Monday B*tchfest | 3.6.17

jessafishy

What is annoying you ladies this week?

mrs_fogue

Just this day in general!  I've been redoing a bed that was my DH's grandfathers (I think) for my DD.  We finally got it in her room Saturday so that started the big transition from co-sleeping to her big girl bed.  Thank goodness she's been excited about it, but we've had a couple of expected middle of the night wake ups. 

So today, I woke up super tired, it's raining and the worst MS I've had so far.  Got to work with an email from my boss @ corporate that he's on his way down for a visit this morning.  Can I just crawl in a hole and die already?

jessafishy

Can I just hire a maid? I've been way too tired lately to keep up with household work and laundry is the biggest pain. 

bluejeanbabi05

@jessafishy We have a woman come twice a month, and it's the best money we spend. We just cut a lot of our bills down and eliminated some luxuries to save money, but we didn't even consider stopping her service. It's good for our marriage! Lol.

GodIsFaithful93

We are renting a house in a couple months so we have to startndexluttering  our townhome and I. Am. Not. Excited about it!! Lol. So much work to do with two kids and I watch other kids during the week. I don't know how im gonna get it done. 
Also, I borrowed a Doppler from a friend and it was the worst idea ever. I'm so nervous something is wrong now because I cannot find the heartbeat. (Well, I think I may have found it a couple times and kept it for a few seconds before it went away again maybe.) but even then placenta and my heartbeat are fairly quiet so I'm trying to chalk it up to that. I'm 9+6 and have my appointment tomorrow so I'm trying to not freak out. 
Do. Not. Buy. A. Doppler. It will cause stress!! 
ETA: someone help. I've changed my username on the knot and it shows up on my settings here but not when I comment. What am I doing wrong. I'd rather not have my name 

mrs_fogue

@AlexandriaNewton I had to email them about changing my name in the community.  They fixed it instantly.

Also, us amateurs with a Doppler, it's really hard to find the hearbeat until we are much farther along.  You may get lucky and snag it here and there but I couldn't consistently find it until I was in my second trimester last time.  That also doesn't mean I haven't been trying this time. 

jessafishy

@AlexandriaNewton I am pretty sure it is just too early to use a Doppler. 10-12 week is when a doctor can hear reliably. No need to freak out, baby is just too little!

jessafishy

These Special Snowflakes are driving me craaaazy. Especially since we are so slow and everyone just wants to make their own special threads instead of participating with the rest of us. I'm going to start using this gif.

GodIsFaithful93

@mrs_fogue oh thank you so much on both accounts!! That does make me feel better about the Doppler. I've decided after my appointment tomorrow praying all goes we'll I'll just return it to her because I think it's causing me more harm than good lol.
What email address did you have for them to get them to change it? 

riababy4

Seriously, the Doppler was a lifesaver for me in my last pregnancy and I will be using it regularly in this pregnancy. But don't use it before 12 weeks, its wayyyy too early. They don't even use the ultrasound machine to listen to the HB because baby is too small and it can be harmful. 

mommac2017

I'm annoying myself!!

I have had little to no nausea the last few days. And instead of enjoying it, I spent the weekend panicking!!! Now today it's back, and I want to cry that I didn't enjoy my nausea free days!

mrs_fogue

@alexandrianewton help@thebump.com

VLillyV

YES! I needed this!!! YES!!

We have a new hire coming in today, never worked in an office. Well, I'm cleaning out the cubicle where she will work because no one did on Friday (as they were told to) and they weren't in yet today.

Well, I had an old fart coworker try to tell me that I can't move anything in the cubicle because her buddy was supposed to. So I was like, well, your buddy isn't here and the new hire is coming. She proceeded to try to stop me from cleaning to which I ignored. I have seniority here and I work directly under the owner, so go eff yourself, lady!

She apologized some half ass apology later.

and the stuff has yet to be moved from the temporary storage (that her buddy is supposed to do, who is now here)

VLillyV

jessafishy said:

These Special Snowflakes are driving me craaaazy. Especially since we are so slow and everyone just wants to make their own special threads instead of participating with the rest of us. I'm going to start using this gif.

I will be using such award. I don't know, but being nice isn't working. I am about to start unleashing a world of sarcastic B**ch.

soprano19

I just spent four days on a performance trip with 30 of my students. We got home at 4:00 PM yesterday and I will be at school for 12 hours today. I feel like I deserve some comp time for being with the kids 24/7 for four days, including Saturday and Sunday, but I can't even take a sick day because I'm trying to save those up for maternity leave.

jessafishy

@VLillyV Yeeeep. Me too.

mrs_fogue

@VLillyV I wouldn't necessarily say being nice isn't working.  I don't think these are repeat offenders.  I blame those who enable by replying! 

But that being said, yall go for it!  My hormones haven't swung to b**** mode yet or I'd join you.

jessafishy

@mrs_fogue Oh, I definitely have tons of pregnancy rage to go around. 

kmornelas29

@VLillyV and @jessafishy it may be happening, because when this board first popped up... posters decided on one of the first threads that they wanted a less formal board. Users didn't want to stick to only organized threads and wanted a more casual approach. It was agreed that random posts were okay, and nobody would be told not to do it. Not for the intros, etc. but more for random questions that wanted to be asked. 

riverrainez

I'm so annoyed. Just got asked to do a work presentation that would conflict with my first appointment. I'm not even being seen until 9w and my practice is so busy if I have to reschedule it will definitely be pushed back later, not earlier. 

sjohns908

kmornelas29 said:

@VLillyV and @jessafishy it may be happening, because when this board first popped up... posters decided on one of the first threads that they wanted a less formal board. Users didn't want to stick to only organized threads and wanted a more casual approach. It was agreed that random posts were okay, and nobody would be told not to do it. Not for the intros, etc. but more for random questions that wanted to be asked. 

Not true. It was agreed on that we werent going to be uptight about who posted which of the daily/weekly threads and check-ins. I even edited the original post to clarify that you don't get to SS and post things that could be found in those specified threads.

jessafishy

kmornelas29 said:

@VLillyV and @jessafishy it may be happening, because when this board first popped up... posters decided on one of the first threads that they wanted a less formal board. Users didn't want to stick to only organized threads and wanted a more casual approach. It was agreed that random posts were okay, and nobody would be told not to do it. Not for the intros, etc. but more for random questions that wanted to be asked. 

Considering the posters doing these special snowflake threads are brand new, I would say this is a load of crap.

VLillyV

@sjohns08 Thank you for clarifying and editing the thread to reflect the uniform approach we need.

If people want to spout off and start random boards, there are different forum communities for that. It's just out of control.

I know everyone wants to share. I know everyone is feeling some type of way, but there are places for it. I am starting to lose track of legit threads where I can keep up with members because of "spotting and cramping" threads, everywhere!

GUYS. We are ALL at some point spotting and cramping. Call your OB if you are in doubt!!! Geez!

Edited to change 1 word

jessafishy

Here's the thing, this place is not somewhere for people to post and get squees and attention and then never post to anyone else for support.

That is what is so annoying about this. Not because we are just "uptight and formal" but because these are people who are only here for themselves and that's not what this is about.

PizzaMonster3

Not a major BF - but upset that the first appt with my OB was rushed and confusing rather than long and thorough like everyone said it was going to be. She kept saying "I don't want you to have any questions when you leave" but gave quipped answers and recommended we read "What to expect." 

FTM and didn't really believe I was PG - got the 2 lines and freaked out, then scheduled an appointment to double check the $7 pee stick. Well they drew blood, gave me 50 page packet "explaining" the possible testing and process then handed me a clipboard to sign consent for testing I hadn't even gotten a chance to read about yet. Then met with OB a week later at 6wk, got a 3 minute sonogram session that was a little black ball on the screen, and before it set in I just saw a heartbeat of a human in my abdomen, we got shunted to OB who rushed us through signing up for testing. 

The whole thing left me reeling and now that it's been a week or two since, I'm really starting to get angry that this moment is being sabotaged because I wasn't prepared for it. Does every woman know all this before getting BFP? Am I being over dramatic or should I try fining another provider?

sjohns908

Not to mention, the special snowflake posters cant be bothered to read said "read this first" thread. Hell, a lot of them can't even be bothered to even notice the "Introductions" thread and post their own AW intro thread instead

Edited: my comment became confusing since a bunch of comments were posted in the 30 seconds it took me to try to agree with @jessafishy. That'll teach me for not using the quote function 

mrs_fogue

@vvilla3 what you are experiencing is completely normal for most OB offices.  The packet has a ton of info but yet I got most of my answers and knowledge through WTE, this board and just doing research during my first.  It's A LOT all at once but you have 8 months to let it really sink in.  And, it may be that you want to look into a Midwife or a Doula who aren't as formal as the doctor office. 

migdala

@vvilla3 I second @mrs_fogue - your experience seems unfortunately normal for an OB.  I switched to midwives after my first pregnancy and it's a million times more supportive.  They encourage you to call them whenever you're nervous and they take their time in every phone call and appointment.  Really night and day compared to the OB.

dmellis02

My BF - My house is a mess and I have a fully capable husband at home who can help with that.  Instead, he chooses to play on his phone all day!  I'm so ready to throw it out of the window.  When I mention he can help around the house, he wants me to make him a list.  Um, why?  Can you not see all the dishes in the sink?

Also, I find it hard to figure out what post is legit and which is a random.  Besides my weekly ticker change, it makes me a little more nervous to respond to a post because I don't want to be part of the problem.

jessafishy

@dmellis02 if you aren't on mobile it's pretty easy to look at someone's profile/post count to see how much they actually contribute. 

Also if someone redirects someone to a different more appropriate thread, not continuing to SS your reply with your due date is also helpful.

mrs_fogue

@dmellis02 I'd say for the most part everyone has been good about putting dates beside the legit thread plus they follow the outline in the *Read First* thread.  I am looking at that thing all the time to double check.

dmellis02

Thanks!! @jessafishy and @mrs_fogue

PizzaMonster3

Thanks @migdala and @mrs_fogue
I pitched a midwife birthing center to DH and he shut it down quickly. His younger sister was low risk and had to have an emergency c-section at the last minute. He doesn't want to risk a thing. I'm on the fence - because labor/birth scare the bajeezus out of me and birthing centers seem less stressful but also don't want to risk a 10 min ambulance ride when LO is in danger. I'll have to take this to the midwife/ob thread though it seems very midwife leaning lol. 

migdala

@vvilla3 I have the same concerns as your DH, so I found a midwife practice that operates out of a hospital - on the same floor as regular OB labor & delivery, in fact.  I'm in Colorado so I'm not sure how prevalent this is or if it's just a granola thing we do out here, but maybe you can find something similar.  Good luck, whatever you decide

bluejeanbabi05

kmornelas29 said:

@VLillyV and @jessafishy it may be happening, because when this board first popped up... posters decided on one of the first threads that they wanted a less formal board. Users didn't want to stick to only organized threads and wanted a more casual approach. It was agreed that random posts were okay, and nobody would be told not to do it. Not for the intros, etc. but more for random questions that wanted to be asked. 

VLillyV

@vvilla3 I found a wonderful OB/GYN office by stalking internet reviews and looking for a "kind" eye photograph. I also was very particular to choose a private practice, not a corporate doctor. Private practice offices tend to have a more human approach.

Had my first appointment, she was wonderful! 

ksf13

@jessafishy I need a maid too. I seriously have no energy to do anything. Our house is a mess lol. I finally found the energy to do dishes and laundry today, but I didn't clean over the weekend and it got a little crazy. 

My BF Monday is that my 3 1/2 year old had a dental appointment today for a cleaning and she has a tiny cavityyy. Ugh I'm just sick over it. I never had any fillings until I was like 25. My pregnancy hormones almost made me cry when they told me lol. I know she will do fine, but I just hate it for her. I always brush her teeth behind her to make sure they are clean. I know it can still happen (my brother and sister both had a lot as children), but UGH! 

sjohns908

My dog has been acting like she's starving all day and it's driving me fucking nuts. You had your food, GO AWAY!! I don't want you staring at me while I eat. Granted, pretty much everything she does irritates me, but today she is especially annoying

kmornelas29

@sjohns08 maybe she is sympathetic to your pregnancy, and is feeling the cravings!

learnliveloveit

My BF..I went to Motherhood Maternity today, I'm looking for a Formal dress, something more than casual for a wedding in the summer. I found NOTHING  ..I just was so aggravated with the lack of styles they had to offer. I mean just bc I'm pregnant doesn't mean my sense of style should be so limited to just this and that. I know there is the online option for different stores etc..BUT I like to try my clothes on. I'm just not a fan of the selections I saw today. Motherhood needs to step up their game!!

JessDG

@sjohns08 is your dog suuuuper clingy now that you're pregnant?  Mine has always been a mama's boy, but he's all up in my business ALL THE TIME!