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***I hope starting this isn't in poor taste. If you guys would rather skip it, just let me know and we can turn it into something else
Re: WTF Wednesday
EDD: March 24, 2018 - angel baby at 21 weeks
Hugs to everyone -- we're halfway through with this turd muffin of a week.
Married: October 2009
TTC#1: August 2016
DD Born 10/20/17
That being said (and I mean this in the gentlest, nicest way possible) I don't think this is in poor taste @LuND. We can all appreciate that we are not in that situation and feel blessed with what we have, but are still allowed to be sad or angry about things. One of my favorite quotes is "telling a person they can't be sad because someone may have it worse is like telling a person they can't be happy because someone may have it better".
Married: 04/05/15
TTC since: 02/16/16
"It's time to try defying gravity."
Married 6/11/16
TTC Since 6/2016
12/2016 RE appt; 1/2017 SA & HSG results - all normal
3/2017 Dx Hyperprolactinemia; 5/2017 Prolactin levels normal; 8/2017 Low Ovarian Reserve
8/2017 TTA for personal reasons; 10/2017 NTNP; 12/2017 Re-start TTC
7/2018 Clomid+IUI
11/2018 Letrozole+TI
12/2018 Letrozole+IUI
2/2019 NTNP
5/2019 Stopping all TTC efforts; living Childfree
DSS born 01/2016
TTC since 01/2017
Letrozole + TI = BFP 01/30/2018 | EDD 10/11/2018
We're not for everyone, but we're fiercely loyal, knowledgeable, and supportive to our own.
I love us.
"It's time to try defying gravity."
Married 6/11/16
TTC Since 6/2016
12/2016 RE appt; 1/2017 SA & HSG results - all normal
3/2017 Dx Hyperprolactinemia; 5/2017 Prolactin levels normal; 8/2017 Low Ovarian Reserve
8/2017 TTA for personal reasons; 10/2017 NTNP; 12/2017 Re-start TTC
7/2018 Clomid+IUI
11/2018 Letrozole+TI
12/2018 Letrozole+IUI
2/2019 NTNP
5/2019 Stopping all TTC efforts; living Childfree
TTC 9/2016 BFP 12/9/16 EDD 8/21/17 NMC 1/8/16 at 7w6d
TTC 2/2017 BFP 3/6/17 EDD 11/17/17 DS born 11/25/17 via ECS
TTC 12/2018 BFP 6/2/19 EDD 2/12/20 NMC / BO at 7 weeks, low progesterone
TTC 7/2019 BFP 8/21/19 EDD 4/22/20 CP at 5 weeks
TTC 8/19 IUI #1 w/ Clomid + Ovidrel + progesterone BFN, IUI 2 and 3 w/ Letrozole + Ovidrel + progesterone,
IUI 4 Follistim + Ovidrel + progesterone BFP 1/9/20 EDD 9/18/20
AMA, ITP in pregnancy, vWD type II - low Factor VIII, unexplained RPL and secondary infertility
cue JT stare.
"It's time to try defying gravity."
Married 6/11/16
TTC Since 6/2016
12/2016 RE appt; 1/2017 SA & HSG results - all normal
3/2017 Dx Hyperprolactinemia; 5/2017 Prolactin levels normal; 8/2017 Low Ovarian Reserve
8/2017 TTA for personal reasons; 10/2017 NTNP; 12/2017 Re-start TTC
7/2018 Clomid+IUI
11/2018 Letrozole+TI
12/2018 Letrozole+IUI
2/2019 NTNP
5/2019 Stopping all TTC efforts; living Childfree
Which forum is this so that I can lurk? Hump day here at work is awfully boring.....
TTC #2 - August 2016
MFI
IUI #1-3 BFN
BFP 4/21/18 MMC 6/11/18
"It's time to try defying gravity."
Married 6/11/16
TTC Since 6/2016
12/2016 RE appt; 1/2017 SA & HSG results - all normal
3/2017 Dx Hyperprolactinemia; 5/2017 Prolactin levels normal; 8/2017 Low Ovarian Reserve
8/2017 TTA for personal reasons; 10/2017 NTNP; 12/2017 Re-start TTC
7/2018 Clomid+IUI
11/2018 Letrozole+TI
12/2018 Letrozole+IUI
2/2019 NTNP
5/2019 Stopping all TTC efforts; living Childfree
TTC 9/2016 BFP 12/9/16 EDD 8/21/17 NMC 1/8/16 at 7w6d
TTC 2/2017 BFP 3/6/17 EDD 11/17/17 DS born 11/25/17 via ECS
TTC 12/2018 BFP 6/2/19 EDD 2/12/20 NMC / BO at 7 weeks, low progesterone
TTC 7/2019 BFP 8/21/19 EDD 4/22/20 CP at 5 weeks
TTC 8/19 IUI #1 w/ Clomid + Ovidrel + progesterone BFN, IUI 2 and 3 w/ Letrozole + Ovidrel + progesterone,
IUI 4 Follistim + Ovidrel + progesterone BFP 1/9/20 EDD 9/18/20
AMA, ITP in pregnancy, vWD type II - low Factor VIII, unexplained RPL and secondary infertility
"It's time to try defying gravity."
Married 6/11/16
TTC Since 6/2016
12/2016 RE appt; 1/2017 SA & HSG results - all normal
3/2017 Dx Hyperprolactinemia; 5/2017 Prolactin levels normal; 8/2017 Low Ovarian Reserve
8/2017 TTA for personal reasons; 10/2017 NTNP; 12/2017 Re-start TTC
7/2018 Clomid+IUI
11/2018 Letrozole+TI
12/2018 Letrozole+IUI
2/2019 NTNP
5/2019 Stopping all TTC efforts; living Childfree
Although, real talk, I can understand the need to just keep scrolling.
"It's time to try defying gravity."
Married 6/11/16
TTC Since 6/2016
12/2016 RE appt; 1/2017 SA & HSG results - all normal
3/2017 Dx Hyperprolactinemia; 5/2017 Prolactin levels normal; 8/2017 Low Ovarian Reserve
8/2017 TTA for personal reasons; 10/2017 NTNP; 12/2017 Re-start TTC
7/2018 Clomid+IUI
11/2018 Letrozole+TI
12/2018 Letrozole+IUI
2/2019 NTNP
5/2019 Stopping all TTC efforts; living Childfree
[spoiler]I just got the results of my genetic counseling and it isn't good. Apparently one of my X chromosomes has the pre-mutation for fragile X syndrome, meaning that there is a high chance (greater than 33%) I would pass this condition on to a child. If you aren't familiar with it, fragile x causes mental retardation and autism, among other things. And this pre-mutation is likely the reason that I haven't been able to get pregnant -- my eggs may be too crappy to conceive a child, ever.
Oh, and it's the reason that I have such low ovarian reserve for my age. Oh, and it probably means I will have early menopause. Oh, and one of my parents passed it to me so I have to call them and tell them about how they have a 40% chance of tremor ataxia starting any day now.
In case I didn't feel like a failure already, now I am worried that not only can I not get pregnant, maybe I SHOULDN'T get pregnant with such a big risk of passing this on. The genetic counselor gave me some information about this condition but I'm at a complete loss about what to do now. All I want to do is curl up in a ball and cry.[/spoiler]
I need wine. Now. I'm just done. I thought 2016 was shitty but 2017 is even worse.
Big big big hugs girl. You go have that wine, I'm joining you in spirit.
My WTF is my sister...
My co-worker started mat leave today. I was talking to my S about it last night since I'm lonely now (this co-worker is the only one I really talk to...). So anyway, the conversation took a natural turn to her status (let's call her C for ease in understanding). I told S that C is due today, but if she doesn't have the baby by Sat, they're going to induce. S promptly responds with, "ugh I hate that, people are so quick to induce because it's convenient." Okkkaayyy, that escalated quickly. I responded with a list of the various reasons someone might want to induce (other than convenience) if she goes past her due date. I have no idea what the background is in this for C. S says, "well Drs just want convenient timing. My Dr told me he was going to induce and I just said no." Okkkaayyy. (side note, nephew was not planned. Sooo, no real conception date to work with).
I decided to let this go and just said, "well, I think a lot of women who are having babies for the first time just get nervous and listen to whatever their Dr suggests because they're scared. I know from our current experience that I'm going to be extra nervous about any little thing going wrong because this has been so difficult already." S responds with, "I thought the problem was with [H], not you, why would you be nervous?"
Okay.... Now I'm done with this convo. 1, WT actual F? Who has "the problem" is not relevant to why I'd be nervous. 2, just because we are aware of a problem with H doesn't mean there is no issue with me, the two are not mutually exclusive. And we have reason to suspect I have issues. We're just not dealing with them because, for the moment, they don't matter due to H's problem. And last but certainly not least, this is not an H problem v Me problem situation. This is an US problem. Ugh.
Sorry, that was long winded, just had to get that off my chest.
Edit: I swear I know the difference between their and they're.
"It's time to try defying gravity."
Married 6/11/16
TTC Since 6/2016
12/2016 RE appt; 1/2017 SA & HSG results - all normal
3/2017 Dx Hyperprolactinemia; 5/2017 Prolactin levels normal; 8/2017 Low Ovarian Reserve
8/2017 TTA for personal reasons; 10/2017 NTNP; 12/2017 Re-start TTC
7/2018 Clomid+IUI
11/2018 Letrozole+TI
12/2018 Letrozole+IUI
2/2019 NTNP
5/2019 Stopping all TTC efforts; living Childfree
TTC 9/2016 BFP 12/9/16 EDD 8/21/17 NMC 1/8/16 at 7w6d
TTC 2/2017 BFP 3/6/17 EDD 11/17/17 DS born 11/25/17 via ECS
TTC 12/2018 BFP 6/2/19 EDD 2/12/20 NMC / BO at 7 weeks, low progesterone
TTC 7/2019 BFP 8/21/19 EDD 4/22/20 CP at 5 weeks
TTC 8/19 IUI #1 w/ Clomid + Ovidrel + progesterone BFN, IUI 2 and 3 w/ Letrozole + Ovidrel + progesterone,
IUI 4 Follistim + Ovidrel + progesterone BFP 1/9/20 EDD 9/18/20
AMA, ITP in pregnancy, vWD type II - low Factor VIII, unexplained RPL and secondary infertility
ETA: And it goes without saying, but you are not a failure. This is not your fault. This is something that happened to you. You will find the right answers that will make you the mother you deserve to be. I wish you so much luck.
"It's time to try defying gravity."
Married 6/11/16
TTC Since 6/2016
12/2016 RE appt; 1/2017 SA & HSG results - all normal
3/2017 Dx Hyperprolactinemia; 5/2017 Prolactin levels normal; 8/2017 Low Ovarian Reserve
8/2017 TTA for personal reasons; 10/2017 NTNP; 12/2017 Re-start TTC
7/2018 Clomid+IUI
11/2018 Letrozole+TI
12/2018 Letrozole+IUI
2/2019 NTNP
5/2019 Stopping all TTC efforts; living Childfree
DH and I need to talk about what we want to do... while yes, this is something that could be screened out with IVF + PGS, DH is Catholic and pretty lukewarm on IVF so I'm not sure how he will feel about this.
I realize that the chances are "better" this wouldn't happen, but I am completely crushed. I may never conceive naturally now. It just sucks. I never saw this coming. There's nothing in my family to indicate this is happening. And I have no idea how to call my parents and tell them this, much less to say that one of them, like me, has a risk of these other conditions now.
Enjoy all the wine as you process everything.
** December BMB Siggy Challenge - Animals in Pools **
Me: 31+ H: 32
TTC Since 11/2015
#1 - MMC 6.5 weeks (2/16); #2 - MC due to cystic hygroma at 20 weeks (10/16); #3 CP (2/17); #4 - Due 12.16.17
As for your parents, knowledge is power. You have done nothing wrong, and you'll be giving them powerful information that will prepare them for the possible future. It's a difficult conversation, yes, but one that I'm sure they'll be glad to have had with you rather than with a doctor in the future.
We're here for you