@jmn1985 omg I had seen someone making fun of her for that (maybe it was Trevor Noah, I don't remember) but I thought he was just tacking on "guns in schools to kill grizzlies" as part of the joke to exaggerate her ridiculousness. I didn't realize she actually said that. oy vey
**TW**
Me & DH: 32 Married 2013 Kiddo #1: Sept 2015 BFP: 1/19, EDD: 9/30
"I'm having fruit salad for dinner. Well, it's mostly just grapes, actually. Ok all grapes. Fermented grapes. Fine, I'm having wine for dinner."
I feel like I'm being a TW today. Not even gonna lie. These hormones have me crazy. DH is doing a bunch of training with the fire department... he was a rural member and mostly went out for grass fires (we live in the middle of nowhere, he was busy all summer with grass fires. Lots of open acreage out here.) Edited to add in right here, he is now going through the fire academy so he is no longer a real active member, he's in training so he's got all these books he's studying and he's always at the station working out and studying. Anyway. Theres a firefighter who he is ALWAYS talking about. Her name is Jess. He's constantly talking about how Jess and I talked a lot about this and Jess said this and Jess was there talking to me when I was working out. I should add that this is a volunteer station. Normally there's nobody there. I'm getting really upset and I just texted DH and asked why they're always at the station together. He told me... "You need to let it go, she's a fellow firefighter. Relax."
I don't feel like relaxing... I feel like marking my territory. But I also feel like I'm being a crazy hormonal pregnant lady. I don't even know anymore.
Honestly, @daniellelynette, I would not be chill about that even before my crazy pregnancy hormones set it. Emotional affairs are real, and they usually happen when people aren't paying attention because they think a situation is innocuous, i.e.: a work friend. (I may also be a little intense about the subject because my parents almost divorced when I was in high school because my mom had an emotional affair with a coworker. It nearly tore two families apart, and you never forget that kind of trauma.)
@daniellelynette I agree with PP. I would not be chill about this either. I will say, though, that I am probably overly sensitive due to the fact that my ex had an emotional affair with a co-worker and it turned into a full-on affair. Ex is now married to her.
Thank god it's not just me. I have been cheated on in every previous relationship, physically and emotionally, except for ONE. We've been together five years and married for two (this April) and I'm just scared he's going to get bored. I don't want to freak out and push him away but I've gotta let him know it's bugging me! I like to think he's a pretty attractive guy... he's 22 but ridiculously mature for his age (most of the time lol he's still 22..) and I always see women flirt with him when we go places. It doesn't help that he has lost five wedding bands at work since we've been married. He thinks I'm joking about getting that b**ch tattooed on. Not joking. Lol.
Thanks for the input ladies. I'm going to try to talk to him about it when he comes home.
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I second your nomination @HollyGolightly09 I mean.... why was she there while he was working out? I have to admit I have a bad habit of letting the green eyed monster come out more than I should. I get jealous. DH knows that and still talks about her all the time. Like he told me she was the first person he talked to about this really distressing call they went on where they couldn't find the guy's pulse and stuff... like I get that she's a firefighter too and she's been through it but... excuse me lady it's my job to talk my husband through tough crap so butt out.
@daniellelynette I think that's a perfectly reasonable expectation. I'd be really uncomfortable if DH were talking to another women at work about stuff instead of or before me. That could easily lead to emotional reliance, which would be really not okay. Plus, even if your DH is being totally above board, I too would side-eye some single girl hanging out alone with DH while he's working out. His intentions may be good, but hers may not be.
@amandarene112 Exactly, side eyeing her big time. Can't wait for DH to get his wedding band tattoo lol!! Oh and she's not even single. She leaves her kids with her husband to go hang out at the station. While DH works out.
@HollyGolightly09 I think it's perfectly acceptable to say a 7 year old lmao! Kids can be evil sometimes. DH has a friend with a 10 year old who I SWEAR is a psychopath. That's a long story. But I think it's fair game!
@daniellelynette it's probably nothing but I would have an open and frank conversation with him about it. Say, "when you do X, it makes me feel Y." My husband was oblivious to a quasi mutual friend flirting with him all the time (and thus never shut it down because he didn't understand what I saw) and it took a few conversations for him to get it. He can now identify when it happens and just leaves the conversation.
@Becky012016 I'll do that, he can be oblivious too. Most of the time I have to tell him to put himself in my shoes and see how he would feel and he goes oh.. yeah I guess that would make me feel crappy too! How can they be so oblivious to the flirting? Lol
My SIL is a TW because she asks everyone late last night to go out tonight for her kids bday (even though we all saw each other this past weekend), and as of 4pm there has been no info as to when or where we are going. I'm sorry, I have a 1 and a 3 year old. I hate not having a game plan for dinner! Plus if I wait too long to eat I get Hangry!!
@daniellelynette I'm sorry you're feeling insecure about the situation. have you met this girl? Seen their dynamic? That might help. My hubby is pretty close to his old boss, who is a woman his age. They commiserate at work, go to lunch, etc. He actually asks her for advice about my pregnancy symptoms (b/c she has two kids), which I think is interesting. Long story short- maybe you should invite her and her SO (if she has one) over some night (like, maybe when you have a larger BBQ or something) to break the ice and show that you are a very cool person that should not be messed with.
@daniellelynette I would feel extremely insecure about their dynamic as well. I certainly hope that he is merely rambling on about her to you just because he wants to share about their friendship, etc. I hope that he also rambles on about his beautiful pregnant wife to her also so that she understands that he is off of the market.
I'm concerned about my SO's interactions with work women as well. He works for the school board and my daughter's school is one of the schools he works at. The other day I walked in on him looking at Facebook bikini photos of a staff member at her school. (That he is not friends with on Facebook.) Come to find out he was looking up more than just one of these women. He says he was "just looking" and that he isn't trying to get with any of them but I am extremely hurt and now feel extremely self conscious about myself.
DS' bio mom gets the big nomination today. DS switches every week with us and her bio mom. She just doesn't get it when it comes to his school work. He's in 6th grade and is a typical kid. If you don't stay on him about his school work, he won't do it. Well apparently she doesn't care. DH called her tonight to remind him of some missing assignments and she just laughed and said "oh well it's on him". He currently has a D in math because of his missing grades and her response was "then how was he on A B honor role last semester". Key words there is LAST SEMESTER. When they have only had 13 assignments and he is missing 5, that makes a big difference. Sheesh *ok rant done*
@Msashley2010 UGH I've been there. I'm so sorry you're going through that. We had a long phase in the beginning with some things of that nature and it took me a long time to get through to him. I hope he pulls his head out of his rear soon!!!
@jmn1985 I have most definitely thought about doing that, DH came home and we talked and he told me he totally understands where I'm coming from but he swears he has no feelings and won't catch feelings and that she's like a sister and everything. It was a good convo. They have two kids, one who shares the same name as DS, so that's weird lol. I'll see if maybe we can have them over at some point after DS is done with strep and HFM! Maybe that will make everyone feel better.
@daniellelynette Have you considered getting him a Qalo ring? My husband tried to pull the "I can't wear my wedding ring because I don't want to damage it at work or playing sports" crap and eventually quit wearing it altogether, which is a big no no with me. So I got him a Qalo band. It's rubber and activity/outdoor friendly so there's absolutely no reason to ever take it off so therefore you can't lose it! How convenient! They sell them at Academy and they're cheap if you're interested in a Valentine's Day gift...
I had TW Wednesday nomination. It goes to all the parents who send their children to school sick (read: unable to participate, have a fever. Not just a cough and runny nose, because they'd be home 24/7). We had a fifths disease scare this morning and I spent the whole morning stressing. I sent home three sick children yesterday and two of them showed up today, only to be sent home again. I get it, I'm a parent too, but I always keep my child home when they're unwell as it affects everyone else. And can be dangerous to others around them if they have weakened immune systems and such.
This is may also be a rant........ Sorry, but I do feel a smidge better.
@kailapop Agreed. I'm not a teacher, but DH is as is his sister. The flu has been going around both their schools like crazy. His sister and her whole family got it. I'm almost to the point where I want to ask him to wear a mask to school so he doesn't bring it home (eventhough I've had the flu shot).
@kailapop I can relate, DH is also a teacher and a coach and just called today stating he's nearly positive he has the flu and that he was leaving school early! Fingers crossed DS and I avoid contacting this disease as I don't want to be sick and pregnant!
@kailapop OMG yes! The flu, strep, and a stomach bug are making their way around my school. If a kid sniffles loud I'm sending them home. I need for people to do better and be more considerate! A little girl in my room has a 2 week old baby sister at home, the last thing she needs is to take home the flu.
I thought I had the flu, but it turned out to be strep. That is no joke as an adult! What I would give to be able to take Advil with my Tylenol right now! Im seeing so much flu and strep in my clinic!
@HollyGolightly09 I haven't taken DS out in public since we found out about his strep, except to go back to the doctor for the HFM. Lol. I don't get why people take sick kids out/let them go to to school or daycare or just out in public in general. DH has been doing the grocery getting for us because I'm not taking DS out! No need to spread this, we're miserable. Would hate to make anyone else this miserable!
@HollyGolightly09@jessieR358 I had chronic strep one year as a teenager- between my brother and I, we had it 15 times in one school year. I was 16, and it was easily the most miserable I've ever been, with perhaps the exception of one particularly nasty stomach flu I got in college. I can't even imagine it now as an adult!
@daniellelynette As a fellow fire wife and former firefighter myself, I agree with your stance on this one. He should not be hanging around with another woman alone at the firehouse. If he wants to be friends then he should have all of you hang out together.
@HollyGolightly09@jessieR358 I had chronic strep one year as a teenager- between my brother and I, we had it 15 times in one school year. I was 16, and it was easily the most miserable I've ever been, with perhaps the exception of one particularly nasty stomach flu I got in college. I can't even imagine it now as an adult!
Me too in middles school! I didn't have it 15 times, but I think it was close to 8. It was awful!
@JNR6510 Hello fellow fire wife! I told him that we should all get together (after DS' strep and HFM clear up, don't wanna share with their kids) that way we can all meet and get to know each other. I also told him that I don't want her being the one "counseling" him about tough calls. I get that she's experienced but he's got captains and chiefs and lieutenants for that. Also... he can come home to his wife
Re: Twatwaffle Tuesday 2/7
Me: 35 | DH: 38
Met: 2007
Married: 2013
BFP #1: 06/21/16 MMC: 08/04/16
BFP #2: 01/08/17 DD: 09/23/17
BFP #3: 06/10/20 EDD: 02/11/2021
Married 2013
Kiddo #1: Sept 2015
BFP: 1/19, EDD: 9/30
"I'm having fruit salad for dinner. Well, it's mostly just grapes, actually. Ok all grapes. Fermented grapes. Fine, I'm having wine for dinner."
I don't feel like relaxing... I feel like marking my territory. But I also feel like I'm being a crazy hormonal pregnant lady. I don't even know anymore.
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Me 34 DH 34
PCOS
Baby number 2 due 4/11/20
Thanks for the input ladies. I'm going to try to talk to him about it when he comes home.
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@HollyGolightly09 I think it's perfectly acceptable to say a 7 year old lmao! Kids can be evil sometimes. DH has a friend with a 10 year old who I SWEAR is a psychopath. That's a long story. But I think it's fair game!
Me: 35 | DH: 38
Met: 2007
Married: 2013
BFP #1: 06/21/16 MMC: 08/04/16
BFP #2: 01/08/17 DD: 09/23/17
BFP #3: 06/10/20 EDD: 02/11/2021
I'm concerned about my SO's interactions with work women as well. He works for the school board and my daughter's school is one of the schools he works at. The other day I walked in on him looking at Facebook bikini photos of a staff member at her school. (That he is not friends with on Facebook.) Come to find out he was looking up more than just one of these women. He says he was "just looking" and that he isn't trying to get with any of them but I am extremely hurt and now feel extremely self conscious about myself.
This is may also be a rant........ Sorry, but I do feel a smidge better.
Edited ti to add my definition of sick.
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Me 34 DH 34
PCOS
Baby number 2 due 4/11/20
Im seeing so much flu and strep in my clinic!
ETA: spelling