My WTF is to the person we were going to buy a car from... all the sudden they decided to keep. At least we have a little time before we truly need it.
WTF Etsy shop - Legit y'all last month they opened their shop on the 1st and closed within 10 min. This month it only took 4 min. They close after they receive a set amount of orders. But legit - that's crazy! Grateful I got the sign ordered for the nursery in time but seriously - that's absurd!! So much stress for something so dumb.
After DH lost his job, I signed the family up for benefits through my work. The HR contact (who is an idiot) forgot to give me one paper to sign and return. So my benefits still have not been set up! I hope the plan is to still back date to 2/1, otherwise I have a glucose test and an appt that will go uncovered. Also, its kind of freaking me out that they still haven't taken any money out of my check for the premium because I know they will come for it at some point. Which I will most likely be on leave, with minimal income, etc etc. This is all just overwhelming at the moment, but I guess I will just continue to penny pinch and hide money from DH!!!
WTF to the tech @ Toyota thinking it was okay to make fat jokes b/c I'm pregnant! When I first arrived, he goes "we'll get this oil change done as quickly as we can, meanwhile we have about 3 dozen donuts you can munch on and if that's not enough we can get you some more". Then after the oil change he goes "sorry, we only had glazed and not all different kinds".
@KirstinH88 I'm still sitting on three bills, including for the glucose test, that they said will be covered retroactively since we had insurance and just didn't give them our new info and I'm just hoping they get it sorted and I don't get new bills in the mail! It's such a mess. But it's not like I can stop with appointments until it's worked out! Ugh.
@shaunessa seriously!?!? I would have chucked a donut at his face.
@KirstinH88 legit I would think the same thing - although I know it's a stay at home mom that does the signs (TheTrendyTimber in case anyone is wondering). But still it legit blew my mind this morning on how fast she sells out. Maybe I should quit my job and just start making these... haha DH would die.
Wtf to the sale contract on our old house falling through last night and to waking up with the cold from hell while DH is out of town. All I want to do it crawl under a blanket and pass out and I have an intake interview with Early Intervention for my youngest to discuss his feeding issues in 10 minutes :-o
@shaunessa OMG so rude and unprofessional since he is not a donut hustler.
@dannylion24 I hope your son's appointment goes well and you begin to fell better quickly. That sucks about the contract. Hopefully some new buyers can have their act together. I used to work in real estate and it was painful to tell clients closing isn't happening.
My WTF is a weird skin irritation I just found on the front of my thighs. There is nothing I can think of that would rub there. I do still sleep on my tummy but, my belly is no where near reaching my thighs. I put the toddler's aquaphor on it.
Oh I was super pissed and when he said "toyota will be calling you on a brief survey to see how we did" I just thought in my head "you just wait you jerk!"
I'd like to join the WTF insurance train. Today I got the lovely news that the anesthesiology and radiology groups used by my hospital (which is a Tier 1 covered hospital in my policy) are going to be considered out-of-network. It makes no sense to me that my insurance provider provides coverage for my in-network hospital but NOT for the only anesthesiology/radiology options I have in said hospital. Worried now that if I need an unplanned C-section or God forbid any other kind of surgery during delivery that we will get stuck with a horrendous bill.
Hmm. I hadn't even considered that there might be an insurance problem with my hospital. My OB's office is literally in the hospital, so I assumed everything would be fine. I have a very common insurance provider in a major city, so I haven't had any problems with my doctors being in-network, but I have an HMO and I don't want to get effed...
DD #1: April 2017 DD #2: May 2020 Baby #3: EDD May 2023; MC October 2022
So this is gonna be a kinda long rant but WTF sister. My shower is next Saturday and she still hasn't sent out invitations. Last time she refused to do anything I wanted. Not the theme or food or cake nothing I asked for and it stressed me out. I didn't even want a shower this time because it's baby number 2 but she insisted so I was going to stay out of it and let her do whatever she wanted cause she was going to anyway. But everyone keeps asking me about the shower so I called her today and this the conversation. ME: Have you bought the invitations cause if you are busy I can just set up a Facebook event page to help you out. HER: No I haven't but I already told our family on Facebook. ME: OK but what about DHs family? HER: I didn't send them invitations to the last one. ME: Yes you did. HER: No I didn't and I was surprised when they showed up. WHAT THE F! You just didn't invite them? Like they aren't a part of my child's life. So now I'm looking like a douche making a Facebook page for my own shower just so that people will know when it is and stop asking me everyday.
@catem07 Part of the problem is that my insurance is *not* a major provider (it's only for the university system I work for) and so I suspect their networks are somewhat smaller than major providers. The coverage has thus far been great, but things like this make me want to light things on fire. I'm guessing if the hospital contracts some of their services out to groups they should be able to tell you the name of the group so you can check coverage, if you want to make sure.
WTF idiot husband of mine. We haven't had sex in weeks. A little bit of hand stuff from me for him, but that is it. literally ZERO sex drive on my part. Yesterday we were both happy about the apartment we found and I declared tonight we would have celebratory sex. So, I tried as much as an 8 month pregnant lady with zero sex drive can. I sort of shaved, left my contacts in when we went to bed. Put on a somewhat sexy nighty type thing. We watched a show and then were snuggling. I was waiting for DH to make a move.... because 8 months pregnant and I literally cannot move. He does nothing. It's late. I am literally just trying not to fall asleep. Anyway..... the night ends up in a fight with tears from me and yelling and now I am sleeping on the couch so I don't murder him as soon as he falls asleep. Apparently I was supposed to make all the moves too. Despite him at least getting something and I have literally not seen one moment of action down there in just about a month. So, I'm feeling incredibly fat and unattractive because my super horny husband would rather just get it done in the shower or something. So yeah, if that is how he wants to do this than I am fine waiting until 6 weeks postpartum sometime at the end of May or beginning of June. I don't need this in my life. Literally how stupid can one man be?
Me: 28 year old SAHM/Birth Doula DH: 30 year old pneumatic electrical engineer
Married: October 8, 2011
DD1: September 24, 2013 BFP: June 25, 2016 and MC: July 3, 2016 DD2: April 16, 2017 BFP: November 30, 2018 EDD: August 14, 2019
@mrsstuessy DH and I always argue about who's supposed to make the first move too. Sometimes he will just say something like "so are you gonna love me or what?" Really?!
@mrsstuessy yeah--I've had that conversation too many times. Like you really want me to be the one to start it off? Especially while I'm pregnant--you gotta get it going because it's gonna take me awhile dude! And then those always I think end in the most emotional fights because suddenly you as a woman don't feel desirable and he as a man feels like a failure and you get mad at each other instead of starting over. It's a mess. Maybe you can try again tomorrow.
@Taylor72 oh man that totally stinks! That's how we were last month. I went to order it on like Feb 1st at like 8pm est and was shocked to see it already closed. I could not believe it closed in 3 min. I was being that overly annoying person constantly refreshing. At least she said on instagram that she'll take double the orders next month. DH and I had everything picked out beforehand and that was super helpful (maybe it'll help you next month). Love her signs but I am shocked at how popular they are.
I know what you mean ladies. I'm usually the one asking for sex lately. I think it's because he always thinks I'm tired and so doesn't want to ask in case I say no. And during the week I am usually tired... but it would still be nice if once in a while he brings it up first.
MMC @ 10w March 2016 Cautiously expecting April 5, 2017
Last night DS threw a temper tantrum and wouldn't eat his dinner. He kept pointing at our bowls of the same food saying, "I want it!" over and over again, which was making me crazy because I literally served him out of my own bowl so he had the same exact food as me. Finally I figured out that he wanted his food to be in a BOWL, instead of on his little tray. Because it makes a big difference, apparently. He wants so badly to be a big kid, and it's equal parts adorable and frustrating, haha.
Last night DS threw a temper tantrum and wouldn't eat his dinner. He kept pointing at our bowls of the same food saying, "I want it!" over and over again, which was making me crazy because I literally served him out of my own bowl so he had the same exact food as me. Finally I figured out that he wanted his food to be in a BOWL, instead of on his little tray. Because it makes a big difference, apparently. He wants so badly to be a big kid, and it's equal parts adorable and frustrating, haha.
This was pretty much the same scene at my house last night. DS doesn't want to use his fork, he wants MY fork, or MY glass, or MY plate. I call him my little dictator.
Ugh. So, I spent a couple of hours on the couch not sleeping because of emotions and also some restless leg and also the fact that I needed to go into DD's room every 30 minutes. She was coughing and coughing for hours and at one point threw up a little because she was coughing so hard. I finally moved back into the bed and got an hour here and there but still not more than maybe 4 hours broken up into 30 minute chunks. And then DH thought this morning at 6:15am would be a good time to get frisky. Are you f****** kidding me, dude?! You were too tired last night to initiate anything, but after you got a solid 8 hours and I was up every 30 minutes taking care of your kid while growing the other kid you are ready to go? On a serious note though, is it normal to literally have absolutely zero sex drive? With DD I still enjoyed having sex, although less than normal just because of aches and tiredness. This time around the thought of sex annoys me. I feel nothing sexual whatsoever. I think this time it is more than just pain and fatigue. It seems like a real hormonal thing. Will I ever want to have sex again? It sucks to think of all of that as such a chore. I would rather scrub our entire house on hands and knees over any sort of sexual activity.
Me: 28 year old SAHM/Birth Doula DH: 30 year old pneumatic electrical engineer
Married: October 8, 2011
DD1: September 24, 2013 BFP: June 25, 2016 and MC: July 3, 2016 DD2: April 16, 2017 BFP: November 30, 2018 EDD: August 14, 2019
@mrsstuessy I have joked with friends before that DH and I are switched from the stereotypes. He's got a pretty average and chill sex drive and I've been a fiend he's had to chase away when he's not in the mood. lol. But right now? Nope! I guess I'm missing some of the intimacy of sex, but not really interested in it much at all. So I'd say it's normal. Haha. I hope it is. And I'm hoping it comes back eventually!
@mrsstuessy Zero sex drive... totally normal! You would probably feel really bad for my DH if I told you the number of times we have had sex since conceiving this LO. And of those times, I have really had to "force" myself to do it. Don't get me wrong, afterwards I am glad I did it, but I really didn't want to before hand. I like having sex with DH, and when we do I feel more connected to him for a while, but I really have to "talk" myself into it. Almost like a self pep talk to have sex.
@mrsstuessy I also have literally zero interest. DH is frisky every single morning before he has to get up for work, literally between 430-530 every blinking day. It's gets real old real fast
@mrsstuessy zero drive here as well. Pretty much agree with everything @rachelmiller03 said. I have no drive for it, but when we do have sex I dont regret it. Hopefully that changes at some point in the future, otherwise poor poor DH
@HGRich me and DH are reversed too.. my drive is much higher than his.. I have the problem that I want it, but I hurt so bad physically it just doesn't happen.. thankfully it doesn't bother him any.. but it's driving me nuts.
I want to have orgasms, but I have not wanted to have sex. We have had very little since conceiving this baby. At this point I'm not sure if DH doesn't want to have sex with me being this pregnant or he thinks I don't want to (if it's the latter, he's right...) so he hasn't initiated and neither have I.
DD #1: April 2017 DD #2: May 2020 Baby #3: EDD May 2023; MC October 2022
@happyanjel yeah, it's been pretty painful through this pregnancy for me too. I've been grateful that prior to pregnancy I haven't had much trouble with pain, so to say that it's a hindrance is an understatement. I'm kinda with @catem07--I'd rather find an end result for DH and I that doesn't involve pain. Sigh. Frustrating.
Oh pregnancy sex woes. If I left it up to him it wouldn't ever happen. It usually turns into an argument and then he gets pissy that I'm not into it when he finally realizes I'm upset with him for not giving a damn. I'm the one 35 weeks pregnant and he's the one who's too tired. Great.
WTF MIL, do you want to see your second grandson or not? With some struggle we got her to come 2 weeks before my due date so she has a fighting chance of not missing the birth. She kept asking to come later and can't understand that babies don't care about her plans and he won't wait for her. We legitimately need her for DS too. I start worrying because I realize she's only staying 4 weeks so if baby is on time or late, I'm doing this totally solo basically a week or two in because DH has a degree to finish.
So...I ask DH tonight if he'd ask his mom to stay longer because I don't know how I'm going to do this and he tells me she called him and *shortened* her stay. Fantastic. Lord help me, if I'm going to juggle a toddler and newborn by myself anyway, don't even freaking come.
I want to have orgasms, but I have not wanted to have sex. We have had very little since conceiving this baby. At this point I'm not sure if DH doesn't want to have sex with me being this pregnant or he thinks I don't want to (if it's the latter, he's right...) so he hasn't initiated and neither have I.
All of this. Additionally I think my DH still struggles with not wanting to hurt me (which is understandable - the last time we had sex it was pretty uncomfortable) or the baby (which he knows can't happen but it's hard to him not to think about it when looking at me haha). Also, I've learned the hard way that he does not like to talk about the baby at all in the heat of the moment. Totally weirds him out.
Re: wtf wednesday 3/1
Married: 5/30/2013
DSS #1: 5/25/2007
DSS #2: 1/22/2011
DS #3: 7/8/2012
BFP: 3/14/2016 ~ MC: 3/19/2016
DS #4: 4/21/17
Married: 5/30/2013
DSS #1: 5/25/2007
DSS #2: 1/22/2011
DS #3: 7/8/2012
BFP: 3/14/2016 ~ MC: 3/19/2016
DS #4: 4/21/17
Married: 5/30/2013
DSS #1: 5/25/2007
DSS #2: 1/22/2011
DS #3: 7/8/2012
BFP: 3/14/2016 ~ MC: 3/19/2016
DS #4: 4/21/17
@shaunessa seriously!?!? I would have chucked a donut at his face.
DS--N14
Baby #2 EDD--4/16/17
@dannylion24 I hope your son's appointment goes well and you begin to fell better quickly. That sucks about the contract. Hopefully some new buyers can have their act together. I used to work in real estate and it was painful to tell clients closing isn't happening.
My WTF is a weird skin irritation I just found on the front of my thighs. There is nothing I can think of that would rub there. I do still sleep on my tummy but, my belly is no where near reaching my thighs. I put the toddler's aquaphor on it.
I'm sitting on a bill too that the insurance company said they'd cover, but didn't. I'm in the "appeals process" right now.
@Dannylion24
Oh I was super pissed and when he said "toyota will be calling you on a brief survey to see how we did" I just thought in my head "you just wait you jerk!"
edited: words are hard because I'm pissed lol
DD #2: May 2020
Baby #3: EDD May 2023; MC October 2022
DH: 30 year old pneumatic electrical engineer
BFP: June 25, 2016 and MC: July 3, 2016
DD2: April 16, 2017
BFP: November 30, 2018 EDD: August 14, 2019
Married: 5/30/2013
DSS #1: 5/25/2007
DSS #2: 1/22/2011
DS #3: 7/8/2012
BFP: 3/14/2016 ~ MC: 3/19/2016
DS #4: 4/21/17
MMC @ 10w March 2016Cautiously expecting April 5, 2017
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Last night DS threw a temper tantrum and wouldn't eat his dinner. He kept pointing at our bowls of the same food saying, "I want it!" over and over again, which was making me crazy because I literally served him out of my own bowl so he had the same exact food as me. Finally I figured out that he wanted his food to be in a BOWL, instead of on his little tray. Because it makes a big difference, apparently.
On a serious note though, is it normal to literally have absolutely zero sex drive? With DD I still enjoyed having sex, although less than normal just because of aches and tiredness. This time around the thought of sex annoys me. I feel nothing sexual whatsoever. I think this time it is more than just pain and fatigue. It seems like a real hormonal thing. Will I ever want to have sex again? It sucks to think of all of that as such a chore. I would rather scrub our entire house on hands and knees over any sort of sexual activity.
DH: 30 year old pneumatic electrical engineer
BFP: June 25, 2016 and MC: July 3, 2016
DD2: April 16, 2017
BFP: November 30, 2018 EDD: August 14, 2019
Baby Boy due 04/07/17
DD #2: May 2020
Baby #3: EDD May 2023; MC October 2022
WTF MIL, do you want to see your second grandson or not? With some struggle we got her to come 2 weeks before my due date so she has a fighting chance of not missing the birth. She kept asking to come later and can't understand that babies don't care about her plans and he won't wait for her. We legitimately need her for DS too. I start worrying because I realize she's only staying 4 weeks so if baby is on time or late, I'm doing this totally solo basically a week or two in because DH has a degree to finish.
So...I ask DH tonight if he'd ask his mom to stay longer because I don't know how I'm going to do this and he tells me she called him and *shortened* her stay. Fantastic. Lord help me, if I'm going to juggle a toddler and newborn by myself anyway, don't even freaking come.
DH: 36
Married 5 years
DD born 8/30/13
#2 expected 4/25/17