UO Thursday 2/2

Gretchypoo

I'm starting this thread this week bc I have one! Let's hear it ladies ;-)

Gretchypoo

My UO is that I don't give a flying fart in space that Beyonce is pregnant. And I think her maternity photo announcement is tacky AF. The ruffly blue undies and the veil? And the gaudy floral arrangement? ugh. It is all over my fb.

lfrank12

@Gretchypoo I agree! It looks like a bad department store photo studio photo  

birdiejo

Dude, that news was the only positive thing I've read about in weeks. I'll take it! 

Xstatic3333

Apparently mine is that I love papaya. 

leslie1331

I think the groundhog is seriously one of the dumbest "traditions" ever. And seriously question the intelligence of people who actually think he predicts anything 

Xstatic3333

leslie1331 said:

I think the groundhog is seriously one of the dumbest "traditions" ever. And seriously question the intelligence of people who actually think he predicts anything 

I put zero stock in it but think it's a cute tradition. I like furry things. 

MLRocha

leslie1331 said:

I think the groundhog is seriously one of the dumbest "traditions" ever. And seriously question the intelligence of people who actually think he predicts anything 

SITB - I agree that the prediction part is dumb...  But, I have a huge soft spot in my heart for Punxsutawney Phil.  My mom's side of the family is from that area and growing up, all of the funerals for my relatives were in downtown Punxy.  An adult would always take us kids across the square to the library to see Phil and cheer us up (not that we really knew what was going on anyway).  He was always the chubbiest groundhog and made us all smile/giggle.  Phil is definitely a bright spot in my childhood memories.

lfrank12

leslie1331 said:

I think the groundhog is seriously one of the dumbest "traditions" ever. And seriously question the intelligence of people who actually think he predicts anything 

It also makes me laugh that Ohio has a "knock off" version named Buckeye Chuck. This year they had the same prediction but many years him and Punxy Phil say opposite things so it makes no sense!

NiceyMeany

leslie1331 said:

I think the groundhog is seriously one of the dumbest "traditions" ever. And seriously question the intelligence of people who actually think he predicts anything 

I mean, it's one of Bill Murray's lazier comedies, but it's sort of sweet and charming and inoffensive and I don't mind leaving it on if it's playing when I switch the TV on...

leslie1331

Phil and Chuck said more winter!!   Phil has at least been around for 50 years. Don't even get me started on Chuck! 

kswiger06

But doesn't it all equal out to be the same though? Like 6 more weeks of winter or 6 weeks until spring? I remember doing small things in school for groundhog day so I always thought it was fun. 

I've always lived in ohio and had no clue we had a "buckeye" groundhog. I guess my UO is that i think its weird how obsessed people can get with Ohio State. I guess we take pride in one of the few things ohio has to take credit for? It's like akron, I grew up there and thought it was super strange when the "Akron" signs all started to read "Home of LeBron James" lol 

Spicyweiner

I think the term "evacuating" used for taking a shit is dumb AF. 

ColeBug89

+1 to not caring about Beyoncé!

My grandfather (may he RIP) and MIL both have birthdays today! Everyone actually called my grandfather Groundhog instead of his actual name lol. We were hoping that LO would have made her appearance today because of the significance, but she had other plans and wanted to be a Christmas baby lol.

PerraSucia

Spicyweiner said:

I think the term "evacuating" used for taking a shit is dumb AF. 

I thought it meant like buttsploding

PerraSucia

I hate family photos where everyone is wearing a matching colored shirt. My newborn photographer just suggested we all wear black shirts to emphasize the baby and i had to think of a nice way to say fuck no. 

Spicyweiner

PerraSucia said:

Spicyweiner said:

I think the term "evacuating" used for taking a shit is dumb AF. 

I thought it meant like buttsploding

Still dumb

kirstynikole

PerraSucia said:

I hate family photos where everyone is wearing a matching colored shirt. My newborn photographer just suggested we all wear black shirts to emphasize the baby and i had to think of a nice way to say fuck no. 

Yea that makes me queasy. I've had a family show up with blue jeans an starched white shirts to an outdoor session. After that I started sending out brochures prior with clothing suggestions and pictures and saying NOT to be matchy-matchy. Never again!!

PerraSucia

@kirstynikole were they all barefoot too 

Gretchypoo

PerraSucia said:

I hate family photos where everyone is wearing a matching colored shirt. My newborn photographer just suggested we all wear black shirts to emphasize the baby and i had to think of a nice way to say fuck no. 

THIS. It is so bad. And makes your pictures look really dated.

Spicyweiner

I like all white shirts, jeans and barefoot on a beach. 
I haven't done it, but I think it's so cute 

NiceyMeany

Spicyweiner said:

I like all white shirts, jeans and barefoot on a beach. 
I haven't done it, but I think it's so cute 

Basic AF. 

mrslittlemac

 I hate all the extra check-ins/advice/wink-wink-nudge-nudging people seem to do around the due date. Seriously about to ragequit some distant relationships if it keeps up; if we haven't really talked in three years and only associate during family functions, I probably don't want to hear from you 3-5 times a day about the state of my uterus.

As for family photos, I think I'm on the other side of the fence. We never did much picture-wise when I was growing up so all that kitschy cutesy matching stuff always gets me by the heartstrings. 

H and I have multiple sets of matching footed PJs and I love them. And I realize that there is probably my UO for the week

Spicyweiner

NiceyMeany said:

Spicyweiner said:

I like all white shirts, jeans and barefoot on a beach. 
I haven't done it, but I think it's so cute 

Basic AF. 

Shut your hoar mouth. 

kswiger06

@MrsLittleMac I have been bombarded with random check-ins as well. I was thinking about asking the board if anybody else is turning into a grumpy hermit. My sil always talks about how she "senses" when things are about to happen and she checks on people just in time, but I've been realizing lately that its just because she texts them every couple days. If I go into labor, I'm sure she will be telling people how she just "sensed" it. In reality, it's just because she happens to check in all the freaking time!! And my mil keeps sending me stupid texts too. I didn't even respond to her yesterday, because I didnt understand what the heck she was even asking... the message said "Hey are you close to having that grandson?" Uuuuuuh yeah, I'm 39 weeks so I'd say I'm pretty damn close now... I don't get it, so instead I just didn't respond. 

Xstatic3333

@MrsLittleMac @kswiger06 don't you love how all the check-ins start with "I'm sure you're sick of people asking how you're doing, but...." If you're so sure about that, why are you doing it? They don't bother me as much as the random questions from strangers, but are starting to get old.

I'll be honest, it goes against character for me but I don't hate the matching outfits as long as they aren't too cheesy. Everyone has a blue button down and khakis on the beach, for example, can look nice. Family pictures probably won't be in my future anyway since H is allergic to smiling for the camera. Wedding photos were like pulling teeth with that one.

kswiger06

@Xstatic3333 this is from my sil this morning...
lol I guess at least she knows she's constantly checking in. 

It's funny you said that about your H being allergic to smiling for the camera, because mine is too. I don't see any point in spending a lot of money for a nicer background and still get my husband looking like he's bored out of his mind.

MLRocha

I'm starting to get the daily "you're still here" comments from several co-workers.  Yep, still here.  If my cube is empty, I'm not still here.  Pretty basic stuff, people.

DH is also very anti-photo.  To be fair, neither of us is photogenic in the least.  He was really irritated that I picked a lifestyle newborn photog instead of someone who would just pose the baby with lots of props, etc.  I'm not a huge fan of having my picture taken and am worried about how I'll be feeling right after birth, but I thought it was important to capture the two of us with the baby.  Now, will DH be in anything more than a tee-shirt and jeans?  Probably not.

kirstynikole

Lmao @PerraSucia no thankfully, the starch lines on the shirt were enough to get me.. it just looked so odd and uncomfortable. 
 
@Spicyweiner
now the white linen look on the beach can be done tastefully, but if they showed up in jeans and starched shirts to the beach it'd be a hell no as well. 

Xstatic3333

I still haven't told my H he'll be in some of the NB photos @MLRocha. I plan to buy him a tasty beer and play the "I grew you a human" card for al it's worth. 

kirstynikole

@MLRocha being comfortable in your at home newborn lifestyle session is key! It's about capturing the moments in their perfect imperfection! Neutral colors are always nice and floaty comfy clothes post baby are always flattering for those as well. I'm sure your photog will do everything to make y'all relax and be comfortable for your pictures! 

PerraSucia

@MLRocha i also feel like we are the least photogenic people in the world 

leslie1331

I feel like the beach makes the matchy outfits more acceptable than with woods or other backdrops for some reason.  

And add me to not telling my husband he's in pictures. That will be a nice little surprise for him later on 

Gretchypoo

+1 to being sick of the constant check ins. In a staff mtg yesterday someone interrupted my boss to ask if I was okay. Apparently I made a face when my LO punched my cervix. Why would you make a big deal abt me in a staff mtg? If I'm not okay I'll leave. And this am my co-worker said "how are you feeling?" I said "uncomfortable and pregnant." He said "well I assumed the first and knew the second." I said "then why did you ask?" I have no chill rn.

grapeskittles4lyfe

Gretchypoo said:

+1 to being sick of the constant check ins. In a staff mtg yesterday someone interrupted my boss to ask if I was okay. Apparently I made a face when my LO punched my cervix. Why would you make a big deal abt me in a staff mtg? If I'm not okay I'll leave. And this am my co-worker said "how are you feeling?" I said "uncomfortable and pregnant." He said "well I assumed the first and knew the second." I said "then why did you ask?" I have no chill rn.

My maternity leave started on the 1st. Until then, every time I would get in an elevator at work, SOMEone had to crack a joke about getting the baby in the elevator. First 10 times, fine. After that I just kind of grimaced. 

MissMerciBeaucoup

My family and coworkers are super respectful and give us our space, so I don't get irritating check ins from them.  BUT there is a little cafe in the lobby of my building and I go there a few times a week to get a pastry or drink in the morning, and there is one cashier who whenever I walk in loudly says - Omg look at you! How much longer do you have?  How are you feeling?  Why are you still working?  Every. single. time. I go in there.  I always just try to make polite chit chat with her bcs I know she is just trying to be friendly.  But really, I hate polite chit chat with strangers - that is my UO I guess.  I just want to buy my hot chocolate or whatever and get up to my office, please leave me alone. So yesterday I was not in the mood and so I just gave her a blank stare and asked how much my croissant was going to be and left - I feel like such a bish.

kirstynikole

My UO is that I'm a bit bummed none of the grandparents have gotten anything for DS2. No I'm not talking about big gifts or anything like that, but just a cute onesie or a blankie. I think it's more so that no one has been very involved this pregnancy and kind of seems like they're not excited about the new baby. I may just be hormonal though...

kswiger06

kirstynikole said:

My UO is that I'm a bit bummed none of the grandparents have gotten anything for DS2. No I'm not talking about big gifts or anything like that, but just a cute onesie or a blankie. I think it's more so that no one has been very involved this pregnancy and kind of seems like they're not excited about the new baby. I may just be hormonal though...

Awww, maybe they will bring small gifts to the hospital, or when they visit you at home? It seems like there is a fine line of balancing it out. I like people getting excited for the baby, but I don't like the over curious, nosy questions coming from the people who barely kept in contact until closer to the end of pregnancy. 

Edit... some people keep making comments like "oh I'm so excited for a new baby!" And it feels like my baby will be a shiny new toy, and I guess I just don't like that.

kirstynikole

@kswiger06 yea I'm thinking that might be the case but I feel bitchy for even thinking that way. I guess I just don't want him to be any less special lol but I mean I know he won't be. 

I akso agree it's weird when people say they're excited and you're like oh hi.. we haven't talked in months..? 

Gretchypoo

@kirstynikole I feel you so much on this.

my MIL is the only grandparent that hasn't bought anything "for" the baby (my FIL didn't buy the baby anything but gave H and I gifts like fixing H's car so it is baby safe. and he texts me every few weeks to see how I'm doing so he is obviously engaged and excited.) But my MIL has just been a bit of a drama queen. She told ALL her friends we're expecting and AWed pix of my uterus. At H's grandpa's funeral she kept moving my scarf so people could see my (barely there) bump and said "Did you hear? We're having a baby!"

But she never calls to ask how we are. She doesn't ask about me or baby. And she hasn't bought anything for the baby. Which I would totally forgive except that 1. She is an insane shopper-- literally buys stuff everyday. Has 7 closets FULL of clothes and never wears the same thing twice and 2. Her BEST FRIEND sent us a gift for the baby for Christmas-- and she's gotten baby nothing. Not even a onsie.

Instead, she spent all of Christmas complaining there was nothing to buy the baby bc other ppl had already bought it. So i told her about $500 worth of things we still needed at the time (changing pad, crib mattress, etc.) And she rolled her eyes and literally waved her hand at me to brush me off. Whatever, MIL.

ETA- I know this makes me sound like a gift grabby hoar. I know. But MIL has really been rubbing me the wrong way lately with her selfishness and apparently this is the way it is manifesting in my brain. I feel very lucky that the other grandparents have been SUPER generous and are beyond excited for this baby.

kirstynikole

@Gretchypoo yea it can definitely get frustrating! I know you're not being gift grabby, and I think I get the vibe she's giving you. It's frustrating when relatives go on and on bragging about having a baby and then show no interest except when they're in the limelight. Being a grandparent is about more than saying you're one, and no it's not about gifts but for someone who is already (it seems?) materialistic, it's weird not to at least show an interest?  I love my mom, but that's essentially what she's been doing too.

With our first we bought all of the big ticket items except for a stroller from my dad and stepmom, so I mean we weren't expecting anything this time- especially since he's our second.(which is fine, after all he's our kid lol) I guess because this has been an emotional pregnancy, I just wanted my parents to show some sort of attachment to him? What really rubbed me the wrong way this week was my mom informing me she'd only be staying two/three days and then leaving. I asked her back in July to plan on staying a week because she didn't stay at all with my first and it truly hurt my feelings. So this whole time she's acted like she'd stay the week after baby is born, and then tells me the week before induction she won't. Wtf ever.