WTF Wednesday

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DeansGirl14

Well, got my first lesson in the fact that The Bump doesn't do sarcasm nearly as well as The Knot. I said something that gets said alllllll the time over on TK as a joke and got my first warning. Yay! How many warnings until we get banned around TB? I heard it's like, none. 

So that's my WTF for this Wednesday. 

emmeline714

My WTF is to pregnancy brain!!! Lately I seem to forget things if I don't do them that instance specially here at work it has been bad.

littlebug2010

@DeansGirl14  3 warnings = ban.  There are conditions where like if you dont get any more in 6 months it goes away, I think.  

My WTF is super irrational, seeing that I live in New England, but I want this snow and cold weather GONE! I am so ready to wear my flats, sandals, maxis and summer clothes again.  I really hate winter.  I feel really bad for my parents in Maine who got 3 feet of snow on Monday, and are getting another foot today. 5 weeks until spring. . . 

knottie0d8cc4d43bacc09f

@littlebug2010 I am right there with you.. This winter is starting to look like that one we had in 2015 where we just got hammered with snow every other day. It's definitely getting old. 

CaitS07

My wtf is waking up to my 3 year old having crusty pink eye in both eyes. 

bumpybump

@DeansGirl14 I'll also add that you can get put in The Bump jail for a few months with limited functionality. A couple weeks ago a couple of regulars on TTGP got jail bars on their profiles and one had limited functionality while the other could only send PMs. They said their bans were into the summer. TB is way more restrictive and sensitive than in the past. I think that's why you see so many of us saying how things were so much snarkier in the past and others saying how nice their BMBs were. Difference in the time before and after TB exploded. 

megaroo42

My WTFW is that my morning sickness made a reappearance this past week, ugh! On top of feeling sick the past two days, I scheduled time off from work today to recoup and guess what - I feel great today; wtf?!?!

knottie0d8cc4d43bacc09f

I'm not sure if this qualifies as a true WTF... you guys let me know if I'm overreacting because I'm overly emotional 100% of the time and can't tell.

DH and I don't usually do anything big for Valentine's day, but in the past we've always exchanged small things or he'll bring home flowers just to acknowledge the day. We were chatting during the day yesterday and he casually mentioned that he had a soccer game at 9 pm. I think he could tell I was kind of annoyed because he texted me later saying he had cancelled and wasn't going to the game. Then we get home and have dinner, I give him my two small gifts which he loved.. and he had NOTHING to give me. I literally would have been happy with a card. So then of course all night I'm sulking away feeling neglected. I thought he would have thought to consider his PREGNANT wife on Valentine's day, especially since every other year he has done such sweet things for me. He did come upstairs and give me a massage later without me asking which was sweet (but obvious that he felt guilty about not doing anything). Am I overreacting here? 

Also, thank you if you even read past that first sentence. 

littlebug2010

@secicc12 I don't think you over reacted at all.  If you usually do something for each other, no matter the size, I don't think being disappointed is an over reaction.  Im sorry you felt neglected.  

happylifex3

@secicc12 DH didn't get me anything either. I always get stuff for the kids and I got him a card and a bag of mini reese's (which he loves). I also got him an extra box of chocolates in case he didn't get me anything, I could take them back. And that is exactly what happened. 

megaroo42

@secicc12 I'm sorry that your Valentine's Day wasn't as you had hoped. I almost had a similar situation yesterday. Hubby always sends me flowers at work and when I left yesterday, none had arrived. I was feeling pretty bummed out but it turns out there was a delivery issue, and it all worked out in the end. 

However, I did realize after that I didn't think how that meant to me so I actually talked to my husband about it. It may be the hormones, haha, but I have to remind myself that he's not a mind reader and that I can't assume he knows my feelings. I'd suggest that you use this as a way to start a conversation with your husband about your feelings. Some times our significant others are really clueless and a nice, old-fashioned talk can really help. 

For it the time being though, I'm sending you virtual hugs!!!

DeansGirl14

@secicc12 Yes I'd be hurt in that situation. 

And ladies thanks for the extra info on warnings and stuff. I do think this is a very pleasant place to be and I'm glad! That thread was the first snark I've used. I'll keep it in check ;-)

littlebug2010

@DeansGirl14 Snark is usually okay.  Im not sure what the warning was for specifically, but as long as you are careful you should be good.  I dont think the terms of use are on our BMB, but if you go to the TTGP page, a set of them are pinned to the top of the page.  That might give you a good idea of the amount of snark you can have! 

PinkPrincessPiper

DeansGirl14 said:

Well, got my first lesson in the fact that The Bump doesn't do sarcasm nearly as well as The Knot. I said something that gets said alllllll the time over on TK as a joke and got my first warning. Yay! How many warnings until we get banned around TB? I heard it's like, none. 

So that's my WTF for this Wednesday. 

2 warnings, 3rd time you're out. 

ETA (now that I've read the whole thread)
Things are WAYYYY different on TB than they used to be. I left when things got crazy, but came back after DD was born. 

My WTF are these damn germs kids that keep getting sent home with my Kindergartener! He's running a fever, has double ear infections, and a nasty cough. They keep having to switch up his antibiotic since he's basically immune to Amoxicillin at this point. He's also been referred to get tubes in his ears.  

Nxy

I keep thinking I've got about a 70% chance of getting a ban at some point this pregnancy because this new bump is sensitive.

Wtf to this nap we took today. DD normally doesn't nap but she had a bad night so she fell asleep on the couch at like, 3. I decided she had been too grumpy to skip this nap so I figured an hour and I'd get her up. I uh fell asleep with her and we slept till 6.. bedtime is going to be a joke tonight..

Lauradi1010

My MIL.  She's driving me nuts this week.  She literally cannot do anything for herself and needs others (like DH) to do everything for her.   Simple choices for her are tough.  Apparently my FIL did everything for her.  Now that he's struggling she expects my husband to do it.

I was worried about this before kiddo #1 and it's just getting worse.   I wish she didnt do so much for us because I feel like a terrible person bringing it up to DH, but she's driving him nutty too.

belmont1785

I don't expect much for holidays...I too would've been happy with a card. My husband is such a great guy but seriously sucks at holidays. And EVEN though I know that, and even though it's been 7 years it still bothers me.
I left him a card and small box of chocolates in his lunch box and he didn't get me even a card. Honestly I didn't expect it but still hard to not be disappointed. 

I've started just buying a small gift for myself from him and writing his name on it. Cheesy and weird maybe but I want my kids to grow up learning to do this for their spouses and somehow it makes me feel a bit better. For Christmas I bought a pair of boots I'd been wanting, wrapped them an put them under the tree. At least I got something I want. I try to focus on his positive traits because he is truly my soul mate and I adore him, he just SUCKS at holidays.

happylifex3

My soup just blew up ALL OVER THE MICROWAVE at work.  

Now no soup and I have to clean the freaking thing. 

knottie0d8cc4d43bacc09f

You're all so great..thank you for the advice. Going to talk to DH tonight about how I felt yesterday. Hopefully that makes me feel better.

imwithbaby

@secicc12 I think a talk would be good! If he gets you something every year I totally get being disappointed. We don't do VD because of that reason---unmet unspoken expectations. It's just easier for us that way!

@nyx LOL @ your ban projection!

@DeansGirl14 I wish I knew what your snarky comment was!

AdvoCyndi30

WTF to getting the sleepiness back after starting second trimester! I was thinking it was time to feel GREAT and have so much energy!

knottie0d8cc4d43bacc09f

Thought I'd update everyone on my Valentine's day situation.. DH and I talked last night and I feel SO much better. He felt really bad about not doing anything Tuesday, but had no idea I was that disappointed and sad about it. I need to stop holding in every little thing that upsets me! Thanks all for the advice

imwithbaby

@secicc12 yay! What a great update. +1 for open communication!

kmwills

@secicc12 Not overreacting at all.  DH & I don't usually do much for Valentine's Day, anniversaries, etc., and we're both on the same page about that.  However, I DID ask him to get me some chocolates this year, since I'm totally craving it during this pregnancy and there's a great chocolate store nearby.  What did he get me?  Some crummy sampler from the drug store, with all those weird fillings inside.  He got little boxes for the kids too.  I apologized to DD & told her I'd get her something good later. 

ETA - glad you talked to him about how you felt!

DoulaTog13

AdvoCyndi30 said:

WTF to getting the sleepiness back after starting second trimester! I was thinking it was time to feel GREAT and have so much energy!

mine never returns until after 20 weeks. Then, 3rd tri fatigue hits right on time at 27 weeks.

knottie0d8cc4d43bacc09f

kmwills said:

@secicc12 Not overreacting at all.  DH & I don't usually do much for Valentine's Day, anniversaries, etc., and we're both on the same page about that.  However, I DID ask him to get me some chocolates this year, since I'm totally craving it during this pregnancy and there's a great chocolate store nearby.  What did he get me?  Some crummy sampler from the drug store, with all those weird fillings inside.  He got little boxes for the kids too.  I apologized to DD & told her I'd get her something good later. 

ETA - glad you talked to him about how you felt!

Ugh. That's frustrating.. on the one hand, he DID get you what you asked for so I'd feel kind of bad complaining...but then on the other hand he put minimal effort into it and stopped at CVS haha. Come on husbands!!!

knottiee689565f63838b35

My WTFW was my migraine I got yesterday! I got home from work and don't remember anything else but waking up at 1:30 this morning freaking out because I thought I'd been asleep for long. Apparently I was still able to get my homework done before it was due and email my lab instructor telling her I wouldn't make it. DH told me all of this after he woke me up to see if I could go to work this morning. Apparently I passed out on the couch and he put my pjs on and moved me to bed. I feel bad he had to fend for himself for dinner lol but thankfully he managed and was able to take care of the dogs and me. 

bringbabeh

My WTF was finding out as my mom was babysitting my one year old, she left her with someone for several hours, someone I don't know at all, without telling me or asking.  I just found out by accident.
As someone who went through sexual abuse and has been highly cautious with my child care.  
Momma bear would have been furious but momma bear with pregnancy hormones...bleh.  Managed to still be gracious.