I feel like I rarely contribute to this board because the check-ins are specifically TWW and I haven't had a TWW in month. We are IVF and repeating ER a few times before a FET. Does anyone oppose a weekly check-in instead?
History and blog link in spoiler
2016 - dx with super low ovarian reserve; failed cycle with clomid, failed IUI,
2017 - egg retrieval #1 - 3 eggs, 0 embryos appropriate for transfer; ER #2 2 eggs, 0 embryos on day 3; ER #3 1 egg 0 embryos
moved to donor egg in summer 2017; 35 eggs retrieved; 19 fertilized; 9 total embryos
Fresh transfer Dec 2017= BFP! baby boy born 8/22/18
May 2019 - surprise natural pregnancy ended in MC
Nov 2019 FET; MC at 9 weeks
May 2020 FET; BFN
July 2020 FET; CP treated with methotrexate
Oct 2020 BFP!
Take a look at my blog
Re: Anyone know why this board only has a TWW thread?
2017 - egg retrieval #1 - 3 eggs, 0 embryos appropriate for transfer; ER #2 2 eggs, 0 embryos on day 3; ER #3 1 egg 0 embryos
moved to donor egg in summer 2017; 35 eggs retrieved; 19 fertilized; 9 total embryos
Fresh transfer Dec 2017= BFP! baby boy born 8/22/18
May 2019 - surprise natural pregnancy ended in MC
Nov 2019 FET; MC at 9 weeks
May 2020 FET; BFN
July 2020 FET; CP treated with methotrexate
Oct 2020 BFP!
Take a look at my blog
DD2: 9/12/13
Baby #3: Due January 2018
2017 - egg retrieval #1 - 3 eggs, 0 embryos appropriate for transfer; ER #2 2 eggs, 0 embryos on day 3; ER #3 1 egg 0 embryos
moved to donor egg in summer 2017; 35 eggs retrieved; 19 fertilized; 9 total embryos
Fresh transfer Dec 2017= BFP! baby boy born 8/22/18
May 2019 - surprise natural pregnancy ended in MC
Nov 2019 FET; MC at 9 weeks
May 2020 FET; BFN
July 2020 FET; CP treated with methotrexate
Oct 2020 BFP!
Take a look at my blog
I pretty much have had to drop out because I am not pursuing further interventions and it hurts too much to read about other people's progress with interventions, even though I do genuinely care about all of you pursuing that journey and wish you all nothing but the best. It's nothing hurtful against others, it's just not what I can handle emotionally to read about when I am not taking the intervention route, but am only trying naturally and we have a deadline of the end of this year before we throw in the towel.
I love how supportive everyone here has been, I just feel I'm on a different path than most and can't relate much. I've been coming here since the end of 2015 and it's hard to completely cut this support out while I'm still TTC, it just isn't the best for me emotionally at times when I see the hopefulness of everyone moving forward with ART.
In general I've always wanted this board to be more active, I'm not sure why it doesn't seem to click with people, as we do get many intros, just not a ton of contributors. Anyway, didn't want to hijack this thread, I'm glad to see more interest on this board - it used to be much more active!!
Husband: 40
TTC#1 since 9/2014
Unexplained Infertility - Trying naturally
I intro'd last year, granted I was 34, so slightly underage (I'm 35 now and 12-15 days from legit Cycle #1 of trying. I'm on my period now.) and while half the girls in my intro/question thread were great, because I wasn't 35 and wasn't "actively trying"-i was asking about egg freezing-I felt shoo'd off by 1 or 2 active posters who didn't think this was the appropriate place for me and that I had broken the board rules. I guess people who are benched or not trying to build back up some mental sanity are breaking the rules, too.
And even though I am actively TTC now, I'm only on cycle 1. a-I would feel horrible if I did a re-intro, and conceived quickly. I get that it basically amounts to a drive by BFP. I get that. Which leads me to b-feeling like it almost seems like it's inappropriate to join the board until you've had some intervention or have been TTC on your own for a while and are about to embark on intervention. Even though the name of the board is "TTC over 35" which is exactly what I'm doing, starting a thread on charting, or OPK's or any of that when I am such a well, virgin, for lack of a better word, to the whole TTC thing seems silly here.
And yes, I realize there's another board for general TTC stuff, but it's difficult to go into a forum of 23 year olds. It's just harder when you've lived a bit more life. And less snarky. Though I love my snark.
I participate in a lot of boards on different subjects, so I'm not new to rules or how things work on message boards. And I'm actually pretty snarky myself, but I don't want that here and I feel like I might be tip-toeing around other members even though I am "TTC over 35" to a T. And, of course, I would always, always offer support, or congrats, or opinions if asked. I say this as someone who had planned to be fully active on the board, giving my full support, not just asking questions and never answering others. That was implied, although I'm not sure what I could've written on that into post that said I wasn't here to participate.
That's just my perspective and reason on why I check in, but never post. I will still probably lurk, but I still probably won't participate until/if we get to the intervention stage of things in 6 months or so.
I'm glad you are speaking up here, and even though I haven't been around here, I want to welcome you. Consider yourself a non-virgin. I'm considering starting a thread just for us who are trying naturally, so maybe others who are new to TTC would join in? I mean, I have been through the specialists and such, but that path is behind me now and so I don't feel like I fit in, but I also love how supportive everyone is here. We are all on different paths but we all do have one common goal, so that should count for something.
I did look up your intro, and I'm curious what is occurring now. Did you decide to freeze eggs?
Husband: 40
TTC#1 since 9/2014
Unexplained Infertility - Trying naturally
As an update, I went to the specialist twice to discuss freezing my eggs and get tests done. Everything tested within normal ranges including my ovarian reserve. She did recommend I not wait too long to try, just given my age. Of course my regular obgyn is not worried at all. In the end I decided not to do it. The egg freezing process has advanced a lot in the last few years. I'm even getting instagram ads now about fertility preservation services. Companies are really jumping on the bandwagon. Which is good in terms of education, but I'm not sure how good in terms of having a live baby at the end.
At this point, just based on my own research and opinion it's much more viable to freeze embryos as opposed to unfertilized eggs. The statistics are still pretty abysmal for frozen eggs turning into live babies. That should improve over the next decade, but in the end, it just wasn't the right choice for me.
But, we tossed the bc in November and have been using condoms, and I've been tracking my cycles and using OPKs. I'm on CD3 so we'll see! Can't wait to jump in!
Husband: 40
TTC#1 since 9/2014
Unexplained Infertility - Trying naturally