to stay home with my newborn.
Side Note: Our school year is October to April. We also have all of December off.
I was happy to get to stay home again all year, and be with baby number 2, but my work just offered me an amazing deal. They said that I could take off as long as I want, and come back to finish my job if I want. So, I wouldn't be going back until baby is 3 months old. This is such an amazing part time job that brings in some extra income, which is always nice but not absolutely needed for us, and I am scared to give it up, since I am getting this amazing offer! What would you do?
Part of me wants to say okay ill come back, because I love working, getting the paycheck, and having that break (since its part time). The other part of me wants to decline the offer and just focus on Mommy duties, and not worry about a job n getting out the house every morning.
Have you and your SO decided on if you are going back to work after baby? Are you going to be a stay at home mom? What lead you to that decision? Have you talked about it yet?
Me: 30 | DH:34
Married: 08/04/12
DD: 6 years | Born: 03/28/13
DS: 1 Year I Born 10/15/17
Re: Work/SAHM after baby
If I were in your shoes I'd give the arrangement a try. You can always walk away from it if you realize it's not ideal for you and your family. Only you will know what's best in your situation at the end of the day
I became a WAHM once my oldest was born (4.5 yrs ago) and while the logistics with two littles has been a bit crazy at times, I wouldn't change my arrangement for the world. And I'm working hard to make sure this is the permanent arrangement for our family
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Now, with #2, I will probably take 6+ months off and try to return again also with the same schedule. I'm not expecting my position to be available but I work for an ever-growing e-com business with lots of opportunity so i'm sure they'll be able to find something for me. Of course, this can all change based on baby, schedule, and daycare costs. Right now i'm bringing in a good amount of $ after daycare costs with the satisfaction of getting a break and letting my girl socialize etc so i'm happy with it. So depending on how the costs go up with #2, ill try to work out the same plan again.
Your situation sounds like a great offer to me! Especially since you get the summer off also, so you'll only really be working Jan-April, part-time, and at that time of new babyhood the few hours away per day were welcome (for me). IMO SAHMs are saints and i'm not sure I could do it - my 14 month old is so much work lol
I think my ideal scenario would be to work 3 days/week, but I'm not sure how realistic that is for my situation. I may talk to my boss and see if it would ever be an option. Or even the other two days, if I could work on emails only and other stuff that doesn't require me to be in the office.
Other than that, if it will make you happy to stay home, then stay home. I realized after my first that I am a much better mom because I work (I come home and I am 100% more focused on DD) and I'm fortunate to have a very flexible and easy going office, but I completely understand that everyone needs to make that decision on their own. My mom was a SAHM and I loved every minute of it
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Going part-time sounds like a great gig. My only personal input here would ask if you can start a bit after 3 months, maybe 6 months instead? I find having a second income great for cushioning the nest and allows for luxuries. If you can juggle it, I'd say go for it.
I'll be taking 12 months off just like I did the first time round. I'll stop working at 8months so I can nest and go enjoy myself a little. I only had 4 days off the first time and regret not stopping earlier. Learn from your mistakes! My work will pay for 3 months of my leave. I believe if the government hasn't changed any legislations then I will get 18 weeks minimum wage from the government so income wise we are good for 6 months.
ETA: 18 weeks not 10 weeks.
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LO#2 EDD October 18th
When DD was born I went back to work after 8 weeks, Monday through Thursday's. Pumping sucked.
I currently work 8-4:45, 3 days a week. We're pretty sure I'll be SAHM once LO arrives. The stress of pumping plus getting 2 kids out the door by 7am and getting them picked up, fed, and in bed in the evenings (by myself 75% of the time) is a huge part of the decision. After paying for daycare for 2 I wouldn't be bringing home enough to make it worth it. Plus the preschool we are sending DD to doesn't offer before or after care, so I would have kids in 2 different places.
I'm nervous to SAH - I never thought it was something I could/would do. I'm already making lists of kids activities in our town and we're considering joining the YMCA to help keep us busy.
ETA: The decision for me to SAH is also based on DH's crazy schedule. I don't want to have to miss out on family outings and stuff because it's days off never collide. It's not worth the $ I would bring home after daycare.
Baby Boy due October 2017
With DD I took off 6 months and decided not to go back to work at the end of those 6 months. I resigned and was happy being a stay at home mom. Around the time my daughter was 16 months (she's now 21 months), I started to feel like I wasn't entirely fulfilled. I recently just accepted a new job working a night shift at the local hospital. I've decided that with this next kiddo, I'll take 3 months off and then go back to work. (I only have to work 4 shifts a month) I forgot how much of my identity was related to my career and the work that I did.
You need to do what you think will bring you the most fulfillment! Each situation is different and it's never an easy decision to make. Good luck with the decision making process!!
Married: 08/04/12
DD: 6 years | Born: 03/28/13
DS: 1 Year I Born 10/15/17